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Several Ways To Do It

Published May 16, 2018 by tindertender

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Eating isn’t always the easiest thing. Meals often require chopping and boiling or frying and baking. It is tempting to just throw a bunch of fruit and vegetables into a blender and drink the meal raw. Depending on how involved you get, the blender method can actually be much more nutritious. Complexity makes for an enjoyable form of gaining nutrition, sharing meals with friends and family, whereas the quick gets the job done, but is less pleasurable.

Life sometimes involves shortcuts. Rather than take the time to thoroughly explain what we are thinking, abbreviations are used and we wonder why no one understands. When listening, often we hear what we want to hear, picking and choosing certain phrases from the conversation and focusing on them, rather than the entirety of the what is being said. This too leads to misunderstanding and can create a negative emotional charge … or quite the opposite, when in fact we’ve missed the truth of what is stated.

Is it laziness, or lack of interest? Have our minds been chemically altered to produced apathy?

The skies are often filled with sprays which fall to the earth and waters. Scientists have reported that the foods we eat can be programmed to become edible ‘vaccines’. What are we really eating nowadays? We do not even know for certain, and testing is expensive. The average person will not be able to afford to find out, and if they can afford it, have no idea what to test for.

Mix whatever is being put into the soil, sucked up by the plants and fed to us, with wireless communication (microwaves), and you have disaster … all done while we watch the television and play with our phones.

Yes … I think apathy is bred … and people eat it up, much due to no choice, especially in todays world of secret agendas by government and sects of it.

Damages done … are the people willingly and naturally harming each other and their surroundings, or are the foods, medication, and sound frequencies programming them to behave in a certain manner? How many people actually care enough to think about it and begin investigating?

The Duty We Owe One Another

Published July 10, 2017 by tindertender

Bill Clinton Apology to human experiment victims.

It’s no wonder we hardly speak to each other

Published July 3, 2017 by tindertender

Tip toe, afraid to speak what is in the heart. People are very sensitive, often hearing what they will, and not what is said, or intended. An honest person, meaning no harm whatsoever, gets attacked and lashed out at for what the hearer deems behind the meaning, or between the lines. It is so hard to be understood nowadays, for the pain which is inside folks reflects and mutates what others say.

It is no wonder we hardly speak to each other any more.

The ability to have a conversation without getting our feelings hurt and becoming defensive is rare in this world. It is common to “not” listen to anything other than what we tell ourselves, every day, and when we “think” we hear a hint of it coming from someone elses mouth, the hackles come up and anger sets in … fight mode begins.

The art of listening is nearly obsolete.
It is a hard practice.

The truth is, everyone is entitled to their views, and they will most likely, always be different than our own. People do not need to change their views to match our own, and being different does not make the difference wrong, or any less important.

The need to be right is overblown, the need to judge is something so many find too comfortable a habit.

Looking at our own stuff is hard.

If I say, “That lady is so insensitive” I must also ask the question, “Am I being insensitive?”.

If we do not practice this form of thinking, things will not change for the better, in fact they will continue the spiral to hell.

Negative words hurt

Published May 22, 2017 by tindertender

I wake this morning with the words of those who supposedly love me rolling around in my mind.

No body likes you.
You have nothing nice to say.
No one will ever want to live with you.
You have no friends.
The same bitch keeps coming home.

I’m curious if any of these people know what they have planted in my mind, if they even care that these are the words and actions that are attempting to create a personal belief system.

I must distance myself from these types of communications. Honestly, when we speak to each other do we consider the seeds we plant in the mind? These words spin in thoughts even after they are said, they live there in the mind far after.

Words hurtOften when we hear things such as this the reaction is one of defense. We may even follow it up with something equally, or even more so, brutal. We may find that we get involved in the word play that tears at a persons heart and self esteem.

These types of words, these communications which roll around in the mind long after they are said, are the type of things that grow self loathing and self doubt. These words are much of the cause of self harm. I hope that those who speak them are not aware of what they do, for if they are and they do it purposefully, then they are consciously working to promote suicide and pain in others, and that dear people, is simply not a good thing.

This pattern must be broken.
Humans have lived with this sickness for a very long time.
Until we recognize it, we will not be able to repair it.
Reversing the damage is an “all people” involved necessity.
If there is nothing nice to say, then at least we can stop saying anything.
The cycle needs to stop.

I do hope that it can be done.

Commentary on Isaiah 49:1-7

Published April 10, 2017 by tindertender

By Amy Oden

God wants to talk to you

As always, it’s important here to state the big story at work in Isaiah in order to grasp the power of Isaiah’s proclamation in chapter 49.

