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The Lovers To Avoid While You Are Healing

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

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Those who limit you to or judge the shape your body takes, the way it moves, the way it feels, the way it looks.

People who project their insecurities or fears onto you and are often facing a new trigger or issue.

People who cannot hold your no, your s*xuality, your boundary, your hurt, or your truth.

People who condemn your values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, boundaries.

People who do not know what their values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, fears, or boundaries are.

The perpetual child-like partiers drowning their emotions and depression in drugging/s*xing, etc.

Those spiritually bypassing their feelings and using crystals, gurus, as the primary way to enlighten self and grow.

The ones who give their energy/attention/affection/trust to other lovers/potential lovers, when they are triggered by you.

The ones that you often experience their emotional absence, when you are needing support.

Those who are unwilling to get help or do their own personal work, requiring difficult emotional labor and standstills in your intimacy.

You need not avoid those that have been through trauma
or heartache
or loss

These are not signs that anything is wrong.

In fact, those that have been through the most loss are often the most incredible lovers, if they decide to lean into the dark, explore it, shine light onto it, instead of ignore it or hide it away.

Because you deserve to explore the dark together with someone who will never make you responsible for their healing. Who will bring to the table deep value through their own healing + self-awareness and mastery.

To getting what you need and deserve, and letting that in.

Oracle Reading 7-14-2020 a.m.

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

Focus on how far you have come. Not on how far you have to go. You will find help in unexpected places.

I am a beautiful, courageous traveler on a journey toward ultimate happiness. Today I am grateful for how far I have come and how much I have been given. I am grateful for the companions I find along the trail. I will remember that I have been placed on this Earth to discover what I really want to do and to be true to myself. I will find my own way and I will live my dream.

Immense delight can be found in the smallest of things. Cultivate fluttering moments of joy.

Today I give myself permission to be happy. I will laugh and laugh some more. I will spread my wings of joy and soar. I now let go of the past and live in the present moment. I am a beautiful, smart, creative heart on a journey towards ultimate happiness.

Stop hesitating. Movement creates the magic. Nothing can hold you back.

Today I will focus my energy on moving forward without hesitation. I will get things done. My head and my heart are moving in the same direction. I won’t waste energy worrying about “what if’s” and “who says?” I will rise up, feel my power and be happy. Nothing can hold me back.

Call upon the elements. Focus your intentions. The greatest dragon is within you.

Right now I look to the Spirit within and I feel my inner power. I call upon the forces of nature for even more strength and direction. I will not waver from the task at hand for this is my time. I will go forth with courage and I will succeed, for life and power are on my side.

Reading from the deck “Magical Times” Empowerment Cards created by Jody Bergsma


Take A Long Step Back

Published July 11, 2020 by tindertender

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What possible strategy in politics could ever possess people to come up with an obviously planned and overhyped pandemic, destroy whole police departments, and engage in the very obvious and crazy actions we have seen? It may work short term but that is only because of so much fear they are spreading. Fear makes people panic. It makes people stupid, but fear can only be kept up so long. Eventually more see through that.

It is something that just does not make any sense if you look at things with any traditional view of politics or power in leading countries. What we have seen would be so risky and foolish it would be daring disaster to ruin long term hopes of controlling billions of people on this planet.

It is not just a clever or dangerous game of odd politics or 4d chess.

What we have been seeing here is nothing short of the age old fight between good and the Devil. I know that seems obvious in one way, but this is not just some random odd tactic led by bad people. It is not just another fight of good people vs bad.

They have completely given themselves over to devils. They hid the ancient rites and rituals behind a veneer of politics or kingdoms. They hid the true motivations for a long time. Before this started they made rites and rituals declaring a literal war on God.

These tactics we are seeing are not the work of people anymore. It is the work of demons. The leadership has gone so far past the line that they have lost any small amount of free will they had left. They just do not know it yet.

Forget politics. That has little anymore to do with anything. Now we just have a few groups of greedy people all completely in trances from the demons that are all around us.

There are many you know to be bad. There are many you think to be good, but are not. The demons are strong and the greed is too powerful.

