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Chief Dan George, 1972

Published March 12, 2021 by tindertender

“In the course of my lifetime I have lived in two distinct cultures. I was born into a culture that lived in communal houses. My grandfather’s house was eighty feet long. It was called a smoke house, and it stood down by the beach along the inlet. All my grandfather’s sons and their families lived in this dwelling. Their sleeping apartments were separated by blankets made of bull rush weeds, but one open fire in the middle served the cooking needs of all.

In houses like these, throughout the tribe, people learned to live with one another; learned to respect the rights of one another. And children shared the thoughts of the adult world and found themselves surrounded by aunts and uncles and cousins who loved them and did not threaten them. My father was born in such a house and learned from infancy how to love people and be at home with them.

And beyond this acceptance of one another there was a deep respect for everything in Nature that surrounded them. My father loved the Earth and all its creatures. The Earth was his second mother. The Earth and everything it contained was a gift from See-see-am… and the way to thank this Great Spirit was to use his gifts with respect.

I remember, as a little boy, fishing with him up Indian River and I can still see him as the sun rose above the mountain top in the early morning…I can see him standing by the water’s edge with his arms raised above his head while he softly moaned…”Thank you, thank you.” It left a deep impression on my young mind.

And I shall never forget his disappointment when once he caught me gaffing for fish “just for the fun of it.” “My son” he said, “The Great Spirit gave you those fish to be your brothers, to feed you when you are hungry. You must respect them. You must not kill them just for the fun of it.”

This then was the culture I was born into and for some years the only one I really knew or tasted. This is why I find it hard to accept many of the things I see around me.

I see people living in smoke houses hundreds of times bigger than the one I knew. But the people in one apartment do not even know the people in the next and care less about them.

It is also difficult for me to understand the deep hate that exists among people. It is hard to understand a culture that justifies the killing of millions in past wars, and it at this very moment preparing bombs to kill even greater numbers. It is hard for me to understand a culture that spends more on wars and weapons to kill, than it does on education and welfare to help and develop.

It is hard for me to understand a culture that not only hates and fights his brothers but even attacks Nature and abuses her. I see my white brothers going about blotting out Nature from his cities. I see him strip the hills bare, leaving ugly wounds on the face of mountains. I see him tearing things from the bosom of Mother Earth as though she were a monster, who refused to share her treasures with him. I see him throw poison in the waters, indifferent to the life he kills there; as he chokes the air with deadly fumes.

My white brother does many things well for he is more clever than my people but I wonder if he has ever really learned to love at all. Perhaps he only loves the things that are his own but never learned to love the things that are outside and beyond him. And this is, of course, not love at all, for man must love all creation or he will love none of it. Man must love fully or he will become the lowest of the animals. It is the power to love that makes him the greatest of them all… for he alone of all animals is capable of [a deeper] love.

My friends, how desperately do we need to be loved and to love. When Christ said man does not live by bread alone, he spoke of a hunger. This hunger was not the hunger of the body.. He spoke of a hunger that begins in the very depths of man… a hunger for love. Love is something you and I must have. We must have it because our spirit feeds upon it. We must have it because without it we become weak and faint. Without love our self esteem weakens. Without it our courage fails. Without love we can no longer look out confidently at the world. Instead we turn inwardly and begin to feed upon our own personalities and little by little we destroy ourselves.

You and I need the strength and joy that comes from knowing that we are loved. With it we are creative. With it we march tirelessly. With it, and with it alone, we are able to sacrifice for others. There have been times when we all wanted so desperately to feel a reassuring hand upon us… there have been lonely times when we so wanted a strong arm around us… I cannot tell you how deeply I miss my wife’s presence when I return from a trip. Her love was my greatest joy, my strength, my greatest blessing.

I am afraid my culture has little to offer yours. But my culture did prize friendship and companionship. It did not look on privacy as a thing to be clung to, for privacy builds walls and walls promote distrust. My culture lived in big family communities, and from infancy people learned to live with others.

My culture did not prize the hoarding of private possessions, in fact, to hoard was a shameful thing to do among my people. The Indian looked on all things in Nature as belonging to him and he expected to share them with others and to take only what he needed.

Everyone likes to give as well as receive. No one wishes only to receive all the time. We have taken something from your culture… I wish you had taken something from our culture, for there were some beautiful and good things in it.

Soon it will be too late to know my culture, for integration is upon us and soon we will have no values but yours. Already many of our young people have forgotten the old ways. And many have been shamed of their Indian ways by scorn and ridicule. My culture is like a wounded deer that has crawled away into the forest to bleed and die alone.

