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Sex Magick ~ The Orgasm

Published February 5, 2021 by tindertender

The “invisibles” think I need their permission to stimulate myself … hahahaha … They’ve got it all wrong. It’s time to teach myself about Sex Magick.

With Sex Magick, all you need is to reach orgasm and you can change your world.

Sex magic is similar to any other form of energy work, which harnesses energy, with the practitioner often tapping into their own spiritual energy to heal. The only difference is that the energy being harnessed in this case is the release of orgasm. “The first step is to have a clear goal and an intention of what you want,” says Luna. “I find for me that sex magic works best when your intention has to do with sex, love, confidence, power, strength.”

Benefits of masturbation:

The focus necessary to orgasm can help push stress from your mind.

An orgasm-induced endorphin release can also help with stress relief and put you in a great mood.

Having an orgasm could also make you really tired, potentially helping you to fall asleep.

Exploring what gets you off the best can help you feel more self-assured in your sexuality.

It may help increase your libido.

You can experiment with having multiple orgasms.

Sexual activity—including masturbation—is associated with better cognition as you age.

Some experts believe masturbating can even temporarily strengthen your immune system.

Mindful masturbation is a way to reach new heights of sexual pleasure. Self-pleasure can help you cultivate body confidence and self-love.

On my list of books to purchase:

Sexual Energy

Published December 10, 2020 by tindertender

Masturbation in and of itself is not perverse.

Wanting to WATCH someone masturbate is … if you’re a peeping Tom, or Jane, uninvited.

Of course, there are those who will tell you both are perverse.

The sexual energy is a powerful energy.

A sacred energy.

The physical form collects energy as time progresses. If single, this energy must be ‘bled off’ periodically, or it will overtake the mind, clogging all other senses. Thoughts will become agitated and scattered.

It is perfectly natural to manage ones own energies as needed to maintain equilibrium of the whole.

Society has been indoctrinated to feel that managing ones own energetic output in such a way as masturbation is perverse … it is not.

Watching porn … is.

Peeping Tom/Jane watching while another manages their energies, without invitation … is.

Managing Self created energies … is not.

Mind you, I do not speak of fantasizing about someone while managing the energy, that in itself is a trespass, I speak strictly of bleeding off the excess … a simple matter.

The belief system fed to people, that which people took on as their own belief, must be shed. The teaching’s base is built upon lies.

Responsibility for ones own energetic creation and output is crucial.

Energies unstable can be destructive … and also vampired for use by another, in the seen, and primarily in the unseen.

There is a lot of this happening right now, the veils are very thin.

As GAIAs energies, and that of each individual rise, veils drop and dimensions merge … indeed, dimensions are about to merge BIG TIME.

Dwellers in other dimensions are “testing out” the passions of humanity … call it an interview of sorts. They say to themselves, Do I like this one? Do I like that one? They are like kids in a candy store right now, and because it is unfamiliar to those in body, it is believed benevolent … wrong.

Any trespass of one in body would be considered just that, a trespass … one might even say stay out of my bedroom! Yet somehow, people fantasize about it when it happens in the astral … dreaming of soul mates and twin flames.


A soulmate or twin flame would respect your privacy and WAIT for the actual physical union.

Fantasy will be the downfall of humankind … as they convince themselves it is good …because it feels good. Making a person feel good while they drain off sexual energy is one of their specialties.

This fantasy will leave people wide open and vulnerable, defenses down, able to be manipulated by any schmuck in the astral who wants a taste of that energy.

Taste … yes …

The sexual energy is one form of energy that is most powerful, and unfortunately, there are those in the unseen who must feed on it to sustain themselves.

All while a living dream is created in a persons mind of agreement, acceptance, and submittal.

That which you cannot say no to is NOT mutual.

It is a disrespect, and a trespass.

And when you finally DO say no, they’ll label you as having attitude.

Which is exactly WHY masturbation is necessary for those who are not with partner right now. If the sexual energy becomes too potent, there will inevitably be someone in the astral to take advantage, and bleed off the energy for you … and they do not ask first. They’ll make you feel good, and they consider this fair trade. No permission needed.

People really need to take charge of their energies, especially now with the song of GAIA increasing and the vibration of the physical form intensifying.

Cattle is what some of them call us.

An energetic food source.

Sometimes they’ll give you masturbation dreams, especially if they don’t find YOU all that attractive, but still want to feast on your energy.

Be aware.

Take charge of the growth of your energy, and the maintenance of it, so another cannot manage it for you … unless you want to be used, of course.

My hope is that every person will understand the sacredness of their sexual energies, indeed ALL of their energies, and only permit those invited to partake in them.

