The highest honor of friendship isn’t getting invited to “that party” or out on a girls weekend. It’s not clinking champagne glasses at fancy brunches or wearing matching shirts on a beach in Florida. That all is nice and fun and good and special, but it’s not what it’s about, not at all.
The real honor of friendship is being invited into someone’s REAL. It’s getting an invitation into the nitty gritty, the not-so-pretty, the hard stuff, the vulnerable stuff, the weird stuff, the unpolished stuff. It’s being welcomed into a home where the sink is full of dishes and the laundry is covering the couch. It’s entering the places of heart ache and pain. It’s being invited to the hospital room when your friend is still in her mesh underwear from birth. It’s sitting crosslegged in old sweats on the floor and laughing till you cry. It’s carrying around secrets that you’ve been trusted to keep. It’s listening and hearing. It’s holding space for each other. It’s answering phone calls just to talk something through.
The highest honor of friendship isn’t found in beautifully planned events or brightly filtered photos. The highest honor of friendship is messy and dingy and real. It’s in unfiltered photos of laughing so hard your double chin is showing. It’s loving each other’s babies and holding each other while you ugly cry.
I can’t stress this enough: If you’ve been invited into even one person’s real, you are blessed.
“After leaving out of the store today my daughter did something that really made me stop and think. There was this guy sitting there crying and she asks me ‘did you see that man crying? What’s wrong with him?’ I said yes but I’m not sure maybe he’s just sad…
She said, ‘maybe he’s hot and thirsty’ she walked over to him and goes ‘hi sir be happy it’s a nice day it’s not raining. Are you hot? Why don’t you go home the ground is dirty?’ He says I have no home but I will be ok.
She looked at him with the saddest face and goes ‘so that means you’re homeless. So you have no food because you have no refrigerator.’ She gave him a few dollars out of her purse and her drink and said, ‘Please go eat. It would make me happy. I like McDonald’s you should go there.’
I could tell she made his day. On top of that 2 more people came up and gave money as well.
We had a small conversation and he explained his trailer burnt down and he lost everything including his wife. I felt for him. It just warms my heart. A 6 year old lead by example this morning.
AWESOME!
Kids see no color and that’s exactly how it should be. It’s not just a statement saying that the children are our future, it’s a FACT. That gives me a little more hope for the world.”
From time to time, people tell me, “lighten up, it’s just a dog,” or “that’s a lot of money for just a dog.” They don’t understand the distance traveled, the time spent, or the costs involved for “just a dog.”
Some of my proudest moments have come about with “just a dog.” Many hours have passed and my only company was “just a dog,” but I did not once feel slighted.
Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by “just a dog,” and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of “just a dog” gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.
If you, too, think it’s “just a dog,” then you will probably understand phrases like “just a friend,” “just a sunrise,” or “just a promise.”
“Just a dog” brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure and unbridled joy.
“Just a dog” brings out the compassion and patience that makes me a better person.
Because of “just a dog,” I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me and folks like me, it’s not “just a dog” but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.
I hope that someday they can understand that it’s not “just a dog,” but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being “just a man/woman.” So the next time you hear the phrase “just a dog,” just smile–because they “just don’t understand.”
Those of us old enough to remember when the phone was wired to the wall, usually in the kitchen, can relate to this story. I loved this read.
When I was a young boy, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember the polished, old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked to it.
Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person. Her name was “Information Please” and there was nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone’s number and the correct time.
My personal experience with the genie-in-a-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy. I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway.
The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. “Information, please,” I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.
A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear.
“Information.”
“I hurt my finger…” I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.
“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.
“Nobody’s home but me,” I blubbered.
“Are you bleeding?” the voice asked.
“No, “I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”
“Can you open the icebox?” she asked.
I said I could.
“Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger,” said the voice.
After that, I called “Information Please” for everything. I asked her for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.
Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called, “Information Please,” and told her the sad story. She listened, and then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not consoled. I asked her,
“Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?”
She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly,
“Wayne, always remember that there are other worlds to sing in.”
Somehow I felt better.
