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Friendship

Published April 8, 2021 by tindertender

The highest honor of friendship isn’t getting invited to “that party” or out on a girls weekend. It’s not clinking champagne glasses at fancy brunches or wearing matching shirts on a beach in Florida. That all is nice and fun and good and special, but it’s not what it’s about, not at all.

The real honor of friendship is being invited into someone’s REAL. It’s getting an invitation into the nitty gritty, the not-so-pretty, the hard stuff, the vulnerable stuff, the weird stuff, the unpolished stuff. It’s being welcomed into a home where the sink is full of dishes and the laundry is covering the couch. It’s entering the places of heart ache and pain. It’s being invited to the hospital room when your friend is still in her mesh underwear from birth. It’s sitting crosslegged in old sweats on the floor and laughing till you cry. It’s carrying around secrets that you’ve been trusted to keep. It’s listening and hearing. It’s holding space for each other. It’s answering phone calls just to talk something through.

The highest honor of friendship isn’t found in beautifully planned events or brightly filtered photos. The highest honor of friendship is messy and dingy and real. It’s in unfiltered photos of laughing so hard your double chin is showing. It’s loving each other’s babies and holding each other while you ugly cry.

I can’t stress this enough: If you’ve been invited into even one person’s real, you are blessed.

Cherish it.

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May Kindness Be Your Credo

Published April 2, 2021 by tindertender

Kindness and thoughtfulness in a very self-centred navel-gazing world is akin to gold dust. You will not ‘lose’ anything by being there for another if you are doing it out of unconditional loving and service. The only time you lose power is when your intention is mislaid, which can be easily reclaimed by conscious intent.

May kindness be your credo.

Blessings.

( Art: Laura Diehl)

Just A Dog …

Published March 30, 2021 by tindertender

From time to time, people tell me, “lighten up, it’s just a dog,” or “that’s a lot of money for just a dog.” They don’t understand the distance traveled, the time spent, or the costs involved for “just a dog.”

Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog.” Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog,” but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by “just a dog,” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it’s “just a dog,” then you will probably understand phrases like “just a friend,” “just a sunrise,” or “just a promise.”

“Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure and unbridled joy.

“Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience that makes me a better person.

Because of “just a dog,” I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog” but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.

I hope that someday they can understand that it’s not “just a dog,” but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being “just a man/woman.” So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog,” just smile–because they “just don’t understand.”

Love Is All Around…

Published March 25, 2021 by tindertender

… just the way we like it.

Love & Relationship – Misunderstood

Published March 18, 2021 by tindertender

Love is one of the most misunderstood and misplaced human experiences. Ever. Love is far more than a pleasant feeling. Love is a creative power. Love is not something you give away. It is something you reflect. Listen to understand why “I love me when I am with you” has far more balance and affection than “I love you”.

https://masteringalchemy.com/

Unconditional Love

Published March 16, 2021 by tindertender

“I think unconditional love is a beautiful thing, so long as we don’t use it against ourselves. I can love all of humanity, but that doesn’t mean that I will put up with all of humanity. The boundary, for me, is set at healthy self-regard. When my unconditional love for another undermines my self-respect, the fence goes up. Not because I don’t believe in their possibilities, but because I have come to realize that there is no value in sacrificing my actuality for their potentiality.

I make a distinction between human potential — which may well be infinite – and human reality – which is often quite finite, particularly in those who choose, over decades, to remain asleep. Yes they may well awaken, but we should never postpone any part of our own life waiting for that to happen. Unconditional love begins at home, with the protecting and honoring of our own unique journey.”

~ Jeff Brown

JEFF BROWN #ThingsItTakesAWhileToUnderstand
https://www.soulshapinginstitute.com/about-founder-jeff-brown/

Law of Cause and Effect – KARMA

Published March 15, 2021 by tindertender

Storytime with Madam Speaker

Authentic “Whole-yness”

Embracing the Darkness Within

Forgiveness

Forgiveness does not mean that you accept abuse or harmful energies or actions being directed to you, such as people that are sociopaths and do not feel remorse or hold any respectful boundaries. It is possible to forgive a person who is possessed by negative forces, and to be completely neutral towards them, and yet know that for your health and well being you have to set proper boundaries or distance away from them. When undergoing severe trauma at the hands of another, it is important to know that person many times ceases to be in control of themselves, as they are being controlled by negative forces that carry out these harmful acts against other people.

