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Claiming Authority Over Ones Own Life

Published February 14, 2019 by tindertender

Have you ever been told you were wrong … wrong for not allowing another to impress their will over your own? It seems there are those who believe certain people have the right to squash what makes a person happy and at peace, forcing individuals to do what makes them happy instead.

This is what I see has upset the cart for humanity. Yet I also see historically, humans have behaved in this manner for millenniums.

Looking back through the years I see myself and others doing what was requested and suggested, folding under pressure to the will of another. How can it be that people are so easily convinced they are not good enough, or responsible enough, or worthy, or capable of making their own decisions? How is it people allow their self to become the ‘mini-me’ doing what another wants, what makes them happy, forgetting their own comfort or longing, denying their own peace and happiness?

As time passes, it may be realized this is no longer an option. We see everywhere in the world people rising and refusing to give up authority over their own life. I give a short little laugh now (as I remember personal history) but it isn’t funny in the least.

Decisions made in the past, made to please another, are not done in best interest of anyone. Pretend love leaves a cavern in the heart, it’s quite depressing once what was thought to be love becomes obvious as mere lust, lies and coercion. After time and deep reflection many would rather be alone than play these games.

The future will be built upon personal free-will, and guess what? Most people will not agree that the decisions made are good or right. In response, say, “My decisions are not good or right for you, but for me they are perfect.”

It is infuriating to see so many people trying to direct the lives of others, often forcing themselves and their will upon them. Entrapment, enslavement, coercion and denying people the right to live according to their own terms, values, and heart space should cease immediately.

Courage … Originally meant “to speak ones mind by telling all ones heart.” While the ‘norm’ has been to not lay all ones cards on the table, truth is, there is no need to hide from each other any longer.

There is massive courage in showing vulnerability. When we see those that do, we are also able to see others who attack. More and more people are preferring to lay it all on the line, sick of the game, tired of pretending. It takes far to much energy.

In the end, giving up ones self, becoming who another wishes one to be, is never enough to make ‘love’ stay. When it goes, the person who tried to be what someone else wanted will have to ‘rediscover’ who they are and begin again.

Union and Transformation

Published January 21, 2019 by tindertender

I suppose you don’t know me. I suppose I don’t either.

Poles: Frustration – Ease; Anger – Calm; Sad – Happy; Bored – Excited; etc.

I find it very hard to ‘hate’ things. I tried it, I do not want to any longer, haven’t for some time now.

There are no favorites. There are only those who offer ‘hope’ of some kind, and those who do not.

Who do you think you are? What gives you the right to play with consciousness the way you do? How can your practices be halted? What are you vulnerabilities?

If you were Pure Consciousness your voice wouldn’t sound unique … you would send messages via feeling, no voice needed, it would be relayed via a sense of ‘knowing’.

So … who are these distinct voices, and where are their locations? What are their intentions?

The Lower unseen: It seems apparent that the intention of these is to cause chaos in the minds of people everywhere. Their need for it is what feeds them and keeps them alive. The immense energy spent on chaos, spewed into the open arena of space and time, and flowing into the beyond, are nutrients for those who no longer have body, yet have chosen to remain in an area of influence over humanity.

That is one sector …

The higher unseen works to combat them, working for peace for humanity. When these are joined by the people who intentionally work with sound and positive thought forms, a great shift can be felt and seen.

Humanity is the magnifier. Via choice, people will grow chaos and fear, or they will focus on the opposite pole of these, using the higher Law to transmute the lower Law, bringing harmony rather than chaos.

Let us assist each other in this battle of the mind. Let us share our efforts to produce a better, more harmonious world.

Love / Hate Relationships

Published December 6, 2018 by tindertender

The impostor would have you believe in their ‘innocence’, when their only intention is to make one falter, and fail. The differences, seemingly subtle, are quite stark in contrast … do not be fooled.

If there was honor in consciousness the task would be dealt with and done. Those who stay and pretend to care have one objective, and it is not peace … it is destruction of peace. If it were otherwise we would be seeing and experiencing peace by now. This is how you can distinguish between the chaos maker and the truth.

These liars are very good at playing innocent. Their goal is distraction, for they wish to keep you from your purpose of building a sane society in which people actually care for others.

