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Early Day Surprise

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

My supervisor did an update to the computer program I use at work, it took two hours … and then something went wrong. So, I got to leave an hour early! Surprise!

I went to the park for a walk-about.

Saw some flowers …

Came across a caterpillar munching down dinner.

Ran into a patch of stinging nettles, first time in 40 years. Probably only noticed because my legs were bare. That was fun.

Hope you enjoyed your day my Human (and otherwise) family.

I love you.

PS ~ I found golden grasses!

I also spotted a couple of heart rocks. Love is in the atmosphere!

Dismantling The Illusion

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

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The illusion is very easy to innerstand when one let go of how things SHOULD be and start embodying what actually are. Everyone is a POWERFUL CREATOR BEING.

You create with your Focus, Fantasy, Belief, WILL and action. But really everything is about FOCUS – What you focus on will manifest.

SO when you focus on everything you don’t want, woala. There you go, wonderful creation and you get to experience just that. The illusions are to keep everyone focusing on what they don’t want and feel very low, sad, anxious, stressed and all that. To break free is to really take back ones power of ones focus and at the same time OPEN ONES MIND = THIRD EYE.

It’s that easy as your mind keeps your beliefs and even when you focus on what you want, you’re beliefs are still a part of you and that means also what you manifest.

So open your mind completely and then focus on the absolute BEST CASE, MOST OPTIMAL DREAM SCENARIO. Also, trying to control how this manifests for you will block it all from happening so let go of that, of everything while continue to focus on the most profound dream of creation.

Also, your FAITH in it is SO POWERFUL. You HAVE TO TRUST YOURSELF – TRUST GOD – THAT THIS WILL MANIFEST. This way you are able to let go of everything and then use your heart as a GOLDEN COMPASS, to really calibrate one now moment at a time.

Still, there is also your souls evolution so you will get tested by being put in situations that you feel “bad”.

When this happens, you know that you have two options – one is to change your perspective of that situation so you love that one too – really feeling it deep inside of you. Or you could choose to learn that lesson another time as you’re not yet powerful enough to face that.

Both are perfect – follow your heart!! Your mind will play tricks on you, your gut will play tricks on you so always go FROM HEART TO GUT AND MIND, not the other way around.

For this dream to come true one really has to learn how to love it all but each soul aspect have very different journeys there so one can not tell you what is true for you in your saga where you are staring the leading role. IT IS YOUR MOVIE AFTER ALL. So trust yourself.

Trust God AND MANIFEST ONE NOW MOMENT AT A TIME. It is this easy, yet it’s very hard as we have the human ego aspect that wants to interfere. This is bypassed by letting go of ALL JUDGEMENT and just trust your path. IT IS THIS EASY. Dance with creation.


The Lovers To Avoid While You Are Healing

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

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Those who limit you to or judge the shape your body takes, the way it moves, the way it feels, the way it looks.

People who project their insecurities or fears onto you and are often facing a new trigger or issue.

People who cannot hold your no, your s*xuality, your boundary, your hurt, or your truth.

People who condemn your values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, boundaries.

People who do not know what their values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, fears, or boundaries are.

The perpetual child-like partiers drowning their emotions and depression in drugging/s*xing, etc.

Those spiritually bypassing their feelings and using crystals, gurus, as the primary way to enlighten self and grow.

The ones who give their energy/attention/affection/trust to other lovers/potential lovers, when they are triggered by you.

The ones that you often experience their emotional absence, when you are needing support.

Those who are unwilling to get help or do their own personal work, requiring difficult emotional labor and standstills in your intimacy.

You need not avoid those that have been through trauma
or heartache
or loss

These are not signs that anything is wrong.

In fact, those that have been through the most loss are often the most incredible lovers, if they decide to lean into the dark, explore it, shine light onto it, instead of ignore it or hide it away.

Because you deserve to explore the dark together with someone who will never make you responsible for their healing. Who will bring to the table deep value through their own healing + self-awareness and mastery.

To getting what you need and deserve, and letting that in.

Oracle Reading 7-14-2020 a.m.

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

Focus on how far you have come. Not on how far you have to go. You will find help in unexpected places.

I am a beautiful, courageous traveler on a journey toward ultimate happiness. Today I am grateful for how far I have come and how much I have been given. I am grateful for the companions I find along the trail. I will remember that I have been placed on this Earth to discover what I really want to do and to be true to myself. I will find my own way and I will live my dream.

