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Love / Hate Relationships

Published December 6, 2018 by tindertender

The impostor would have you believe in their ‘innocence’, when their only intention is to make one falter, and fail. The differences, seemingly subtle, are quite stark in contrast … do not be fooled.

If there was honor in consciousness the task would be dealt with and done. Those who stay and pretend to care have one objective, and it is not peace … it is destruction of peace. If it were otherwise we would be seeing and experiencing peace by now. This is how you can distinguish between the chaos maker and the truth.

These liars are very good at playing innocent. Their goal is distraction, for they wish to keep you from your purpose of building a sane society in which people actually care for others.

When people benefit from the hard work of others, without contributing anything in return, replenishing that which has been utilized, then supply is depleted for all. There are takers, those who feel privileged to receive that which others have worked for, taking and taking, and there are others who would share, paying it forward. Should supply be worked for and paid forward, it eventually comes full circle once more, benefiting the original ‘gifter’, benefiting all in a continuous cycle.

Get out of here pretender. I am sick of your lies. There may not be a happy ending for you, nor for me, but there will be an ending … and there will be a new beginning.

Healing In A Corrupt World

Published December 5, 2018 by tindertender

Can corruption be repaired from the inside out? Or must it be done from the outside in? I’m thinking perhaps a combination of both. The work must be done from the inside but often requires outside assistance. All facets of this life must be able to flow together for successful change to occur.

People are purposefully raised in a corrupt system where fear and lack and constant need are reinforced in the mind and in life. This scenario steals from them the ability to see clearly, which is why it is important to believe in something, or someone, larger than self … for this is what will bring about openings, making it possible to see, and then act for change.

Confusion has been a constant in this world for as long as I can remember, and probably since the beginning of the cycles of time. The force behind it has pretty much guaranteed its continuance … but major shifts are happening now, disrupting the ‘norm’.

Those on the outside assisting matters have been portrayed to the human psyche as devils, as those who wish harm. Any time anyone hears something others do not, it is labeled as mental illness, or the presence of devils. Sometimes this may be the case, but not all times. So while people run in fear, medicating the reality of possible solution to pain away, the actual pain cycle persists.

This situation has been carefully planned, this is what must be transformed. A ‘counter’ is in store, a turning back of that which has infected minds. Will the new ‘wave’ be everything we are, but in opposite order? I hope it will be better than that.

The circle of life is not a circle at all. It is made of many segments which appear circular. If too many segments appear, does the circle disappear? Or is a corrupt segment simply removed to preserve the ‘circle’? How many segments have been removed? How many segments have been added? By whom?

How many people will choose to be kind once they realize it is beneficial to everybody? I would guess that everyone who wishes to live in a kind world would, and those who wish to destroy the world would not.

I catch myself saying, “I’m not very good at manifesting”, but perhaps I am and it comes so naturally it is imperceptible. My core belief is that all people are manifestors, awesome creators. It is also my belief that the human body and mind is the amplifier of Spirit. Yet with all of the toxic systems infecting the mind, the purposefully imposed drama and trauma in the world, that is what has been amplified.

Once this reality is understood it will be clear that the opposite must be cultivated in the mind and heart. These thought forms which have become so constant they’ve become habitual in the majority of life must be equally, and more so, purposefully changed, altered, shifted into a positive. In this way, the positive will begin to be amplified by Source energies when they meet the human body and mind.

Is it easy? That is a BIG NO. It is however necessary, should we desire true change.

People think they need to change the world all on their own, most people have no idea where to start, the task is monumental! It is much simpler than we may think it is. By growing peace in the mind, compassion in the heart, and truly seeing your own burdens carried, also being carried and experienced by someone else, on their shoulders and their life also … maybe in a different format, but a burden the same, then care shows up. The sense of aloneness begins to fade, and realization that we all share eerily similar traits and experiences becomes clear.

This then is what is grown when Spirit, when Source energy meets us. The care, the compassion, the knowledge of our similarities grows. Soon after, all of that other stuff, the ugliness that we have been trained to adopt and hold as our own is released. That crap is not ours … it never was.

My attention was nabbed by a song on the radio, the lyrics made me smile and I wrote them down, for this I feel is a message that is meant to be shared …

Take my hand. Let me take you to Love Land.

Sharing Is Caring

Published December 3, 2018 by tindertender

The tavern, bar, pub – whatever you call it, wherever you are, it is a place of sorrow, loneliness, anger, frustration and pain wearing a mask of happiness. I know, for I spent some time there, surrounded by others who were experiencing what I was also.