The only thing that can truly help us is genuine love. You must truly love, be patient with us and share with us. And we must love you—with a genuine love that forgives and forgets… a love that forgives the terrible sufferings your culture brought ours when it swept over us like a wave crashing along a beach… with a love that forgets and lifts up its head and sees in your eyes an answering love of trust and acceptance…”

~Chief Dan George was a leader of the Tsleil-Waututh Nation as well as a beloved actor, musician, poet and author. He was born in North Vancouver in 1899 and died in 1981. This column first appeared in the North Shore Free Press on March 1, 1972. https://www.nsnews.com/nsn-50th/from-the-archives-chief-dan-george-teaches-understanding-1.23925435

In Her Own Words

Published March 10, 2021 by tindertender

Katharine Hepburn, in her own words:

“Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus.

Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. This family made a big impression on me.
There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn’t have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.

The children were well-behaved, all of them standing in line, two-by-two behind their parents, holding hands. They were excitedly jabbering about the clowns, animals, and all the acts they would be seeing that night. By their excitement you could sense they had never been to the circus before. It would be a highlight of their lives.

The father and mother were at the head of the pack standing proud as could be. The mother was holding her husband’s hand, looking up at him as if to say, “You’re my knight in shining armor.” He was smiling and enjoying seeing his family happy.

The ticket lady asked the man how many tickets he wanted? He proudly responded, “I’d like to buy eight children’s tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus.” The ticket lady stated the price.

The man’s wife let go of his hand, her head dropped, the man’s lip began to quiver. Then he leaned a little closer and asked, “How much did you say?” The ticket lady again stated the price.

The man didn’t have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn’t have enough money to take them to the circus?

Seeing what was going on, my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. (We were not wealthy in any sense of the word!) My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder and said, “Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket.”

The man understood what was going on. He wasn’t begging for a handout but certainly appreciated the help in a desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing situation.

He looked straight into my dad’s eyes, took my dad’s hand in both of his, squeezed tightly onto the $20 bill, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; “Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family.”

My father and I went back to our car and drove home. The $20 that my dad gave away is what we were going to buy our own tickets with.

Although we didn’t get to see the circus that night, we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide.

That day I learned the value to give.

The giver is bigger than the receiver. If you want to be large, larger than life, learn to Give. Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.

The importance of giving, blessing others can never be over emphasized because there’s always joy in giving. Learn to make someone happy by acts of giving.”

~ Katharine Hepburn
(from Everything Good in the World)

Love and Relationship Meditation

Published March 9, 2021 by tindertender

https://masteringalchemy.com/

Oracle Reading 3-6-2021

Published March 6, 2021 by tindertender

Embrace the Masculine ~ Within ourselves there are two aspects to our nature – the masculine and the feminine. Here in the present, you need to embrace the masculine aspect of your nature and let it guide your steps. Now is time to be assertive, to act with authority, and stand up for both yourself and your truths. Fight for what you believe in. Do not allow others to tell you that you must not or cannot. But remember, whilst you allow your masculine self be dominant, you need to temper your assertiveness and determination with gentleness and compassion.

Love without Condition ~ Do you often find it easier to give advice to others, whilst hiding from the truth that the advice you give is advice that you, yourself, neglect to follow? Do you find it easier to nurture others and show them kindness and compassion? It is time to be kind and gentle with yourself; to love you – strengths and weaknesses – without reservation or condition. Nurture yourself. Be kind to yourself, for you are deserving of the same unconditional care and love that you give to others.

You were Born to Create ~ You were blessed with the ability to create with thought, intention, action and emotion. Be conscious of your power and aware of what your actions and reactions create within and around you. Cherish the gift and use it in both a wise and productive manner. Create beauty, and inspire a desire within others to do the same. Create a future that both fulfills and delights. Do what you were born to do.

Messenger Oracle created by Ravynne Phelan

Life Force Map

Published March 5, 2021 by tindertender

Shedding a little Light on what’s happening now.