Immense delight can be found in the smallest of things. Cultivate fluttering moments of joy.

Today I give myself permission to be happy. I will laugh and laugh some more. I will spread my wings of joy and soar. I now let go of the past and live in the present moment. I am a beautiful, smart, creative heart on a journey towards ultimate happiness.

Stop hesitating. Movement creates the magic. Nothing can hold you back.

Today I will focus my energy on moving forward without hesitation. I will get things done. My head and my heart are moving in the same direction. I won’t waste energy worrying about “what if’s” and “who says?” I will rise up, feel my power and be happy. Nothing can hold me back.

Call upon the elements. Focus your intentions. The greatest dragon is within you.

Right now I look to the Spirit within and I feel my inner power. I call upon the forces of nature for even more strength and direction. I will not waver from the task at hand for this is my time. I will go forth with courage and I will succeed, for life and power are on my side.

Reading from the deck “Magical Times” Empowerment Cards created by Jody Bergsma


Funny, When I Think About It

Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

For nearly two decades I’ve listened to taunting, to threats, to those insulting my bodily form and my thought processes.

I’ve been degraded and verbally abused by some of the most ridiculous manipulative groups I’ve ever encountered.

They are doing it to many people these days.

Then a woman said, “I’m going to help her.”

She sounded like a goddess, a power house of a woman.

Gratefully, I began to listen.

A man came on board. Amazingly, he knew just how to speak to me to get my attention and cooperation.

I’ve had a male friend for 30 years. We spoke this afternoon and he said, “You were one of the very first people to make masks, and you don’t like to wear them.” I said, “Afer all these years, you still don’t know me. I made them, because other people needed them.”

Many men just don’t get it. They want to insist, or demand an action, way of being, or response to whatever …

When all they need do … is need us …

Without manipulation or coercion.

And yet sometimes, the need must go unanswered.


Oracle Reading 7-13-2020

Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

We are often sent small signs in the form of synchronicities and coincidences. Be watchful. Do not overlook them in the everyday rush of life. Words, numbers, and symbols that repeat, animals and birds that appear on your path, people who come in and out of your life at odd or similar moments, and those flashes of knowing when you believe something will happen with every fiber of your being – these are all things you are meant to see and hear; messages from Gaia and Great Spirit sent to aid your journey.

You have been taught that all is either good or evil, negative or positive; good gives rise to good, and bad gives rise to bad. It is wrong to have feelings of anger, dislike or fear as these emotions are born of our shadow self. This is not Truth. Everything happens for a reason. Love can give rise to destruction, and hate can inspire acts of genuine love. The lessons offered by our shadow often teach us the most. Know your shadow self. Love it. Without darkness, the stars cannot be seen.

You are a spiritual being, living a physical life. Embrace spirit in your journey and reaffirm your connection with the Divine. Fly to the heavens, but remember to look down and see that the Divine exists in the magical, natural world beneath you. Spirit dwells within all – in everything you see and know, and everything that you do not see and which is unknown. Both the creative and the destructive, the beautiful and the ugly, are born of the Divine.

Reading from the deck “Messenger Oracle” created by Ravynne Phelan



Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

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Hello, everyone. This week we will be discussing getting rid of the energetic residue that remains attached to us following relationships and events.

In preparation for the work we will do together, and the preparations I will help you make to do this important step in your progress of awakening, it is important to take steps to strengthen your auric field.

This thread from March will instruct you on how to start doing that. Please review it and do as it suggests, in order to fill the holes and portals in your body and aura with light to protect you.

As well, if you would like to learn how to free yourself from energetic “cords,” you will need to make a list of past or present problematic relationships, or events in your life that still remain as something you think about and want to get rid of.

If you will review the thread and do as it suggests, and make a list of all of the things in your past and present about which you want to “cut the cords,” you will be ready to go with the new information I will provide starting tomorrow.

Everyone is fully capable of using their own energy to clear themselves of energetic cords and residue. You don’t need anyone else to help you do it, if you will do the steps in the thread, and make the list. You need to identify the source of cords in order to get rid of them.

I will start tomorrow with the new instructions, in order to give you time to work on these things. I love and appreciate you all, and look forward to being able to serve you as you learn to clean up the energetic residue that bogs down your life.


It is necessary for you first to make a list of things in your past that you still think about with negative feelings. These things might be family relationships, things you did, things other people did to you, or events.