Those that have dark hearts have no choice but to show themselves. Like moths to the flame, the free will is gone. They must obey. They gave their souls willingly for power and now it is time to collect.

The exposures and odd behavior will not stop yet. Normal is gone forever.

The greed inside those with dark heart always proves too much eventually. Rational though will fail more and more and at some point the eyes of the masses will be opened more to see it.

The fight with good against bad never was a fight in the first place.

The good just have to watch, prepare, learn, and endure. The bad destroy themselves. The devil always devours its own.

This is no longer political. This is a spiritual battle. It is one that tests ourselves in many ways. Now rules and politics are just a very thin excuse.

We have a leader and it never was Trump. It never was a fight for the USA. This is a fight for the world and our leader is the very real and living Eternal family that guides us. All other righteous fall under this leadership including and righteous leaders and politicians.

The battle never was a battle. The evil destroy themselves. Knowing this, those who stay inspired with peace and a deep connection to the other side will know what is needed, when it is needed.

Have faith in times of darkness and the light will bring the rewards.

Have peace, love and kindness, but do not equivocate or let those who follow real devils confuse the good and bad as they try to do. There are devils in churches and in every area. Those righteos need to learn to feel what is good. Discernment is needed and will be given.

Do not fear the evil now. Have faith and walk upright in our way and our leadership will bring the peace we seek.

Things do not return to normal when devils take over the hearts of the people. Do not worry about normal. New things will come that are even better.

Basically we cannot let loud mouthed woke people or normal but blind people make us ashamed of doubt ourselves.

We know what is right but often let the confusion others have make us doubt ourselves or second guess things.

Confidence in a calm way = stand tall


Oracle Reading 7-9-2020

Published July 9, 2020 by tindertender

When you witness the initial stages of dawn without the benefit of a clock or other timepiece, for awhile you may not be able to discern whether the sky is really lightening. The stars remain visible, the shadows of the night still shape the landscape. It is that way with any beginning: it is difficult to tell where the old ends and the new begins. Gradually, however, it becomes clear to your senses that the light is definitely increasing; and as you continue to observe, the world slowly wakes up, accompanied by all the sounds, smells and freshness associated with it. Soon the first glimmer of the sun shows. A new day has begun.

This is a time to say farewell to the old and honor the new by releasing any self-imposed constraints or resistance to the truth that you know. This is your chance to develop that project you have been thinking about, embark on that adventure you have dreamed of going on, and take risks in initiating what your intuitive self has been telling you to do.

As this prospect becomes increasingly visible and real, doubts and uncertainties may arise. But rest assured – just as dawn inevitably turns into day, by heeding your inner guidance, you will succeed.

Need to take some time for solitude, preferably in silence. Spend the morning, afternoon, or even the entire day by yourself, completely unplanned and unstructured. The bombardment of your senses by the noise and intensity of society leaves you on alert far more than is necessary. The vibration of millions of people’s worry and fear throughout the world can impinge upon you and greatly affect you if you do not honor your need to pull back from time to time.

When you have passed through any self-constructed barriers to enjoying the quiet peace of solitude, it will serve you best if you simply observe the thoughts and emotions that pass through you, especially those that cause shortness of breath or a quickening heartbeat. Remember that isolation is experienced not by choice, but out of fear. When you decide to spend time with yourself in solitude, however, you are choosing to once again find and connect with who you really are.

Fighting or blocking the flow of your Life Force can lead you to feeling spiritually void and disconnected from Source. Just like the metaphor of the river, it does not work to force or fight this compelling movement. When you simply pay attention and observe the flow, it becomes easier to navigate your experiences and see what lies ahead, or at least get a sense of what is to come by the ever-changing geography that unfolds as you cruise along.

Your resistance is hampering your ability to make a choice in this matter. Surrender to the movement of Life, be grateful, and you will see the signs along the shore and in the river itself that offer you clues about what direction your egoless Self is to be making. Go with the flow is more than a trite aphorism here. It is essential that you do so now. Breathe, relax, and you will know.

Reading from the deck “Earth Magic” created by Steven D. Farmer


Oracle Reading 7-8-2020

Published July 8, 2020 by tindertender

Wisdom from the higher realms will make you appreciate and share the riches of the Earth.