Honor thyself.
Respect thyself.
Care for thyself.
Love thyself.

Subtle Manipulator

Published December 8, 2020 by tindertender

Many are being “steered” into new ways of thinking.

With sweetness … Quote “Ladies, you are beautiful. There’s no need for you to spray paint your face or hair with the colors of the rainbow. Easy with the cosmetics.”

When I was young, I tried out makeup. My step father at the time told me I was so beautiful already I did not need it … I stopped practicing putting make-up on.

The same tactics are being used right now, to shape the way a woman thinks of herself, the way she treats herself.

Now, it is true … women are so beautiful they need no make-up or rainbow colored hair … but sometimes rainbow colored hair is fun … who is to tell us it is not, or that we ought not have it once in awhile?

Quote “Do you feel like your life is out of control, everything’s falling apart? Truth is your soul is taking over the steering wheel. What’s unfolding now is the will of your soul. All things which would hinder your growth during this process, are being eliminated from your reality.”

All things which would hinder your growth are being eliminated from your reality ….
What’s unfolding now is the will of your soul …

YOUR soul is not doing this. Those who USURP your soul, are. Yet they’ll tell you it is free will choice that YOU are making on a subconscious level. They’ll attempt to make you believe the changes being made are your decision, but they are not.

YOUR decision is in how you respond to the changes being made.

We really have no choice in the matter of change. You know this already by the way life has moved you around, without consent.

Sure, we can believe whatever we like. We can choose to believe we are a co-creator, and in essence we are, but in many instances, not a conscious and willing partner. Our energies are being utilized to make the changes on a global AND personal scale … subliminal messaging and sweet talk will mold us into a belief that we are at choice ….

Choice about the change is not ours.

Choice on how we respond to the change IS.

Manipulation is one of my pet peeves. Sweet talkers who tell you what you want to hear, leading you down a certain path of thought, getting you to believe that thought is yours … well, there are some very good manipulators out there right now.

They know how to use the sugar, and they know how to shock you out of your comfort zone, recreating you.

I was blessed to be exposed to some of the best of them in my life.

People need someone to tell them how to think, what to do, how to behave, who to be ….

This is proven by the massive amount of followers on some of these social media accounts who do just that.


Being sweet talked onto a certain path.

The main purpose of this is to reformat you into a being that is more acceptable by the manipulators.

To take away your individuality, to make you subservient.

You may say, they care!

Of course they care. They care about the end product that they will wind up with as wives … as child bearers … as sex puppets …. toys for the manipulation and control of the ‘masters’.

Some speak of astral sex like its a choice. HA!! They say it starts telepathically before it is felt on the skin … yes, I know, I get that too. But it does not start with me telepathically calling it in … no, they just appear, and do as they will. Saying “no” does not make it stop. They feel they own you … and right now many are being auditioned for the position of sex toy … many aspects of the masculine in the astral will “try you out”. Try to tell them to stop … see how well that works for you. You might say, “I don’t want it to stop, it feels good.” Yes, I know … but try to exert your will over the situation, see how much they respect you … they don’t.

You want purple hair? GET IT.

You want to be sassy? BE IT.

You want to adorn yourself? DO IT.

You want to be in charge of your life? LIVE IT.

When someone else reformats you, they have the right to claim you.

Build yourself as you wish to be … NOT as another wishes you to be.

We all ought to be very familiar with the manipulators techniques by now. If not, well, many will have to learn the hard way, just as I did.

Remember, the techniques of controlling others is subtle. They’ll mold your mind into the belief that it is your decision … as seen above, telling you … “What’s unfolding now is the will of your soul …”


It is the will of those who intend to take over and become your masters, your ‘captors’ … and they’ll make you like it, or make you suffer if you refuse to go along with it, by turning very nasty.

My hope is that discernment and the inner eye starts to shine brightly upon those who mean to commandeer your life and mind, your very consciousness … your god self.

You ARE the Force, AND the Source of Power they need to survive and mold realities.

The Life Force that is like Gold to the ones who long to possess you.

Sexual energy is one of the most potent. These ones feed on that energy … hence the trials, the tests in the quiet of the night, to see just how sensitive you are, and how powerful your sexual energy is.

It is YOUR energy.

YOU created it, YOU nurture it, YOU developed it.

It is YOURS to share with whom you CHOOSE.

Not just any joe shmo who sneaks up on you in the unseen and makes you feel good.

They’re FEEDING on you.

The “latest thing” because we are being auditioned.

Control your sex, control your life.