Fellas, Jump In The Pool

Published March 5, 2021 by tindertender

The last thing I wanted to do was jump in the damn pool with my clothes on. I didn’t care about the pics or the photo op. Real talk, I couldn’t have cared any less about the pool jump.
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But she did.
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She wanted it.
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My wife has been married before but never really had a proper wedding. It was down at the courthouse kinda shit.
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And this time she had a dream. She wanted the gown and flowers and location and cake and photographers etc. she wanted the fairy tale when in reality I’d have been just fine down at the courthouse.
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So I jumped in the pool.
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Not cause she made me. Not cause she’d have been mad or held it over me (she ain’t like that), I did it because it was important to her.
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And I’ve learned over the years that I have things that are important to me that she’d likely never give a damn about but I want her involved.
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So I jumped in the pool.
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Because I love her. And I love her dreams and her desires. I jumped in the pool not for the photo, I jumped in the pool for her.
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Her dreams may not be my dreams, but I wanted my queen to know her dreams were important to me. Her desires I care about.
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So I jumped in the pool.
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Fellas, jump in the pool.
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Don’t be an ass. Don’t be a stick in the mud. It ain’t a flex to push her down or roll your eyes at her dreams. It ain’t tough to mock her or call her your old lady. It ain’t a flex to keep her down, it’s a flex to push her out to fly! It’s KING shit to empower your woman to LIVE HER OWN LIFE!
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This is your fucking queen.
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You want her to treat you like a King? You want her by your side when you do your shit and live your life?
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Then stand by her. Do the silly shit. Take the photos. Dance in the middle of the restaurant.
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I want my baby to dream and I want her to know that I may not have the same dreams, but I support her and will take whatever pictures she wants.
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So I jumped in the pool.
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Love you baby.

www.seanwhalen.com

Chosen Family

Published March 4, 2021 by tindertender

I love it when sincerity and transparency makes some people think me a little “off” … hahahha, the truth isn’t for everyone. But I know the right people love me, just the same … and I am grateful for them.

Our Game

Published February 26, 2021 by tindertender

A story told of long ago
Before they knew
They were powerful.
Materials ruled the world
They sang sad songs
Of how they suffered.
With narrow eyes
And twice sold lies,
A victims view
From inside a cube
My Love

Then all at once
But one by one
They heard the call
A simple song saying
“When would you like
To leave it all behind?
You can quit all your sorrow
Lose track of time
And jump in- surrender
Wash it all away
Jump in and remember
This is our game
My Love”

And now the tables have turned
And the scales have evened
And the Illusions
Are breaking at the seams
And the patterns
And problems
And prisons of the past
Will be pushed under the table
Never meant to Last
And we grow in numbers
Day by day
A familiar smile
Upon your face
My Love.

Then all at once
But one by one
They Heard the call
A simple song,
Saying, “When would you like
to leave it all behind?
You can quit all your sorrow
Lose track of time
And jump In- surrender
Jump in- surrender
Wash it all away
Jump in and remember
This is our game
My Love”

The Sacred

Published February 26, 2021 by tindertender

In this moment all the earth, stands still
Time unwinds its coil
Life is filled to the brim
With spaciousness

Oh, how simple
Oh, the sacred
Oh, how simple
Oh, the sacred

Unfolding sighs, and cries rang out
A universal openness
Each spirit here sang in tune
Into ferocious Love

No fear here
No fear here
No fear here
Here

Oh, the sacred
Oh, the sacred

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Pepper R Proud / Masaru Higasa Swanson

Message 2/23/2021

Published February 24, 2021 by tindertender

As I drove to the ocean I tuned into the energy & immediately saw white angel feathers falling everywhere. The angels are all around us.

They are here in numbers I have never seen before.

This indicates to me there is a very significant event on the horizon they are here to assist us with. I hear the angels are making gossamer nets to hold us in so nobody falls in despair. They are here to support and uplift us.

They are singing and their notes are anchoring in healing frequencies of love.

The second image I see are another group of angels bowling as I have viewed before. However this time, I see them bowl a couple of strikes and then they gather all of their equipment and leave the bowling alley. This indicates part of their journey is completed and they are ready to move onto the next mission of helping to build the gilded society on earth.

In the final image I see a Native American male riding a horse holding a flagpole as he rides. The flag on the pole is red, white and blue but it is not an American flag. The symbols are different. I hear this flag represents all of the Americas and that he rides to unify this part of the world. Then I see him standing next to a giant tree. He throws what looks like tobacco in the wind and gives homage to the Great Spirit. He says this tree represents the unification of humanity.

This is why the ancestors are here. They are preparing us for the next phase in our evolution, the time of the great peace. He says this is something so many have experienced many lifetimes to prepare for, to witness the birth of a new nation and a new world where the children of the Great Spirit will unite under a flag of peace.

He says it is a return to the rule of the children of the light. He signifies war will be no more I see a white buffalo calf as a symbol of the peace that is arriving on earth. With this peace our birthrights from the Creator will be returned to us.

Source: @lightworker4441