All posts tagged Habits

Lesson Noted ~ The Ra Material

Published May 29, 2020 by tindertender

I received my book today, The Ra Material, by Ra, Law of One, book one.

I learned something new.

In an Infinite Creator, there is only Unity. The only way to view infinity is by calling it Unity. All is one.

Infinite Creator energy is a whole. When humanity is viewed by this group called Ra, our energy Imprint on this earth is viewed as a whole.

The looters? The chaos makers, the murderers and rapists, all of those who do crime and harm in all its forms and indeed, those who would like to, but do not … that energy, if it out-ways its polar opposite will be seen as the energy of the whole of humanity by those without, looking in.

This is why it is crucial to maintain a calm demeanor.

Speak to each other civilly, respectfully.

Stop destroying our neighbors and their stuff.

Stop taking what isn’t ours, (in its many forms).

We can’t just write each other off and think that makes it better. No, we must heal the energetic rift, we must make effort to make amends, and keep the line of communication open … to family, friends, neighbors, the guy holding a sign on the street.

Our responsibility to this world and to each other, and to our race, is to care, and show it brightly.

Even if it can only be our heart that sings to each other, let it sing, let it shine from your eyes with a smile upon your lips.

Acknowledge each other. Do it as a friend would.

If we want our GROUP ENERGY FORM to be bright, we must stop acting like thugs and all around a-holes.

Every single one of us.

It’s going to take practice.

And we haven’t got long.

Time to reform our habits.

Noticing Self-Talk

Published May 20, 2020 by tindertender

Lately, I’ve made it a specific intention that I notice my self-talk, and when negative, instantly (or as soon as I recognize it) “re-do” the comment with something of a positive nature.

I am honestly surprised at how many of these nearly invisible phrases show up. I consider myself someone who has done a lot of inner work, yet recently have discovered I’m on the next level … the next ‘cycle’ where it seems that I’ve regressed in some ways, but no … it is the beginning of next cycle.

Choice has it … and I have choice. Will I continue the journey on the same path as previous, or will I move forward. And perhaps, moving forward sometimes feels like regression, only because it has occasional similar traits as the previous cycle, or experience.

Progress ~ It can be difficult to spot if one is too involved in beating ones self up because of the perception of no forward (or ‘upward’) momentum.

Recognize your cycles. Don’t get hung up on the details, note the larger picture of progression and you will see it more clearly.

Just today I caught myself, and thankfully, it is getting easier, quicker, to see.

I stated,

“You already finished it … you dork!”

Immediately I caught that I had called myself a dork. (NEVER speak harshly or negatively to yourself about self, not even if you are ‘joking’).


“You are SO efficient you’ve already completed that project, you’re amazing!”

**Multi-tasking … it can getcha every once and again**

Yet through it all, remember to pay attention to your talk, external as well as internal. That’s where it all begins, after all.

And as you know, internal dialogue is one of the loudest!

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Growth and Renewal

Published May 7, 2020 by tindertender

I read recently that while taking a bath it is good to set an intention for healing.

As I soaked, I began thinking of life and the habits we create after, or during, a specific life experience.

Later, we may determine that these habits, these habitual ways of being, are not serving our highest potential any longer. Maybe they are causing issues in a current relationship, or circumstance.

So, we shed them, much like a snake sheds their skin.

Photo: https://www.gettyimages.com

Shedding these habits, or mind sets, does not lead to death, although it can feel like it at times.

No, like the snake, it is a period of growth … outgrowing certain traits … and periods of rebirth … replacing old forms with new ways of being and thinking.

I lay stretched in the tub. I flex my spine against the bottom of the tub, and I inch my way up into a sitting position, moving the spine as a snake does.

And I wonder …

Who am I?

What am I?

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Trip With Nature

Published May 3, 2020 by tindertender

Do you see what I see?

Decided to go for a joy ride despite there not being much “sunshine” in the day. It was still pretty amazing. Nature never ceases to impress me.

Panorama #1
Panorama #2
Snail friend
Sorry kids. You can walk the trail, but you cannot play on the equipment.
New growth, uncurling and reaching upward.

As I think about “new growth” I am reminded that growth, no matter the kind, is emotionally challenging, even physically challenging, but the most difficult is the energetic challenge, for it is charged by emotion and past negative conditioning. The nervous system rebels against change like a dying life form.

Do you think that our ‘mental condition’ (or life form) rebels every time there is change? Could this be why people are walking triggers much of the time? Because we are all constantly in a state of flux … never really ‘settled’?

