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How to ‘Purposefully’ Add Good Energy to the World During Separation

Published May 8, 2020 by tindertender

During these times of Covid-19 and the fear it represents in the hearts and minds of people, we are separated, even more than we were before.

How do we put our good energy into the world?

Some of us have been home for awhile now due to layoffs. What do we do with our time?

I started sewing … masks. I rearranged my bedroom. I cleaned house, or at least ‘picked it up’. I changed my living room window treatment. I started going for joy rides and hikes in various parks that were/are open. I started praying again, in the forest.

All that is good.

I entered deep spaces in my mind that I thought I had already visited, but these spaces held additional blockages that needed attention, healing and clearing. Inner work is very good to do in these times.

How do we share the love we are working on increasing in our own hearts and minds?

We can:

1) Send note cards via USPS. It is amazing how rare it is that one receives a card these days. It is a nice surprise when you’re stuck at home with no visitors.

2) Smile and wave at those you encounter, whether you be passing another vehicle on the road, or in the grocery store … smile, show kindness.

3) Paint rocks with inspirational messages or pictures and leave them in various areas for people to find. The atm, the park, any stairs you may climb, and entrances or exits to buildings or flower pots. Anywhere people might find themselves stopping for a moment.

4) Have flowers delivered to a friend or family member … just because.

5) Share a meal with someone in need. Getting take-out? Purchase an extra meal and give it to the next person you see, who is hungry.

These are only five suggestions, but there could be many more. I welcome your thoughts and ideas to increase methods of growing happiness and care in this world, please add them in the comments section.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@cmhedger

🙏🏻❤️

See The Good

Published May 8, 2020 by tindertender

There once was a time in your very own planet’s history, long, long ago, when the earth was truly a paradise.

The diversity of life was as mind-boggling as it was spectacular.

Flowers sprang up in impossible places. Birds and their songs filled the air over every continent. Snow, fog, showers, or sunshine added sometimes shocking and unexpected beauty to every setting.

Animals were loved as family members. And complete strangers smiled and waved to one another, as it was everyone’s natural instinct to be kind, to give, and to love.

Yeah, very little has changed.

See the good,

~ The Universe

Flowers growing in seemingly impossible places.

Every ailment is a gift, an opportunity, an invitation…

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones! ® © www.tut.com ®

Deep Down Nitty Gritty

Published May 7, 2020 by tindertender

I’ve been thinking lately about life and relationship.

When I was young, one of my favorite things was to watch people …. or “people watch”. I stopped doing that in my mid-twenties, when I began a certain relationship.

Now, thirty years later, I am beginning to think I’ve turned into a jaded old lady! Who, in current scenarios, has not really given men a fair shake.

I vow to take on some activities, where I can observe men, being men. I want to fall in love with them all over again.

As I shed my pain from past failed relationship, I open myself to loving once more, those who I have unfairly dropped blame.

This is only a beginning. It is not a request for attention or relationship. It is an acknowledgement, that I have been harboring resentment that may have poisoned further opportunities for love.

The journey begins … of further release.

Pain, anger, resentment ….. these have no value, for that which holds value.

May the release be swift.

May my appreciation for the masculine be rebirthed with vigor, in a sacred way.

May admiration, for all of them in their various forms and activity, grow in my heart.

May all things emanating from my person, be pure, healthy and loving.

And so it is. 🙏🏻

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@jentheodore

Joy Riding on a Sunny Afternoon

Published May 7, 2020 by tindertender

Left the house to experience the wind once more, blowing everything in the car around, windows down.

I stopped at a little shack selling clam chowder and fish and chips. Purchased and ate a piece of fish and a few chips.

A fellow came by as I sat there. He walked to the man at the window, and then walked away, empty handed. He looked real down. I asked him if he was hungry. He said yes, so I gave him the remaining three pieces of fish with the chips. He looked very emotional and I watched as he walked to his room at the hotel nearby. I felt for him in that moment and hope he finds what he needs.

If we have extra, let us remember to share. Share with whoever happens to be there at the time, for this is our opportunity to do so. Regardless of appearance … share.

I drove along, for miles and miles, I came upon a pretty remote area, not a soul around.

I rested there awhile, munching on sunflower seeds. Here is a video of the place.

As I sat there, I thought about tools needed to tend garden, and supplies needed to preserve foods. I thought about a modest cabin with basic necessities. The simpler the better.

I wandered around taking pictures and then set up my chair in the sun.

Heading back toward town, I stopped to take more pictures.

Beautiful bull
Pony, goats and horse
A barn in disrepair
Cube, but it’s not. It’s actually flat, and an optical illusion.

That is the end of the joy ride, but much happened I did not capture.

I stopped along a rural road and stand. Bought fresh eggs, apples, red potatoes, cauliflower and honey.

