All posts tagged Honesty

Divine Union

Published December 29, 2022 by tindertender

By Rachel Naomi Lees

It’s extremely rare to see two people in a relationship for the pure expansion of human consciousness, but when you do, the magnetic energy they emanate is nothing short of holy.

Most people use relationships as coping mechanisms.

They haven’t grieved something from their past and instead of confronting their inner world they grasp outwards, sometimes clinging to whatever object their hands find.

Anytime a relationship (or friendship) is used as a form of escapism, it slows down your path and eventually causes chaos in your field.

Holy relationships, or friendships, emerge through radical self honesty.

When two people are willing to not only open their hearts to one another, but to source itself, the connection becomes a transmission for elevated consciousness to enter through.

This creates a prism effect, where the light their fields emit cascades farther into the collective.

Connection has the potential to unroot human consciousness from the medieval/dark ages of consciousness, bringing it closer to an age of divinity.

Often, people go into relationships by way of hiding themselves, pretending to be that which they are not.

This produces a subtle tension throughout the relationship that resorts in blame/shame tactics which turn a once romantic connection into a battle with the “enemy”.

The ego subconsciously wants an enemy to cast its shadow upon.

This way the ego doesn’t have to take responsibility for its own path.

The incapacity to take responsibility for the path you walk is a mode of living in denial.

In a holy connection, both parties take full responsibility for their shortcomings and calmly grow into healthier states of consciousness.

Relationships, friendships, can be one of the most powerful catalysts for metaphysical growth, so long as both people are willing to look at themselves.

When I see two people who are raw and vulnerable with one another, who are unafraid to delve into their shadows without casting blame or shame onto each other during this fragile yet powerful process, I see incredible potential for humanity.


Published February 22, 2022 by tindertender

That which is won ill, will never wear well, for there is a curse attends it, which will waste it; and the same corrupt dispositions which incline men to the sinful ways of getting, will incline them to the like sinful ways of spending. ~ Matthew Henry

Who purposefully cheats his friend, would cheat his God. ~ Lavater


Published April 8, 2021 by tindertender

The highest honor of friendship isn’t getting invited to “that party” or out on a girls weekend. It’s not clinking champagne glasses at fancy brunches or wearing matching shirts on a beach in Florida. That all is nice and fun and good and special, but it’s not what it’s about, not at all.

The real honor of friendship is being invited into someone’s REAL. It’s getting an invitation into the nitty gritty, the not-so-pretty, the hard stuff, the vulnerable stuff, the weird stuff, the unpolished stuff. It’s being welcomed into a home where the sink is full of dishes and the laundry is covering the couch. It’s entering the places of heart ache and pain. It’s being invited to the hospital room when your friend is still in her mesh underwear from birth. It’s sitting crosslegged in old sweats on the floor and laughing till you cry. It’s carrying around secrets that you’ve been trusted to keep. It’s listening and hearing. It’s holding space for each other. It’s answering phone calls just to talk something through.

The highest honor of friendship isn’t found in beautifully planned events or brightly filtered photos. The highest honor of friendship is messy and dingy and real. It’s in unfiltered photos of laughing so hard your double chin is showing. It’s loving each other’s babies and holding each other while you ugly cry.

I can’t stress this enough: If you’ve been invited into even one person’s real, you are blessed.

Cherish it.

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Heart Wide Open

Published February 1, 2021 by tindertender

“Dominator culture is co-dependent culture.”
~ @PartnershipVibe

It never ceases to amaze me to see and hear people pointing at others and listing the faults they perceive to be there, or the ignoring of reasons as to why they see these things in another in the first place, mirroring back to them.

Perhaps they are part of the dominator culture. Needing to point out flaws of others so their own flaws don’t seem too big, bright, or shiny … to take attention off self and place it upon another in a manipulated fashion.

In other words … don’t look here … Look! Over there!

Dominating the viewpoints of others, forming opinions in the minds of those who will listen … about the subject matter, whatever it may be.

The need to dominate thought processes of others in any given situation is indeed the need to have another follow along with ones own personal perceptions and/or agenda … whether right or wrong.

Ever so slightly manipulating the Will of others, usurping theirs with ones own.

When others stop going along with gossip and pull away, the dominator is left standing alone, wondering, what now?

Well, dear …. Now you take a look at Self, a long introspection of what dwells there.

Release the need to manipulate anyone or anything other than the internal Self. This alone is plenty of opportunity to alter the world for the better … Unless this is not what is desired?

Heart Wide Open

When To Tune In

Published June 30, 2020 by tindertender

Some folks will say anything to flatter you.

Your ego will be so happy at receiving attention it will not allow the inner portions of self to pick up on the vibration …

Are the words truth?

Or are they being utilized to manipulate you into a specific situation and experience?

It is so important to gain control over the ego’s need for praise.

It will get you into trouble every time.

Allow the heart to see clearly … reading between the lines … increasing the chances of gaining access to transparency, to truth.

This secret powert of discernment belongs to every individual.

With practice … releasing the need for praise and promotion … truth will become more readily available and error will become less frequent.

Heck, with practice, we ALL might just become one happy go-lucky family!

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