All posts tagged Words

When To Tune In

Published June 30, 2020 by tindertender

Some folks will say anything to flatter you.

Your ego will be so happy at receiving attention it will not allow the inner portions of self to pick up on the vibration …

Are the words truth?

Or are they being utilized to manipulate you into a specific situation and experience?

It is so important to gain control over the ego’s need for praise.

It will get you into trouble every time.

Allow the heart to see clearly … reading between the lines … increasing the chances of gaining access to transparency, to truth.

This secret powert of discernment belongs to every individual.

With practice … releasing the need for praise and promotion … truth will become more readily available and error will become less frequent.

Heck, with practice, we ALL might just become one happy go-lucky family!

Noticing Self-Talk

Published May 20, 2020 by tindertender

Lately, I’ve made it a specific intention that I notice my self-talk, and when negative, instantly (or as soon as I recognize it) “re-do” the comment with something of a positive nature.

I am honestly surprised at how many of these nearly invisible phrases show up. I consider myself someone who has done a lot of inner work, yet recently have discovered I’m on the next level … the next ‘cycle’ where it seems that I’ve regressed in some ways, but no … it is the beginning of next cycle.

Choice has it … and I have choice. Will I continue the journey on the same path as previous, or will I move forward. And perhaps, moving forward sometimes feels like regression, only because it has occasional similar traits as the previous cycle, or experience.

Progress ~ It can be difficult to spot if one is too involved in beating ones self up because of the perception of no forward (or ‘upward’) momentum.

Recognize your cycles. Don’t get hung up on the details, note the larger picture of progression and you will see it more clearly.

Just today I caught myself, and thankfully, it is getting easier, quicker, to see.

I stated,

“You already finished it … you dork!”

Immediately I caught that I had called myself a dork. (NEVER speak harshly or negatively to yourself about self, not even if you are ‘joking’).


“You are SO efficient you’ve already completed that project, you’re amazing!”

**Multi-tasking … it can getcha every once and again**

Yet through it all, remember to pay attention to your talk, external as well as internal. That’s where it all begins, after all.

And as you know, internal dialogue is one of the loudest!

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@jasonrosewell

Late Night Ramblings of a Sleepy (or not so sleepy) Mind

Published May 9, 2020 by tindertender

I think I must be having an issue with being stubborn.

“It” doesn’t feel good. The potential for damage is great, and yet, I still do.

Is it simply because it is suggested I don’t?

Am I settling and adapting to my social environment?

Am I creating excuses?

Not being truthful? With self? With others?

Am I really that stubborn that I would risk personal damage due to … to what?

A force of WILLS?

I am not accustomed to surrender.

Why would I purposefully agitate my own mind?

Do I honestly think I am stretching my capabilities, my tolerances?

Or have I become addicted to chaos, internal, chaotic energies?

Do I like the rush?

Am I addicted to drama?

Am I creating this?

(LOL … of course you are!)

She shakes her head and says to herself, “What am I gonna do with myself?” And sadly, softly, she chuckles.

It is no wonder I feel uncomfortable … right now … geesh …

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@korpa

We must learn to be responsible for our energy.

Poem by Stonehouse

Published May 8, 2020 by tindertender

After 57 years of nights beneath the moon and the clouds
to find myself old is hard
crows come looking for food at the altar
monks return with empty begging bowls
others work the waves for shrimp and clams
I swing a hoe in the mountains
when Solomon’s seal is gone there is still pine pollen
and one square inch free of care
~ Stonehouse


Trip With Nature

Published May 3, 2020 by tindertender

Do you see what I see?

Decided to go for a joy ride despite there not being much “sunshine” in the day. It was still pretty amazing. Nature never ceases to impress me.

Panorama #1
Panorama #2
Snail friend
Sorry kids. You can walk the trail, but you cannot play on the equipment.
New growth, uncurling and reaching upward.

