All posts tagged Heart

Morals and Ethics

Published December 15, 2022 by tindertender

Sales … I could never be good at it.

People wanting to receive a great deal and an even better price. They are always told it’s possible, and often sales has to smooth ruffled feathers because the “lie” they told proved itself.

Why do people seek to mentally challenge themselves so much? Why do those selling services lie?

I know, I know…

They want to take the sale from the next guy.

But to allow oneself to become an habitual liar to gain monetarily??? Not my cup of tea. The lies don’t end till the project ends, then another begins and the same schmoozing falsehood techniques start all over.

The older I get, the longer my list of people and things to avoid inviting into my world grows.

Get Your Heart Straight Before It’s Too Late

Published December 12, 2022 by tindertender

You know what I’m sorry about when I read these things? I’m sorry about the fact they were carrying so much hate in their hearts for so many people before they transitioned.

To die with that much hate in one’s heart … where do you think their consciousness goes when they join the land of spirit?

Surviving Grief

Published November 2, 2022 by tindertender

Living with a Broken Heart

Remember what the Tin Man said in the “Wizard of Oz” after he finally got a heart….

“Now I know I’ve got a heart because it’s breaking.”

If someone you love died, your heart is probably broken. So how do you live with a broken heart?

The answer isn’t how you fix it or move beyond it. The skill is learning to live with your grief as an ongoing way of being in the world. It’s the way you honor that which you love.

What I’m proposing is that, with enough healing, living with heartbreak can become natural, and very normal.

From my personal and professional experience, I can tell you that as you embark on your healing journey, you’ll start crying a whole lot more. Not just to clear pain, but for the simplest of everyday reasons, and out of nowhere. You’ll cry when you see a bird, a can of paint, an apple, or even the shape of a cloud.

Random things will make you cry.

The heart is designed to grieve, it wants to grieve…..it has to grieve!

Especially when it’s broken.

This is the price you pay for love. The loss of the life you thought you had, the life you once knew and held so dear. Loss of a dream you believed was true.

But you can also find and feel grief in opening your heart.

Opening it to love and to new possibilities. Opening it to what the future holds.

Isn’t that what life is all about? Endings and beginnings, closings and openings? The heart was designed to navigate you through this forever winding adventure called life. But you have to be willing to feel…..and to live with a broken heart.

Here’s the thing…..you can learn to live with your broken heart by befriending your grief.

You can discover the love that still exists around you…..and share that love with others who are also living with a broken heart.

  • Gary Sturgis – “Surviving Grief”

Intimate Flow

Published October 11, 2022 by tindertender

Life is a river of energy, mostly in motion, sometimes stagnant, needing a “shock” of sorts to start the flow again.

The Universe never fails us, giving us plenty of opportunity to reroute, reformat and come into a shift of perception.

I don’t believe the things I believed as a youth, or my early adult life, or even 5 years ago.

The Mental Body, the Physical Body and the Energetic Body is either empowered, or drained, by others and self. Only becoming intimately aware of the body’s energetic and emotional movement can a person even begin to manifest change purposefully, intentionally.

I flow the best I am able at any given moment.

Grateful for life.

Thoughts are electric and feelings are magnetic.

When you think a thought which is positive or negative, the emotion you feel about the thought begins to wrap itself around the thought, the more you think it, the stronger it becomes and neural pathways are formed, a rut in one of the roads of mind. This is pleasant when the thought and feeling are good, and very unpleasant when they are not.

If the feelings are negative, the thoughts becoming repetitious and the rut in that road of thought gets deeper, the more challenging it becomes to rewire the neural pathways.

Be intentional with your energy.

Be mindful of your thoughts.

Small steps …

Getting started is the difficult part.


Diamond Heart

Published September 16, 2022 by tindertender

Let your Light shine through the purity of your heart.

Let yourself be guided by the purity of your Light.

Let your Diamond heart bring everything back to the Light.

Let your self become the Light for yourself and others.

Feel deeper into your human heart so your Higher heart can emerge.

Let your Higher Heart come through in every way.

Let yourself be who you are as this pure Love and Shining Light always.

Heart Strong

Published September 14, 2022 by tindertender

“I’m comfortable with wearing my heart on my sleeve. It isn’t a fragile thing to be locked away. Transparent as it may be, it isn’t made of glass that could crack and shatter beyond repair. On the contrary, my heart has been tested and proven to be the strongest part of me I know.”

— Suhaib Rumi

[ Art • “The Storm Crow” by Tran Nguyen ]


Published September 10, 2022 by tindertender

When I was 2.5 years old my mother got busted with a suitor in the cafe she worked at. Dad pistol whipped him, putting him in the hospital. Told him he best leave town if he wanted to live. He did. My father left us. I remember laying on the floor of some cold brick building with my mother for sleep. This song was playing, and she was sobbing. I cried as she clutched me close to her chest.


And love

In one



Every time I hear this song I relive that moment.

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