All posts tagged Healing


Published September 15, 2020 by tindertender

In these times, it is very important to consider the breath and healing techniques … for our body, our energetic fields, and our emitions into this world … will we breathe LIFE into our surroundings, or contribute to the chaotic outputs we are pounded with?

We are being bombarded by negativity .. in the media, by the people who are unaware of their outputs, (and those that are) and by the unseen via dreams … suggestions of inferiority and weakness … of mind and all other forms of self.

Firming up and reeling in all scattered energies is crucial right now.

Here is a link to several methods of breathwork ….


Here is one technique that has wonderful effects on the aura and energies. It’s a healing breath (breath of fire) that can be blown into a vision of your own body as it stands in front of you, and has many other uses as well.

Here is another technique that has a lot of promise ….

If you wish to stand even the slightest chance of coping in a good way with the manipulations of the seen and unseen, control of self, and self output must be considered … and practiced.

Remember to drink a LOT of water, as you will need to flush out that which you are shedding.

It isn’t always wise to share what you are doing with others, for ‘some’ will ultimately try and find a way to counter the benefits you are experiencing.

In this particular matter, I happen to care about the world and the life in it so much, I take that risk.

Be well.

The Becoming

Published September 14, 2020 by tindertender

This world tries to tell us who we are from the beginning of our lives.

Fat, skinny, dim witted, intelligent, mentally challenged, pretty, ugly, selfish, generous, and any number of other things.

Before we become adults our psyche can be corrupted by the many opinions of our peers. We attempt to live up to their expectations.

Doctors may label us as ‘something’ in order to have an excuse to prescribe various medications which alter our chemistry in order to ‘help’ us. Once they do this, family, friends, society as a whole does its thing and tries to validate this ‘diagnosis’. Usually all done out of ignorance, or a requirement to prescribe meds, or a failed understanding of our experience of the Spiritual Realms, which we may have become connected to.

Triggers born of such experiences and judgments can be difficult to shed as we begin to stand more firmly in our OWN perceptions and ideas of Self. It can take a lot for us to finally say, No More … you are not allowed to define me any longer.

Yet the trigger is sometimes flipped by our connections, even unintentionally, due to the wounds we carry.

This is a good thing, for it allows us the opportunity to see it, to evaluate it, to sit with it and trace it to its source, to see how it has affected our lives and our decisions about self and relationships.

This is when healing can occur if we are willing to look at it deeply, acknowledge it so that it can be released, rather than suppressed. In suppression it will ALWAYS have opportunity to rear its head.

Acknowledgement and release is the only way to freedom from the stigma that began with others placing their own perceptions of our value on us, which we often take on as our own.

Becoming a healer is a difficult process, and always begins with our willingness to heal Self first. Becoming a healer cannot BE any other way, for books cannot teach it … it must be experienced for Self in order to BE IT, and to be of assistance for others.

Bless the courageous and their Stubborn Will which demands to become that which they have always needed, a nurturer. And somewhere along the line, transforming that Stubborn Will into a Skillful Will that is of benefit not only to Self, but to the World.

I love you so much.

Your Brilliance, your Endurance, and your Love for Life is tremendous and oh so beautiful.

I am one of the most Blessed Women, simply for knowing you. And for finally, coming into the true knowledge of what it means to be whole. I am so happy that this Life is a continuous opportunity for development and advancement in the Spiritual things …. in the Heart, Mind, Body and Emotional states which need focus to become Balance.

As chaos flies all about the world, let us reel in our energies, harness it, and apply it to that world we wish to co-create together … a world of beauty, acceptance, care, compassion and Love … in all of its forms.


Oracle Reading 8-30-2020 a.m.

Published August 30, 2020 by tindertender

Embrace the Energy of Peace ~ Let go of the need to defend yourself and prepare to offer peace.

If you have been exposed to a situation in which you have felt the need to protect yourself or defend what you feel is right, know that this is now coming to an end. You are being guided to know that the energies of light are entering to wash away all the darkness. You can drop your shields and protection. You are now in a situation that will honor you and honor your needs. Arguments are ending and disagreements are being resolved. Prepare to talk things through and offer the peace that you would like to enjoy. In order to move forward in a more fearless way, it’s important for you to let go of the idea that you can be hurt by this situation or the people involved, because this will only work against you. Know that your angelic guides and ancestors are standing around you, protecting you and taking you lovingly forward.

Feel Loved and Comforted ~ Allow yourself to be cherished. Mother Earth is protecting you with a shield of Love and Light.

You may have felt overwhelmed or out of control emotionally recently, but you are now moving back to your natural center and that will bring you to a place of clarity and openness. If you have felt ungrounded, know that Mother Earth is here to root you and help you regain your sense of strength. You may not feel like a child, but in the eyes of the Divine you are a child of light and it’s important you know that and feel loved.

If you have had challenges with your mother or with being a mother yourself, know that the energies of mother healing are with you to help clear any ancestral blockages that are preventing you from making this scared love connection. You are being guided to make choices that are based on love.

