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Published January 18, 2023 by tindertender

A Tibetan story tells that one day an old wise man asked his followers the following: – Why do people yell at each other when they are angry?

The men thought for a few moments:

-Because we lose our cool – said one – that’s why we scream.-
-But why yell when the other person is next to you? – Asked the wise man – Is it not possible to speak to him in a low voice? Why do you yell at a person when you’re angry?

The men gave some other answers but none of them satisfied the sage.

Finally he explained:
-When two people are angry, their hearts go far apart. To cover that distance they must yell to hear each other, the angrier they are, the louder they will have to yell to hear each other over that great distance.

Then the sage continued:
– What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t yell at each other but talk to each other softly because their hearts are very close, the distance between them is very small.

The wise man smiled and said:
When they fall even more in love, what happens? They don’t speak, they just whisper and become even closer in their love. Finally they don’t even need to whisper, they just look at each other and that’s it.

This is how close two people are when they love each other…

Then he said:
-When you argue, don’t let your hearts drift away, don’t say words that distance you further, there may come a day when the distance is so great that you can no longer find your way back…

~ Author Unknown

Divine Union

Published December 29, 2022 by tindertender

By Rachel Naomi Lees

It’s extremely rare to see two people in a relationship for the pure expansion of human consciousness, but when you do, the magnetic energy they emanate is nothing short of holy.

Most people use relationships as coping mechanisms.

They haven’t grieved something from their past and instead of confronting their inner world they grasp outwards, sometimes clinging to whatever object their hands find.

Anytime a relationship (or friendship) is used as a form of escapism, it slows down your path and eventually causes chaos in your field.

Holy relationships, or friendships, emerge through radical self honesty.

When two people are willing to not only open their hearts to one another, but to source itself, the connection becomes a transmission for elevated consciousness to enter through.

This creates a prism effect, where the light their fields emit cascades farther into the collective.

Connection has the potential to unroot human consciousness from the medieval/dark ages of consciousness, bringing it closer to an age of divinity.

Often, people go into relationships by way of hiding themselves, pretending to be that which they are not.

This produces a subtle tension throughout the relationship that resorts in blame/shame tactics which turn a once romantic connection into a battle with the “enemy”.

The ego subconsciously wants an enemy to cast its shadow upon.

This way the ego doesn’t have to take responsibility for its own path.

The incapacity to take responsibility for the path you walk is a mode of living in denial.

In a holy connection, both parties take full responsibility for their shortcomings and calmly grow into healthier states of consciousness.

Relationships, friendships, can be one of the most powerful catalysts for metaphysical growth, so long as both people are willing to look at themselves.

When I see two people who are raw and vulnerable with one another, who are unafraid to delve into their shadows without casting blame or shame onto each other during this fragile yet powerful process, I see incredible potential for humanity.

Taking vs Receiving

Published December 28, 2022 by tindertender

By Maryamhasnaa

There is a big difference between taking and receiving. Takers have no desire to reciprocate and operate from lack and entitlement. They will never feel they have enough. But receiving is an art. It comes from trusting that you will be blessed, taken care of and provided for.

Takers know how to recognize those who are naturally generous and know the right language to use to get you to pour into them selflessly. Your alarm bells won’t necessarily go off because you love to share yourself, your energy and your resources. You may not even see a problem.

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