As I think about “new growth” I am reminded that growth, no matter the kind, is emotionally challenging, even physically challenging, but the most difficult is the energetic challenge, for it is charged by emotion and past negative conditioning. The nervous system rebels against change like a dying life form.

Do you think that our ‘mental condition’ (or life form) rebels every time there is change? Could this be why people are walking triggers much of the time? Because we are all constantly in a state of flux … never really ‘settled’?

When change comes, how does your body respond? Your mind? Do you find yourself tensing up? Pushing back? Rebelling?

To embrace change is a challenge all in itself. The pit of the stomach might feel like vomiting all over the place, your mind might be screaming in a mental agony, you may cry and holler to god or whomever you choose to make it stop, to keep it the same, to just make the uneasiness end, and comfort to once more be the base you find yourself in.

Unfortunately, when change comes, there is no thwarting it. Fight it as we may. (I know I am).

So, how do we ease our minds?

Personal Suggestions (may not be for all people):

1) Do not drink alcohol

2) Do not abuse drugs

3) Do not smoke (it dirties the energy, making one susceptible to energetic ‘attachments’)

4) Eat clean foods. Choose nearby, open farm raised meats if you eat it, and eggs and shop at local farmers markets when able.

5) Breathe intentionally. If anxiety or some stressful energy comes over, breathe, methodically, in and then out until eased. (Try a six second in breath, and a 6 second out breath.)

It is important that we support our bodies, our minds, especially in these times. We may not be able to gather, but Nature can replenish our supply. Let it.

It is also important we start supporting our local communities in other ways.

The days of frivolous behaviors are being left behind. It WILL cause discomfort, for the change will be great.

May inner fortitude and courage be yours as we transition into this new era.

Eye Thorns

Published April 26, 2020 by tindertender

Some folks get so upset!

Pointing outside themselves at everything that is wrong in this world, condemning those they feel to be at fault …

… Forgetting their own household is within this world they demonize.

Thinking they, and they alone have it “all together”.


Are Words Just Words?

Published April 23, 2020 by tindertender

These days folks are speaking to each other in ways that are not wholly beneficial or friendly. It is important that we choose what we allow to ‘float’ around in our mind.

Will we replay the memories of those who are harsh, repeatedly, until it has its very own route in our brain? Or will we reckognize those patterns, and force a new pattern to develop in its place?

You are the programmer of your own mind. You have the ability, the will, and the fortitude to create newness in your mind, your heart, and your life. It is within you.

The Power is yours, should you claim it.

Faith, Trust, Hidden Love and Power

Take care of your personal relationships, even if the signs show otherwise. You’ve already invested time, energy, tears, laughter and everything else that makes love and relationships all they are cracked up to be. Trust the path you are currently on.

Freedom, Exploration, Travel and Change

Be optimistic, even in the darkest of days. Change is coming. You have to find the silver lining in every predicament. Focus on each ‘present moment’ as it arrives.

Protection, Encouragement, Balance, Warmth, Calm, Responsibility, Honesty and Wisdom

Whatever you’re going through, you’re going to be okay. Follow your heart and listen to what resonates with you.

We are never alone on this journey, although there are times we would swear to the heavens we are. And we would do our best to convince ourselves of this, even searching out others who will validate this negative train of thought.

Claim your Creator skills and put them to use. Transform your thought patterns. Be the Alchemist you hold inside.

Be your own “Thought Boss”.

Break The Cycle

When The Smoke Clears

Published March 18, 2020 by tindertender

We are all in this together.
Literally we are all feeling the same anxiety (in varying degrees and forms) about the same thing, uncertainty over this virus, and this has never happened in most of our lifetimes.
This is truly remarkable beautiful ones.
Let this sink in.
We have the extraordinary opportunity to be in each other’s shoes at the same time in this moment in history.
We can close our eyes and know we are all connected.
So what will matter most when this is over?
What will you ask yourself in the quiet spaces of your mind?
How did I treat people?
How did we treat each other? 🖤

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