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Get You A Good One

Published July 2, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo:
https://mariapalumbo.com/

Get you a good one that will love the woman in you.

The part of you that can look at him and THAT IS IT. He MUST have you then and there.

The part of you that can hold him when he needs to be held.

Even when he doesn’t think he deserves it.

The part that helps him surrender to you. He cannot help himself.

The part of you that can remember who he is, when he forgets.

Get a love that will not be able to get enough of your brilliance, your mind, your truth, your understanding, your opinion.

He will trust you.

He will go to you. With all the nothing and somethings.

He will long for you, any hour of the day.

No matter what you are wearing. Especially when you are gently undone.

Get you a good one that will not only love the woman in you.

But will love the child.

The way you look at him and he can feel that he’s holding your heart.

The way you trust him, to step in and help you, when you’re not too sure what to do.

The way you fear. Sometimes for no good reason at all.

The times you do not even really know what you need, you just know that you need him there.

The part of you that needs to be reassured, reminded that he’s not going anywhere.

That there will never be anything that comes close to you.

He can make you soup and rub your back and put you to bed.

Will not punish you for your softness, but will encourage you to go there with his easy smile.

Find someone that loves the fierce woman in you and the sweet child. Will not be afraid of any part of you, but get to know it well.

You get to feel what it’s like to be wanted for all that you are.

Always.

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Divine Lovers

Published June 29, 2020 by tindertender

When divine counterparts connect as #divinelovers, the energy flows between both aspects, merges & returns to point of creation.

The chakras align.

The womb within the feminine opens as a gateway & source of existence for the masculine to connect to deeply creative flow within.

HOW A DEPRESSED PERSON STAYS DEPRESSED

Published June 29, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo: https://mariapalumbo.com/; https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves

Surround yourself with people who talk at you, instead of with you. People whose problems always seem worse than yours.

Those that like to hear themselves talk. Who use you as a sounding board. They are always facing something they need to get off their chest.

Surround yourself with people who always have a new pain they need you for. Using your touch, your energy, as a way to reduce their discomfort.

Caretake their needs. They need more help than you do, you rationalize. Therefore you never have too many emotional needs. You never ask for help, for you can see how lonely
Needy
Vulnerable
Other people are.

Let yourself s*xually and/or emotionally give to them, as a service. It is too hard creating boundaries. You don’t mind just being who people need you to be at all times.

How depressed people stay depressed, is by never getting angry. Always bending over backwards and being flexible.

Choosing loved ones that mimic dad or mom. People who ignore
Invalidate
Who you are.
People that lean too hard on you at all times.

Have an ex lover? Or someone you are interested in? Stay energetically open to connecting with them, even when the relationship is unclear or unhealthy. When it gets in the way of you trusting and deepening with someone else.

Have frequent daily reminders of this relationship around, always taking you out of the present moment. Unconsciously making you hope for or live for the possibility of connecting with them.

Keep photos of the past, the ones who have died to you literally or metaphorically. Do not replace them with photos that reflect what is true today.

Live in a mental graveyard of the dead. Of regret. What happened always making you fear what COULD happen.

Love people who do not really care too much either way. Who encourage your addictions to suffering and loss of self, because they get something out of it. Because you have more focus and energy on them, when you do not treat yourself all that great. They can always get what they want when you don’t honor who you are.

It is easy to be a master at being depressed, especially during the aftermath of continual attack and murders of people of color. We are also facing the numbers of deaths crawling back up from the virus. You must, MUST, be even more diligent on owning your energetic boundaries
Asking for help.
Getting good help.
Being with people who see you, instead of use you as an escape.
Be with people that you cannot escape with because they want to look into your eyes and feel you really looking back.

Do not stay in the cozy prison of your numbness. It will only get worse there. Get help, even if you do not know what to say. Let people love you, by speaking up. Let people see you, by letting yourself be seen.

Depression makes you think no one really cares all that much anyway. So why bother? The truth is the world deeply cares. Especially the moment you decide you are worthy of being cared for.

You are precious even now. Especially now.

To your preciousness.

Love,
Maria

Relationship

Published June 28, 2020 by tindertender

Men … so ready to “defend”. Bless them. I cannot fathom what it must be like to dwell constantly with the knowing that at any time, the inner defender may need to be unleashed.

To see them in action … ooohhhhh …..

To know of the safety they provide their families.

