A friend died, and I want to be helpful to his wife, but I’m not sure what to do. I told her that if she needed anything to let me know. Of course, she thanked me, but it’s been a few days now and she hasn’t asked for anything. I don’t think she will. I feel so helpless. What should I do?
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Hey there, [Redacted]. Thanks for writing. I’m really glad your friend has you in her life.
I get it. Grief is a funny thing. It’s the time in our life when we most need help, and also the time when asking for help is so hard. Not because we are ashamed to ask for help, although that happens sometimes too. But mostly because our brain just sort of shuts down.
When my Dad died, I looked functional. But I wasn’t OK. Not at all. And when the news got out, the ton of people flooding me with calls, texts, and DM’s was overwhelming. I really couldn’t function. I sat on the swing in our yard and just stared into space. People called and asked what they could do to help. I had no idea.
“Well, anything you need at all, let me know, OK?”
“OK”.
They hung up. I stared into space some more.
I had no idea what to do. What I needed. I didn’t even know what to ask for.
Then a friend sent a text. This friend had met Dad once but didn’t really know him. But still, she knew I was hurting. I saw who it was and almost put the phone down without reading the text, but I saw the message and it stopped me:
Will you be home at 8:30 tonight?
What’s weird is this friend lives 12 hours away from me.
Yes, I replied.
“K.”
10 minutes later, she said, “Instacart will be there at 8:30. Open the door for them.”
“What?”
“Grief Groceries.”
When Instacart showed up, they put two large bags of groceries on my porch. Frozen pizzas. Ice cream. Oreo cookies. Tinned soup. Stouffer’s lasagna. A gallon of milk. Like that. Things I could heat up if I needed a meal, or pig out on if I needed fat and sugar. Sometimes, you just need to eat half a box of Oreos.
Notice she didn’t ask if I needed any food. I would have said no. She just asked if I would be home.
Grief groceries.
Another friend, who lives out of town, asked Renee to name a restaurant near our house where we like to eat. There is a local chain near our house that is sort of a deli. When we eat supper there, we spend about $25. Renee told her the name of the place.
An hour later, there was a gift card in my inbox for $250. Yes, that is a lot of money, and I understand not everyone can do that. But the wonderful thing was that because it was enough for multiple meals, we didn’t try to save it for “the right time”. We ate there that night, and take out from there several times a week for the next month on nights when I just didn’t have the spoons to cook.
Both of those gift-givers knew something I didn’t know – that when you are grieving, you don’t want to make decisions. No, that’s not quite it: You can’t make decisions. You hit decision fatigue really fast.
So, I guess what I’m saying is, don’t ask grieving people to make big choices or decisions. “How can I help” is a big choice. But “Can I take the kids this afternoon so you can have some time to yourself” is a much smaller one. “Will you be home tonight?” is a small choice. “What restaurant do you like” is a small decision. Just showing up to cut their grass because you noticed it needed cutting is loads better than asking, “Do you want me to cut the grass?” Or, “I’m going to Target. What can I get you while I’m there?” is better than “Can I run any errands for you?”
It won’t always be like this. If you stick around, eventually they will surface and ways to be helpful will make themselves known. But in the first few days, especially, it helps to remove as many decisions from their plate as possible.
Sometimes life tests us. Those who bring chaos and misery to our door are constantly knocking. Tires get flattened and in need of replacement. Someone shoots the dog with a BB gun. Someone hit and runs the car. Someone lies … and lies and lies … we are tested.
Today, rather than let this shady world get me down, I visited the Sun, and the beautiful garden it maintains with the help of humanity.
The entry
Rawr!!
Some pretty, pretty flowers
Check out these bonsais. One of them is 300 years old!
Humanity on Earth currently has 2-strand DNA in body cells. Light (information) is expressed through the medium of what we call consciousness, and this consciousness is encoded within the DNA. The +/- polarities in light are comparable to DNA-RNA, which could be described as the polarities of human consciousness. This is also the reason why human consciousness goes from light to darkness.
Through DNA Activation of 12 strands, 10 additional strands are activated in body cells. Additional DNA chains are magnetic and multidimensional in nature and cannot be detected by present scientific equipment.
We assume from the testing and the response that the changes initially occur in the ethereal body. These additional DNA strands trigger the countless number of cellular activity needed to transform our physical carbon body into a physical-eric crystal body and shift our energy fields.
It is said that 97% of DNA does not work. For countless people with an awakened consciousness, this numb material is seen as a living storage of data containing the instruction sets for our greatest human potential.