It seemed that life was a series of running to the edge, pushing limits as far as possible, testing them to see just how far I could go without going over the edge, until I did. At that time I met many others who had transitioned and were still in such a place, in shadows. They were seeking help to be free of it. I sat with them and asked them to explain why they were there, and the answer came from one with authority, “Because they are too bad”.

I’ve been thinking of this recently, examining my own life. Often when people find themselves trapped in the cycle of cruelty, receiving it, or giving it, it is because they themselves are suffering and in pain. Most will never admit it if they dare to look deep into their hearts, they’ll instead act tough and continue the cycle, creating hurt wherever they go, sometimes not even aware they are doing it, it becomes second nature.

Alcohol … it is poison and is only good as a disinfectant, or use in making tinctures for medicine in combination with nature’s finest herbs. It was never meant to be utilized as has become the norm. At least this is my inner conclusion when I sit with my senses.

I also understand that those in these places, on earth and in the shadow land, for the most part are not bad people, or spirits. They are suffering, a pain that cannot be comprehended for they are too close to it for understanding. Often it is a trauma that either takes their life and sends them beyond, or snaps their minds out of the cycle so they are able to see clearly once more, or at least then have opportunity to study the past and work toward making sense of the experiences.

Atoning for pain sent into the world … how does one do it? I compare it to all of the cigarette butts I threw out as a smoker. Young, never understanding the concept of biodegradable … heck, that word only recently came into my awareness, within the last decade. When I walk in the forest and see them I pick them up, one by one, and hope that I’ll be able to pick up as many, and hopefully more, than what I threw out over time, garbage too … cups, wrappers …

This is the time to prove to myself, and any benevolent spirits who are watching, that I can be as good at creating peace and loving and compassion in this world as I ever was at creating turmoil. My hope once again is that I will create more loving memories and good feelings than I ever did the opposite, being a powerful contributor for positive experience for all.

There is indeed much suffering in shadow land while they continue to live in the cycle they left behind on this earth. The good thing is there is still opportunity to make choice, to set the beer down, to remain in the corner and just watch … rather than participate. And hopefully there will come a time when they will be able to walk out of that dingy place into the light of day, warm, and free.

There needs to be an overall healing of soul before this can happen. Admitting there’s an issue, seeing it for the first time, studying the behaviors, what caused them in the first place and learn how to undo the knots that were tied in the heart of spirit. The desire to change must come first, usually preceded by a tiredness of hearing oneself say and do the same old things, over and over again, having the same experiences.

Of course there will be those who cannot face the trauma. They have felt alone their whole existence and buried their sorrow in drink, or in drug, or some other thing that took the mind off that pain. Too often people replace pain with a different pain, rather than doing the hard work to heal.

Sure it’s easy to shout out and blame someone else, it is easy to snarl and frown and throw our pain in the face of others, too hurt and immersed in the core of it to notice or care that we are potentially putting others where we currently stand … and then they too will need to try and climb out of that pit. Exacerbation … continuing cycles … of our choosing.

I ask Spirit why they kept saving me, why is it so important that I remain living. It could be that I needed to find my way, to share the experience and perhaps help someone who is looking for a way out themselves.

Talk is talk, I can share my experience but whoever wants betterment must walk the walk, no one can walk it for them. I am still on my own journey.

Oh yes, I’ve experienced what some call ‘tough love’ and I’ve also experienced a lack of love, and fortunately through it all there has been support, mostly from the unseen. You can say I have a family so big even I am unaware of its vast nature, or you can say it is my inner fortitude. Either way, whatever way, if it is not hurting anyone, including yourself, and if it works, giving you strength to rise, it is perfect.

Negative self talk: it begins with others views and opinions of us. We hear them and we may believe them, or not. If not, and the same criticisms are repeated enough, it becomes rote, the little pathways in the mind are set. The memories of the words live there and repeat, and repeat, and repeat. Depression or anxiety or complete self destruction can occur, a breakdown.

These words, these memories of what others have told you, they do not belong to you … release them, give them to your ancestors who have come before you, anyone who you know loves you in the Spirit realms, or send them back to the people who gave them to you.

Retrain your mind. When a memory of drama or trauma begins to spin in your consciousness, recognize it, acknowledge it, and determine what it is you will allow to be there. Override that memory with something beautiful, positive, supportive and loving. Every time … do this, and you will find that the old ‘thought highways’ in your mind disappear and new paths are made, ones you’ve personally chosen, ones that affirm and support the Divinity in you. Claim your Sovereignty.

