A Tibetan story tells that one day an old wise man asked his followers the following: – Why do people yell at each other when they are angry?
The men thought for a few moments:
-Because we lose our cool – said one – that’s why we scream.-
-But why yell when the other person is next to you? – Asked the wise man – Is it not possible to speak to him in a low voice? Why do you yell at a person when you’re angry?
The men gave some other answers but none of them satisfied the sage.
Finally he explained:
-When two people are angry, their hearts go far apart. To cover that distance they must yell to hear each other, the angrier they are, the louder they will have to yell to hear each other over that great distance.
Then the sage continued:
– What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t yell at each other but talk to each other softly because their hearts are very close, the distance between them is very small.
The wise man smiled and said:
When they fall even more in love, what happens? They don’t speak, they just whisper and become even closer in their love. Finally they don’t even need to whisper, they just look at each other and that’s it.
This is how close two people are when they love each other…
Then he said:
-When you argue, don’t let your hearts drift away, don’t say words that distance you further, there may come a day when the distance is so great that you can no longer find your way back…
~ Author Unknown