What is encoded within our secret vault is potential so vast that it leaves the perplexing mind thinking that something so deep could be so accessible. By simply changing our perceptions, entering a new way of defining our personal reality, we can overlap the carbon structure at the level of nucleic acid bases in DNA. Leading scientists are proving that genes and DNA don’t control our biology; that instead DNA is controlled by signals from outside the cell. This includes the energetic messages that emanate from our positive and negative thoughts.
The question here is that our thoughts and feelings directly affect our DNA. Positive changes in perception and new states of feeling trigger DNA activation. Also, when we consciously engage ourselves with the living intelligence of DNA, it gets primarily stimulated and begins to push out the greatest potential that is held within the latent code.
Just as we are merely sequences of a four letter code (ATCG), the basis of life is very simple. We change and transform all the time We are constantly redefining ourselves. With each one of these shifts of consciousness, we are literally changing our code.
We have the ability to change in the blink of an eye if we can really grasp these ideas and begin acting them out from full knowledge of our higher abilities. Our DNA programs are like snakes shedding old skin; we’re constantly shelling out old coding. These encodings are only stored prints that can be reprogrammed. As we change our perceptions, cellular biology changes. Our vibration raises and DNA base letters rearrange.
Everything on the planet is changing.
Electromagnetic currents are changing, magnetic fields are changing and many things are no longer being held in their familiar place. We are being unlocked! This brings a tremendous change to the biological body and the entire structure of our DNA encodement. It’s these additional DNA strands that trigger the change of our whole being into an Ascension Vehicle that will take us to the fifth dimension. This is why we said DNA and RNA are communication systems. It would be like DNA was the link to The Higher Self, Soul and RNA would be the soul response. Through this DNA renewal process, consciousness is brought to consciousness and intention is put into motion.
To strengthen the connection with your Higher Self, new attributes will be employed. You are in the process of changing a critical part of biology known to you as DNA.
This new model allows you to walk in full unison with your Higher Self at all times. Integration of the Supreme God-self physically.
We are the technology we were waiting for.
~ Author Unknown
There’s a reason this realm wants you in fear… it makes you easier to control.
Recently stumbled onto this and I’m all about Fulvic compounds now. There is immense untapped potential here for many individuals. Found a video that has comprehensive information about this here. It’s a 45min video but I’ve digested it and created some notes that I’ll share in this post.
Notes
All living things consists of 96% Carbon, Oxygen, Hydrogen. The other percentages are minerals.
Oxygen is important. – 4 mins without oxygen – brain dead. – 4-10s without oxygen – lose consciousness.
Every process in the body is dependant on oxygen. If we have low grade oxygen deficiency over a long time, an outcome is cancer. Immune system weakens, detox systems become inefficient, toxins build up. Overtime this leads to genetic mutation which is the basis of cancer. Cancer is an imbalance, not a germ.
This is where Fulvic compounds come in.
What is Fulvic acid?
They are mineral resources found in humic shale. Humic shale is the result of >75 millions years of humification. This is a process where organic plant material decompose and break down. It is essentially concentrated biomaterial.
4 Basic Functions of Fulvic Compounds
#1 It Is The World’s Strongest Chelator.
It turns insoluble mineral solutions into soluble solutions in water.
Binds to toxic metals like mercury and lead, and draws them into the body’s own detox system.
Acts like delivery man and garbage man. Two in one.
We are 96% oxygen, carbon, and hydrogen. The other 4% is minerals. Only needed in small amounts (they are dosed in micrograms), but they act like catalysts for all the reactions in the body. Fulvic acid has ALL of these 70+ minerals.
It is also a very small molecule. It is very easily absorbed by the body, crossing even the blood brain barrier. Something that many pharmaceuticals try to achieve artificially.
#2 High In Molecular Oxygen (Increases Cellular Electrical Voltage).
Molecular oxygen refers to available oxygen. Our body doesn’t just receive oxygen from breathing, you can get it also from the food we eat. Namely bioactive carbon complexes. These are carbon that carry molecular oxygen in them. Example: candy bar vs apple. Candy bar has spent carbon in it, oxygen levels very low. Apples (and living things) have high bioactive carbon complexes.
When you add molecular oxygen into the body, our oxygen concentration increases. This raises the voltage of our cells. We are electrical beings. Example, elite athletes, young children, and people with very high energy, they have high cellular voltage. Almost 5-6 times compared to people with conditions like cancer or degenerative conditions.
Example: Tree branch. If you stick it into the ground, it will grow. But if you plant a charred branch (a lot of carbon, but not bioactive) into ground, it won’t grow. It is spent, or inactive carbon.
#3 Enhancement Of Beneficial Microbes And All Enzymatic Functions In The Body.
