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Sharing Is Caring

Published December 3, 2018 by tindertender

The tavern, bar, pub – whatever you call it, wherever you are, it is a place of sorrow, loneliness, anger, frustration and pain wearing a mask of happiness. I know, for I spent some time there, surrounded by others who were experiencing what I was also.

It seemed that life was a series of running to the edge, pushing limits as far as possible, testing them to see just how far I could go without going over the edge, until I did. At that time I met many others who had transitioned and were still in such a place, in shadows. They were seeking help to be free of it. I sat with them and asked them to explain why they were there, and the answer came from one with authority, “Because they are too bad”.

I’ve been thinking of this recently, examining my own life. Often when people find themselves trapped in the cycle of cruelty, receiving it, or giving it, it is because they themselves are suffering and in pain. Most will never admit it if they dare to look deep into their hearts, they’ll instead act tough and continue the cycle, creating hurt wherever they go, sometimes not even aware they are doing it, it becomes second nature.

Alcohol … it is poison and is only good as a disinfectant, or use in making tinctures for medicine in combination with nature’s finest herbs. It was never meant to be utilized as has become the norm. At least this is my inner conclusion when I sit with my senses.

I also understand that those in these places, on earth and in the shadow land, for the most part are not bad people, or spirits. They are suffering, a pain that cannot be comprehended for they are too close to it for understanding. Often it is a trauma that either takes their life and sends them beyond, or snaps their minds out of the cycle so they are able to see clearly once more, or at least then have opportunity to study the past and work toward making sense of the experiences.

Atoning for pain sent into the world … how does one do it? I compare it to all of the cigarette butts I threw out as a smoker. Young, never understanding the concept of biodegradable … heck, that word only recently came into my awareness, within the last decade. When I walk in the forest and see them I pick them up, one by one, and hope that I’ll be able to pick up as many, and hopefully more, than what I threw out over time, garbage too … cups, wrappers …

This is the time to prove to myself, and any benevolent spirits who are watching, that I can be as good at creating peace and loving and compassion in this world as I ever was at creating turmoil. My hope once again is that I will create more loving memories and good feelings than I ever did the opposite, being a powerful contributor for positive experience for all.

There is indeed much suffering in shadow land while they continue to live in the cycle they left behind on this earth. The good thing is there is still opportunity to make choice, to set the beer down, to remain in the corner and just watch … rather than participate. And hopefully there will come a time when they will be able to walk out of that dingy place into the light of day, warm, and free.

There needs to be an overall healing of soul before this can happen. Admitting there’s an issue, seeing it for the first time, studying the behaviors, what caused them in the first place and learn how to undo the knots that were tied in the heart of spirit. The desire to change must come first, usually preceded by a tiredness of hearing oneself say and do the same old things, over and over again, having the same experiences.

Of course there will be those who cannot face the trauma. They have felt alone their whole existence and buried their sorrow in drink, or in drug, or some other thing that took the mind off that pain. Too often people replace pain with a different pain, rather than doing the hard work to heal.

Sure it’s easy to shout out and blame someone else, it is easy to snarl and frown and throw our pain in the face of others, too hurt and immersed in the core of it to notice or care that we are potentially putting others where we currently stand … and then they too will need to try and climb out of that pit. Exacerbation … continuing cycles … of our choosing.

I ask Spirit why they kept saving me, why is it so important that I remain living. It could be that I needed to find my way, to share the experience and perhaps help someone who is looking for a way out themselves.

Talk is talk, I can share my experience but whoever wants betterment must walk the walk, no one can walk it for them. I am still on my own journey.

Oh yes, I’ve experienced what some call ‘tough love’ and I’ve also experienced a lack of love, and fortunately through it all there has been support, mostly from the unseen. You can say I have a family so big even I am unaware of its vast nature, or you can say it is my inner fortitude. Either way, whatever way, if it is not hurting anyone, including yourself, and if it works, giving you strength to rise, it is perfect.

Negative self talk: it begins with others views and opinions of us. We hear them and we may believe them, or not. If not, and the same criticisms are repeated enough, it becomes rote, the little pathways in the mind are set. The memories of the words live there and repeat, and repeat, and repeat. Depression or anxiety or complete self destruction can occur, a breakdown.

These words, these memories of what others have told you, they do not belong to you … release them, give them to your ancestors who have come before you, anyone who you know loves you in the Spirit realms, or send them back to the people who gave them to you.

Retrain your mind. When a memory of drama or trauma begins to spin in your consciousness, recognize it, acknowledge it, and determine what it is you will allow to be there. Override that memory with something beautiful, positive, supportive and loving. Every time … do this, and you will find that the old ‘thought highways’ in your mind disappear and new paths are made, ones you’ve personally chosen, ones that affirm and support the Divinity in you. Claim your Sovereignty.