When people benefit from the hard work of others, without contributing anything in return, replenishing that which has been utilized, then supply is depleted for all. There are takers, those who feel privileged to receive that which others have worked for, taking and taking, and there are others who would share, paying it forward. Should supply be worked for and paid forward, it eventually comes full circle once more, benefiting the original ‘gifter’, benefiting all in a continuous cycle.

Get out of here pretender. I am sick of your lies. There may not be a happy ending for you, nor for me, but there will be an ending … and there will be a new beginning.

Healing In A Corrupt World

Published December 5, 2018 by tindertender

Can corruption be repaired from the inside out? Or must it be done from the outside in? I’m thinking perhaps a combination of both. The work must be done from the inside but often requires outside assistance. All facets of this life must be able to flow together for successful change to occur.

People are purposefully raised in a corrupt system where fear and lack and constant need are reinforced in the mind and in life. This scenario steals from them the ability to see clearly, which is why it is important to believe in something, or someone, larger than self … for this is what will bring about openings, making it possible to see, and then act for change.

Confusion has been a constant in this world for as long as I can remember, and probably since the beginning of the cycles of time. The force behind it has pretty much guaranteed its continuance … but major shifts are happening now, disrupting the ‘norm’.

Those on the outside assisting matters have been portrayed to the human psyche as devils, as those who wish harm. Any time anyone hears something others do not, it is labeled as mental illness, or the presence of devils. Sometimes this may be the case, but not all times. So while people run in fear, medicating the reality of possible solution to pain away, the actual pain cycle persists.

This situation has been carefully planned, this is what must be transformed. A ‘counter’ is in store, a turning back of that which has infected minds. Will the new ‘wave’ be everything we are, but in opposite order? I hope it will be better than that.

The circle of life is not a circle at all. It is made of many segments which appear circular. If too many segments appear, does the circle disappear? Or is a corrupt segment simply removed to preserve the ‘circle’? How many segments have been removed? How many segments have been added? By whom?

How many people will choose to be kind once they realize it is beneficial to everybody? I would guess that everyone who wishes to live in a kind world would, and those who wish to destroy the world would not.

I catch myself saying, “I’m not very good at manifesting”, but perhaps I am and it comes so naturally it is imperceptible. My core belief is that all people are manifestors, awesome creators. It is also my belief that the human body and mind is the amplifier of Spirit. Yet with all of the toxic systems infecting the mind, the purposefully imposed drama and trauma in the world, that is what has been amplified.

Once this reality is understood it will be clear that the opposite must be cultivated in the mind and heart. These thought forms which have become so constant they’ve become habitual in the majority of life must be equally, and more so, purposefully changed, altered, shifted into a positive. In this way, the positive will begin to be amplified by Source energies when they meet the human body and mind.

Is it easy? That is a BIG NO. It is however necessary, should we desire true change.

People think they need to change the world all on their own, most people have no idea where to start, the task is monumental! It is much simpler than we may think it is. By growing peace in the mind, compassion in the heart, and truly seeing your own burdens carried, also being carried and experienced by someone else, on their shoulders and their life also … maybe in a different format, but a burden the same, then care shows up. The sense of aloneness begins to fade, and realization that we all share eerily similar traits and experiences becomes clear.

This then is what is grown when Spirit, when Source energy meets us. The care, the compassion, the knowledge of our similarities grows. Soon after, all of that other stuff, the ugliness that we have been trained to adopt and hold as our own is released. That crap is not ours … it never was.

My attention was nabbed by a song on the radio, the lyrics made me smile and I wrote them down, for this I feel is a message that is meant to be shared …

Take my hand. Let me take you to Love Land.

Sharing Is Caring

Published December 3, 2018 by tindertender

The tavern, bar, pub – whatever you call it, wherever you are, it is a place of sorrow, loneliness, anger, frustration and pain wearing a mask of happiness. I know, for I spent some time there, surrounded by others who were experiencing what I was also.

It seemed that life was a series of running to the edge, pushing limits as far as possible, testing them to see just how far I could go without going over the edge, until I did. At that time I met many others who had transitioned and were still in such a place, in shadows. They were seeking help to be free of it. I sat with them and asked them to explain why they were there, and the answer came from one with authority, “Because they are too bad”.