Fulvic acid acts like a catalyst or spark to the engine. It takes 85 reactions for the heart to beat just one time! This is 60-70 times a minute in a normal person.
Liver has 56,000 known enzymatic function. It has 1,000-2,000 mitochondria in one liver cell. Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. They require high molecular oxygen to function. If oxygen level drops, so does mitochondrial activity. It is like a fire without oxygen, it can’t burn. When you blow on a dying flame, delivering more oxygen, it comes back to life. Brain, liver, nerve, muscle cells all have high energy requirements.
Fulvic acid
Delivers bioactive carbon and hydrogen to the mitochondria.
Antioxidizes the mitochondria so they can keep doing their job.
Remove waste from mitochondria so it can burn longer. It’s like a wood stove, if you don’t clean up the ashes (free radicals), it can’t burn as effectively. If too much ash accumulates, it snuffs out the stove. Eventually the stove dies, and when all the stove dies, eventually, the cell dies.
Sets up an environment for the beneficial microbes in the body to thrive. These are the oxygen eating microbes. There is a huge push now in the promotion of probiotics, even medicine is embracing this. So a lot of companies are selling probiotics. But if humans go to the moon, we die, not a good environment for us. Fulvic acid provides a conducive environment for the good bacteria to thrive. It sets the stage up for good bacteria to grow, and tears down the stage for bad bacteria.
If the detox mechanisms in the body don’t function well, all these toxic accumulation leads to cancer. Cancer patients don’t typically die from cancer, they die from toxicity. Fulvic acid is the garbage man that helps to take the toxins out of the body to prevent toxins accumulation.
#4 Massive Antioxidant Capacity.
Oxidation is the process of adding oxygen to something. Eg. When cutting metal, we use oxygen. By adding oxygen to metal, it dissolves and splits. Body uses oxygen in the process of eliminating toxins. When oxidation happens and releases too many free radicals, they start to cause damage.
Antioxidants come in to donate extra electrons to the free oxygen molecules. This keeps the cell stable so the process can be repeated again.
Fulvic acid not just deals with free radicals in the traditional sense. If that doesn’t work, it also steals the energy from that unstable molecule, and the free radical molecule collapses. This is unique to fulvic acid.
These are the 4 basic functions of Fulvic acid. It is used extensively by naturopaths around the world to aid in the detox systems of the body. Despite being so beneficial, not many people have heard of it because it is a difficult concept to explain to people hence it is not widely marketed.
Quick Summary – Fulvic Acid Basic Functions:
It Is The World’s Strongest Chelator
High In Molecular Oxygen (Increases Cellular Electrical Voltage)
Enhancement Of Beneficial Microbes And All Enzymatic Functions In The Body.
Massive Antioxidant Capacity.
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The Truth about your Ascension is you get to a point on your Ascension journey where the closest you want to be to anyone or any thing is to the Creator, the most high, the creative source of God, your connection to the highest divine realms, this will become your incredible and powerful driving force.
You will in time develop a very close connection to this supreme realm of light, and become very loyal and protective of it. As you are Sovereign beings, this is your true and authentic alignment. Your goal in your Ascension is to return to your original vibrational frequency and alignment.
You will prioritise it above all else, and this is our goal to release attachments and to stop attracting people with avoidant styles. In order to be a mirror to show us what we need to heal we are no longer being codependent with anything or anyone as we ascend it becomes the highest intention. Seeking the most high in self is what does connect you to source Light energy.
In order to achieve this, we have to strip layers of the false ego self, and this takes time as they are complex layers involved in your Ascension in each layer resides far more negativity and density to release. Healing and Ascension is in each and every layer.
It is the ego mind that thinks it must happen in a particular time and in a particular way and this is not true. As we are all unique, ascending beings are Complex in their own right and your fingerprint, is always the reminder of your uniqueness it resides in each and everyone of us however.
There are many commonalities and stages and steps along the way in Ascension that does apply to all of us, and these things all reside in the universal laws and how vibrationally aligned we are within these laws. This is what makes the difference when we go with the flow and we understand, the process takes the time it takes while we initiate into higher ascended aspects of self.
This is always a gradual process. It is more about the journey more than it is about the destination. The ego self is impatient, it is frustrated and what this does is trigger and activate in you what still needs to heal and clear, at times the ego will create distractions, such as avoidance, entertaining false perceptions as it avoids facing the deeper shadows.
When you think about how long the conditioned mind has taken to be corrupted, just imagine the time it’s going to take to eradicate the false beliefs in one self.
Ascension can be many things perceived as negative, this is the ego aspect wanting control, it shows all things of despair along the way with only brief intermittent moments of relief, it’s never fully satisfied or fulfilled and only seeks more for its own gratification.