A New Quilt of Humanity

Published August 29, 2020 by tindertender

The old threads are unraveling,
Get your needles ready.
We are stitching a new quilt
of Humanity.

Bring your old t-shirts,
worn out jeans, scarves,
antique gowns, aprons,
old pockets of plenty
who have held Earth’s treasures,
stones, feathers, leaves,
love notes on paper.

Each stitch
A mindful meditation.
Each piece of material
A story.

The more colour the better,
so call in the Tribes.
Threads of browns, whites,
reds, oranges
Women from all nations
start stitching.

Let’s recycle the hate, the abuse,
the fear, the judgment.
Turn it over, wash it clean,
ring it out to dry.
It’s a revolution
of recycled wears.

Threads of greens, blues, purples
Colourful threads
of peace, kindness,
respect, compassion
are being stitched
from one continent to the next
over forests, oceans, mountains.

The work is hard
Your fingers may bleed.
But each cloth stitched together
Brings together a community.
A world, our future world
Under one colourful quilt.
The new quilt of humanity.

~ Julia Myers

Artist: Paula Nicho Cumez

Personal History

Published August 26, 2020 by tindertender

At the age of 18 something happened to my physical form.

I was rejected, humiliated, shamed, by many, by a so-called professional even. I became angry and rejected others in return. Years went by and the participants in shaming and rejecting me varied, yet it was a constant flow.

Eventually, after absorbing this shaming, this rejection, it seemed that these traits became my own.

I no longer needed others to reject me, to shame me … I carried these in my emotional field and applied to self, no longer needing an outside source to keep the ball rolling.

I carried anger … anger at the one who perpetrated it all. Anger toward self for putting myself in a situation like that. Blaming self and others … for years. This anger got all over everything and everyone.

After nearly 20 years of intense inner reflection and release, it just came up for me today that these things still reside in me, all surrounding the original trauma and all trauma that ensued related to it.

I discovered that my trigger is only a trigger because I still reject that part of myself … feeling dirty, untouchable, unapproachable ….

My life has been stern … often people do not approach me because it is felt, obvious that the energy of rejection was in and of me. People, fearing rejection themselves, stayed away.

I’m told to be careful of what I say. That others will take my weakness and use it against me. They may do that. Yet if I do not face this new and interestingly obvious realization, if I do not attempt to process it, absolve it, I cannot move into my true power. The energy of shame, blame, guilt, anger is so polluted it cannot sustain happiness for long … happy is eventually returned to its original state … the state of mind, the state of emotion, the state of non-acceptance it had been used to for 3.5 decades.

Habitual patterns and mindsets are difficult to see, yet once they are seen, it is ones personal responsibility to dissolve them, to process them, so love and happiness can become to new norm.

It is a choice … I would much rather be in a state of love and happiness. One can take on the whole world when in this state. See the chart below for a visual.

Love and happiness which comes up often, yet has difficulty being sustained.

A purge is necessary and needed … so off to my bath for a soak and relaxation, and an allowing of my higher self to assist me in absolving the decades old habitual pattern and replacing it with a new state of being.

Empty the old and stale, filling up with fresh and new, set with intention for the coming peace filled world I wish to help create, that I wish to belong in, that I wish to share with others.

Oracle Reading 8-25-2020 a.m.

Published August 25, 2020 by tindertender

Feel confident that things are falling into place. Just as a seedling breaking through the surface of the earth, you too are going to experience an emergence. The efforts of your hard work will become evident and you will begin to see the difference all that labor and time you have invested has made. Count your blessings! You are gifted with a creative touch and the ability to generate new and wonderful things. Take a moment to feel proud of yourself for all that you have accomplished.

Thee is so much more going on than you realize. When we get up in our heads and overthink things, we start to miss much of what is going on in the world around us. You might be trying to micromanage a situation and are too focused on small details. Try looking at this from different angles. If you’ve been struggling with a problem or tough situation, you will find the answers if you stand back and view everything from a larger perspective or someone else’s viewpoint.

Laughter breaks up stagnant energy, gets things moving and helps relax you. Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependently to bring your mind back into balance than a good laugh. Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hope, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused and alert.

Clear your energy, the energy of those around you and the energy of your environment. Winds of change are blowing into your awareness. In order to prepare for what is ahead, begin a process of renewal. This process might include clearing away the old that no longer has a purpose in your life. It also might mean changing old habits and patterns that you are easy to release. An example might be actively avoiding overly sugary foods if you are trying to eliminate excessive sugar from your diet. View this as a time of shedding that can be achieved with ease and grace.

Reading from the deck “Natures Whispers” oracle cards created by Angela Hartfield and Josephine Wall


Published August 22, 2020 by tindertender

“She took me deep into her night and her fog. She tried to break me on her demonic altar.

But I told her No.

And she listens to my No, when I infuse it with all of my conviction and my heart.

On the dividing line between sanity and madness, life and death, love and loss, I found myself finally, learned the lessons my father could never teach me. He abandoned me to the darkness so I had to find my own way. How to love. How to breathe, how to surrender to the breath. How to trust. How to stay kind. And how to keep walking, even when death is close.