Another day I was on the telephone,
“Information Please.”
“Information,” said in the now familiar voice.
“How do I spell fix?” I asked
All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston . I missed my friend very much.
“Information Please” belonged in that old wooden box back home and I somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.
A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about a half-hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, “Information Please.”
Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well.
“Information.”
I hadn’t planned this, but I heard myself saying, “Could you please tell me how to spell fix?”
There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, “I guess your finger must have healed by now.”
I laughed, “So it’s really you,” I said. “I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time?”
“I wonder,” she said, “if you know how much your calls meant to me. I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls.”
I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.
“Please do,” she said. “Just ask for Sally.”
Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered, “Information.” I asked for Sally.
“Are you a friend?” she said.
“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.
“I’m sorry to have to tell you this,” She said. “Sally had been working part time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago.”
Before I could hang up, she said, “Wait a minute. Is your name Wayne?”
“Yes.” I answered.
Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you. The note said,
“Tell Wayne there are other worlds to sing in. He’ll know what I mean.”
I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.
Never underestimate the impression you may make on others. Whose life have you touched today?
I just woke saying … and then I had to walk thru fire.
What the heck? Someone quizzing me on my capabilities?
Who am I?
All my life I have lived fully transparent, wearing my emotion, my strength, and my weaknesses in their fullness for all to see. I’ve never shrunk my experience to make others more comfortable. I’ve lived it with its intensity, in its rawness, in it bigness.
I requested that the archangels keep my subconscious self and all that dwells there private from the violator, protecting the identities of those friends and family I commune with in the astral.
Perhaps it was friends and family inquiring about my prelife training and skills.
Even tho I requested these things remain private from the violator, it would not surprise me if they had developed a way to see thru this veil. And even if they have … I will still live fully authentic and transparent.
I am right here. I am not hiding, nor am I being sneaky in any way. I am who I am .. whoever that is… hahaha
The card pull … And descriptions “right from the book”.
The Emperor ~ The Empress reflected sensuality and the creative principal while the Emperor balances Empress energy with rules and foundation. He gives form and shape to the Empresses expansive nature. The Emperor holds an ankh, the Egyptian symbol of immortality. The globe in his left hand reflects his dominion over the natural world. The astrological symbol of Aries is represented by the Ram placed on his throne. He surveys his domain. The Emperor is where your habits and patterns are formed. Father. Order. Authoritarian, firm, masculine nature. Strong and assertive. Setting limits and rules. Type A personality. Formation and stability.
Temperance ~ Archangel Gabriel, the Messenger angel is depicted on the card. He bears the sign of the sun on his forehead. It is also the alchemists symbol of gold. Temperance and the Moon card balance each other under different circumstances. This card reflects the change of seasons and the embrace of new ideas. “Temper” is the act of repetition to invoke skill or to refine something, make sharper like a sword. Alchemy. Blending and harmonizing oppositional forces and concepts. Holding opposing ideas and fostering complexity in life. Fusion producing evolution.
Wheel of Fortune ~ The universal and spiritual world in a constant state of flux. Clouds in the corners of the card reflect manifestation while the creatures on the corners reflect the four elements and the four cardinal directions. The spikes of the wheel carry alchemical symbols; mercury, sulfur, and salt and the astrological sign for Aquarius, while the Latin word for “wheel”, Rita is inscribed. Life in an ever-changing state. Keep your eyes in the center, find a steady focal point to keep you grounded no matter what life throws at you. Ancient symbol of fate, fortune and destiny. Forces of time and space. Energy and motion. Life cycles, ups and downs.
Women – Do you unconsciously hold the energy of others in your ovaries? Breasts? Butt? How did it get there? Here’s a tool to begin to clean it out, heal it and return to balance.
Men – What is your experience of this changing dynamic?
Unconscious patterning … absorbing “others” opinion about our body parts and “storing” that thought and the emotion behind it in our body … in our mind.
Release all of it … “you are okay”.
Take back your Power … Adopt a daily ritual of cleansing the attached energy (thoughts and feelings), the opinions of others.