You call it FREEDOM, but biology calls it FAILURE (a man can’t truly love two women and here’s why):
This isn’t about morality. It’s about biology:
The Y chromosome doesn’t lie. The vasopressin gene responsible for pair bonding – is embedded in a man’s DNA. The higher the level of this hormone, the stronger the instinct to attach, protect, and invest in one woman. It’s not a choice. It’s hardwired.
True alphas are monogamous.
Swans. Wolves. Eagles. All dominant males in nature choose one mate and fiercely protect their bond. Why? Because evolution eliminates the weak. Males who spread themselves thin produce weaker offspring and vanish.
Polygamy is a myth invented by the weak.
It’s not “male nature.” It’s a cowardly way to escape intimacy, depth, and emotional growth.
Real bonding rewires the male brain – activating the prefrontal cortex, the center for strategy, long-term planning, and protection.
Monogamous men are more powerful. They have higher testosterone, more dopamine in stable relationships, and greater emotional resilience. The ones jumping from woman to woman? Burnt out hormones, fried nervous systems, and a void they can’t fill.
Real strength lies in choosing one. The best one. The most worthy. And building depth over time. Collecting mediocrity is not “alpha” – it’s the move of an emotionally stunted boy afraid to grow up.
A If you can’t build with one woman – the problem isn’t human nature. The problem is you.
Monogamy isn’t a limitation. It’s a test of strength. And if you’re truly a man – you already know that.
1 – Delay your emotional engagement In military operations, rushing into action without intel is the fastest way to get trapped. The same rule applies in dating – don’t emotionally “invest” in the first weeks. Observe. Let the person reveal their consistency over time before you give them your trust.
2 – Run background checks in your own way.
Soldiers never walk into unknown territory without reconnaissance. In relationships, this means paying attention to how a man treats service staff, talks about exes, handles stress, and responds to “no.” These are your intel reports – not his promises.
3 – Use the “calm face” tactic.
Special forces are trained to show no emotional reaction to provocation. Toxic men feed on emotional highs and lows. If you stay calm, you rob them of the fuel they use to hook you – and you see their true character much faster.
4 – Test for long-term discipline.
A soldier’s value is measured in consistency, not charm. In dating, watch for a man’s ability to keep promises, follow through on plans, and show respect over months, not days. Toxic behavior rarely survives sustained observation.
5 – Keep your mission higher than the relationship.
In the military, the mission outranks personal feelings. In your life, your values, goals, and mental health must come first. When a man sees you won’t sacrifice them for his approval, you filter out the toxic ones automatically.
Falling for the wrong man isn’t bad luck — it’s a failure of early detection. Train your mindset, and you’ll never need to “fix” a broken partner again.
Pursuing a woman just to mistreat her after she finally lets you into her life is so pathetic.
You chased her. You said all the right things. You convinced her to let her guard down. To open up. To believe that maybe, this time, it was safe to trust. You made her feel chosen, wanted, prioritized… only to get comfortable and flip the script the moment she got close.
That’s not a man… that’s a coward in disguise.
Because it takes nothing to pursue a woman. A few sweet words. A little effort. A little consistency. But it takes character to actually love her right once you have her. To protect her heart. To stand on your word. To show up when it’s not convenient.
And if your plan was to just get her, break her, and then blame her for reacting to your disrespect… please understand, that’s not strength… that’s weakness.
She let you in. That was her being vulnerable. That was her trusting you with parts of herself she doesn’t share with everyone. That was her believing in something again… probably after being hurt before.
So to turn around and mistreat her after you asked to be there? That’s beyond selfish. That’s emotional manipulation at its finest.
What kind of man begs for access to a woman’s heart just to misuse it? Who fights for a seat at the table only to flip it over once he’s fed?
A woman is not a toy. She’s not something you conquer. She’s a whole human being with emotions, expectations, and standards. And if you knew you weren’t ready to honor her, love her right, or treat her with the care she deserves… then why show up at all?
Let me say this for the men who need to hear it: stop chasing women just to wound them.
Stop fighting for love you’re not emotionally prepared to maintain.