It is not easy … it seems near impossible … but I’ll keep trying. I hope you will do the work necessary to take charge of your sex, and who you share it with also … in the seen, an nowadays, in the unseen. Try to say no to these midnight advances from the unseen. You will not be able to. We must exercise our Will.

Unconditional Love is NOT sex.

Some are being referred to as an “appetizer”.

They view us as no-thing more than cattle … a source of “soul” food. Life Force.

What a bunch of Pigs.

I love Me.

I love my Sisters.

And this is not okay.

You refuse their advances, you tell them they are not welcome, they threaten to ‘recycle’ you. This is not about love, it’s about dominance. They are not looking for a fighter … only those who submit to their invasive presence.

You may be believing you are special. That this ‘love’ is real. It is not. They are simply very good at manipulating your senses … sorry to be the one to tell you …. to them, you are no more partner material than the rock at your feet. You are food. Soul food. Sexual Energy food. That’s it. And they do not like it when their ‘food’ resists.

Acts 10:34
“Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that ‘God’ is no respecter of persons”

Primal Source is IN you and all AROUND you … it IS you. The one claiming to be god, and those with him, do not care about you, only that which your life force provides.

Claim your Sovereignty.

I’ve requested they prove to WE they aren’t just a bunch of “feeders”. We’ll see what they do … or continue to do.

Humanity’s Viruses

Published October 14, 2020 by tindertender

Scientists … sometimes working for the benefit of life and others to its detriment.

HIV/Aids was a manufactured virus, HPV also, both of which were released, knowingly, onto the citizenry.

It need not be said, but I’ll say it anyway … the ramifications of contracting either is soul crushing in more ways than one.

Shame, guilt, the denial that arises in mind of ever loving again, of being intimate occurs. Anger develops, not at the ones who unleashed these things into the public, but to the partner who carries it, and to self for allowing self be vulnerable to such things.

Consciousness, a good conscious, will go celibate, denying self of the privilege of intimacy, feeling dirtied and not wanting to dirty another. Or, they will put it out there in the hopes of connecting with another who has suffered the same contraction.

These viruses are bio-weapons used upon the populace. Governments and scientists and researchers will deny it, yet it is the case, nonetheless.

Meant to harm the psyche, the individuals sense of self-worth, of value. Toying with a persons emotional and mental package is the name of the game. It always has been.

Covid-19 is also a bio-weapon.

The purpose of these Bio-weapons? To keep people separated, to stop them from creating union which in turn generates powerful love energy, to replace the love energy with loathing/disgust and to keep people feeling lack in themselves, or fear of harming another so they stay away from them in regard an intimate manner. Supreme manipulation of the masses and their energetic outputs.

My hope is that people will stop slandering each other for things out of their control. Accepting and loving each other has nothing to do with sex, yet many make it the primary focus of the beginning stages of love. Once procreation is no longer viable, then really, what’s the use of it anyway beyond self-gratification?

There was once a time sexual interactions were utilized to generate an abundant creative power. Indeed, many still use it in this fashion. The average person tho only seeks gratification.

Being a creator, ALL being Creator, the sense of insufficiency must be put aside.

The whole of the world is toxified in one form or another, purposefully.

All we can do now is see it for what it is … a manipulation of the human body, genome … which will really ramp up when the forced vaccinations begin. The forced vaccinations which will not keep anyone healthy, but keep them in decline instead.

When the world looks at a person as tho they are dirty, it is an infection that gets on the people they view that way, in their mind and heart. When a person is looked at and viewed in this manner by enough people, they start to feel themselves in a degraded sense of being, viewing their own self as “less than” … simply because they begin to carry that energy which has been placed upon them.

This is not what a loving society does to each other.

Just like drinking a glass of wine will cause one person to get DUII and many others not, it is roulette. Someday, it, or death, will come to all who drink.

The marriage of individuals rarely lasts any more. There will be multiple partners. Being together is risky business, because not all will be upfront, honest and truthful about their past, they’ll be so focused on gratification, or the seeking of new ‘love’.

Sometimes it is best to simply learn to love ones self.

A reality forced upon an honorable person via science, and covert war tactics.

Is this knowledge of a requirement to generate love of self a good thing, or negative?

Perhaps it is both.

Remember … a healed person will not blame or shame you … including Self.

The Lioness and Mating

Published July 27, 2020 by tindertender

When the Lionesses are in heat, they have a lot of sex at once in a single day. 20 to 40 times, and the Lioness becomes the one who demands to mate. So if a male is tired and can’t keep up with her …

She bites his balls. 