God’s people have been defeated, their temple destroyed. They are taken in chains to Babylon, alienated from their land and their God. This exile is a crisis of identity and faith. Are they still God’s people? How can they worship in this foreign land?

Into this crisis, Isaiah speaks a word of hope in these chapters. God will send a servant who will do justice. Indeed, it appears that much of second Isaiah (chapters 40-55) addresses the return of the Israelites to their homeland and the promise of a restored temple and nation. The disorientation of exile is replaced by a new orientation that is more than just returning to the way things were before exile. God has something much more in mind.

Isaiah shouts this news from the rooftops. If the first verse were an online blog, it would be in all caps. He has a message not for Israel alone, but for the whole world, even “you peoples far away” (verse 1). And this message is from God: God has raised up a servant, one hidden and unknown, a nobody. God has made this servant the instrument of God’s glory (verse 3).

From Rahab to David to Mary, the story of God’s people is full of unlikely servants raised up by God. This is a recurrent theme in scripture, and we want to notice it here. The servant is called while still in the womb, hidden and invisible. The Lord hides the servant “in the shadow of his hand” and “in his quiver” (verse 2).

In this case, the servant, too, is hidden even from himself as an agent of God. The servant stands disbelieving in the face of God’s call, blinded by self-condemnation to God’s purposes. He confesses a life “labored in vain,” spent “for nothing and vanity” (verse 4).

God acknowledges as much in verse 7, agreeing that this servant is “one deeply despised, abhorred by the nations, the slave of rulers.” This servant, first invisible and then despised, will nevertheless be recognized by the powerful, by kings and princes, because the Lord, “the Holy One of Israel, has chosen you” (verse 7). For the preacher this is a great opportunity to talk about how God calls unlikely servants and, perhaps more importantly, how often those servants do not recognize themselves as such.

God has a direction this story is going, insistently toward the restoration of Jacob, “the survivors of Israel” (verse 6). The decades of exile produced a diaspora with tribes scattered from Mesopotamia to Egypt, trying to scratch out a life. God’s purpose is to “raise up the tribes of Jacob” (verse 6), “that Israel might be gathered to him” (verse 5). God intends for Israel to be restored as a people with one another and with God. Their exile is not the end of the story.

We can imagine this proclamation falling on the ears of Israel with a sigh of relief. And if this passage was only about restoring Israel, that would be impressive enough within the dramatic narrative of Babylonian exile. But wait, there’s more! God doesn’t get stuck there.

This passage moves from the very particular and powerful deliverance of Israel to an even larger mission. In an astonishing phrase God says that this restoration of Israel is “too light a thing” (verse 6) in and of itself. God’s people do not exist for themselves alone, nor is their restoration an end in itself.

God gathers God’s people into God’s life for one purpose: the salvation of the world. God charges Israel, God’s servant, to be “a light to the nations, that my salvation may reach to the end of the earth” (verse 6). God takes seriously the particular historical moment of Israel in exile and God doesn’t get stuck in that particular historical moment. Just as exile isn’t the end of the story, neither is restoration.

The long arc of God’s story points toward the restoration of all creation. “The Holy One, who has chosen you” (v. 7) calls Israel to inhabit not only its homeland, but its identity as God’s blessing for the world.

God doesn’t get stuck in the tidy resolutions to our crises that we think end the story. We often believe that if things turn out okay, the story is over. If the church makes budget, then “whew, thank God, that was close!” If we get through a health scare, we are humbled and grateful.

Yet God is not done. These so-called endings are beginnings, each a new horizon of possibility. Not for ourselves alone, but for the world God loves.

Restoration of individuals, or churches, or even of an entire people, is never only about that. God’s healing work moves outward, always expanding toward eschatological fulfillment, “that my salvation may reach the end of the earth” (verse 6). God’s story is always bigger than ours, holding our stories within God’s life and weaving them into the wide-open future.

Earth Defenders Speak Out

Published March 11, 2017 by tindertender

Indigenous women from around the world meet to share their solutions to climate change.

This destruction has been happening for a very long time. Terrorists have been lurking in the shadow, slipping us lies and manipulating our right to the knowledge of what they intend, and what they do. They sweep it under the rug and tell us it is good for the people. We’ve been hearing otherwise for years. We see the truth, if we are not afraid, or too stubborn, to look.

Mothers, who birth life and nurture it into love in many forms ~ their voices limited and ignored. Women wish for life to continue in a harmonious manner, their desire to bring life into being is strong.

They stand. They stand for this earth which supports our lives, giving so much. It is time to still the incessant pillaging of the resources, and be smart, not brutal.

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