Because the pain you leave behind becomes her healing journey, and one day, she’ll be over it… but you’ll always be the reason she had to pick up the pieces.
So no… it’s not cute. It’s not harmless. It’s not “just how men are.”
It’s pathetic. It’s hurtful. And it’s a reflection of how little you value not only her… but yourself.
A few weeks ago I heard a masculine say to another, “That is my horse.”
It just came to mind again, so I googled what a horse might mean …
But first ~ The false telepaths who fancy themselves drivers of consciousness want folks to believe a person is no more than an animal, a commodity, a transport, from here to there, a work-horse which helps them complete task … this was part of the degrading verbiage the hidden interferers were pumping into the field of awareness during last Sunday’s mental attack as I was chopping wood in the forest.
What is a horse a metaphor for? The metaphor of the rider and the horse. The rider is your rational thinking, your mind. And the horse is your emotions, your energy, your power, the animal part of your nature.
What did the horse represent? In its earliest symbolic perception, the horse was disquieting and chtonian, but later became associated with the sun as a result of its domestication. It is most often a lunar animal linked to mother earth, water, sexuality, dreams, divination and the renewal of vegetation.
What is the spiritual meaning of a horse? The Horse symbolizes travel, stamina, adventure and intuition, embodying the spirit of freedom and the relentless pursuit of new horizons. Wild Horses, with their unbridled energy and desire to roam, remind us of the deep-seated need for exploration in our own lives.
And just now, I’m thinking of the 4 horsemen …
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, as described in the Book of Revelation, are four biblical figures who appear upon the unsealing of the first four of the seven seals. They are widely interpreted as representing Conquest, War, Famine, and Death.
Here’s a more detailed breakdown:
Conquest (or Religious Deception): The first horseman rides a white horse, symbolizing the conquering power that often precedes the apocalypse. Some interpretations also view this as representing religious deception.
War: The second horseman rides a red horse and is often depicted with a sword, representing war and conflict.
Famine: The third horseman rides a black horse, signifying famine and starvation.
Death: The fourth horseman rides a pale horse, representing death and pestilence.
Symbolism: The four horsemen are not just literal beings; they are symbolic representations of the chaos and suffering that will accompany the end times.
Some of you Suns and Stars are transport in this Spiritual Battle for Amazing and Skillful Holy Warriors from the Kingdom of the Most High … unseen … and you will not be falling, not this time. You Holy Steeds, whether you be a Stallion or a Mare, are Divine, and this is your Last Rodeo.
I heard the Divine state, “Lust will be your down-fall.”
When a warrior pays heed to the lustful energies they’ll be distracted, and someone may come along and steal their horse.
Be aware Family, whether you are the Rider or the Steed, be 100% present in all of your circumstances until the Most High Divine give the go-ahead, letting you know the war is over and it is time to relax and BE with one another. Don’t “jump the gun” or you may get shot.
Long ago, when the world was new, a tribe of red‐skinned people came to live on the lands around the Land of the Blue Mist – the Great Blue Smoky Mountains, Cherokee Country. At this time, the animals of the world still talked to men and taught them how to live on and care for the land. These people were called “Ani Yun Wiya,” or the One True People. In this tribe lived a brave warrior woman called Red Arrow Woman, who was taught to use the bow, the spear and the knife. Even though it was a man’s job to hunt and fight, Red Arrow Woman could shoot straighter with them, and she could throw the spear into eye of a hawk in flight. Because of all this, no man would tell her to be like a woman.
One day while on a hunt, Red Arrow Woman came upon the tracks of Yona the bear. She saw blood on the ground and knew he was wounded, so she followed his tracks. High into the mountains she went. Soon she came to a place that she did not know. It was in this place, a place known only to the animals that she finally saw Yona the bear. He had a deep cut in his side and she saw him bowing down in prayer. Red Arrow Woman saw him bowing toward a large field of tall grass and speaking words that she had not heard before. Suddenly, the grass shimmered and became a lake, and Yona dived into the water. After a time he emerged from the water, his side completely healed.