It is not a faithful servant occupy your mind. Always Know who and what controls your mind, because if you don’t then something or someone else does know. Reclaiming all lost higher aspects of self is the goal along the way.
Beyond these veils of false belief resides the truth in all things, this is the seekers work, to seek the truth within self first. Regardless of how threatening this is to the ego. Acceptance in truth is the true freedom you are ultimatley striving for.
Without truth there is no ascension in any thing or anyone. It is the very key that opens the many doors of our minds to discover more and explore in more depth. The truth is Ascending Starseeds did not come here on Earth for a holiday. We did not come on this earth to have it always easy, we came to work. There is work in all things spaces and places beyond 3D reality.
Perceptions of what work is also needs to extend into your soul work as it is the most important investment you can ever make within self as a human and your Ascension on this planet is an example of liberating, self, of false beliefs and programming beyond the lowest version of self is the highest version of self, that we are all striving to attain and connect to this is the bridge we cross to the higher realms of creative source love, light, truth, honesty, loyalty, compassion, kindness, caring these attributes are high in value and this is found in self, without connection in self there is no going higher in any thing else, not in a true, authentic or genuine way.
Truth starts with you being honest in self without judgement or inner criticism to know more in self also means you must eradicate all that is not true or in ascension alignment.
The unlearning in your Ascension stages is far more important than the learning right now, because by removing all that is false, you are creating vast energetic spaces within your holistic being to allow truth and higher light source energy to enter in.
Ascending Starseeds Know that even when you feel you are not making progress, you are Infact making constant progress, beyond the realms of 3D reside Quantum fields of all creation, as we remove negativity and density from our corrupted blueprint, we then access these Conscious quantum fields. You are always making progress on your path.
The ego mind tricks us into believing our lives need to look like a constant holiday somewhere in the sun with nothing to worry about ever. This is a common trauma response in the wounded collective and in many. The rescuer must come to save us from others and ourselves. Always looking outside of our self for some kind of rescue or respite possibilities.
This is the resistance in self to mature as the ego self will always put up a fight and resist the changes.
Regardless as we ascend we over ride the lower Conscious influence in self and others. The truth is we are our own ancient, ancestor, healer, provider, master and much more. The ego aspects lingering and residing in the mind resists surrendering its control.
Ascension means connecting to our inner mastery, connection with God supreme energy means fully trusting this loving source to guide you, protect you, provide for you in all ways ever possible, just as a loving parent would not want harm to their children, your loving Creator wants only Love and the best for you. You were created in supreme Love and Light therefore why would your loving parent that loves you unconditionally want doom and disaster for you? Again this is the fear that wants to keep you in control. Ascension in self removes you from the paralyzing state Fear and anxiety keeps you in. This is what state ascending beings are in, removing the false fearful paradigm in self thinking, being and doing. Intentionally confronting and removing the fear from the template.
Unconditional love is exactly true in its essence of what the loving Creator feels for you. As you strip away the darkness in self you connect to this loving source. This is the ultimate goal in your ascension here on Gaia Earth.
The darkness in self will always hold you back from this experience as it is the absence of Light in all things that bring it all out of balance.
As you Ascend You are Recalibrating into your highest vibrational alignment to connect to your highest potential and reach the highest timelines possible.
Each time we experience shadow aspects in self and find ourselves in the darkest and shadows in self is most important, these steps cannot be rushed, allow all things good and bad, positive and negative in you to come up, face all and any fears because as you do you strengthen tremendously in self, you free your self from the control that fear has over you, one day and one step at a time leads you to the liberation of all that is false in self, others and in the world.
Ascension equals Soul Work and Soul work never ends, we are not linear, there is no beginning and no end…
We are the Alpha and the Omega and we are eternally ascending and evolving into more. Channeled to all Ascending Souls with Love.
Don’t ever wish for another’s pain in their heart to go away. Don’t try to fix or remove it, or hurry it away. Don’t wish for them to be just happy, over it; okay.
For this pain holds essential truth for them. It holds the very seeds of the healing their soul needs, even if they don’t consciously know that themselves. At some deep unfathomable level, in a place that’s unseen and unknown, a quiet wisdom is working away, sowing the necessary seedlings for that person’s soul’s next steps. Their pain IS the essential soil of that healing. So to wish it away or gone or over already, is to stop growth in its tracks.
Everyone’s soul works on its own time. It must never be hurried or denied. Honouring this simple yet profound truth is the best type of support you can give to someone in pain. To be a solid yet soft presence in their life, holding consistent attention and love for them, is the most “doing” you ever need to offer them as they journey forward at their own pace and in their own way.
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