Habits are learned through training. We accept them from others, we incorporate them into our life trying to ‘fit in’ or ‘gain approval’, perhaps searching for that which we’ve never had before. Habits are also meant to be broken, every single one of them. In so doing we train our mind (some call it ego). We let it know that our higher consciousness is in charge and will only allow what is personally deemed acceptable.

Honestly, I know it’s hard, seemingly impossible. Many have died without even trying, or without even being aware of the possibility to lay claim to their own authority.

You are the only one you will spend the rest of your life with. Become the love of your life, not in arrogance, but as someone who is cherished as the most important being in your world. From this place, a great gift of compassion can be shared with others.

It is not an easy task. Some quit, thinking it easier to drown out the pain with substance. But it is so worth it … gift yourself, yourself. Love you like you deserve to be loved, like you have always deserved to be loved. Fill up your heart and mind so full of this love that it spills over into the world … it is going to be so beautiful! You’ll be amazed at what begins to show up in your life when you’ve done this work.

Memorable Sound

Published October 18, 2018 by tindertender

I had the blessing of attending one of Matthews sound baths last night. There is something about a mans voice when he sings, and the sound of Matthews voice is quite wonderful. I love that he tones, and does not use words to muddle the ‘message’.

While there I met 2 friends from the town I once lived in, they drove an hour or so to be there. I also met 2 friends who live nearby, they were there facilitating entry. It was very nice to see 4 of my friends at this small gathering. Just goes to show the ‘world’ in which I belong and participate in, and the circle of friends who do as well.

Honing Senses While Blinded

Published August 7, 2018 by tindertender

Water, clear, covering sand slightly. It moves to and fro as the tide moves, ripples appear across the sand as it too moves with tide.

Blind, she walks though life building her senses. She learns to see, even without eyes. She listens intently, she stills her own mind as she observes the flow.

There are those who understand fully, as she comes into comprehension. They stand by, patiently waiting for her to bloom.

As the earth, and so many dwelling here suffer, she is amazed at the numbers who are still unable to look past their own experiences, seeing the whole. She understands there is so much more to consider than her own discomfort.

She pulls her thoughts from those who would possess them. She claims her attention, and places it where she determines it will go, and not where others would pull it.

Photo by Bryan Goff

Glorious being, you see now more clearly than ever before. They thought they had blinded you by taking your sight, by numbing your senses, but you only grew in your ability to feel. The inner knowing of you has begun to shine brightly, piercing through the darkness they wrapped your mind in.

Your beauty glows like the stars of the night, embraced by the moon, guiding all in need of you, showing them the way while they still cannot see. Your steadiness is a beacon for them, and it ignites their inner fire allowing them to assist in the lighting of the path once it is known to them.

Your strength and courage on this journey has assisted so many, grateful are all who experience your presence, even while they sometimes deny it.

Thank you.

Flying High

Published July 27, 2018 by tindertender

Drama can be extremely tiring! I wonder why so many people wish to instill the feeling of inadequacy and insufficiency in others. Could it be they are damaged and must try to tear down the world around them?

Overcoming doubt is not a challenge for the faint of heart. A fierceness must be lived, but in balance with a gentleness which can only be ‘cured’ by the experience of dismay and disappointment.

How does one unbind the self?

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Photo by Daniel Curran

Shedding beliefs that have been embedded in the psyche isn’t easy. Words spoken by others play in the mind like an old worn out record, memories fade but never really disappear. For most of us what we hear about ourselves plays over and over, so often, that one day it may be mistaken for an actual personal thought or belief.

From my perspective, the best way to ‘combat’ living memories which spawn emotional charges is to counter them with positive responses, new phrases created by self. I have challenged these memories which have lived in my mind for so long and am pleased to notice clean thoughts of my inner house are multiplying while the ‘others’ fade.

Balance is coming along nicely and I plan on enjoying every minute of it. Of course there are moments which spring up where the emotional energies are a bit amped. But right away, or nearly so, it settles and an even flow remains. Maybe this is the true work of humans in life … Learning to manage the flow of energies while in the densest of forms … for once this form changes, the spigot will be in the ON position, all the time.

Too often humans are willing to embrace and absorb anything negative, however when something of a positive nature crosses the path, it is met by a blockage in the consciousness. Walls are constructed everywhere … in the mind, between countries, in our languages (communication). A great effort must be made to soften and become open and receptive to all things which align with love.

Gifting each other gentleness which requires no return is a natural skill we brought with us when we entered this world. Something dwelling here sets about stripping this purity from the memory, and usually doesn’t take long to set up camp, constructing more of the same destructive mechanisms … planting them in the brain, over-riding the original message we came with.