I’ve been thinking of this recently, examining my own life. Often when people find themselves trapped in the cycle of cruelty, receiving it, or giving it, it is because they themselves are suffering and in pain. Most will never admit it if they dare to look deep into their hearts, they’ll instead act tough and continue the cycle, creating hurt wherever they go, sometimes not even aware they are doing it, it becomes second nature.

Alcohol … it is poison and is only good as a disinfectant, or use in making tinctures for medicine in combination with nature’s finest herbs. It was never meant to be utilized as has become the norm. At least this is my inner conclusion when I sit with my senses.

I also understand that those in these places, on earth and in the shadow land, for the most part are not bad people, or spirits. They are suffering, a pain that cannot be comprehended for they are too close to it for understanding. Often it is a trauma that either takes their life and sends them beyond, or snaps their minds out of the cycle so they are able to see clearly once more, or at least then have opportunity to study the past and work toward making sense of the experiences.

Atoning for pain sent into the world … how does one do it? I compare it to all of the cigarette butts I threw out as a smoker. Young, never understanding the concept of biodegradable … heck, that word only recently came into my awareness, within the last decade. When I walk in the forest and see them I pick them up, one by one, and hope that I’ll be able to pick up as many, and hopefully more, than what I threw out over time, garbage too … cups, wrappers …

This is the time to prove to myself, and any benevolent spirits who are watching, that I can be as good at creating peace and loving and compassion in this world as I ever was at creating turmoil. My hope once again is that I will create more loving memories and good feelings than I ever did the opposite, being a powerful contributor for positive experience for all.

There is indeed much suffering in shadow land while they continue to live in the cycle they left behind on this earth. The good thing is there is still opportunity to make choice, to set the beer down, to remain in the corner and just watch … rather than participate. And hopefully there will come a time when they will be able to walk out of that dingy place into the light of day, warm, and free.

There needs to be an overall healing of soul before this can happen. Admitting there’s an issue, seeing it for the first time, studying the behaviors, what caused them in the first place and learn how to undo the knots that were tied in the heart of spirit. The desire to change must come first, usually preceded by a tiredness of hearing oneself say and do the same old things, over and over again, having the same experiences.

Of course there will be those who cannot face the trauma. They have felt alone their whole existence and buried their sorrow in drink, or in drug, or some other thing that took the mind off that pain. Too often people replace pain with a different pain, rather than doing the hard work to heal.

Sure it’s easy to shout out and blame someone else, it is easy to snarl and frown and throw our pain in the face of others, too hurt and immersed in the core of it to notice or care that we are potentially putting others where we currently stand … and then they too will need to try and climb out of that pit. Exacerbation … continuing cycles … of our choosing.

I ask Spirit why they kept saving me, why is it so important that I remain living. It could be that I needed to find my way, to share the experience and perhaps help someone who is looking for a way out themselves.

Talk is talk, I can share my experience but whoever wants betterment must walk the walk, no one can walk it for them. I am still on my own journey.

Oh yes, I’ve experienced what some call ‘tough love’ and I’ve also experienced a lack of love, and fortunately through it all there has been support, mostly from the unseen. You can say I have a family so big even I am unaware of its vast nature, or you can say it is my inner fortitude. Either way, whatever way, if it is not hurting anyone, including yourself, and if it works, giving you strength to rise, it is perfect.

Negative self talk: it begins with others views and opinions of us. We hear them and we may believe them, or not. If not, and the same criticisms are repeated enough, it becomes rote, the little pathways in the mind are set. The memories of the words live there and repeat, and repeat, and repeat. Depression or anxiety or complete self destruction can occur, a breakdown.

These words, these memories of what others have told you, they do not belong to you … release them, give them to your ancestors who have come before you, anyone who you know loves you in the Spirit realms, or send them back to the people who gave them to you.

Retrain your mind. When a memory of drama or trauma begins to spin in your consciousness, recognize it, acknowledge it, and determine what it is you will allow to be there. Override that memory with something beautiful, positive, supportive and loving. Every time … do this, and you will find that the old ‘thought highways’ in your mind disappear and new paths are made, ones you’ve personally chosen, ones that affirm and support the Divinity in you. Claim your Sovereignty.

