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All Must Have Prizes

Published December 20, 2021 by tindertender

At last the dodo said, “Everybody has won, and all must have prizes.”

“But who is to give the prizes?” Quite a chorus of voices asked.

“Why, she, of course,” said the dodo, pointing to Alice with one finger; and the whole party at once crowded round her, calling out, in a confused way, “Prizes! Prizes!”

While it seems like a lovely message – how wonderful for everyone to have won and to have prizes! – there is a hidden shadow. For there is no winning if all have won, and there is no prize if all have acquired the same thing. In other words, there does not seem to have been a test of excellence here – merely an exercise which seems to have tested people. But, at the end of the day, they will all get the same reward. This message comes to those who are tasked with evaluating the work of others and are trying to choose who has done well. It comes to parents, to teachers and judges.

This message also comes to those who wish to please everyone ad do not wish to fall out of favor. Thus, they will proclaim that everyone has done very well and offer prizes to each and all, to avoid the discomfort of true assessment. It is hard to have to decide, to make a choice and to know to whom the victory belongs. It is challenging to be discerning. We often prefer to be like the dodo, trying to make sure everyone is happy.

Consider the choices you have before you – is it best to reward everyone in the same way, even if some have offered more than others? Is it better to reward those who have excelled, either through effort or talent? Would you refer just to give prizes to all and keep everyone happy? These are your choices at present and it is up to you to decide which way is best.

Trying to keep everyone happy. Treating everyone as equals and rewarding those who have not worked hard. Playing nice, wanting to please. An ability to choose who or what is best for you. Trying to be fair, but avoiding difficult decisions is not fair on yourself. Maintaining illusions, to avoid disappointing others.

~ the Alice Wonderland oracle by Lucy Cavendish

In Her Own Words

Published March 10, 2021 by tindertender

Katharine Hepburn, in her own words:

“Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus.

Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. This family made a big impression on me.
There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn’t have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.

The children were well-behaved, all of them standing in line, two-by-two behind their parents, holding hands. They were excitedly jabbering about the clowns, animals, and all the acts they would be seeing that night. By their excitement you could sense they had never been to the circus before. It would be a highlight of their lives.

The father and mother were at the head of the pack standing proud as could be. The mother was holding her husband’s hand, looking up at him as if to say, “You’re my knight in shining armor.” He was smiling and enjoying seeing his family happy.

The ticket lady asked the man how many tickets he wanted? He proudly responded, “I’d like to buy eight children’s tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus.” The ticket lady stated the price.

The man’s wife let go of his hand, her head dropped, the man’s lip began to quiver. Then he leaned a little closer and asked, “How much did you say?” The ticket lady again stated the price.

The man didn’t have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn’t have enough money to take them to the circus?

Seeing what was going on, my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. (We were not wealthy in any sense of the word!) My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder and said, “Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket.”

The man understood what was going on. He wasn’t begging for a handout but certainly appreciated the help in a desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing situation.

He looked straight into my dad’s eyes, took my dad’s hand in both of his, squeezed tightly onto the $20 bill, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; “Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family.”

My father and I went back to our car and drove home. The $20 that my dad gave away is what we were going to buy our own tickets with.

Although we didn’t get to see the circus that night, we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide.

That day I learned the value to give.

The giver is bigger than the receiver. If you want to be large, larger than life, learn to Give. Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.

The importance of giving, blessing others can never be over emphasized because there’s always joy in giving. Learn to make someone happy by acts of giving.”

~ Katharine Hepburn
(from Everything Good in the World)

Strength In Unity

Published August 10, 2020 by tindertender

I received a ride to work thru Uber this morning from a man who came to the states from Africa.

We discussed Bill Gates and the vaccination of people in Africa, and how I thought this was complete bullshite. He mentioned they are developing their own medicines and that the root of all medicines come from Africa.

I mentioned that according to genealogy, all life has its roots in Africa.

We discussed the riots, called protests. We talked about small business owners having their life’s work destroyed in a single night … business owners of all ethnic backgrounds.

