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Sending Blessings!!

Published November 24, 2022 by tindertender

Since I don’t really want to say “Happy Thanksgiving” to my indigenous friends and family, I’ll say instead,

My wish for you this day is happiness. I hope you are able to enjoy time with, and a meal with, those you love.

Today, my father is coming for a meal. We have a lot to discuss about our future. I am excited as our relationship is blossoming more than I had ever hoped it would.

I wish you love. I wish you abundance. I wish you joy. I wish you peace.

I love you.

A Parents Worst Nightmare …

Published November 20, 2022 by tindertender

… Losing a child and having to bury them.

A man lost his son and couldn’t bare the thought of living without him. He was suffering and couldn’t believe his son was gone. He cried and cried every day and night, missing his son, wishing things were different.

He couldn’t sleep and hadn’t slept in a long time. One night an old medicine man came to him in a dream and told him “Enough!! That’s enough crying!!” The dad told him “I cannot stop, I am never going to see him again!” The old Medicine man said, “Do you want to see him again?” The dad says “yes of course” the old medicine man takes him to the entrance of happy hunting ground where he sees many little beautiful children, so happy and innocent, carrying eagle feathers into the happy hunting grounds, smiling and laughing and just so beautiful. The dad asks “where is my son? Who are these kids?” The old medicine man said “these are the children that are called home early, they are innocent and loved and they go right through to the happy hunting grounds, so happy” the dad says “and my son? Where is he? Why isn’t he with these children?”

The old medicine man said, “come this way” and guided him to the side of entrance. A small boy with a beautiful smile was standing there watching all the children enter the happy hunting grounds. He was standing there within reach of an eagle’s feather. His dad grabbed him and hugged him, and the boy kissed his dads’ cheeks and told him he missed him. The dad said “why don’t you have a eagles feather like the other kids? Why are you waiting here at the entrance?”

The boy said “I keep trying to get the eagle feather Daddy, but your tears pull it out of reach. I see you are so sad, and I am tied to that feeling so I wait here until you’re ok” the dad burst out crying for the last time, he told his son, “Get that eagle feather and go, I will be ok, and I know you will be too.”

Don’t cry too long for that loved one you lost, whether son, daughter, husband, mother or father!! Let them rest in peace, don’t torment your life, because they won’t come back, have faith that you will be together again, and that Creator makes us a beautiful home with all our loved ones when we leave this world.

Be There, Be Aware, Caring

Published October 26, 2022 by tindertender

Be aware of the bigger picture as it is, not just the desire behind action … what do people really need? Is it truly what we desire to give, or is it something else?

Years ago I was a struggling single woman. My mother asked what I wanted for Christmas. I said, “If you really want to do something for me, pay my PGE bill.” She got pissed and said, “I’m not giving you MONEY!!” And she bought me something I had absolutely no need for, it was useless to me.

She also got mad when I told her I wasn’t doing Christmas one year because of no money. She said haughtily, “You have a credit card don’t you?” And I was flabbergasted that she wanted me to go hundreds of dollars in debt with interest so I could buy people things they wouldn’t need or like.

I never understood that holiday…. Although these days I may find reason to get myself something nice.


Published October 6, 2022 by tindertender

We are patient.
We are kind.
We take no shit.
Be with us.
Or be against us.
Power in choice.
We create our reality.
With a little help from our friends,
Or separation and destruction from our adversary.

Will you be steered by the adversary, or drawn to family who loves you?

It’s Too Heavy

Published October 5, 2022 by tindertender

“Sex,” I was pretty sure, meant whether you were a boy or girl, and “sin” made Tante Jans very angry, but what the two together meant I could not imagine. And so, seated next to Father in the train compartment, I suddenly asked, “Father, what is sexsin?”

He turned to look at me, as he always did when answering a question, but to my surprise he said nothing. At last he stood up, lifted his traveling case from the rack over our heads, and set it on the floor.

“Will you carry it off the train, Corrie?” he said.
I stood up and tugged at it. It was crammed with the watches and spare parts he had purchased that morning.

“It’s too heavy,” I said.

“Yes,” he said. “And it would be a pretty poor father who would ask his little girl to carry such a load. It’s the same way, Corrie, with knowledge.

We are asking our children to carry loads that are way too heavy for them.

They should not be forced, as children, to see and feel the world through the lens of adults.

Innocence is worth protecting and worth fighting for.