Habits are learned through training. We accept them from others, we incorporate them into our life trying to ‘fit in’ or ‘gain approval’, perhaps searching for that which we’ve never had before. Habits are also meant to be broken, every single one of them. In so doing we train our mind (some call it ego). We let it know that our higher consciousness is in charge and will only allow what is personally deemed acceptable.

Honestly, I know it’s hard, seemingly impossible. Many have died without even trying, or without even being aware of the possibility to lay claim to their own authority.

You are the only one you will spend the rest of your life with. Become the love of your life, not in arrogance, but as someone who is cherished as the most important being in your world. From this place, a great gift of compassion can be shared with others.

It is not an easy task. Some quit, thinking it easier to drown out the pain with substance. But it is so worth it … gift yourself, yourself. Love you like you deserve to be loved, like you have always deserved to be loved. Fill up your heart and mind so full of this love that it spills over into the world … it is going to be so beautiful! You’ll be amazed at what begins to show up in your life when you’ve done this work.

Present In This Silence

Published November 27, 2018 by tindertender

You say that I have changed, that I am not the same as I once was. You are mistaken. I am exactly as I once was, the only difference being I have added to it, I have grown, I have become more than I was before.

Distraction, you have supplied plenty of, will not hinder this growth, this expansion of self. I refuse to remain in a little box, stagnant and only listening to what you would like me to. No, I will stretch my wings until the day I die, then I will fly.

Silently, yet quite clear, a suggestion is made.

“You’ve got to let it go! If you don’t, they’ll keep jerking you around. Speak to me. The one who always hears but chooses not to fill your head with clutter, leaving room for you to interpret the world using your own capacity without interference. Rather than talk to them, talk to me. Put yourself on that path of long ago. See the trail, see the road. Visualize the conversation, and then have one.”

The one who supports you makes suggestions and does not demand … respects your freedom and does not enslave you … loves you for your uniqueness and does not insist you change to please them … reflects the goodness in you when your eyes gaze deeply into their own, and makes it easy to see how pure and spectacular you’ve always been, and always will be.

Bringing peace to a fearful world, to a fearful mind … there is no greater responsibility.

How do you eliminate fear? How do you eliminate greed and the struggle for power, or dominance?

This work is personal. Love cannot be demanded of others, just as a change of personality cannot be forced upon anyone. Those times are gone.

The future is space where all people will be free, working together for the benefit of the whole. There will be suffering and pain along the way. There are those who will never choose to be anything but harmful to their fellow man, or animals, or toward the earth. This change, this shift, will require a sort of cleansing … and by this I mean, those who choose to live by the sword will die by the sword until there aren’t any people left who choose that path.

Do you suppose the time is near when people will decide that killing and fear mongering is not the profession of choice? It seems more and more people are hopping on the war train. But perhaps this is the crux of the situation … many will fight, until the fighting ends.

Choice … it seems simple enough.

Individually, we are creators of our life. Collectively, we choose to assist each other or to use and abuse each other, creating circumstances which have potential for rebound … rebound of the positive, or of the negative.

Some ‘leaders’ are fine with the suffering of the people, as long as they are feared. Again, it comes back to fear, that pesky destroyer of families, of culture, of life.

I watch as people project their energies into whatever cause someone else dictates … war, behavior and decisions made by others, beliefs and religions, diet and dress, speech and mannerisms. Humanity moves about listening to these suggestions and then … just as a youngster who longs to be part of the ‘in crowd’ they take action for whatever they think will bring them acceptance, or some sort of respect.

Too often the energies poured into the agenda of someone else is not honored. C’mon, people die for someone else’s ideals … Losing their own life before they’ve even had a chance to discover the depths of their own hearts, or see the hidden pools of yumminess in their own eyes when peering at their reflection.

This is called ‘stolen life’ by the puppet master … who is not a master at all. The true ‘master’ is the one who encourages each individual to become master of his or her own mind, heart, spirit, and soul.

Look at your life. See who is pulling your strings, take back your power. Own it. The creation of the future, the one you will be reborn in to (believe it or not), is your choice. Beauty? Or shit.

And remember, wealth of any kind cannot be horded, for eventually all things will be redistributed, and the experiences one provides for others will become their own.

Going Deep

Published November 25, 2018 by tindertender

The mind expands, so full of, seemingly … everything. Awareness embraces the elements ~ water, air, earth, fire … it embraces possibilities as they enter the field of thought.