I drove into a the nearest rural town and then out again, stopping at a roadside building selling more fruits and vegis. Bought watermelon, asparagus, a mango, and avocados.

It felt good to support the farmers, who are having difficulty getting their supplies to the city. I’m going to look for them every time I go for a nice drive and purchase from them if I am able.

My appreciation is growing during these days of separation from each other. For nature, for the work that men and women do, in all of the various ways work is done, for the benefit of the whole.

I’ve been dwelling on the inner stuff a lot. I understand better now, that I have been projecting and blaming for my inner pains. (And to think I thought I was done with all that inner work!) And so I have begun asking for help to relieve the pain so I do not project it into the world … praying, if you will. Whatever that looks like. Pretty sure it isn’t a wrong way, in private, with nature.

Nature helps me in many ways.

Connecting to benevolence seems to be easier here.

Where the trees cleanse and recycle my breath. Where the waters churn and provide oxygen to the things within, and those outside of itself. This delicate balance, consistently shared, constantly offered to life.

Home now, having eaten my corn and red potatoes, I relax and think on the day. I consider topping off the experience with a nice magnesium bath in some scented water … and so I’m off, until next time.

Below picture is not me …

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@brucemars

A Big TRUTH Day

Published May 7, 2020 by tindertender
Shadow: See the Truth

Do not be deceived. Be watchful and mindful of the illusions others weave around themselves, and that you may weave around yourself. Know the night. Understand the shadows. See though the darkness to the light of the truth. Pay attention to contradictions. Notice when action and words are not in harmony. Hone your intuition and insight so that you may know the minds and hearts of those around you – and yourself – and trust in the wisdom born of that awareness.

Soul: See the Signs

We are often sent small signs in the form of synchronicities and coincidences. Be watchful. Do not overlook them in the everyday rush of life. Words, numbers, and symbols that repeat, animals and birds that appear on your path, people who come in and out of your life at odd or similar moments, and those flashes of knowing when you believe something will happen with every fiber of your being – these are all things you are meant to see and hear; messages from Gaia and Great Spirit sent to aid your journey.

Let the Two become One: Reveal your Truth

When you were born, your soul shone bright. As you grew, you were taught of right and wrong. You were taught how to think, how to live, how to believe in a way that makes you fearful to say no. To disagree is to risk alienation from family and society, and so you hide your true thoughts and feelings behind a mask. That mask hides your light. Cast it aside. Embrace and live your truth, and let your soul shine once more.

Change Is Inevitable

Published May 5, 2020 by tindertender

Envisioning the path of the highest good with an optimistic outlook, the gift of a miracle will be yours. Things come together as if by magic. You have every reason to be hopeful. Move forward, knowing that you have everything you need and more. Just remember to share the enthusiasm, believe in others, and be optimistic for them too, and your good fortune will multiply.

See the higher purpose to events. Not everything is meant to come to pass according to your specifications. If you can’t see the forest through the trees, stand back for a while. Perhaps it’s time to speak to someone who has objectivity and an ability to see the bigger picture where you don’t. Remember, even when things don’t go the way you expect, there’s always a reason for the detour.

Shine your light and do not give in to fear. Are you hiding yourself for fear of rejection? Are you as afraid of success as you are of failure? The light of the Divine shining within you is the power that expresses through you. This, not your ego, is the authentic place of self-expression.

Look at how you are affected by ‘glitter’, ‘glamour’, and the superficial dreams of society. Are you mesmerized by false power? The material world is fleeting; nothing lasts forever. Make your intentions come from deep within you, and don’t base them just on money or power or what you think love will do for you. Ask instead what you can offer, what you can give.

True wealth resides within peace, harmony, and a sense of purpose. Remember that Light isn’t garish and cold, nor is it manufactured – it’s warm and brilliant and natural. Give up the attachment to the outer goal, and if it’s meant to be yours, it will surely come.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@enterjoesmind

Trip With Nature

Published May 3, 2020 by tindertender

Do you see what I see?

Decided to go for a joy ride despite there not being much “sunshine” in the day. It was still pretty amazing. Nature never ceases to impress me.

Fungi
Panorama #1
Panorama #2
Snail friend
Sorry kids. You can walk the trail, but you cannot play on the equipment.
New growth, uncurling and reaching upward.

As I think about “new growth” I am reminded that growth, no matter the kind, is emotionally challenging, even physically challenging, but the most difficult is the energetic challenge, for it is charged by emotion and past negative conditioning. The nervous system rebels against change like a dying life form.

Do you think that our ‘mental condition’ (or life form) rebels every time there is change? Could this be why people are walking triggers much of the time? Because we are all constantly in a state of flux … never really ‘settled’?

When change comes, how does your body respond? Your mind? Do you find yourself tensing up? Pushing back? Rebelling?