Habits are learned through training. We accept them from others, we incorporate them into our life trying to ‘fit in’ or ‘gain approval’, perhaps searching for that which we’ve never had before. Habits are also meant to be broken, every single one of them. In so doing we train our mind (some call it ego). We let it know that our higher consciousness is in charge and will only allow what is personally deemed acceptable.

Honestly, I know it’s hard, seemingly impossible. Many have died without even trying, or without even being aware of the possibility to lay claim to their own authority.

You are the only one you will spend the rest of your life with. Become the love of your life, not in arrogance, but as someone who is cherished as the most important being in your world. From this place, a great gift of compassion can be shared with others.

It is not an easy task. Some quit, thinking it easier to drown out the pain with substance. But it is so worth it … gift yourself, yourself. Love you like you deserve to be loved, like you have always deserved to be loved. Fill up your heart and mind so full of this love that it spills over into the world … it is going to be so beautiful! You’ll be amazed at what begins to show up in your life when you’ve done this work.

Present In This Silence

Published November 27, 2018 by tindertender

You say that I have changed, that I am not the same as I once was. You are mistaken. I am exactly as I once was, the only difference being I have added to it, I have grown, I have become more than I was before.

Distraction, you have supplied plenty of, will not hinder this growth, this expansion of self. I refuse to remain in a little box, stagnant and only listening to what you would like me to. No, I will stretch my wings until the day I die, then I will fly.

Silently, yet quite clear, a suggestion is made.

“You’ve got to let it go! If you don’t, they’ll keep jerking you around. Speak to me. The one who always hears but chooses not to fill your head with clutter, leaving room for you to interpret the world using your own capacity without interference. Rather than talk to them, talk to me. Put yourself on that path of long ago. See the trail, see the road. Visualize the conversation, and then have one.”

The one who supports you makes suggestions and does not demand … respects your freedom and does not enslave you … loves you for your uniqueness and does not insist you change to please them … reflects the goodness in you when your eyes gaze deeply into their own, and makes it easy to see how pure and spectacular you’ve always been, and always will be.

Bringing peace to a fearful world, to a fearful mind … there is no greater responsibility.

How do you eliminate fear? How do you eliminate greed and the struggle for power, or dominance?

This work is personal. Love cannot be demanded of others, just as a change of personality cannot be forced upon anyone. Those times are gone.

The future is space where all people will be free, working together for the benefit of the whole. There will be suffering and pain along the way. There are those who will never choose to be anything but harmful to their fellow man, or animals, or toward the earth. This change, this shift, will require a sort of cleansing … and by this I mean, those who choose to live by the sword will die by the sword until there aren’t any people left who choose that path.

Do you suppose the time is near when people will decide that killing and fear mongering is not the profession of choice? It seems more and more people are hopping on the war train. But perhaps this is the crux of the situation … many will fight, until the fighting ends.

Choice … it seems simple enough.

Individually, we are creators of our life. Collectively, we choose to assist each other or to use and abuse each other, creating circumstances which have potential for rebound … rebound of the positive, or of the negative.

Some ‘leaders’ are fine with the suffering of the people, as long as they are feared. Again, it comes back to fear, that pesky destroyer of families, of culture, of life.

I watch as people project their energies into whatever cause someone else dictates … war, behavior and decisions made by others, beliefs and religions, diet and dress, speech and mannerisms. Humanity moves about listening to these suggestions and then … just as a youngster who longs to be part of the ‘in crowd’ they take action for whatever they think will bring them acceptance, or some sort of respect.

Too often the energies poured into the agenda of someone else is not honored. C’mon, people die for someone else’s ideals … Losing their own life before they’ve even had a chance to discover the depths of their own hearts, or see the hidden pools of yumminess in their own eyes when peering at their reflection.

This is called ‘stolen life’ by the puppet master … who is not a master at all. The true ‘master’ is the one who encourages each individual to become master of his or her own mind, heart, spirit, and soul.

Look at your life. See who is pulling your strings, take back your power. Own it. The creation of the future, the one you will be reborn in to (believe it or not), is your choice. Beauty? Or shit.

And remember, wealth of any kind cannot be horded, for eventually all things will be redistributed, and the experiences one provides for others will become their own.

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