Johanna Kok is the photographer of this picture and she took it at Blijdorp, the Rotterdam Zoo

Here, kitty kitty ….. hahahahaha

The Lovers To Avoid While You Are Healing

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

Written by:

Those who limit you to or judge the shape your body takes, the way it moves, the way it feels, the way it looks.

People who project their insecurities or fears onto you and are often facing a new trigger or issue.

People who cannot hold your no, your s*xuality, your boundary, your hurt, or your truth.

People who condemn your values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, boundaries.

People who do not know what their values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, fears, or boundaries are.

The perpetual child-like partiers drowning their emotions and depression in drugging/s*xing, etc.

Those spiritually bypassing their feelings and using crystals, gurus, as the primary way to enlighten self and grow.

The ones who give their energy/attention/affection/trust to other lovers/potential lovers, when they are triggered by you.

The ones that you often experience their emotional absence, when you are needing support.

Those who are unwilling to get help or do their own personal work, requiring difficult emotional labor and standstills in your intimacy.

You need not avoid those that have been through trauma
or heartache
or loss

These are not signs that anything is wrong.

In fact, those that have been through the most loss are often the most incredible lovers, if they decide to lean into the dark, explore it, shine light onto it, instead of ignore it or hide it away.

Because you deserve to explore the dark together with someone who will never make you responsible for their healing. Who will bring to the table deep value through their own healing + self-awareness and mastery.

To getting what you need and deserve, and letting that in.


Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo

I get it.

Mom had you be her confidant

Now it gets confusing.

What is family, what does family look like?

What ARE boundaries?

What does it mean to have boundaries?

Who should I have s*x with, be naked with? Open my soul to?

Who is worthy of me, who deserves me? How much do they get to have of me?

You may want to put everything inside of you that moves. It doesn’t matter. Having little authority over your body, mind, heart growing up, it can be hard to find authority over yourself now.

Everything floods into everything. It’s hard to tell who is:


S*x permeates EVERYTHING. Inappropriate boundaries feels NORMAL, healthy, even s*xy.

Siblings being attracted to siblings. Not sure of how to handle the attraction, therefore acting out at each other for attention.

Who deserves your allegiance? Who does not?

When all lines were crossed.

Father looked at you and your needs/feelings/body/health of your own, no longer existed.

He made you his:

punching bag
angel (the rare times you impressed him.)

Shouting in your face. Making mom seem like a welcome escape.

His love was terrifying.

Therefore you wonder: If I am terrified, then am I in love? If I am lost in a confusing web of unclear needs, is that love?

If the walls keep changing, is that love?

It feels like love.

In woman on fire we begin to separate you from everyone else. Untangle you string by string.

The ropes on your feet, around your hands, the ropes around your mouth, keeping you lost. You begin to shake free slowly, gently, from what they told you love was.

Maybe it means f*cking everything that moves, until you are sickened and so alone that you do not know what to with yourself. We will walk with you back home to you.

Maybe it means celibacy. Walking away from everything for a bit so you can feel the pulsating of your heart underneath your pu$$y. So you can feel how truly deeply they are linked. We will listen as you trust who you are again. What you really want.

Maybe it means somewhere in between. Letting in slowly your true desire. And being able to breathe deeply as the lights go on.

When you can see it all for what it truly is, you no longer live in the darkness of confusion.

I love you and I love this. Us. Together. Getting free.

Starting soon

There Is Always A Choice

Published June 8, 2020 by tindertender

There is always a choice

Right before you hit an org8smic state

You can lean in, open, accept, surrender, trust

Or you can push it away, shut down, close, limit

No one tells you that the way to org8sm is actually LEANING INTO what is alive right now








Turn on


True pleasure is making space for what IS and then seeing what is underneath that

then underneath that

And feeling the shell crack of the walls we hold up

to protect ourselves from ourselves

to protect ourselves from the other

to protect ourselves from love.

There is always a choice in every relationship

To lean in, speak up

Or to lie, shut down, start again somewhere else

As if somewhere else we will be different, as if we won’t find ourselves excactly the same.

Feeling the same things eventually.

Every relationship will remind us of the abuser

The things we hate

The things that make our skin crawl making us feeling like we want OUT QUICK.

Just like before every org8sm you might feel like you could die

Like you could lose everything and not know what to do with yourself

at the end of this

Every good relationship will bring up the same thing.

Do you lean in or shut down and hide/defend/go numb?

I suggest you lean in.

Woman on fire is a growing family of women across the world holding eachother as we fall in love with what is alive right now

Not what we thought it should be

Not what our parents said it should look like

Not the pressure we put on ourselves to feel something

We don’t.

But only what is the deepest truth.

Registration closes tomorrow.

Written by Maria Palumbo:;

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