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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

Published January 12, 2023 by tindertender

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

(2) Stop begging.

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

(5) Don’t eat other people’s food more than they eat yours.

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don’t reciprocate it.

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

(😎 Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.

(12) Respect your time.

(13) Don’t stay in a relationship where you don’t feel respected and valued. Walk away.

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That’s how people will learn to spend on you.

(15) Be scarce sometimes.

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.

(17) Don’t go where you are not invited. And when invited don’t overstay your welcome.

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

(20) Be good at what you do.

~ Author Unknown

Joe Biden Calls Kamala Harris “president Harris”

Published January 5, 2023 by tindertender

Get these jokers/imposters OUT!!!

I Wish You Heal

Published December 29, 2022 by tindertender

I wish you heal from the things you don’t speak to anyone, from the pains you hold in silence, from the tears that stream down your face before you sleep.

I wish you heal from your fears, fears and insecurities. From the uncertainties that life once placed at you and that you face every day when you get out of bed and move on.

I wish you heal, from those heartaches, wounds and disappointments, that you silenced, that you never complained, but still feel deep inside you.

I wish you heal from the past that is still with you on the emotional scars you carry without complaining.

May you heal from the excuses you have never been given, the appreciation you have not received, the gratitude you have not been given, the fair recognition that was not offered to you, from all the times you deserved to receive the best and it did not come to you.

May you heal, from the pains that you swallowed, silenced, threw inside.

I hope you heal from all the times you said you were “okay” when you were not at all. Sometimes you swallowed your cry, anger, sadness, disappointment and smiled, so that the world wouldn’t see your pain, or so your smile could make someone happy.

May you heal from the moments you felt lonely and believed that no one saw your wounds or recognized your actions.

Believe, life sees, life repays, life heals.

Healing can be slow, silent, sometimes difficult, and it doesn’t come alone. But then it happens !

Healing is a process. Just as many cause you wounds that you bear in silence, others help heal the wounds without you noticing.

I wish you heal: from everything you say, from everything you don’t speak and from everything you need!

~ Author Unknown

I Live in Heaven on Earth

Published December 29, 2022 by tindertender

I am not merely speaking of the geography of where I live, though it is smashingly beautiful
I live in Heaven on Earth because that is what my heart wants and has always wanted, and that is where it has always been.

It’s not that I don’t see the shadows or haven’t played in them, I see them, I use them to reflect and refract to assist my channel of light in becoming even more radiant.

I designed it that way.

I live in Heaven on Earth, every moment of every day.

Every smiling face that looks back at me contains it.
Every blade of grass, every sparkle on every leaf on every tree, the animals, the humans, all of nature, the rocks, the ocean, the mountains – all of consciousness contains Heaven on Earth.

I didn’t always know that I lived in Heaven on Earth, sometimes I forgot how to focus as I walked through my own tunnels of darkness.

But the Light, it was always there, the Light at the end of the tunnel, beckoning me, reminding me.

I live in Heaven on Earth and it really is not a place, it is a state of being and I love knowing that.

The Seraphim live closest to God, they love to look into God’s face, into the radiant effulgent light.
I imagine myself as one of the Seraphim and I cannot take my eyes off of God.

Him her me she you they us.

We are Heaven on Earth, not because we deserve it, though we do, but because we choose it.

I choose to see it, live in it, grow it, light it up.
I choose Heaven on Earth

As we turn this corner, the end of a year, the end of a cycle, Heaven on Earth is there too, around the corner but also here now.

We are just moving deeper and deeper into her splendor.

The sun the moon the stars the planets the galaxies the universe the multiverse the Om-niverse.
ALL here now in my Heaven on Earth.

And I am grateful as tears pour down my face speaking to the Joy that is bursting from my Heart.

Thank you each and everyone for helping me to choose again, to remember, to know that I can
Live in Heaven on Earth.
CSR

Image: Heaven’s Bridge from paintwithdiamonds.com. Not entirely sure of the artist.