Whenever we experience an interaction with others that ends up not being a positive experience, karmic bonds can attach, even if the interaction or event was not our own fault. These karmic bonds create what some call “cords,” because energetically, they look like a cord between ourself and the other party(ies) involved in the interaction. These cords can grow larger and more powerful if the negative relationship continues, or the negative feelings involved are fed by fear, dread, hatred, anger–any negative thought.

These cords keep us bound to the other party(ies) as long as we continue to allow them to bind us. In order to heal ourselves and our energy, we must cleanse ourselves of these bonds. They don’t usually just go away without conscious effort to get rid of them.

There are some who offer to cut these cords for others, but since it is a multi-step process, it works better if you do it yourself. Merely cutting the energetic cord does not do all that needs to be done.

Jesus spends a lot of time in his book talking about getting rid of energetic residue. Although he doesn’t specifically mention the idea of “cords,” his advice for getting rid of bad energy in our bodies is completely sound. This stored energy has the potential to harm us as long as it remains within our bodies. Many people are experiencing continued, undiagnosable aches and pain, that is caused by these energetic cords. They seek out medical help, when in fact, the problem is an energetic bond to their soul.

Jesus discusses how important FORGIVENESS is in releasing the energetic residue that makes us sick. That is what I will be discussing as well, to give you more information on how FORGIVENESS clears energetic residue.

I know, if you are like me, you would prefer that I just give you one easy step to cut these energetic bonds, so you can be done with it. I always got annoyed when I found out things took more than one step, and somebody else could not just do it for me.

But cutting cords is a two step process, after you identify what you need to cut, and the first step is the hardest. And that step is FORGIVENESS of those who have hurt you.

Many people get very offended when it is suggested that they need to forgive someone who has mistreated them, and move on. They don’t realize that forgiveness is not for the one who mistreated us. It is for the one who is mistreated.

Forgiveness has the automatic affect of ending the energetic hold someone has over us, after another person hurts us. We’ve talked a lot about how everything around us is a reality created by energy, and the energy of forgiveness is the only thing that has the power to help us move on after we’ve been hurt. So, take a look at your lists of things that are still holding you back. You need to be deliberate and careful when you do this, so you get rid of all the dark energy. As you identify each thing on your list, one at a time identify all of the ways that you were hurt by this interaction with someone else. This is a painful process, but you can’t get rid of what you don’t identify. Take all of the thoughts you still have of this other person, and form the thoughts into a shape with your mind.

As we’ve discussed in the past, all energy work we do is done by using the imagination as the tool for telling our own energy that we carry–the Creator energy we all can use—where to go, and how to function. It isn’t our imagination itself that does this.

We just use our imagination to create an image, a picture, of what we want our energy to do. So in this case, form a picture, perhaps of a ball, or something you can throw, and move all of your thoughts into that image.

After you’ve created the image in your mind, resolve, by actually thinking this, that you are done with the other person in the scenario, that you forgive them, and release them to their own best good, and that you no longer want to be bound or hurt by the situation.

You have to be sincere about these thoughts, and genuinely want to be, and resolve to be done, with this situation. You also have to do it with a spirit of forgiveness, because you want to pack all of your past negative emotion into your imagined object so you can get rid of it.

Remember to do this with each individual relationship or interaction you need to clear out. Let yourself feel the emotional residue. If you need to scream it out, or cry it out, take some time by yourself, so you don’t hurt others, and do what you need to do to really feel it.

After you feel you have felt all of the emotional baggage that goes along with what you are addressing, imagine the object you’ve created in your mind once again. Imagine yourself taking hold of that object and ejecting it, any way you want, from your mind.

Remember, again, its not the imagination that is going to get rid of it for you. Your imagination is just the instruction for that huge Creator energy you carry. You are just telling that energy what to do. When you throw the ball out in your mind, you are telling your energy to go through your entire mind and body, and find all the energy related to the person or interaction you are addressing. Then your energy will do that, and will get rid of it, as per your instructions via this object you’ve created in your mind.

Tomorrow we will go through instructions on the second part of this process—a meditation to actually cut the energetic cord that can remain after you’ve purged your mind and body through forgiveness. The cords can still remain, even after the process I’ve described today.

I encourage you to go through every single thing in your past that you still think about that bothers you in any way. Get rid of the energetic residue with this simple exercise, one thing at a time, carefully covering everything that causes you to have negative emotions.

It will really seem silly, unless you acknowledge that you are being of energy, and that only energy will correct what holds you back. In time, you will become very efficient at this, and it won’t require as much deliberate thought to control your energy as you like.