When change comes, how does your body respond? Your mind? Do you find yourself tensing up? Pushing back? Rebelling?

To embrace change is a challenge all in itself. The pit of the stomach might feel like vomiting all over the place, your mind might be screaming in a mental agony, you may cry and holler to god or whomever you choose to make it stop, to keep it the same, to just make the uneasiness end, and comfort to once more be the base you find yourself in.

Unfortunately, when change comes, there is no thwarting it. Fight it as we may. (I know I am).

So, how do we ease our minds?

Personal Suggestions (may not be for all people):

1) Do not drink alcohol

2) Do not abuse drugs

3) Do not smoke (it dirties the energy, making one susceptible to energetic ‘attachments’)

4) Eat clean foods. Choose nearby, open farm raised meats if you eat it, and eggs and shop at local farmers markets when able.

5) Breathe intentionally. If anxiety or some stressful energy comes over, breathe, methodically, in and then out until eased. (Try a six second in breath, and a 6 second out breath.)

It is important that we support our bodies, our minds, especially in these times. We may not be able to gather, but Nature can replenish our supply. Let it.

It is also important we start supporting our local communities in other ways.

The days of frivolous behaviors are being left behind. It WILL cause discomfort, for the change will be great.

May inner fortitude and courage be yours as we transition into this new era.

Eye Thorns

Published April 26, 2020 by tindertender

Some folks get so upset!

Pointing outside themselves at everything that is wrong in this world, condemning those they feel to be at fault …

… Forgetting their own household is within this world they demonize.

Thinking they, and they alone have it “all together”.


Really Seeing Myself

Published March 18, 2020 by tindertender

I have roommates, two of them. One roommate in particular does not to pick up after himself in the kitchen. I’m constantly riding him about cleaning up when he’s finished.

Last night he warmed his leftovers. He offered to share, and I partook.

Later, I went into the kitchen to see pan and cookie sheet with food on them still on the stove. I hollered at him, “you going to clean up and put dishes in dishwasher?”

Several hours went by. I went to kitchen and dishes were still on stove. For a brief moment I was irritated and then I thought, wait a minute.

This man cooked dinner. He shared it with me. And then I hollered at him to clean up the mess?


I saw myself clearly. What an ungrateful wench I was behaving as! How dare I allow him to cook, partake in the meal, and then expect him to clean.

Am I a queen?

Well … yes.

Which is precisely why I woke him up and apologized for this unthoughtful behavior. How weird that I didn’t even notice what a twit I was being.

It’s these things, these habitual spoutings off without really thinking.

Aahhh coming fully conscious isn’t always pleasant, especially when you see the patterns which need altering.

This goes for all humanity. We get into patterns, habits, and then from there, we determine all other patterns are somehow faulty.


Acceptance is a difficult thing. Especially when we are used to always “being right”.

Own it.

The World At Your Fingertips

Published February 3, 2020 by tindertender

Shared by https://twitter.com/aug_tellez

It was not one or two that was infiltrated, but the entire society. The goal was total domination, not just local ‘enterprise’.

How you respond and utilize what you come to know, determines who you are to become.

Who you become is inevitable, we are only what we are capable of and this doesn’t change easily.

When we have been through enough, we choose to appreciate and accept that which we sought to avoid or ignore by fear of persecution or self doubt.

No one has it all. Each of you contains some benefit to Humanity that is inherent to your personality and must be brought forth and utilized to provide the collective cure to the lack of self awareness and self control.

Isn’t this interesting? The entire world is potentially here at your fingertips. What circle of social interaction do you contribute to and does that negatively influence others or assist in the mental liberation of Humanity?


Do not be among the living dead

Published January 27, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo: https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves; https://mariapalumbo.com/

Do not be a zombie that goes through bodies and hearts, with no intention of ever staying.

They look like everyone else, but there is an everlasting hunger.

This emptiness in the eyes that nothing can satisfy.

Yet they seem pretty independent. Even impressive with their ability to be “cool” and “not give a f*ck”, while eating hearts and what not, like it’s no big deal.

Just doing that zombie lyfe, brah.

There is a core fear here:

“If I stay, if I really give this a chance, I will lose. So it’s better not to risk anything.”

So they stay on the move. Seemingly sufficient and unattached, but really just pretty dead inside.

The brave thing is to be fully alive and not go around eating brains.




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