That is trauma, you see, my love, the sense that you’re on the edge of oblivion, about to disappear, when in reality you’re not, and you’re safe but you’re hurting and you find no relational haven in time or the world. That sense of doom and the overwhelm of the night. The absence of all empathy.

But No. No. You are not her meat. You are not her prey, her collateral damage. This screaming in your head may be loud but thoughts shall not define you and will not hurt you as you learn to embrace them, even laugh at them through the night.

I have learned this the hard way. I have passed through the hell realms where the brain seems close to madness and the body is on somatic fire. I have learned to give myself to the night so she cannot take me by force. This is the secret of all healing, I tell you.

I will not be her victim any longer. I have found power in my powerlessness, victory in the ego’s failure. My strength lies in my willingness to shatter for love and for the goodness of things. Her night will not devour me; I shall devour it first, in trust.

Like you, I have felt the wild heart pounding and the terrible heat generated by the body, and the sweat and the constrictions and the tremors of primordial arousal. I have felt the contractions in the belly, and the numbness and the tingles in the arms and legs and the way we sometimes feel like we are falling into oblivion and all things are coming to an end. I have known it all and I know now, finally, finally, it is God. I have given up the fight against life, surrendered to the power of my very own body, my healing temple. I tell my heart to beat faster, harder, to beat out of my chest, and it does. I tell the heat to rise to a peak, and I tell the tremors to intensify as much as they need to. I invite the storm so it does not end me. I beg the anxiety to increase. I beg the terror to do its worst. I know nothing can break me except my own refusal to live. I know I am stronger than I would ever believe.

I have told my nervous system to show me its terrifying healing power. I have relaxed into my own sweat and flesh and pounding. I have given myself willingly to the night and to the darkness, to her convulsions and contractions, I have become one with her and she has become one with me. Entered the death realm, was sucked into the heart of trauma, it was not happening to me but alongside me and with me and through me and it was finally a part of me and I was bigger than it all at last. And I was no victim, no helpless child, but the life force – yes, the fucking LIFE FORCE – that created a billion universes with energy to spare, with playful laughter and wild abandon and a twinkle in its eye.

Vibrating with warm energy, shivering with awe, I open my eyes again. I see you now.

Hello, my love.


The worst has happened and I am alive. We are alive. Terror as portal. Yes, terror as portal. We are here.


I have gone deep into her night and fog and I have found only a stronger version of myself, and I know this is possible for you too. I tell her not to break me and she does not. She listens, she does, when I talk with the fullness of my being, with a courageous heart, and with all my authenticity. She will listen to you too.

Do not fear the night, my love, do not fear her fog and her contractions, do not run when the dark material emerges and do not panic at the point of utter helplessness for that is the healing point. The eye of the storm will inoculate you. Her darkness will strengthen you if you let it, and she will show you things the daytime knows nothing of.

Trust the night! For she is you, you see – your own dark warrior heart, your own ache and longing for safety, and warmth, and home…

~ Jeff Foster




Published August 22, 2020 by tindertender

Unity has many different meanings, the most common is a union between cultures, countries, peoples.

There are the base four bodies, possessed and worn by all individuals. The Physical, the Mental, the Emotional, and the Etheric.

It is important to ponder these four bodies, meditate on them, or in other words, relax the mind and allow the meaning for each to come through for you.

What is the foundation for the Physical body?

What is the foundation for the Mental body?

What is the foundation for the Emotional body?

What is the foundation for the Etheric body?

Once you have got this, written it down, and solidified it in mind … consider Unity … uniting the elements of these four bodies.

This is where union begins.


The work you put in, you get out.

Effort made toward wholeness cannot, and will not, be overlooked.

Your higher self, in combo with your guides, the angels who watch over you, and the elementals of this world will assist you in process.

All you need do is ask, relax, and let it flow.

I am currently in student mode, and I share my ‘lessons’ with you, so that we may grow into it together.

Peace is the goal, and it begins on the inside of each individual.

As you can see, the outside layer is the Mental body, the most commonly afflicted body. The easiest target by anyone who wishes to manipulate form.

Strengthen the bodies, understand the foundations for each, unite them into a cohesive whole, and it will be easier to walk in this world and bring about positive adjustment, to create the Peace you wish to enjoy.


Published August 21, 2020 by tindertender

There is power in gratitude.

When you’re feeling down … depressed, fearful, angry … create a list of gratitude, and begin with being thankful for what you perceive is causing these emotions in you.

Be grateful to feel the powerful emotions, be grateful that whomever Or whatever is the source of this for you is present, and allowing you the opportunity to work through emotional blockages.

You may find that as your list grows, as you find the tiniest details of things to be grateful for in the moment, this conscious creation will take that powerful emotion and flip it into love and happiness.

There is great power in gratitude.

Use it to your advantage, and you will control your mind, your emotion, and your life.

As with all things, the more you practice, the greater control you will harness and wield.

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