This may even go against what you were taught–that imagination is just for children. But our imagination was always the tool we were given to be able to focus on what we want to do with our energy. It is absolutely true, that if you can imagine something you can focus your energy. The work of Energy Healing is just an extension of what I suggest to you today. It is all simply just learning how to visualize what you want to accomplish, and imagining the steps to do it, so your energy follows your commands.

I know it might be disappointing to some that this is such a seemingly simple thing to do. Maybe it seems too simple to be true. But remember, there is no special knowledge or technique required to use the Creator energy we are all carrying. It is a gift from our Creator.

As with all things I discuss, if you have a method of doing things that is your own and that you feel like works for you, by all means, do your own thing. Since no special knowledge or skill is required, I encourage you to come up with your own ways of doing things.

If you will work on this forgiveness aspect tonight, with at least a couple of the items that trouble you, we can move on to the next, almost-as-simple step tomorrow. Please don’t expect that you can do this over a single night. Unless you’ve had a super easy life, this process can take awhile. Don’t do more than you can do comfortably at one time. Energy work is exhausting if you don’t work up to things, like you exercise physically. Just take it slowly, so your body can adjust to the energy moving through it.

If you are careful and deliberate with this process, after you finally cut the cords that bind you, I promise you the difference in your life will be amazing. You should feel much better physically, mentally, and emotionally. Pain levels can easily change. It is astonishing.

Thank you again for being here. I hope you will just give this a try, and see how healing yourself of your past will make a giant difference in your ability to serve as a lightworker, in whatever way you want to serve. My heart is with you, as you tackle this big project.

(I will add the meditation aspect to this post tomorrow)

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Paranoia … It’ll Destroy Ya

Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

I had mentioned to an acquaintance that there seems to be less paranoia in smaller towns than in the city, which is why I travel for music and dance these days.

He stated he feels there is less intelligence in a small town, rather than less paranoia.

I told him that a difference of opinion is great.

He said, “Not when it comes to science.”

Okay, Fauci lover.

Eat the lies.

Lock yourself in your house.

I’ll continue to dance, and will do so until I die.


While many cower in their homes in fear (or, as they put it, common sense) I will assist the others in keeping freedom alive.


Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

The idea behind transcendentalism came about in the 1800s. The idea was that both men and women who pursued all aspects of nature became more connected with spiritual and magical forces there within. They used this power to transcend, experiencing more than just sight, taste or touch.

These naturists believed that through their own heightened intuition, people could trust themselves to be their own authority, their own judge in what is right or wrong. Like that of an animal choosing it’s next action according to its own instinct. These ideas were not religious beliefs but a more in-depth way of understanding life and our role in it.

Nature is powerful, we need to connect more often and explore the secrets hidden Beneath the branches. Man once relied on nature for food, water and protection. We have lost sight of that and nature is being abandoned.

Get out there and visit our Mother! She’s waiting to reconnect.

-Steven Mundy

Oracle Reading 7-12-2020

Published July 12, 2020 by tindertender

There is a ripple effect of energy flowing from you. Be positive. Simply staying happy and sending that happiness out from your heart will benefit those around you. As you adjust your motives and attitudes, this energy flows from you in concentric circles affecting all of your desires and beliefs. There is a chance to bring good fortune and influences to all of the events in your life. As circles also represent cycles, know that you are continually going in and out of cycles, growing and changing. With every ending comes a new beginning. Trust that the positive energy you radiate will attract what you wish for.

If you have a goal or vision, be sure to provide the right surroundings for that dream to flourish. Positive self-talk, affirmations, being kind to yourself, celebrating your talents and successes – all of these create fertile soil for your dreams to take root and grow. Sometimes, when you push too had it can hinder the harmonious unfolding of your journey. Trust the process, relax, and allow nature to take its course. Belief and positive support is needed to accomplish your goal. Keep in mind; Nature makes growing and blossoming look effortless but the secret is in all the details – position, sun, soil, air, water and nourishment. Make sure you are taking the steps necessary to attain your perfect environment.

When you are busy, rushing, stressed, worried or overwhelmed, it is easy to lose track of the simple things in your world that bring you joy. This is a huge nudge to remember to create some fun. Rediscover enthusiasm and fascination through adventure and spontaneous happenings. Engage with your life again and take in your surroundings, observing the importance of living life to its fullest. Decide to do something for the pleasure of it and see where life takes you.

Reading from the deck “Nature’s Whispers” created by Angela Hartfield and Josephine Wall

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