Elon Musk Zone

Published December 20, 2022 by tindertender

Knowledge vs Wisdom

Published December 18, 2022 by tindertender

Knowledge is often misconstrued as Wisdom.

“A wise person discerns good from bad, right from wrong, appropriate from inappropriate, better from worse, and favorable from unfavorable, as well as many other differences, in a way that foolish people can’t. And that’s a matter of judgment and understanding. But wisdom, when attributed to a person, has to be embodied in action of some sort, or it isn’t genuine. There are, you see, two sides to personal wisdom, a side that involves understanding, and a side that involves doing. One side without the other isn’t wisdom. Good judgment without good action is surely foolish. And the failure can go the other way, too. Good action that doesn’t come from good judgment is just from luck or habit, and not a direct manifestation of wisdom. For true wisdom to be present, thought and action have to mesh … Knowledge without wisdom, just like action without wisdom, can take a person, or an organization, off the rails as quickly as anything.”

https://www.tomvmorris.com/blog/2014/8/30/the-dangers-of-knowledge-without-wisdom?format=amp

https://www.diffen.com/difference/Knowledge_vs_Wisdom

How I cope with my own abandonment wounds

Published December 17, 2022 by tindertender

By @Theholisticpsyc

Abandonment wounds are wound we carry from:

  • being emotionally neglected by people we love
  • not being seen or acknowledged by society
  • having loved removed from us when we were “bad” as punishment

Abandonment wounds are carried within the subconscious mind in the of core beliefs.

These core beliefs include:

  • everyone I love will leave or hurt me in some way
  • i must be perfect in order to receive love
  • something about me is broken or unworthy
  • i don’t belong
  • no one cares about what I think or feel

The subconscious mind works to confirm these core beliefs.

Always looking for evidence that we don’t belong, that people will leave us, or that we’re not good enough.

Our abandonment wounds can:

  1. Create situations where we constantly procrastinate: this stems from a core belief that if I don’t get out of my comfort zone or don’t actually show up, I can’t fail. Or be seen as flawed/unworthy.

Obsessive achievement or workaholism: this stems from a core belief that if I’m constantly working or achieving I can bypass uncomfortable emotions and finally be “good enough.”

When my abandonment wounds come up, I’m flooded with intense emotions and racing thoughts.

Sometimes they come out of nowhere.

I can go to worse case scenarios (crisis thinking), or dissociation (shut down, numbness)

5 things I do when my abandonment wounds come up:

  1. Pause: being aware of this helps you understand that these are thoughts and feelings from past wounding, not “truths.” Pause before making any decisions or falling into negative coping mechanisms.

2. I remind myself I’m safe: when I’m having fearful thoughts, I know my inner child is afraid. My inner child didn’t have adults to soothe me or to help me work through difficult emotions. I put my hand on my heart, take a deep breathe & say: I AM SAFE, NOW.

3. I move my body: intense thoughts and emotions need an outlet. When we’re stuck in our thinking mind, moving the body helps us work through the emotions. I always feel better afterwards.

4. I shift my breathing: slow, steady breaths from the body send a signal of safety to the nervous system. I either stretch or take a quick walk with intentional deep breathing. It’s incredible how this shifts the state of mind.

5. I cry: grieving is taboo in our culture. We’re conditioned to “get up and keep going” at all costs. When past emotions surface, I let them come up. I always feel more relaxed and centered when I let the tears flow rather than covering them up.

If you found this helpful follow: @Theholisticpsyc

I write threads every day on how to heal yourself.

My new workbook: howtomeetyourself.com

Gift or Illness? Ignorance Among the People

Published December 16, 2022 by tindertender

I watched a man say “don’t tell people you have voices in your head”. He said having voices in your head means you’re a player in the game. That those who don’t, are simply NPC’s (non player character).

I don’t understand how folks can willingly choose to shut out our spirit family. They say they believe in God and angels but when someone says they have received a message it’s considered mental illness … for everyone except priests and nuns, and a chosen few who think their spirits are positive because they haven’t been attacked … all else are considered fraudulent.

That’s the biggest scam I think, telling people their connection to spirit is a mental illness. That’s where the true disconnect originates.