We talked about many of these so-called protesters being from out of state, shipped in by bus, paid money (by someone(s) to cause chaos in the cities.

We talked about the children and how they respond to him, open of heart, willing to accept without judgement. We talked of their parents and their ability to mimic their children’s perceptions of acceptance and care.

When he dropped me at my location I tipped him. He said he was going to get tea, that he loved tea. I mentioned I do too.

He told me I made his day, already, in this early morning.

And that made me so happy.

There is so much value in the heart of all living beings … it has absolutely no-thing to do with gender or race … it is the heart of creation, and we all share it.

Crea, Crea, Crea …..

Bless you my beautiful friends.

May you be recognized today by another aspect of life, may your intrinsic contribution to the whole be honored, as it should.

May we unite as a single organism with many parts making up the whole.

I love you.

We can do this … together.

Black and White

Published June 16, 2020 by tindertender

Written by: Peter Queen

White people are not the only problem that black people have. As black people, we also hurt ourselves. We rob and kill each other far more than white people do. I’ve been around long enough to know this because I have seen it and have lived through it. From the 60s, 70s, 80s up to now, the problems still persist because we continue to allow it to persist. We need to stop calling those who become successful “sell outs” “wanna-be’s” “Uncle-Toms” or “bourgeois” to name a few. We, as black people, need to stop tearing ourselves down and start building ourselves up. Otherwise, we will never be more than what the white people fear about us. There are abundant opportunities for all cultures and individuals in this country to succeed and be great contributors to society. We as Americans just need to get out there and just give it a try and stop making excuses every time we fail. We as black people need to stop blaming white people for all of our problems, get rid of the slave mentality that keeps us shackled to and living in the past. That doesn’t mean we should forget about the past nor pretend that racism doesn’t exist. But we need to stop dwelling on it 24/7. As long as there is ignorance, racism may never truly go away because ignorance is a condition that unfortunately is engrained in all of us in various degrees. But we can still work through it. Sure, there are assholes, idiots, dumb asses and very bad and evil people in this world, and they come in all colors. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t learn to get along.

The other problem is that we as Americans need to stop believing everything that we see in the press, because their agenda always seems to over-sensationalize everything that is bad in this country. I see so little coverage of all the great contributions that black Americans have done for this country. We contribute far more than just in the field of sports and entertainment. We have also excelled greatly in the field of business, medicine, mathematics, science, technology, ect, ect… There are plenty of books and articles out there that are easy to find on that topic. I guess black success is boring and not very newsworthy to the general media. We all need to stop drinking the kool-aide and believing all of the false narratives painted by the press.

Also, white people should not have to be forced to feel guilty about being white. Just make sure that as white people, you all don’t discriminate and prejudge us right off the bat based on our color. We may not all come from nice neighborhoods but that doesn’t mean that we are not decent and intelligent people with a deep sense of faith as well. I don’t claim to speak for all black people, and they don’t speak for me. We all have our own individual likes and dislikes, from politics, religion, taste in music, ect, ect. However, we are all trying to strive, thrive and survive in America just like everybody else. If I have offended anyone in this post, it is not my intention. However, I feel that a lot of people avoid facing certain hard facts about life. I am certain that I am not the only black person that has these views. Besides, I am on the latter half of my 50s and I am at a point in my life where I am getting tired of all of this BS! May God bless us and continue to guide us through all of our trials and tribulations.

We Need Each Other

Published June 11, 2020 by tindertender

“No single No one possesses the complete range of faculties. through social union, human beings complete one another, and mutually secure their well-being. Because they need one another, they have been created for living in society and not in isolation.” ~ The Spirits’ Book

Take a good long and hard look at what the so-called leaders are pushing for … I do not speak of the president, but those who fight against him.

Covid-19 came along after a three year attempt to impeach the president. The democrats, indeed, the whole advisory committee, pushed for isolation, and the covering of the mouth, signifying compliance, silence.