Living in this environment is not for whimps … and none of us are, for we have prevailed against some very strong forces and are beginning to shine so brightly once again.

Pause, and enjoy this truth as you study your experiences of the last 10 or 20 years and more. Remember, there is always time to take the next step, to grow seeds of peace, to unite with others on similar paths. Sharing wisdom and courage and strength with each other will help everyone involved realize their potential quicker.

Potential … what do you see when you think of that word? Are you envisioning something as big as the world, beneficial for all? Have you learned to see as the eagle does?

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Photo by Mathew Schwartz

Fate … Or Destiny?

Published July 26, 2018 by tindertender

Did you know you came here for the distinct purpose of
bringing calm to the world?

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Photo by Samuel Zeller

Your gentle presence brings soothing to angry hearts and minds. Your journey thus far may have been one in which you retreated to center and built solid relations with Spirit, learning to trust the inner voice of wisdom, and the messages that come with it.

You have tendency to rejoice in the success of others. You’re true to your inner self, clean and pure, and give credit where credit is due.

When it seems like you’re spinning wheels, getting nowhere, remember … you do not have to sacrifice anything on the alter of pride. The past may have cast long shadows over your life, but there’s still time to move toward the new dawn.

Stay clear. You must stay calm in the face of irritation. Stay on course through the storms of life.

Give freely, and undoubtedly, you will receive. You are able to fulfill your life’s ambitions. Instinctively you are in the right place at the right time. Wisdom controls your five senses and helps you to perfect good deeds.

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Photo by Miguel Bruna

It can be tempting to just let emotion rage unchecked. Yet, by now, you are fully aware the affect of living this method. It is chaotic … and not in line with the purpose of bringing peace to life.

Early on, you may have been self-centered. Life probably kicked you a few times, even when you were already down. These experiences were necessary to show you how much strength you possess, and when you finally (if you have not already) begin to see outside your own experiences, you will see those same experiences in others.

You have knowledge and practice on how to lift the gloom, and utilize energy in the most efficient manner to bring good, and harmony, for self and for others. You are a much needed way-shower, living and teaching by example.

While many cry out, “This is my fate and there is nothing I can do about it”, You know full well that Destiny is in the palm of our own hands, and our creation. You also have the skills and experience to show others this truth.

Thank you, for being you. 
Thank you, for sharing your sturdy acquirement with us all.
Your gifts are like rippling waters, and will reach many.
Good medicine.

Love Liberates, Synchronicity Follows

Published July 11, 2018 by tindertender

Just yesterday I mentioned to my co-worker how I would love to see Phantom of the Opera on stage before I die. I came home to work on plans for my vacation coming up and the main point of the vacation fell through. While upset, I continued looking and lo and behold Phantom of the Opera is on stage at the theater in the town I will be in at the time!! Someone is always listening and conspiring alignment on our behalf.

Heart, Brain, Body flow. Humans are always struggling to follow their own heart. Often they instead wind up taking the advice and direction from others. Being in touch, and in sync, with the unseen provides energetic support we would not receive otherwise … disconnect creates spiritually dead situations. Practicing the perception, building knowledge of the senses, is such an important step in creating harmony.

steve-halama-558233-unsplash.jpgFinding love over and over again means you will also lose it. This is how the heart grows. Staying in relationship requires ALL of ones self, and the ALL of ones self must be accepted in this relationship, otherwise, if a portion of our self is left outside we are not whole and cannot properly grow.

Unless we cannot breathe, or are bleeding, there is no real urgency. Relax into the days situations and remember to practice your conscious breathing. If you do not open your heart, existence will crush you. If you don’t meet the world where you are, the world will crush you.

The heart is the seat of the soul, the essence of who we are. The power of the heart is the power of life itself, the power of the Divine Universe. Opening the heart may require release of the things given you … the car, the house, everything. Face fear.

The longest journey you’ll make in life is from the head to the heart. When actions contribute something vital to the world, then abundance flows.

Sit down, cry and suffer. You are allowed to. Learn not to deny your pain. Learn to ‘let beauty in’ while you are suffering. Learn to distinguish the clarity, the truth not covered by hate or jealousy or fear.

Is there really one god-man as Savior? Or is it the many who come together as One People, connected, working for the whole in benefit for all, who is the Savior of this world? Seek those who desire the harmony you wish to create.

If you do not know what to do, do nothing, breathe. Four to five second in-breath, don’t hold it, followed by a four to five second out-breath … even flow.

Everybody is a child but the child is hidden. We forget the child, we think the child has forgotten too, but NO. “Hello!” the child says, “I am here! Listen to me!” Being childish and self centered reduces our world. Being child-like returns us to wonder.