We need to do our part as teachers, parents and caregivers to carry certain things for them until they are old enough to bear the load.


Published October 5, 2022 by tindertender

In my solitude
You haunt me
With reveries
Of days gone by

In my solitude
You taunt me
With memories
That never die

I sit in my chair
And filled with despair
There’s no one could be so sad
With gloom everywhere
I sit and I stare
I know that I’ll soon go mad

In my solitude
I’m afraid
Dear Lord above
Send back my love

I sit in my chair
Filled with despair
There’s no one could be so sad
With gloom everywhere
I sit and I stare
I know that I’ll soon go mad

In my solitude
I’m afraid
Dear Lord above
Send me back my love

Bright Eyes

Published October 5, 2022 by tindertender

Does she feel younger than me?
As you’re lying in your bed
Does she feel younger than me?
Or is that in my head?

Does she feel younger than me?
New and shiny
Does she feel younger than me?
But most importantly

Do you call her bright eyes too?



I know she’s younger than me
As I’m lying in our bed
I know she’s younger than me
Can’t get it out of my head
I know she’s younger than me
Less pain to carry
I know she’s younger than me
Darling tell me

Do you call her bright eyes too?




Now are you haunted by me?
That age old marital trip
What’s gotten old about me?
Serpent in my bed
Now, is that your pain you see?
Replenished, strung ahead
I don’t know how to stay me
But repetition lies ahead for you
For you

For you

For you

So, tell me

Will you call her bright eyes too?

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: Anoushka Shankar / Alev Lenz

Bright Eyes lyrics © St. Rose Music Publishing Co., Anourag Music Publishing, Anourag Publishing (ascap), St Rose Music Publishing Co

Dear Jews & Gentiles

Published October 3, 2022 by tindertender

Written by @aradiant1899

Just thought you should know that the ENTIRE TIME you’ve been warring with each other. THE TRUE GOD was looking for you to LOVE EACH OTHER so one of your daughters could be CHOSEN. HIS PLAN was always to marry a half Jew/half Gentile to his SON.

Ursa Major article below from:

Ursa Major

The Greater Sheepfold
Like the constellation known as “Little Bear” (Ursa Minor), this sign also has many legends from many different lands all over the world. But also, like the other sign, very few come anywhere close to the true meaning of this beautiful picture. One, from Greek mythology, relates this constellation to Callisto, the daughter of Lyacaon, the king of Arcadia. The story involves Lyacaon being transformed into a bear.

As we have seen earlier in both Cancer and Ursa Minor, the very idea that this sign was originally designed to be a bear is absurd. Bears don’t have such long tails. Furthermore, we have seen that this whole scene (Cancer and its decans) should be considered as one large pastoral setting with, most likely, a donkey lying down peacefully between two flocks of sheep.

In Ursa Major, we see yet another area of conflict to be resolved — the vast population that will cover the earth, and all the many logistical problems that entails. Today, we know that man has the technological ability to solve many of his own problems. For example, there is no technological reason why there should be famine, or the droughts that so often cause it. Certainly we can grow enough food to feed the present population of the world very easily. And we could convert water from the oceans around us to provide adequate reserves for irrigation during times of drought weather. The problem is that we simply do not do the things that we know to do! Why? Because of a whole assortment of political, economic, religious, and other reasons, none of which are sufficient to justify our inaction to the reality the million face starvation every day.

Because the millennial kingdom will be a virtual paradise from north pole to south pole, and because mankind will once again live to be of a very great age (a man of a hundred years will be mourned as if a child has died) then doesn’t it seem reasonable to conclude that the human population will literally explode? I believe it will, for the Bible says that the “knowledge of the glory of God will COVER THE EARTH.” That sounds like a heavily populated earth! But it doesn’t necessarily mean a crowded earth. The millennial kingdom will be a time of prosperity for everyone.

The Big Picture
This is the “Big Bear” — the constellation that is so easy to detect (one of the very few that are — not because it looks like a bear, but because it so plainly resembles a Big Dipper.) But we must remember that the original picture was of a sheepfold. (See the meanings of the star names below.)

The Gospel Truth
Here is the “Greater Sheepfold” of which Jesus spoke in John 10. The “other sheep” mention in that passage which were not of “this fold” (Ursa Minor, the Little Bear) were the vast multitudes of Gentile believers who would respond to the gospel all down through the ages of church history. This was a great mystery hidden from all the Old Testament prophets and not revealed until Paul’s day. Yet, it was the eternal plan of God that He should present to His Son, a Bride composed of both Jew and Gentile. What a blessed assurance of His eternal grace!

