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You’re Changing

Published May 13, 2017 by tindertender

By Sophie Gregoire

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You’re changing. Not changing like small. You’re changing because you’ve truly outgrown some of your situations of the old.

When you want to go back there, in “I need to heal and move past it”, it even feels that it’s already done — that there is no more for you to do in the spaces of releasing but only residues, small weeds.

There is a feeling of “I’ve done the work now”.

But, you’re scared. Scared because change is scary and also because you were used to finding your grounding, your base… in Suffering.

You had found Yourself, your gifts, your relief almost, your name, your swords, your Medicine… in coming back from disappointment, dishonor and pain, in finding a way to come back to life after the trauma — you’ve found your True Self in building the strength to recover from the turbulences of evolving and from the scars of the heartbreak.

You’re wondering How life works if its base, its ground isn’t anymore in finding the strength to leave, or in unveiling the medicine to recover.

You had been used to dealing with suffering so well, so beautifully, you even started to make art out of it… so somewhere, you even thought that Life was It.

It wasn’t.

You’ve been emptied out now, even of the breaking.
So, what are you going to do with life?
How do we play with sunny flowers, again?
How do we have fun again?
How do we make love, again, with someone that feels right?
How do we do life when life is Happy?

Be still. Just know that energetically, you’re Back. Don’t search in order to fill the void, or because you feel that there is nothing within. It’s not true.

It’s just that the carpet under your feet is removed, because you’ve outgrown it, because that carpet was your Recovery.

Just acknowledge that the release has happened, and that this is, strangely, the roots of your discomfort – you were sick somewhere, now you aren’t anymore so you’re wondering what will be the new goal of your Story.

You’re about to be back as a very different You.

As for the future, nothing for now. Know that Life will move you, inspire you, wake you up with something new, ignite the spark again deep in your heart — know that it’s Her job, and right now yours is just to Acknowledge and Be.  

Be still and let life find you on its own terms… now that you’re ready.

Message of the Sabian symbol

Published May 13, 2017 by tindertender

The sabian symbol of the Full Moon is “Obeying his conscience, a soldier resists orders”. The message of the sabian symbol is: sometimes you have to assert your values, your truth, even if you have to face the consequences of your decision, no matter the cost. You have to stay true to yourself, no matter what. This is the ultimate freedom. And the only one we really have.

“One can take away everything from a human being, but no one can take away the ability to choose our attitudes towards the circumstances in which we find ourselves.”


I Will Not Live A Lie

Published May 9, 2017 by tindertender

“Stop it!” he exclaims. “I want the very best for you” he says.

Authority_1.jpgHe asks that I stop talking, that I stop being involved with the things that matter to me, he thinks that there are those who will believe me to be a little whacky, a little crazy. He states, “I don’t know what you’re doing … preaching, getting into politics, just stop it.”

I told him that what he is asking me to do, is stifle myself, to not be fully what I believe in. And why? Because someone else might take a negative opinion to what I think important? For my bringing attention to those things that matter to me?

One thing I have found in the 5 decades of life is that although I may try to please people, it is impossible. For forty years I tried to mold myself to what others considered right and good. I have been disappointed for the most part during that forty years because after time, even those who I worked so hard to please, left, or decided one day that what I gave was not good enough, not what they wanted.

For the last ten years I have worked very hard to shed the need to please. I would rather speak the truth as I see it, live fully what I believe, and practice daily kindness … not only to others … but to myself.

Authority_2.jpgI would rather live knowing that I am authentic and true to me, and to my connection with Divine Nature, than attempting to please mankind. No … the right ones will show up, and those who do not care for it will fall away … just as it should be.

I will not live a lie, or hamper myself any longer in the hopes others might accept me and give me benefit. My truth has always been enough for me.

Authority_4.jpgI am a hard worker. I am good at tasks I put forth energy in to, I gain knowledge and therefore speed and accuracy in all that I do. I am confident and do not rely on the approval of some man or “authority” to bump up my self worth and value.

I am free to be me. Fully. Unapologetically. With authority, I live this life. I do not need another’s permission to do so. Regardless of their title, perceived status, or power.

ALL humanity has the SAME personal power, and responsibility, to be all they can be. When this is known and embraced, ALL will practice best behaviors for the benefit of self, family, and network.

Permission to do so is not needed.

Everyone Is At Choice

Published April 30, 2017 by tindertender

Those who claim to love us are often the ones who toy with our minds, manipulate and coerce a belief that somehow, we cannot actually “trust” ourselves. When that someone chooses to fabricate a memory and is unwilling to see the truth, and another individual remembers an event differently than they do, whatever they must do to disrupt said self trust ensues, so they can then implant their own version of the event.

This type of manipulative behavior has been happening for centuries. Some of us were raised by a person or persons who practiced this manipulation, and being children, it was easy to screw with our minds, to make a scrambled mess of our emotions.

However, as adults, we can stop this from continuing. We can say NO to future attempts, we can shut the door and refuse to participate.

It is sad that for so many years of hoping for truth, for some semblance of reality to slip from a loved ones mouth and actions, it should come as no surprise that lifelong habits will never be broken.

Rather than pouring energy into something that has proven, decade after decade, not to change, it is important to utilize that same energy and change what we can, and it starts in our own mind, our own heart.

It is not necessary for continued exposer to those who have no capacity for understanding us. What is needed though, is a constant effort to understand our self.

The journey to truth, honesty, and integrity is a tough one, it is not a path that many take.

The future is rapidly approaching. Changes will occur whether we participate or not. Do we want to be in partnership with these changes? If so, then we must pay very close attention to details, speak the truth as we see it, and not be swayed by another’s attempts at manipulation. It is also equally important not to attempt to sway someone else’s views. Everyone is at choice.

We all choose how we will tackle life, whether in action, or in thought. Yes, it is easy for us to be manipulated and maneuvered, IF we are not paying attention.

See every detail.
Delayed reaction will present a more definitive awareness.
Breathe, hold, wait until you have a chance to digest a situation (if you can), then act.


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