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Time To Heal

Published February 13, 2018 by tindertender

Divinity, in my mind, is about respect, compassion and honor. It doesn’t force itself on anyone. Instead, it sits back and allows people to live their lives as they wish, waiting for the time when they will be in a position to kick back and dwell in the afterlife of their choosing, the world they create.

Become awareUnfortunately, there are many who live in a constant state of chaos and ill will. They spin hurt and harm wherever they go, in all of its forms. This is the world many create, and when the body quits them, they will do everything they can to escape their fate. This includes butting in on other humans lives, trying to find an escape route into something more pleasant.

This could be why so many are behaving in such a brash manner, being completely selfish, for they are under the influence of these others who have realized too late their error.

Humanity is equipped with a will so strong it can overcome all obstacles, ALL of them, yet they often choose to be embraced, and then to return the embrace, of ill will. This is no excuse for bad behavior.

The bulk of energy spent in life should be given to self, as one fortifies their own mind in ability to withstand these attacks, and come back to center, stronger than before. There’s a difference between caring for self, and being selfish.

Anger is a serious issue. I know this is true … personal experience has brought all kinds of it to my mind and life, leaking into the lives of those around me. I also know it is choice which allows the release of it. The human will is strong and determined, whatever it is applied to will be.

The fate of the world really does lie in our hands, in our determination. Pain and anger will cause a person to retaliate, often upon those who had nothing to do with the creation of their pain. Many times, the ones we think cause our pain or anger, have only set our triggers of an underlying issue. Until this is dealt with, all people we deal with will eventually flip a trigger, and we’ll swim in pain and anger. Not only personally, but it will be inflicted into the world, causing the same ol’ same ol’ crap we’ve seen, over and over in its cycle.

Time to heal_1Often it is the pity we have for those suffering which keeps us trapped in scenarios which are hurtful. The fact is, we are the most important factor in our lives. If we do not show sufficient compassion to our self, we will never be able to give proper care to anyone else … truth.

Here is the advice of one … people who suffer anger and pain ought to delve deep inside, find the cause and deal with it, heal it. Those who suffer at the hands of those in pain and anger … walk away, reclaim your energy and do not let it be used to flame the fire of this persons issue. Instead, harness it and use it to heal yourself.

Where attention goes, energy flows.
It’s time to starve out anger and pain.
It’s time to heal.

 

 

True Self

Published October 15, 2017 by tindertender

True Self

What the world needs now more than anything else is authentic human beings. You need more examples of your genuine nature to inspire others and to give others the opportunity to see themselves. You see, when you are true to yourself, you are more good to your fellow humans than when you pretend to be what you think you are supposed to be.

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Leroy Boekhout van Solinge

Self Love

Published September 18, 2017 by tindertender

“Self Love ~ This is not lust behind you.”

Over time, throughout life, you may have been told that it is selfish to think of yourself before others, you may have been made to feel shame for doing so.

Shed that falsehood. It was only meant to control you.

You Are EnoughSelf love is not found in the opinion of what others have over your ‘appearance’ or ‘what you possess’. It is not found in the passion (lust) one may feel for you.

Self love comes from respecting yourself, from going within and discovering who you are. It comes from looking around at the people in your life and seeing whether they add to, or subtract from, the value you feel ought to be there. Not through ‘things’ but through actions.

Are you being assisted? Are the household chores shared? Who feeds the animals every night? Who cooks the dinner and cleans afterward? Laundry? Who changes the sheets on the bed? When every electronic gadget in the house is left on, whether in use or not, does this speak of caring about what the monthly bill will be? Does this carelessness show concern over the pocketbook and what is left for necessary purchases?

Look at the small things, the little things that add up to so much. Go deep into your heart and mind and see there what you find has true value.

A comparison I like to use is … seeds, or money (things)? When shtf, what do you suppose will have more value?

12 Steps For Self Care

Published August 22, 2017 by tindertender

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We see everywhere we look people marching for this and for that, attempting to “change” other peoples minds about a different number of subjects.

The truth is, we have better control over changing our own heart and mind, and this is often the most avoided method of altering the world reality.

When we say, “So and so is this or that”, we ought to ask our self, “Am I this or that?” Only by doing this will we better understand that we, and they, are not so different, and the opportunity for change becomes greater.

It is near impossible to change the heart and mind of another, but it is absolutely possible, and a necessity, to look deep into our own heart and mind, shifting all behaviors that do not benefit us, or the whole.

Leading by example is the most effective way to alter the course of our collective future.

 

Judgements, Easy To Lay Out

Published February 22, 2017 by tindertender

Judgements. They are easy to toss about, simple judgements, on the way a person may wear their hair. I’ve recently been told I should not wear my hair so short because I look like this or that (insert derogatory remark here).

I am not concerning myself with what someone may judge me as by the way my hair looks, or the way I dress, or the way I speak, being open, transparent, honest. I am living life and practicing freedom, growing self acceptance, and I do not need anyone to confirm that for me. Yes, love is my future … and I hope you are practicing it as well.

We have become very good at self loathing, and projecting that loathing onto others. We have become very good at causing pain in the world, so good at it, we often do not even recognize when we are doing it.

It is time. It is time to take a good look at ourselves, dig deep into the “why’s”. Why do we do the things we do that hurt others? Why, when we look in the mirror do we tell ourselves everything that is wrong about what we see, instead of everything that is right, and good?

Who in the hell trained us this way, and WHY??

I am throwing that crap away, because that is just what it is. This crap will be recycled and transformed into something useful. I now know very well what it is like to live according to societies judgements. NOW it is time to live by my own.

I will not allow harmful and hurtful thoughts into my world. If they do creep in, they won’t be there long, for I will move that energetic form into something positive.

This is where it starts. In our minds. It does not have anything to do with what he said, or she said. It has everything to do with what WE say. In our world, WE are the creators, and we get to choose what will be in that world.

Do you wish to live in a world of beauty and love? Or that which we have become accustomed to?

Choice. It has been, and always will be, ours.

Choose well.
I wish for you a loving heart.
It feels so much better that the alternative.

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Media Mind Control

Published November 26, 2016 by tindertender

It is the truth. The media tells us what and how we should feel about ourselves. Those who do not fit this mold are criticized by those who do. This separation from each other has been a manipulation by those who control the media. This feeling of hatred toward self fostered and flamed by falsity. It is not a natural thing. It is mind control at it’s finest. Let us break the mold, and break the hold …

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