They sold fear, ripe and ready to eat, while this president tried to give the cure (hydroxychloroquine) which has even been proven to fight cancer … two for one. But what did the majority of Americans do? They swallowed the lies and rejected the cure … they allowed fear, hatred, and false reporting to take from them what they’ve been wanting and waiting for.

The government, previous to this one, steered jobs away from the American citizens, gifting the citizenry profit loss and opportunity loss for their own well-being.

People need to rise together, for anything other than that is ensuring our own demise.

PS – Joe Biden will be taken out of the race by his own team. Whomever they replace him with will be the true devil, or someone puppeted by him (them, since it is a group thing).

The vote will be for freedom …

… or for more of the same we got before this administration, a true slavery symbolized by the mask and stay at home orders.

More human trafficking, more missing people, more murder as they push to eliminate the protectors of the law, and release serious criminals from prisons.

Don’t let your hatred for one man cause you to throw in the towel on your country.

Regardless of the threats …

Threats that make the most hardened warrior crumble and apologize for supporting the president.

The war is real.

And it is bigger than any one man.

My hope is there will be enough Americans and others in this world to support and bring us into the light.





Whatever you need to do to raise your vibe into one of appreciation and love, do it.

Nature works every time.

There WILL be a one world order.

It will come in the form of slavery, or freedom.

Choice is ours.

It will come from a place of fear, hatred, or good thought processing.

It is important to rule the emotions, and not be ruled BY them.

The enemy uses emotion against us … ALL of us, in various methods.

Notice it.

Stand your ground.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@nickpage

Reversing the KARMA from Hoarding Supplies

Published March 18, 2020 by tindertender

Written by: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1215097415

Great suggestion to reverse karma of hoarding necessary supplies. Be a blessing, not a sore.

Please….to the people that have bought up all the TP, hand wash, paper towels and milk. Walk down your block, go to someones door and ask them if there’s anything they may need. Then OFFER FOR FREE what you have, if they don’t need it fine, move on next door. Just don’t do this one time, one house, keep going, give some of that up. Walk around several blocks, get in your car drive to a different part of town where it might look like other’s may be in need of help.

I bet ya what, It’ll make you feel better for doing the wrong you did in the first place. You don’t have to know the people you help, you may even make a new friend or two. In times like this, people help people, neighbors help neighbors, and as for color, THERE IS NO COLOR IN THE WORD HELP OTHERS.❤️✌️

Full Recognition Denied

Published December 10, 2019 by tindertender


Photo Credit: Indigenous Rising Media

MARDRID, SPAIN – U.S. Embassy — Over 75 Indigenous activists and their allies demonstrated in front of the US Embassy in Madrid, Spain to demand justice for missing and murdered Indigenous women, two-spirits and girls(MMIW). The delegation was removed from the sidewalk by Spain’s National Police and followed for blocks. The police liaison with the group was held back and forced to show his documents.

In 2016, the Urban Indian Health Institute found that only 116 out of 5,712 cases of MMIWG reported in the United States were recorded in the Department of Justice’s federal missing persons database.

Photo credit: Indigenous Rising Media

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Inaccurate counts of blood quantum have had an enormous effect on Native individuals and nations.


Native people were excluded from the first 70 years under the U.S. Constitution, which explicitly regarded “Indians not taxed,” or those living on reservations or unsettled territories, as not countable.

Native people, in particular, are the most undercounted ethnic group in the census’ history. Native people were excluded from the first 70 years under the U.S. Constitution, which explicitly regarded “Indians not taxed,” or those living on reservations or unsettled territories, as not countable. In more recent years, the U.S. Census Bureau’s own data has shown significant undercounting. In the 1990 census, 12.2 percent of Native people on reservations were undercounted, according to the Census Bureau’s findings. A decade later, the census seemed to improve, with the bureau not reporting a statistically significant undercount. But then in 2010, it jumped back up to 4.9 percent.

This is particularly devastating for Indigenous people because of how census data has been used to help determine many aspects of tribal sovereignty, such as tribal recognition and enrollment.

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