The effort to purposefully open consciousness in order to receive information can be a tricky balance between sanity and ultimate confusion. Doing so will provide access to those “aha” moments as well as those who despise the blessing of the “aha” onto humanity. One must be prepared for this and remain strong while the fingertips of the unseen play with the mind.

Discernment … how does one become good at it? Often the senses, those inner strings which are toyed with, allow a trigger to be activated … flight, strong stance or fight, a going to, and a turning from … these ‘skills’ can only be honed in the midst of experience.

Often life gives us things which we deem as unpleasant, yet these very things work out to be our greatest blessings … in hind-sight … although we’d swear the opposite during the most intense moments.

That which has kept the innermost portion of a man, a woman, separate from each other is breaking down. We find that our attention is being focused in many areas at once, aware of so much more that what is within the four outer walls … of the flesh, of the house, of the country.

Our emotions are amplified as we take note of the hidden, as we realize life as we’ve known it has been but an illusion.

The question then is how do we undo the training received and actually help one another? How do we release the need to safeguard our personal spaces and open up to facilitate healing?

While those intent on harming life will be successful, causing pain, the balance will be shifting, and when balance is met, even tipping to the opposite of what we’ve known, the harm will begin to decrease and peace will begin to grow, quickly becoming normalized.

Those brave souls who do this work are the most courageous of humans, for they risk everything in order to gain this balance … for the benefit of all life.

As you sit in meditation, or simply in a still space, in silence, absorb the thoughts which pass by, have the aha moment, go deep into this world and pull forth from it the things which will assist in expansion … of thought, of understanding, of compassion, of care and of love.

When we see that our emotions are the same as others, when we understand that all of humanity wishes to be recognized, understood, loved, and blessed with a sense of honor for that which they contribute, no matter how detailed, then we begin to know fully how alike we truly are. When this happens, we can look at someone and see their argument, their frustration, their joy … it is exactly as we have experienced during life, at differing times.

Fear, pain and the shriveling of self they cause are similar for all as well. Some are able to fortify and pull up, while others are more vulnerable (children and those who have suffered since the dawn of innocence). Rather than saying to those they should buck up, man up, woman up, it is imperative that we instead assist in the healing … especially if we are some of those who are among the first who are able to firm up.

The depths of our being are intertwined. It is quite truthful in that when one suffers, we all suffer. It may not be apparent in the visual, but it will affect all life as the ripples of the situation will forever expand and mesh with all other experiences.

Why does it seem the negatives are so much more powerful that the positives? Why does fear and pain seem to override joy and love? Why does war seem to overtake peace?

The reason behind the imbalance is quite simple … the negatives in life are promoted. They are promoted by governments, by television programs (movies and news), and by those who follow through with the ‘programming’.

Those who are awakening to the larger reality are often drugged and labeled as having a ‘mental’ issue, simply because our health care system is not equipped with knowledge or understanding. They are trained in symptom management only. Thankfully they are, and my hope is that they will rise to take their knowledge one step further, into that of true understanding of the union between the seen and the unseen.

Truth can cause anxiety and/or depression … once the workings of our current system are seen and understood, they cannot be forgotten.

The more we choose to ‘fight’ something, the greater energy needed to maintain the fight, for the energy dumped into it only makes it stronger. I am surprised more people do not understand this.

“It takes a strong man to go into battle, it takes an even stronger man to walk away from one.” The one who decides to stay and fight is doing their perceived duty, protecting that which is seen in need of protection. The one who walks away sees that the energy is being harvested, manipulated, and utilized to increase the warring. And while they walk away from the fight, they are attacked by their fellows because of it, so they are inwardly fighting a resistance to those who would manipulate them, and to those who have been convinced that fighting is the only way to be, the only way to survive.

It’s a double whammy for certain. Many folks in this world are battling two enemies, in fact, we all are. We struggle against peers who would steer us, we battle against the unseen manipulator who would have us destroy each other, and our self. We work diligently to manage our thoughts, to maintain control of the emotions rather that letting the emotions control us.

This life is indeed a battle, a battle for our sanity, for our ability to love our self and others, for control. In this control wars are fought, lives are lost, people starve … for food, for love, for acceptance, for encouragement, for recognition.

Stop the fight. BE you, BE whole, it is yours already. Stop allowing others into your mind, shut the door on their permissions for manipulating your thoughts and actions. It is but a game, a dangerous game … step out from it into the freedom inherently yours.

