All posts tagged Emotion

Remember, See, Feel, Release, Move Forward ~ Heal

Published January 5, 2023 by tindertender

It feels as tho my emotional body is being manipulated. I can be happy as a lark one minute and pissy the next. Anyone else noticing fluctuation in the emotional body?

Feels like issues with trust are at the forefront. Like the energy of that and the anger caused by those I’ve loved is still needing release, and it’s clinging to whatever subject is at hand, saying, “This is it! This here! Fix it, run away from it, make it gone.”

Unfortunately, these emotions must be seen, felt, processed, released. And it takes work, intentional work, and owning the reality of it. Maintaining emotional balance and well-being is a continuous process. Those who take it seriously work at it all the time, anyway.

I am aware of many who do not dare face themselves, they prefer externalization, like I just did, but inner reflection in the moment tells me more clearly it’s not about “them”, and so I continue to see, recognize, feel, release. Over and over again.

What a day the last couple have been! Hope you are doing well for yourself. Be kind to Self. We are all purging dense energies now, or clinging to them, one or the other.

Oh how I hope this is the end result of a lot of internal confession and prayer and work, hard work, the hardest …. Remembering, seeing, feeling, releasing, and moving forward… step by step.

This brings “light” to the subject.

Get Your Heart Straight Before It’s Too Late

Published December 12, 2022 by tindertender

You know what I’m sorry about when I read these things? I’m sorry about the fact they were carrying so much hate in their hearts for so many people before they transitioned.

To die with that much hate in one’s heart … where do you think their consciousness goes when they join the land of spirit?


Published December 6, 2022 by tindertender

“The irony is that we attempt to disown our difficult stories to appear more whole or more acceptable, but our wholeness – even our wholeheartedness – actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences, including the falls.”

― Brené Brown

[ Art • “Winter Solstice” by Marina Kozinaki ]

Energetic Exchange

Published November 17, 2022 by tindertender

I can’t sit still for a movie in the comfort of my own home, let alone at an outdoor game, in a sea of chaotic emotional energy being blasted off people in a very close and intimate atmosphere. Never did get into it.

There are people addicted to the rush they receive at these events. I think that’s why many are so latched to their favorite sports competitors. The chemical stew released by the brain in all the excitement draws them back time and again, and most think they just like the team, or game.

Folks talk about drug and alcohol addictions and now gambling, but one can become addicted to most anything. It amazes me the lack of personal energetic and emotional awareness in people.

It’s always someone else.

Emotional Maturity

Published October 7, 2022 by tindertender

Written by: @Theholisticpsyc

A child who wasn’t able to emotionally develop, becomes the adult who: takes everything personally, is highly defensive, & struggles to voice what they actually feel.


Our emotional development happens beginning at birth & through childhood, where we learn: how to identify and regulate our emotions.

Emotional maturity comes from this process.

In order to learn this, we need to be modeled it by a parent figure.

If we’re raised in a home where we are parentified (made to be the emotional caretaker for a parent), where a parent is too busy or overworked, or where a parents rage or emotional instability runs the climate of the home— we don’t get to emotionally develop.

The sole focus becomes staying safe in the environment.

So, we cope with hypervigilance.

Hypervigilance is the attunement to the environment. Meaning, we sense everyone else’s emotions or shift in facial expressions or behavior.

We know when a parents mood is going to shift & how that will impact us, when we might be blamed or shamed, or when a parent might withdraw from us completely (ie: the silent treatment.)

We learn & adapt quickly to caretaking the emotions of those around us. Or managing those emotions the best we can as children.

Sometimes this is mistaken as empathy— it’s not.

It’s a survival mechanism.

Long term hypervigilance creates nervous system dysregulation.

We become high reactive to those around us because we’ve learned that people are not safe & we must defend ourselves.

Everything feels personal, because at one time in our lives: it was.

With our awareness on the external, this leaves little time for self awareness, self reflection, or emotional regulation.

The result: we are emotionally immature.

Unable to know what we feel, how to express it, or if it’s even ok to feel what we feel (many of us have been shamed for our emotions: “stop being dramatic,” “don’t be so sensitive” “man up.”)

In earliest years we were made responsible for adult emotions.

This is never the role of a child.


Published September 27, 2022 by tindertender

“Anger makes you stupid” ~ Sister Sufi

Anger also makes you weak … spewing anger is “giving your power away” while hoping the target doesn’t figure it out.

Anger boiled inside of her,
strong and furious.
Reasons to lash out ran thru her head.
Arguments not to, countered them.
Tension, frustration and tears filled her.
And then the words came…
“my soul is my own.”
Suddenly the target of her anger lost its
She would give it no more.
She turned away
and moved towards her Light.

—Terri St. Cloud

A Witness

Published April 10, 2022 by tindertender

I Am A Witness.

My life mission was “To learn as much as I can, about as much as I can.”

I didn’t really understand it.

I was put into many dark places.

I saw it all, I was in the thick of it. I WAS it.

Then 20 years ago my awareness of this unseen spiritual battle was birthed.

I became a witness for various places in the astral, dark places, places of cruelty. There was a lack of conscience in the people who did cruel things.

I’ve been to other planetary systems, I stood with the people there. I witnessed their world, and they in it.

I’ve been having trouble this morning over something said to me yesterday. I’ve actually been raging inside. I’ve thrown up my hands and determined astral/angelic family is no different than human family.

I’ve been so upset, cussing and spewing at the angelics and astral family. I’ve emotionally disconnected and become sick inside with disappointment.

I’ve quieted now, after 3 hours of spewing. And a thought form entered mind ….

“The only thing that has changed is your perspective.”

Now I have to study that ….

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