To embrace change is a challenge all in itself. The pit of the stomach might feel like vomiting all over the place, your mind might be screaming in a mental agony, you may cry and holler to god or whomever you choose to make it stop, to keep it the same, to just make the uneasiness end, and comfort to once more be the base you find yourself in.

Unfortunately, when change comes, there is no thwarting it. Fight it as we may. (I know I am).

So, how do we ease our minds?

Personal Suggestions (may not be for all people):

1) Do not drink alcohol

2) Do not abuse drugs

3) Do not smoke (it dirties the energy, making one susceptible to energetic ‘attachments’)

4) Eat clean foods. Choose nearby, open farm raised meats if you eat it, and eggs and shop at local farmers markets when able.

5) Breathe intentionally. If anxiety or some stressful energy comes over, breathe, methodically, in and then out until eased. (Try a six second in breath, and a 6 second out breath.)

It is important that we support our bodies, our minds, especially in these times. We may not be able to gather, but Nature can replenish our supply. Let it.

It is also important we start supporting our local communities in other ways.

The days of frivolous behaviors are being left behind. It WILL cause discomfort, for the change will be great.

May inner fortitude and courage be yours as we transition into this new era.

Filthy Dirty South

Published May 1, 2020 by tindertender

So there’s oil comin’ out your mouth,
And you can’t shut it off you can’t close it down,
And yes I love my filthy dirt south,
So we are all lead like lambs to the slaughter

While the big corporations fuck up our water
Please don’t sit back sit back in awe
All in line pullin’ our last straw
Eh eh eh eeee, oh oh oh ooooooh a a a e eeee, o o o oooooh yeeaaa

And if you muddy my water i’ll come after you
And if you muddy my water then i’ll come after you,
And if you muddy my water I’ll come after you
And if you muddy my water I’ll come after you

So there’s oil comin’ out your mouth,
And you can’t shut it off you can’t close it down,
Yes I love my filthy dirty south, well yea
So we are all lead like lambs to the slaughter

While the big corporations fuck up our water
Please don’t sit back sit back in awe
(Well yea) all in line pullin’ our last straw
Eh eh eh eeee, oh oh oh ooooooh a a a e eeee, o o o oooooh yeeaaa

Clarity Before My Eyes

Published May 1, 2020 by tindertender

I had some running around to do today and I found myself at Fred Meyer after a time to purchase a few things.

As I entered the checkout line, I came behind another who was male. The groceries he was purchasing looked odd for a man. Fresh vegetables galore! I thought, he must be vegetarian.

I mentioned that I liked his grocery list, that is was rare to see a man with these items being bought. He said his wife gave him the list.

The teller said shopping and cleaning was women’s work. The fellow in front of me stated that women do not receive a salary for raising children, and he wanted to step up where he could. And that he cleaned frequently at home to help out.

I said, “I’m going to love you, right now. Tell your wife.” And he proceeded to look a tad uncomfortable as he rolled away with his cart full of the good stuff.

The teller continued to tell me how cleaning was women’s work. He said he’d build a fence or whatever, but that was women’s work. That he did not like it. I told him, “None of us like it, we do it because it needs to be done.” (Except, I really do not like housework, and I have fur everywhere from my doggies, so, my place is never pristine).

Anyhow, I found it quite interesting seeing these two males, in stark contrast to each other. One, willing, and putting in the effort to help his woman. The other, blatantly stating he is not a partner, but an expector, a chaos maker, rather than a soother.

I drove away in amazement. I wondered if there would ever be a male that would want to partner with me in such a way. Unfortunately, my experiences have not included the sacred male, just his self-centered counterpart of the masculine.

I wonder, am I a bad person? (Am I that which I see and have experienced?) How is it that I never encountered a true partner, but instead those who were out seeking their own gratification, not ever considering my heart, or my love. Instead, tossing it (me) to the curb when they were ‘finished’ with me.

I’m told I have an attitude problem. My thought is it was developed by man. He forced it into life by not being a sufficient partner, able or willing to handle the fire this one woman embodies.

My hope is that selfishness will leave the building once and for all. For ALL.

Amen, and all that Jazz.

Men, Love them still, and always.

Who Is The Savior?

Published May 1, 2020 by tindertender

It is amazing to me how people think they have permission to be cruel, and still go to heaven, while believing those they have judged will not.

This does NOT mean I do not believe in God. I certainly do. And I’m afraid I’m not measuring up. And if I’m not measuring up, that means those who judge me are probably not either.

Let us clean up our own houses, our own inner temple. Stop looking outside and blaming the world for your situation. We cannot do that. We must create a beautiful situation from our own inner fortitude.

Do you think a person, who relies on another to solve their problems, will ever solve a single problem themselves?

No. It’s a partnership. And a partnership that is only half functioning is not a sufficient partnership.

Karma. It’s a real thing.

Self-righteousness is also.

Be aware of where you are in your own thinking and action.