As you step away from the perpetrated drama, you will begin to see more clearly, from the outside. You will view the world as those who remain fighting crush each other, mentally, physically. You will see how they manipulate situations in their ability to live, and to thrive. You will see how they take … and only give when there is something greater to be gained. You will watch them as they destroy each other.

Being part of the destruction will not stop it. The only thing which will stop it is a non-participation in it.

Do you foresee a future where people will take note of it and act upon it? Do you think humanity is strong enough to withstand those who would destroy them? Do you think those who wage destruction will eliminate each other rather than eliminating the whole?

Are we willing to do our part, stepping back and preparing the tools (inner and outer) which will be needed to assist in bringing healing to those who leave the fight?

It is unfortunate that so many in this world make a game of war. It IS a game, one in which they are paid handsomely for … with money, washed in blood, while those who give the orders feast on warriors death and stolen power.

Who better to teach them than those who have already walked the path and are now in the unseen worlds providing influence for continuation? Continuation of death, and pain, and destruction which fuels their energy collection, and therefore their continued life … vicariously through our own, and the collective suffering of the world.

It has become quite clear humans are very good at destroying each other … mentally, emotionally, physically. Are we just as good at promoting health and care and wellbeing? Only WE can answer that question, should we wish to know the answer well enough.

These negative influences must be ended, they must be denied should humanity and all other life have a chance at true love and gracious living.

Reality vs Belief … Embracing Change

Published November 24, 2018 by tindertender

Messages were received in musical format last night, two that gently woke me and another right after rising.

“You have to ‘believe’ how you feel.” This phrase was accompanied by song, and although I cannot seem to locate it, I have found one which seems to fit nicely.

I half way stumble into the kitchen to feed the dogs while another song begins to play in my mind. As confusing as life is, I choose to believe in Love, at all times.

When a person experiences trauma, which we all do to varying degrees, it disrupts the ability to maintain faith in love and compassion for those who suffer, even while suffering takes on the shape of abuse.

The highest form of trust for what is, what is being uncovered, and for what will remain once we get through these trials, is the vigilance of belief in inherent goodness and care which dwells in each life.

This world works diligently to squash hope, but these trials are also what allows hope to thrive. While hope thrives, love survives, blooming just under the surface much of the time, yet it is there just the same. The flower of it will break the surface in the most unexpected ways, and the most unexpected time.

The key is to remain open for the opportunity to see love bloom, rise, and shine … pain makes one want to close down, to put up barriers … but don’t do it, for if you shut out pain, you’ll also shut out opportunity to see the most fantastic display of love, ever.

Cultivate resilience in the face of that which aims to rend your heart in pieces. As you stand straighter, gaining understanding that not all things which bring pain are done so in a ‘personal’ manner … that the other parties are battling their own struggles and at times it gets on people, especially those closest to them (to us).

No one is immune to the process. We will all experience pain, and we will all give pain to others, intentionally or not. We are more alike than we care to admit … where can we find compassion in these circumstances?

Great strength is in those who have capacity to forgive and continue living with care and love in their hearts rather than retaliate, or becoming that which has spewed a layer of shadowy darkness upon them, stealing their light for a time.

I suppose in this sense it would truly be as though each of us currently ‘walk in the valley of the shadow of death’. Every step we take in life has the possibility of becoming infected with this gloom, harmed by those in the midst of it, and the ‘unfairness’ of it all.

Imagine the spiritual integrity and strength each person will have within them after being forged in this fire within the shadow of death. Imagine yourself growing more firm of character, compassion building within you for all others who are, who have, and who will, experience the same or similar trauma as you yourself have.

Imagine the great healing shared by those who have experienced suffering when they begin to coat the injuries of others with the learned healing techniques and understanding they’ve developed throughout their trials.

People do not need to hole up and become small, safety is not in a compact singular package. Safety and strength come in sharing the most vulnerable parts of ourselves with each other, and helping each other heal. Growing stronger through each ordeal. Maintaining hope despite those who would strip it away. Allowing love to flow through the broken parts of the mind and heart, rather than shrinking, atrophying and dying.

Know this … there are those who love unconditionally, freely, openly … even when you cannot see them. Listen for the music, for the messages, for the signs. If these things are of love and support, it is about goodness. If these things are angry and encourage you to become a volcano of unchecked emotions which have potential to harm, then it seeks to place more chaos in the world.

Power is in choice.
Choice is yours, always.

Circumstances may occur of which we did not choose. However our thoughts around that event, circumstance or situation will always be our choice. Mind over matter, conscious awareness over mind.

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