You’re looking in the right place for wisdom and spiritual riches. You’re generous because you think of others and their needs. You have an abundance of energy and the wisdom to use it wisely.

You are the stillness in the midst of turmoil, with inner knowingness and acceptance.

You’re becoming stable and calm and developing the ability to see through the curtain of your own and others emotions. You’re steady and at peace. This energy flows out from you and affects the well-being of others without your realizing it.

You have the quality of complete openness, absolute potential. You are connected to all beings. Everything is linked by the vastness of space.

You feel connected to all of life. You’re developing empathy for all beings and are beginning to understand others. You’re now noticing people’s similarities more than their differences and realizing that you’re at the dawning of your own conscious awakening.


Oracle Reading 7-7-20202

Published July 7, 2020 by tindertender

Your thoughts must travel through your heart. If your action began with attunement to the “I Am” mind of the all-perfect universe, then what is coming to you now should be plenty of what you want.

If you find yourself with plenty of disappointment, it is time to look to your thoughts again and into your heart. Did you set out to achieve a goal your heart was not into? Did you override deep feelings within? We’re your goals overlooking the needs of others? Are there unkind words now piercing your heart and limiting your vision? Listen.

Words can be stab words (s-words) or salve words – “I don’t like you,” or “I forgive you.” Your sword (words) can cut away the problem or wound the one you are experiencing the problem with. Pay attention. Aim to foster love.

It is a time of victory and peace. Those aspects of yourself that you were courageous enough to bring through by accepting them yourself have been accepted by the world. You have captured the dream. You are in a stage of equilibrium. Relax and enjoy.

Your relationship, career, or artistic expression has been accepted by the important others in your life. You have withstood the challenge and gained in strength. Conflicts are resolved. You are deemed worthy. You now have the raw materials, basic setup, or opportunity you have wanted to enable yourself to continue to higher levels of expertise. Your confidence and abilities have increased. That which you have held dear is yours. Take it all in.

You have earned the title Sage or time Genius. You are a visionary who has lived fully and well, the artist at life itself. Your works will last long beyond your own physical life and thus are immortal. You are passing on the pipe now, handing down the wand. This may be in only one area of your life or all of them. You know.

Your vision has brought a portion of your dream to you. But not all forces are yet aligned with your dream. Your own mind may wander from your vision. You may have friends or relatives who disprove. The world may not currently accept what you have to offer. It is time to face these things and lure the universe to accommodate you.

Holding the highest good that you can imagine in mind, begin to enter the unknown. Whether you are engaged in a hunt in the primeval forest or entering into a new marriage or a new career, you are stepping alone into a force field much larger than yourself. You are seeking only one prize, the cherished central key to your dream. Perhaps it is a person’s ongoing love, maybe a position where your creative works will be recognized and encouraged, or an inner step of development that you have been longing to achieve. In any case, you must use your personal talents to guide the dearly desired toward you.

Your fears will rise up. Your expectations that others should already be attuned to your needs will be confronted. You are alone and small in a field of seeming opposition. It is time to go with your gifts, pull out your talents and use them, however meager you think them to be. This is what the universe is asking of you now. Trust the higher self.

Give it your all. This is the egos battle to transcend its boundaries. It is a time of interpersonal breakthrough and growth. You are coming to terms with life around you. This is a creative conflict or the therapy stage of a relationship, a cleansing intensive. All your Energy is called forth to empower you.

It is time to await opportunity expectantly or to wander seeking pieces of the dream. You are probably engaged in fantasy and longing during this period. You may even feel a craving for something you cannot quite define. There may be periods of melancholy due to the sense of uncertainty in your life right now. Flow with them. Watch them pass.

You will reach fulfillment on the path Creator laid before you. Trust enough to take the first step. Let yourself be guided by dreams and visions. Look for signs. Trust your inner response. Follow that which calls you at the deepest level; respond to that which creates all-engrossing enthusiasm. Let the universe lead.