The security they bring to their wives, to their children.

It is a heavy load. One I’ve never really thought about before.

What do they go through when their protection efforts have failed? What happens to their hearts, their minds?

Who will defend their inner being when that time comes?

The woman.

The nurturer.

This is why partnership is imperative. We balance each other in the flow of life.

If one half is suppressed, the functioning of the whole suffers.

May the masculine be recognized for his efforts.

May the value of woman be realized as the important aspect of life that she is.

May partnership become full and well rounded, in balance.

And may all hearts be blessed with the knowing that whatever we go through, if we utilize partnership in its proper form, ALL will be well, no thing can destroy it.

May all beings be honored, endowed with grace, and trust rebuilt … beyond any doubt.

Together we are invincible.

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Oracle Reading 6-17-2020

Published June 17, 2020 by tindertender

Heart of the Issue: Hope ~ Do not give up; there is hope yet. A wish will be granted. A birth is imminent. Fertility is everywhere. (Goddess: Yemaya ~ Often depicted as the goddess of hope and love. She is also considered the nourishing mother aspect of all water.)

The Challenge you Face: Justice ~ Justice will be done for the good of all. Take responsibility for your actions. The chaos in your life will end; natural order will be restored. (Goddess: Maat ~ She brought Law to chaos. She created and judged every natural law in the universe, making her one of the most powerful deities.)

The Solution: Unity ~ You will be victorious. Teamwork or a partnership may be better than going it alone. Synergy is important right now. Delegation is useful. (Goddess: Boudicca ~ Her name means “bringer of victory”. She did what no other could do in her time: she was a queen, a warrior, a leader, and a mother.)

Reading from the deck “Goddesses and Sirens” created by Stacey Demarco

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@priscilladupreez

Woman On Fire

Published June 16, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo: https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves/timeline?lst=1755865157%3A300901216%3A1592336349;
https://mariapalumbo.com/

I live in a way now that if something feels broke, I fix it.

I don’t often lament anymore. Or get stuck in shame, or talk to my mom about it for hours or get everyone’s opinion or eat a bag of whatever.

I do something about it.

For example: Yesterday I was having a real AF relationship check-in with my husband, we hit a painful spot, and decided to get coaching ON THE SPOT.

We got clarity, excitement, closeness, and spent the rest of the day in bliss. The ease that we get when we have nowhere to be and no schedule to keep under other than the spaciousness of going on adventures and experiencing the world together, is incredible.

If something feels like it hurts in my relationships, I lean in and figure it out. I refuse to walk around in pain or allow my loved ones to be in pain.

I often face panic whenever I’d look at my bank account. After a year of feeling like shit, I decided to get some training on money and been rocking my woman on fire programs ever since, that continue to book up effortlessly and with so much fun.

Whenever I look at my bank account, all of my bills have been paid and I still have more than enough. It is an unreal feeling.

If something feels unclear or uncomfortable? I have a conversation right away, or at least I want to.

If something doesn’t feel quite right? I inquire about it and get to the bottom of it.

To allow something to be crunchy, uncomfortable, or unfinished, or not to speak to what I perceive to be an elephant in the room and figure it out, THAT is where I struggle.

To sit in the UNKNOWING and have no idea how something is moving or what is happening, that is when I start to freak out.

Not when I feel like I can act, repair, create, influence, make something.

I know I’m not alone in this:

High achievers, perfectionists, emotionally mature humans, we can have a real hard time with having a hard time.

Letting it not feel that good, and not making a story about it or heaping judgements on self or others. Not RUNNING from the thing that feels momentarily unsolvable, and instead, making space for all of the uncomfortable unclear feelings that come along with it.

In woman on fire, we learn how to sit in the fire. Unharmed.
Freaking the FOOK OUT or going numb, running away or leaning in, and learning self-compassion and gentleness. Learning how to take a breath and make enough space for a feeling until it reveals your heart underneath. It reveals a need you didn’t realize you had, or a desire you have been ignoring.

We get to NOT BE PERFECT, and stay with it anyway. If we fail or succeed or are loved or hated, it makes no difference, for how we learn to show up for ourselves is what keeps us in the fire. Everything that is not meant to be, burns slowly and steadily away. So our aliveness can wake up fully.

Reach out to me to chat to see if this community is for you. For the ones who are tired from running from their fire and ready to embrace it.

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