Neutral Association or Observer Point

The Controllers have zero power over you (one’s thoughts and emotional state) when you are outside of their frequency reach by maintaining neutral balance or the Observer Point. If you stay out of mental and emotional polarity (inferior and superior thought forms) it is very hard for them to manipulate or control you. The Controllers have no access to control Now Moment Consciousness and do not understand the self-organization of God Force in Action as the Compassionate Witness. When you are capable to maintain and then embody energetic balance (through observer with no attachment to outcome) God Forces can access your being and bring resolution, reconciliation and peace to the most despairing of circumstances. Remember Fear closes the door to God Force while holding the inner Balance (Peace and Love) opens it.

A way to understand observer point is liken it to viewing a movie. If you become at all connected to any thread in an archetype of drama you are pulled into the movie, into the time and space of which the hologram is playing out. When observing it you are outside time, you are outside of the matrix of which is creating it. When you are outside looking at it you are not in the same time space field where this particular event is transpiring and that’s where you have to stay.

This is the same principles in working with some of the Galactic Wars and challenges that we see in the higher planes. The mistake is when we engage with it as is, like you are in it, you have made a mistake. You have got to pull out. You cannot be in the timeline. As soon as you are feeling the emotional pull or the vestment or the attachment, whatever it is that pulls you into the timeline and you get sucked into the identity, now you can hurt yourself. The level of holding observer is understanding that when you do this you are outside of the space where that event and that technology has power. When you are outside of it, that technology, whatever it is, whatever’s going on, does not have power over you. As soon as you get sucked into it you become a part of the movie.

Control your mind …

https://masteringalchemy.com/

Nature’s Wonders

Published March 14, 2021 by tindertender

Went for a walk on a trail off the old scenic hwy. I found some tufts of fur and a heart rock. Arranged it and said a prayer gifting it back in a good way to Mother.

Strolling among the Standing Ones I stopped and what do I see? A heart rock, and the word “friend” someone left behind.

Continuing along the way I found some orange peel, moss, a cool leaf and some wonderful smelling fallen branches. Branchlettes? Haha. So beautiful out here! Arranged them, said a prayer and walked on, feeling happy.

May it bring a smile to all who pass.

That song “don’t worry about a thing, cuz every little thing is gonna be alright” started playing in my head.

Such sweet moments, presenting themselves to me.

Found a cool stick and some more pretties. Arranged them and said a prayer of gratitude for the sharing of such wonderful things with me.

Here, I can smell the sweetness of the fir trees. Smells fruity.

Found some leaves that were just veins. And some more fur and a couple empty snail shells. Another opportunity to say a prayer for life.

Check this out! Reminds me of some sort of rune or magical symbol. It’s wood.

It’s been said that the natives used to bend the young trees like this to “point the way” for travelers. I did not put the note there, but was very happy to see it.

I saw a young woman and man walking swiftly and I stepped aside to let them pass. He was walking ahead of her and it looked like she was just trying to keep up. I thought to myself, stop, and look at something sweetheart, let him go. She totally missed the beauty of the flowers blooming.

Walking along I saw this tree. It appeared to be a dead tree but the wood was still quite solid. I wondered what might have done this damage to it. Perhaps a bear? Were they looking for bugs? I did not see any claw marks, just little bits gnawed off, all about the same size.

I stood between these two beauties for a time, one hand on each.

As I exited the trail after a lovely 2.5 hours in the forest I came upon more fur. I arranged it and said a prayer to Gaia for her beloved furry friends, and mine …..

As I left, I wore a smile. My countenance was extremely peaceful, still is. Gaia has healed me more times that I am even aware of.

I love her so much.

And she loves us.

Here is a compilation of the beautiful flowing waters.

Enjoy.

To All the Women of the World

Published March 12, 2021 by tindertender

To all the women of the world. 💜

Dedicated to the heart of the woman where divine love is reflected in human integrity. To the mother, wife, daughter, and friend. 💜 💜

Dedicado para el corazón de la mujer donde el amor divino es reflejado en la integridad humana.
Para la madre, la esposa, la hija, y la amiga.

~ Don Miguel Ruiz
https://www.miguelruiz.com/