You are now a co-creator , taking part in the planetary transformation now taking place. Self and world are one being, breathing one life. You are the Dancer holding wands of male and female life force in perfect balance. The polarities within the self have been recognized and brought into a conscious creative working relationship. There is a synthesis, crystallization, perfection, stability, all within the greater flow. You move consciously with the cosmos, understanding your place in time.

The Dancer: I dance freely and with power, for I have faced the death of all that flows through me. In other words, I have transcended possession and desire for results. My actions are based on the fullness of the moment rather than on sacrifice for the future. I understand that now is all futures. I therefore live in death. It is death as a state of constant peace and surrender to what is. Thus, death is the ultimate balance during life. I have united polarities of existence. As you approach the understanding of this within yourself, the world is yours. In Earth, I am through you.

Command: (The Emperor) I am the Empowerment/Chief, creator of the overall structure that takes into account the many abilities, talents and experiences you have discovered within and relates them to the worlds needs. Through the Empress/Bounty in yourself, you learned of these gifts in your being. Now, through me, you will learn how to give them physical form.

You have journeyed as the Fool/Seed, willing to take a risk to move forward. Then, as a Magician/Resourceful One, you saw the tools you have to use along the way. As the High Priestess/Seeker, you realized your responsibility for that which you experience. At the same time, along the way, you discovered an abundance of good ideas, high goals, and personal ambitions. You experienced the bountiful feeling of the Empress when you saw the abilities, talents, and knowledge that have been planted in your consciousness. Now it is time to find a structure that can allow this whole Self to come through in fullness.

Your thoughts and images dictate your reality. You must take command now. It is time to make decisions that benefit your whole being and that of the Earth, your dwelling place. I tell you, you are the maker of your personal law. The definitions of the meaning of your experiences constitute (make into law) suggestions that are accepted, without reservation, by your consciousness. You define what you see, many times without thinking. Realize, you have choice in your definition, in your response, to any situation. This is your point of power.

Affirmation: I now create the structures through which all of my gifts will be actualized. I am the governor of my world. I am the ruler of my life. From Limitless Spirit, I draw all things needed for right action.


Connecting with Love

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

“It’s NOT my fault!” You say –
As you stand in silence to the lack of equity and injustices that’s displayed!

You turn your head and refuse to see the existence of such a thing –
You say I wasn’t there, how is this my fault, you sing!

Well let me tell you my friend, it’s our ability – To become, the responsibility!

To be part of the of the solution –
To educate, support and help, bring resolution!

To a world victimized by all the ism’s –
We need more activism!

I believe it is my purpose to be a Steward of the earth – For the greater good
to rebirth!

In my community, in my world –
I cannot sit in silence or turn an eye to the injustice as it swirls!

Round and round we go –
And still we do not know!

Our eyes are open yet we do not see –
When we stand in silence and let things, just be!

We continue to leave the wounds unhealed-
Because we believe we’ll stir up problems with our lips unsealed!

Well I don’t care if I rattle a few chains –
If it helps to subside the suffering pains!

I’ve wronged people in my life,
can you say you’ve not –
It’s taken courage to face this truth I’ve sought!

It’s humbled me
indeed –
Forgiveness is the ally that I breed!

I’ve been empowered to be a better human – To cultivate compassion, and weed out the inhumane!

I may not be able to change history –
Yet I’m able to change myself, my thoughts my attitude, to rewrite my story!

I must believe this to be true –
Or I will die a slow painful death, I’m sure!

Disconnection is a symptom of fear –
Fear of the unknown, ignorance that showers the soul with dreadful tears!

I may not have been physically present in the day –
However, I can still feel the sorrow and pain that was caused in every way!

I feel it in my blood, my soul.
And until I face this fact I cannot feel whole!

Half of my Ancestors were raped and murdered , stripped of their
culture –
While the other half lived in riches at their expense, like vultures!

I could say it’s not my fault, for I wasn’t there –
But the truth remains, I’m there as long as I’m aware!

I choose to listen and show up for the greater good –
That supports unity and harmony for All, as it should!

I urge you now, take your disconnection –
Find a way to turn it into Reconnection!