Yona approached her and said, “This is the sacred lake of the animals, called, ‘Atagahi’ and its location is known only to the animals. It is where we come for healing and strength. You are the first man creature to see the sacred lake. You must never tell your kind of its location for it is the home of the Great Uktena.”
After he said these words and left, Red Arrow Woman was tired and decided to rest a while by this lake. She built a small fire and sat down to eat a meal that she had brought with her, and as she took a drink of the water from the lake, she felt instantly refreshed. She felt strong as Yan’si the Buffalo, as if she could run faster than Coga the Raven could fly.
The woods were quiet: Unole the wind was sleeping, Nvda the sun was shinning bright but was not hot, and the surface of the lake was completely calm. Red Arrow Woman soon began to get sleepy. It was at this time that she saw Uktena, whom she had been told of when she was a child but no one in her tribe ever claimed to have seen him.
High above the water he raised his great Serpent Dragon head, the jewel in his forehead glistening. He began to move toward her. Red Arrow Woman grabbed up her spear and stood up to face the great creature coming to her, standing proud, showing no fear — the way any warrior should. She raised her spear and prepared to strike the huge beast.
Uktena stopped a short distance from her. He smiled, his mouth grinning larger than a man was tall and full of teeth longer than man’s forearm. He spoke to the brave woman on the bank of his lake. To her he said, “Put down your weapons for I mean you no harm. Uktena told her to sit and to listen. Uktena dipped his head below the surface and came back up a moment later. In his mouth he had a strangely crooked stick and a leather pouch, which he lay on the ground in front of Red Arrow Woman.
Then the Great Uktena began to teach. He said, “This that I have laid before you is the Sacred Pipe of The Creator.” He then told her to pick up the pipe. “The bowl is of the same red clay the Creator used to make your kind. The red clay is womankind and is from the Earth. Just as a woman bears the children and brings forth life, the bowl bears the sacred tobacco (tsula) and brings forth smoke. The stem is man, rigid and strong. The stem is from the plant kingdom, and like a man it supports the bowl, just as man supports his family.”
Uktena then showed Red Arrow Woman how to join the bowl to the stem saying, “Just as a man and a woman remain separate until joined in marriage so too are the bowl and stem separate. Never to be joined unless the pipe is used.”
Uktena then showed her how place the sacred tsula into the pipe and with an ember from the fire lit the tsula so it burned slightly. He told her this, “The smoke is the breath of the Creator. When you draw the smoke in into your body, you will be cleansed and made whole. When the smoke leaves your mouth, it will rise to the Creator. Your prayers, your dreams, your hopes and desires will be taken to Him in the smoke, and the truth in your soul will be shown to Him when you smoke the pipe. If you are not true, do not smoke the pipe; if your spirit is bad and you seek to deceive, do not smoke the pipe.” Uktena continued his lesson well into the night teaching Red Arrow Woman all of the prayers used with the pipe and all of the reasons for using the pipe. He finished just as the moon was beginning her nightly journey across the sky in search of her true love. He told Red Arrow Woman to wrap the pipe in red cloth, keeping the parts separate.
Uktena then returned to depths of the lake, telling Red Arrow Woman she would never again be able to find this place but she would remember all she learned. Red Arrow Woman saw the water shimmer and become again the field of grass. She left, taking with her the pipe and her lessons and a wondrous tale.
Ever since that time, The Ani Yun Wiya have used the sacred pipe and never again has any man seen the sacred lake of Uktena.
The pipe is not a symbol of things that are sacred. The pipe itself is sacred. Not everyone is called upon to be a pipe bearer. The person who carries the pipe and practices the pipe ceremonies and traditions has a great responsibility to his brothers and sisters, his land and country and even to the Earth Mother.
Someone with noble intent wouldn’t start a relationship by chit chatting about old wounds. (That’s called Trauma bonding). The shadow work, the healing hasn’t occurred, and will bring trouble in the connection.
