Emotion

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Forgot To Party!

Published September 27, 2019 by tindertender

So here I am …

If I were blue, a melancholy blue, I might try and find some gentle ‘seasoning’.

Sickly sweet, like nothing …

One of my favorite artists always has the right thing to say … singing to me in the silence, breaking open that box. I did not list the lyrics correctly above, but this is what my mind felt as I listened. Link to the actual beauty of song below.

https://youtu.be/3xxZKbGTcuU

Thank you Patricia Barber, for always having the right words, joined by the best accompaniment ever.

Does Fear Of The Unknown Rule Your World?

Published February 11, 2019 by tindertender

The future is built from choices made today. If these choices are made out of fear, then the future will be built upon fear. Rather, make conscious choice to build the future based on decisions coming from a place of love, compassion and care … for self, embraced by peaceful intention.

Being aware of different ‘cycles’ of communication while not getting intertwined with the ‘story’ is key to understanding any situation. Observation is crucial in order to make a decision based on knowledge, rather than the emotion these different ‘cycles’ can bring up. There is no need to understand the story (often these stories are not understandable anyway), only what the cycles are, if they change, or if it is a repetitive way of being.

Make a choice. Do the cycles you find yourself enmeshed in cause you joy, or frustration? I’ve heard that if the frustration outweighs the possibilities of something worse, one should just live with it. Hhhmmmm … living with a constant state of frustration doesn’t sound all that appealing. It certainly is not all that healthy either.

This is an example of making decisions based on fear … fear of “what if”. What if it’s the wrong decision? Perhaps the crap isn’t as crappy as it feels. What if what comes after leaves one feeling even crappier?

Life … in this current awareness, we have one. Sure, a person could stay in a frustrating or abusive situation out of fear of the unknown. A person may start to dislike themselves for not having the courage to face their fears. The heart begins to wither, self-worth deteriorates, and then comes self-harming habits … drinking too much, or anything else that could cause further damage. Then death arrives and the obvious comes to mind … You haven’t even lived, or even tried.

Just the thought of this is depressing!

Action, or inaction. Choice is always ours. Action can be put into motion, or stagnation and a drowning in the norm can be. You have probably already experienced your soul screaming for change at one point or another. I know I have, and it’s happening right now.

Secret Balance, No Secret At All

Published November 1, 2018 by tindertender

Someday I would like to learn to play these and purchase my own. To sit in the wilderness, seemingly alone, and play would be so wonderful!

What holds a person back from doing what they wish to do?

Issue: Remember to hold on to your dreams, even through adversity. Develop faith in yourself and in spiritual power. Trust is important. You must trust your own leadership abilities, or improve them. Do not be afraid ~ you were born for this.

Challenge: Build love of self from the inside out. Fear is born because of a lack of self-love and acceptance. Without a healthy love of self, we reduce our personal power, often falling into petty jealousies, judging our bodies, and numbing our minds.

Solution: Healthy fierceness is required. Strengthen your physical body. Walk forward in pride and know that you can fight any battle. You need to strike a balance between masculine and feminine.

Make it a point not to get too wrapped up in the physical. Life is so much bigger than that! While our energies are ‘tied’ to physical form, we have the ability to transcend this flesh … through meditation, through the beauty of music, art, and nature, through conscious choice to embody love, care, and compassion, for self and others, including all of the animals of this world, including the earth itself.

Have you ever experienced a moment of giving so purely that it seemed your body disappeared? Have you sang on stage and felt all faded, leaving you there glowing from the inside out? Have you cared so deeply for another that you yourself seemed to fade?

A balance is needed in giving and receiving, in fight and in flight, as well as in standing ground … peaceful, yet watchful and aware.

This existence is connected to other life, not only that which you can see, but also that which you can sense. Acknowledge this and you will be magnified, your world will grow wider, and more free.

Personal Boundaries

Published September 14, 2018 by tindertender
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Photo by Nathaniel Flowers

Childhood teaches us to behave in a certain manner. How often we allow our own personal thoughts and ideas to be superseded by others … it is trained behavior.

Some of us do not live long enough to come to this realization. Sometimes the fact that our inner voice becomes just that, inner, is when identity becomes lost, or skewed. Trying to please those around us all of the time, it can be noted that the one we will spend the rest of our lives with (our self) loses the battle, and is shoved into a closet while the world on the outside is catered to.

What are your boundaries? Those created through training from others are only habits, a practiced manner of being. Habits are meant to be broken, especially if they do not honor self.