The Star Names

Pay careful attention to the meanings of the star names below. They will ALWAYS back up the message above.

URSA MAJOR (Ltn) “the big bear”; Al Naish (Arb) “the assembled together”; Dubhe (Arb) “a herd of animals”; Merarch (Hbr) “the flock” in (Arb) “the purchased”; Phaeda (Hbr) “visited, guarded”; Alioth (Hbr) “she-goat”; Mizar (Hbr) “small separate”; Talith (Hbr) “the fold”; El Alcola (Arb) “the sheepfold”; Cab’d al Asad (Arb) “multitude”; Dubeh Lachar (Arb) “the latter herd”; Helike (Gk) “company of travelers”; Amaza (Gk) “going and coming”; Calisto (Gk) “the sheepfold appointed”

Below from: @aradiant1899
I’ve never understood how Spiritual battlefields are drawn and some participants DON’T EVEN KNOW WHY THEY ARE FIGHTING. Is the Battle TRULY GOOD VS EVIL? Because there is GOOD and BAD in all of us. EVIL is different. That is why Lucifer and SATAN ARE 2 DIFFERENT BEINGS.

We can’t continue to fight each other over outdated beliefs and planted paradigms that half of us have no idea why we even use them as standards. Compassion and Understanding HAS TO happen so we can UNITE.

You’ve ALL SPENT LIFETIMES and CENTURIES in Spiritual battle. You’ve allowed your Paradigms of beliefs instilled by a corrupt system to cause you to hate each other. But the LOVE is what was supposed to heal you.

Why am I bringing this up? Because I have been hit with toooo many downloads & the most recent showed me 2 Kingdoms on edge. Both holding their breath as if afraid to move and awaiting an outcome. I saw and heard “Unity”. I was also shown Demons protecting Angels and Angels were protecting Demons. Many aren’t even “Demons” by the understanding we’ve come to know. They’re more like Souls who are trapped for contract reasons. But both sides have shown signs of wanting to Unify. (Note: I’m not referring to Murderous, Rapist, Pedo Demons.)

My reference is to the lost Souls that didn’t quite make it the way they should have and been trapped. They’re some of our Ancestors and Guides. This Spiritual Battle is wearing both sides down unnecessarily.

Clairaudience message to the Divine Masculine and Feminine.
There was a Karmic Masculine who was playing games and hurt a Divine Feminine. Now that he fucked up, he realizes SHE really was his 1. He is in his own misery over it because he never expected her to touch his heart.

He KNEW she was meant for someone else but within his own game he kinda fell for her.

Understand, she knows how you’ve played. She does have some feelings there but she’s tired of hurting. HER TRUE DIVINE MASCULINE IS COMING FOR HIS “WIFE”. I see him NOT TAKING THE BULLSHIT OF THE KARMIC MASCULINE. He wants his TRUE WOMAN.

To the Karmic Masculine, you have some real decisions to make. Divine Feminine Counterparts DON’T HAVE TIME ANYMORE FOR FUCKERY and are on point with holding down things in their lives.

My suggestion is “Put Up and Man Up” or move along. Her Divine Masculine has given you enough time and is bringing her all of his Love, true intentions and clearing every red flag you put out for her self esteem to be destroyed.

To the Divine Feminine, NOW is the time to guard your heart, reflect on what you truly want & deserve and keep an open heart. Your true partner will be making a move very soon your way. He knows time is running out.


Published October 2, 2022 by tindertender

Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.

But no.

Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.

A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said.

We are at our best when we serve others.

Be civilized.

She’s My Sister

Published September 20, 2022 by tindertender

“She isn’t a kind person” he said.

I do not agree.

She is beautiful, inside and out.

She is not a door mat, or an inexperienced, untested girl who needs to be “led”.

She’s a survivor who has raised good men and women.

She is a nurturer, with skills others lack.

She most certainly IS kind.

She is there when others need her.

She is strong.

She is one who needs a partner, not a master.

She is my sister.

Don’t forget it.

And don’t bring your shit talk of her to my door.


Every new note creates a beautiful memory. 
Time and space fall away like leaves. 
We may have pain, but we are beautiful energy. 
We got a gift, we got love, let it go.

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