Stages of Trauma Bonding
The seven stages of trauma bonding are: 1) Love bombing – the sudden, intense attempt to create a “we” in a relationship through high praise and excessive flattery 2) Trust & Dependency 3) Criticism 4) Manipulation & Gaslighting 5) Resignation & Giving up 6) Loss of Self 7) Addiction to the Cycle
Because the love-bombing first stage of trauma bonding is so intense, it quickly leads to the trust and dependency in the second stage. That foundation leads you to begin to agree with the abusive person in just about everything – including the abuser’s reasons for treating you badly. It’s like a type of brainwashing, where you don’t even realize that your beliefs about how you’re being treated are distorted.
33 years ago I was in relationship with an older man. We were together for 7 years, I thought we would be married … instead he had an affair and even bought her a house, he was bored with me.
At first, I was extremely hurt, angry, betrayed. I questioned my value, once again, as it was rejected by one I loved, once again.
I had to move out, I lost my job, my dog was murdered, and I became homeless, living in my car. It was an extreme low point in my life.
Beginning: I had deep love for a man who could not love me. Middle: I worked through my jealousy and hurt, found that love still existed in my heart for him. Present: He is my best friend, longest known friend, once lover, now brother, and guardian.
Love does not end, unless we choose to kill it. Even through betrayal and abandonment, if we can remember the love, nurture it even when our heart is breaking, the love will transform, become something else, different, yet still powerful.
When our heart breaks, it is only expanding … and trust me, I know how it can put one into a spiritual dark well, and it can take a long time to climb out into the sun once more …. but expand, you will.
If you have been betrayed, rise above it and remember the love. Never forget the love. Perhaps this one is not meant to be lover, but is more compatible as friend. And should they choose to walk away, release them …. it brought necessary growth, in disguise.
My longest known friend? He now considers me to be his best friend. And I’m living in the house he bought for the woman who interjected herself into my relationship. And she knows I’m living here …..
It does not pay to break up relations. It does no good on the karmic trail to cause heart break for a sister, or brother. It does not do any good for self to take take take from another. It only prolongs the suffering that must come from such actions.
Be aware. Take care. Remember the love, regardless of those who bring suffering.
The controllers of this world subliminally program minds to perpetuate situations of suffering. We must not allow them to maintain this control.
Remember the love, feed its memory.
Do not attach to the suffering, for it is you who generates the energy of sadness and it is you who are feasted upon by the energetic vampires when you do.
When a benevolent god or godlike figure chooses a lesser being to speak for them, their reasons for doing so will vary. Sometimes they’re not omniscient enough to work alone. Sometimes, they’re so alien they can’t talk well to humans. Sometimes, whatever they have to say will be more palatable or plausible coming from a fellow human. Sometimes, the emissary themselves is special in some heretofore-unknown way. Or, maybe the god just wants their calls screened.
Whatever the reason, the emissary will rarely be grateful for the honor. Fits of existential frustration and insecurity are common — after all, what need does a god have for a human? Emissaries may also fear that they’ve gone insane, or be subject to assassination attempts by jealous dogmatists. Sometimes the god is temperamental, or drags them far from home. Frequently, such stories are focused on the emissary’s cross-purpose yet friendly relationship with the divine.
Emissaries are usually Badass Normal, protected only by “coincidence” or magic on loan from their god. Incorruptible Pure Pureness is, of course, a job requirement. An emissary’s Mission from God, if they have a specific one, is always diplomatic—anything else is a last resort. They may be nominated to inform the populace that God Is Displeased, or that trope may result from an emissary being ignored. Unwanted False Faith can also be a related trope, when the emissary’s audience is unable to see the forest for the trees. Usually this trope happens to mortals, but can occasionally happen to an angel or other less mortal race.
Super-Trope for The Chosen One, since this emissary doesn’t have to be foretold or born for the mission.
Looks like this trope but isn’t:Mouth of Sauron (the spokesman for an evil deity or organization who isn’t empowered to act independently or speak their own mind), Pals with Jesus (when the god wants companionship, not an employee), Seers/Oracles (someone who can see the future, and may or may not receive that power from a deity), Symbiotic Possession ( the god wants a collaborator and won’t do full-blown possession lasting more than an emergency few minutes), and Witch Doctor (a ritualist who compels higher powers to help them, instead of the other way around).
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