With Love

By: Alicia Tarin – 2020


Oracle Reading 7-4-2020

Published July 4, 2020 by tindertender

Heart of the Issue: Strategy: We live in a world where logic and rationality reign supreme. Athena makes her decisions most often with her head and not her heart. There is very little emotion in her cool demeanor, and she keeps her eyes firmly on the prize. This is not the most balanced way to conduct your life. While this kind of sharp, intelligent maneuvering may be acceptable on a battlefield, it may not be so suitable in friendships and other close relationships.

The Challenge: Authenticity: Sadly, as time went on and stories became Christianized, Baba Yaga became an evil witch figure who ate children and was punished by the hero for her various evil deeds. Instead of being a challenging figure, she became a rigid character of disruption and blockage, only inspiring fear. We too can become this way at times – too afraid to be flexible or not brave enough to show our true selves. While we may not be called evil hags for this, like Baba Yaga, the energy is one that creates obstacles, difficulties, and drama. It’s always a powerful thing to know ourselves and to actively be ourselves. If we recognize that, we need not generate the negative energy that comes with pretending to be someone we are not.

Examine your darker aspects. You are being shown the way forward. Your path is illuminated, and there is no need to feel lost or indecisive. Something that has been lost to you will be found.

The Solution: Illumination: Hekate is a goddess of the dark underworld and, paradoxically, is a torchbearer who brings the light to this same darkness. Illuminating the darkest pathways, this magnetic goddess invites you to travel the shadows with her, but only under her wise guidance. Hekate is often depicted standing at the crossroads with a three-headed dog (past-present-future) so she is the ideal goddess to call upon if you feel lost, you don’t know which direction to turn, or you are working to improve yourself.


Reading from the deck “Goddesses and Sirens” created by Stacey Demarco

Probing Of Our Thoughts by Spirits

Published July 2, 2020 by tindertender

Question: Can spirits see everything we do?

Answer: They can, becaue you are constantly surrounded by them. However, they can only see those things on which they focus their attention, because they do not busy themselves with matters to which they are indifferent.

Question: Can spirits know our most secret thoughts?

Answer: They frequently know about that which you would like to conceal from yourselves. Neither actions nor thoughts can be hidden from them.

Question: So it is easier to conceal something from a person who is still alive, than to do so after the person has died?

Answer: Certainly, and when you fancy yourselves in absolute privacy, you often have a throng of spirits by your side, watching you.

The Spirits’ Book by Allan Kardec, Chapter 9, 456 & 457

I can attest to the truth of the ‘throng’. I prefer to call them voyeurs, although that might be seen as a bit derogatory. You see, I’ve been aware of my “in crowd” for some time. They try to influence decisions, they attempt to coerce me into a certain ‘belief’ about them so they can attain some sort of ‘agreement’.

If you notice your thoughts tend to be on the darker side, and you also notice an abundance of karma in your life, you may want to consider what you are showing the unseen as to who you are and what you are about.

We gain what we give.


Be aware … you are never alone, even when it seems you are.

No thing goes unseen or unnoticed.

We ought to try and remember this when we choose to behave certain ways. It will be returned to us.

And we’ll have earned it.


Oracle Reading 7-1-2020

Published July 1, 2020 by tindertender

Focus on the positive and more good will come. Give thanks for blessings and they will multiply. Prosperity begins in the mind.

Affirmation: Today I will focus on the good and happy moments in my life for this is true wealth. I am a powerful person who believes in prosperity and happiness and health. I will stay positive and prosper beyond my wildest dreams. I give praise and thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.

You are transforming. Let go of the past. Embrace the light and joy of this new day.

Affirmation: Today I will embrace transformation. I have the courage to let go of the past. I will eliminate the negatives in my life and make room for all things positive and beautiful. I can choose to grow and I know it is I who must do the choosing. I give thanks for this new day, a new start, and a new life.

Remember your thoughts shape your future. Your words create today. Your choices become your reality.

Affirmation: Today I will take steps to create the life of my dreams. I will be careful of my thoughts for I know they become my words. I will be careful of my words for they become my actions. I know my actions become my character and my character shapes my destiny. I have the power to make right choices. My choices create my life.

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