I had an experience with a friend recently, a friend I love dearly. I’m still trying to figure out if I’m overly sensitive (a story fed me day after day in youth) or if my reaction and response to certain things is warranted. I tell myself I would not have had a reaction at all if there were nothing wrong. Yet at the same time, miscommunication, or lack of it, is often the culprit behind misunderstandings.

Our language is so complex. There are many ‘short-hand’ ways of speaking to each other, but to one who is learning the language, it may be quite confusing. (No reference whatsoever to my friend). I have been told by some that the way we speak leaves out much detail of what is really happening in our mind, therefore the listener cannot possibly understand properly, no fault of their own.

It is easier to walk away from someone than to try and hash out misconceptions. Old triggers, once flipped, can shut doors for a lifetime … indeed have already shut many doors. How can doors be opened if speech is so frivolously tossed about?

This may be the cause of many of the issues we face in the world today. For all the schooling we’ve received there is a profound lack in the ability to be clear with one another, as adults, speaking exactly what we mean.

Boundaries … it could be that triggers get flipped and life goes on, simply bringing to our attention a wound, or lack of thought going into a process, allowing us to try to do it better next time around … and there will always be a next time … faces may change, but situations will come ’round again.

If we find a friend who is willing to work with us as we delve deep to unravel those strings and unhinge the hooks which keep us trapped in hurtful scenarios, then we ought to hold onto them … should they wish to hang around, doing their own work, reciprocating healing to old stories.

War Among People

Published June 29, 2018 by tindertender
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Photo by sasan rashtipour

Early morning … I begin typing before I get sucked in to the negativity of the world … it seems this is the news our audio/visual programming wishes for us. The energies created when these stories are told and heard is huge and unsettling … the nerves are raw, raw emotion boils in the mind and something must be done about it!

Although it is tempting to point at this and/or that and state, “You must stop! You must change!”, this frame of mind only solidifies the fact that many are not looking within their own character to see what in their life needs changing, what attitudes they are putting into the world which need altering.

Honestly the change we wish to see in the world begins in our own heart and if we go at it in a warring like manner, that is what is created.

Today, I will not watch world news … it is quite clear there is war brewing among the people. Today I will not participate (or at least give it a go …).

Letting Go Is Never Easy

Published May 5, 2018 by tindertender
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Photo by Chaney Zimmerman

My entire life has been spent listening to people tell me the details of what is wrong with me. It’s like being slapped over and over again, just for being me.

I have listened to people tell me I have no capacity for peace, or truth. I’ve heard them say I lack the necessary skills for this or for that. I’ve had them horde knowledge like it is gold that they refuse to share.

They say if I changed, didn’t say ‘this’ or do ‘that’, then things could be different. There are so many people who think I should be something other that I am.

It is this judgement, this tearing down of a person that is so injurious to the world. We are all guilty of it, if not now, then at some point.

It is difficult to stand tall while being hit with the barrage of negativity. They say they are trying to help me be better, but in reality, they only want me to bend to their will and accept their judgement. To seek their ‘righteous’ teachings and opinions of who I ought to be.

Trying not to let anger or sorrow cloud my vision and truth, I say so-long, adios. I am glad they find peace in this behavior. They can maintain it … away from me.

River Of Life

Published March 25, 2018 by tindertender

“You can’t do that!” she said, and slapped the cuffs on and hauled her off to jail.

The drug epidemic is huge and many people fall into it’s trap. Hurting so much from the pain they’ve experienced they would do anything to find relief, but most are not equipped with knowledge of healthy techniques to handle it, nor are there meet ups which will help them learn. So they turn to the thing that others in their community may have turned to, a mind altering substance which will numb the pain, and for a moment make them feel better.

The jailer wanted to understand, so she purchased what the young woman had been taking and tried it herself. Little did she know she would then fall into the same trap.

Life is like a river.

River

Sometimes we get carried off by it, tumbled among the current scraping on the rocks at bottom and then churned to the top again. If we work hard, or are thankfully exposed to a method which helps us to see more clearly, we will find ourselves on the bank of the river … watching it flow by while marveling at the beauty and power of it. Yet there comes a time when we may slip off the bank and once more find that we are tossed about in the current of it, and hopefully have the strength to once more make it to the banks. There are others who graduate to flying above the river, seeing life as those tossed and on the banks cannot. They soar above seeing it all. Seemingly they are impervious to the snare, but even they, when diving for fish, can become caught in the raging flow of it and once more have to make their way to the banks, and then to the air.

ALL people start out in the river. Depending on the amount of work one wishes to put forth will depend on the situation they create for themselves. It truly is all about choice from the moment one realizes they are in the river called life.

 

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