I’m mostly surprised by the indigenous folks in my circle who I’ve spoken to of this, who unfortunately, do not think as the below stated belief.

Shamans (indigenous spiritual leaders) have a very different opinion of schizophrenia. They believe that schizophrenics are spiritually gifted people who have a strong ability to communicate with spirits. Schizophrenics are in the midst of a spiritual awakening.

As soon as signs of schizophrenia are detected, shamans perform healings on the schizophrenics to remove any negative entities that may be attached to their energetic bodies. Without an overload of negative thoughts, the schizophrenics’ minds become clear. Next, the shamans teach these people to shamanic journey — a spiritual practice that allows them to utilize their gifts to converse with divine spirit guides, power animals and ancestors to receive healing and guidance for themselves and others.

https://shamanelizabeth.com/schizophrenia/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI7-TDmrb–wIVlR6tBh3frwXTEAAYASAAEgJ34PD_BwE

Western medicine has labeled it as a medical condition affecting the weak and chemically alter them. They are trying to kill off the players who broke into their sick game … and the npc’s are turned against them, making their battle for sovereignty even that much more difficult.

We are naturally psychic.

The controllers of this matrix don’t want people waking up and entering the game. When folks do, they are attacked quickly with voice to skull technology. The attempt is to get them to commit suicide, or hurt someone else so they go to jail and get doped up with all kinds of psych meds.

They want people who enter the game dead, trapped in a lower realm, rather than gaining balance and actually play the game, team humanity in mind.

Yep … those who accidentally break into the game (usually using some type of hallucinogen, or drug injected by gov (autism).

Sad thing is, when folks do break into the controllers domain, they not only have to fight for their life and soul, they have to withstand judgement and ridicule from their, as of yet unaffected, human family.

Ignorance is not bliss.

Too many in this world spouting off about being an authority on spirituality, yet completely ignorant of the game … they cannot help anyone.

This is psychological warfare, and people are so hypnotized still, they can’t see it, and do more harm than good.

Morals and Ethics

Published December 15, 2022 by tindertender

Sales … I could never be good at it.

People wanting to receive a great deal and an even better price. They are always told it’s possible, and often sales has to smooth ruffled feathers because the “lie” they told proved itself.

Why do people seek to mentally challenge themselves so much? Why do those selling services lie?

I know, I know…

They want to take the sale from the next guy.

But to allow oneself to become an habitual liar to gain monetarily??? Not my cup of tea. The lies don’t end till the project ends, then another begins and the same schmoozing falsehood techniques start all over.

The older I get, the longer my list of people and things to avoid inviting into my world grows.

I Am

Published December 14, 2022 by tindertender

Welcome magic and wonder
Brilliance and grace
Welcome joy, satisfaction
Pleasure and strength

Welcome essence, beauty, presence
Time, spirit, form, and space
Welcome excellence in every blessing
Sacred and pray

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am

Welcome magic and wonder
Brilliance and grace
Welcome joy, satisfaction
Pleasure and strength

Welcome essence, beauty, presence
Time, spirit, form, and space
Welcome excellence in every blessing
Sacred and pray

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

What I seek, I am (ooh-ooh)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

I am a seed, I am a tree
I am the flower, I am the bee
I am fire and I am wind
I accept love and also I give (I am)
I am loud and I am mighty (ooh-ooh)
I am silent and I tread lightly (I-I)
I am a brave and monumental (whoa-oh)
I am modest, I am gentle (I am)
I am a student and I teach
I am the sand and I am a beach
I am ease and I am power (I am)
I am bridge and I am tower (I am)
I am reason, I am wild (I am)
I am mother, I am child
I am many, I am few
I am God, and God is you (I am)

What I seek, I am (I am)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

What I seek, I am (ooh-ooh)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

I am, I am, I am
I am, I am, I am (I-I)
I am, I am, I am (whoa-oh)
I am, I am, I am (to be)
(I am)

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: India Arie Simpson / Alexandra Sarton / Verónica Santiago