Synchronicity, as I mentioned at the beginning of this post, is not merely a coincidence, it is a miracle of Divine Connection, be open to it. This is not an accidental Universe. Pay attention to the in-between moments, breathe in inner-appreciation.

The heart is my Guru. Follow your aliveness not to become, but to be brought alive. Love is everywhere we choose to create it … we are the change that this world needs.

The Days Experience

Published July 1, 2018 by tindertender

On the way to Salem to enjoy the World Beat Festival I stopped at the rest area. There was a woman there with a sign and a starving dog. Literally every bone in his body could be felt when I petted him although one couldn’t tell by looking, he was fluffy. I used the restroom and came back out gifting her a few dollars. I saw she had a little zip-lock of food for her dog, yet he wasn’t getting to eat it. She asked that I pray for her, that she was about to ‘lose it’. I only hope that this poor pooch doesn’t die in the process of her getting her life together.

I continued on down the road thinking of how much suffering there is in the world, for the people, for the animals. I prayed that one day, driving by a farm, I would see whole families of cattle and chickens and pigs and such, and that there would be an end to humans need of flesh eating. The cows were standing in the pasture but I knew their fate and it saddened me.

Looking at the clock on my dashboard I saw it had just turned 11:11. “New beginnings” … https://willowsoul.com/blogs/numbers/5-reasons-why-you-are-seeing-11-11-the-meaning-of-1111http://www.intuitivejournal.com/1111-a-conscious-spiritual-journey/.

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Photo by Lee Pigott

Several more miles down the road I reached my destination. I was fortunate to find parking right away, being Sunday there was no fee. I only had to walk a couple blocks to the waterfront where the festival was gearing up.

Once inside the gate I went straight for the Kathmandu booth for a friend had mentioned the great deals they were giving. I bought a dress, a skirt, a wonderful silver ring with beautiful stone and … finally! … I got myself a Hemp hat!

I saw a booth selling cheesy nachos. It had been quite awhile, so I figured, “What the heck!” And bought a little plate of them. As I walked along, munching away, I heard drums … BIG drums. I stopped to listen. It was a group of people playing those huge Japanese drums! Their arms were flying … boom, boom, boom! Similar to this but fewer drummers, and of course, outside. Beautiful!

I turned and walked some more, stopping at another booth for a Huckleberry ice cream cone. So delicious!

I came upon people from India doing a prayer/dance. Their clothing was so colorful! There was a young girl and boy performing what looked to be a courtship dance, then the whole family came on floor and they danced in circle, what appeared to be celebration! (This caused me to sit and watch Indian wedding ‘first dances’ for some time this evening).

Next I came to folks who said the drumming they did was of African nature. There was a square with an empty space in the middle for the dancers. People from the crowd were invited to sit at a drum and partake in the lesson and drum with them. I took a video, then it was my turn to play. Oh what fun!

I walked along, thinking I would start the long drive home but then came to our very own First Nations people as they were holding a drumming and singing competition. Each one of them sang songs of love in their own language and then in translation for those of us who could not understand. I listened to them, moved near to tears as I thought of these gentle people and what history had given them, what was stolen from them. I smiled as I listened … through everything they still have so much love in their hearts.

The Peruvians came in, dressed to the nines. Their head dresses were incredible!!! Their garb absolutely stunning. They danced in circle, taking turns passing the implement which appeared to have the same meaning as a talking stick, only this item was given to the one leading the dance. I sat there swaying in my chair, moved so deeply by their traditional dance and song.

I thought, These are our people. ALL of them I had seen today … we are all related. Sure, we come from different areas of the world, but our heart beats the same tempo. My hope is that when they see me they think I am their people too. I let these thoughts really sink in and solidify in my mind. To see them dancing, drumming, smiling and sharing made it so personal.

These, and those who embrace the differences “we share” ~ for we are all of the same substance ~ are the ones who will birth a new world … one which all people dance to the World Beatno one less than any another.

I walked toward my vehicle and as I crossed the street a gal I know was heading to the festival. We said hello to each other, giving a high five and a smile, and then continued on.

I drove home with a grin on my face. The absolute beauty of the various cultures was stunning! To see them all gathered in one place a mind boggling blessing! About half way home I looked at the dashboard once again, still smiling, to see the clock now read 4:44 … the “Angels are near” … https://www.ask-angels.com/spiritual-guidance/angel-number-444/https://readingswithmatt.com/numerology-444-spiritual-angel-meanings/.

I appreciate so much what those people participating in the festival have contributed to the world this day. I am grateful they are so resilient, keeping alive those practices and ancient knowledge of their regions. I hope some day all of it, all of us, will form a new whole … a whole which honors and respects each other and the culture brought and taught, grateful for each and every contribution made by every one … melding into a new way of being for all to share, made up of all cherished ways.

All will be well … even if it isn’t understood just yet.

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