Those who limit you to or judge the shape your body takes, the way it moves, the way it feels, the way it looks.
People who project their insecurities or fears onto you and are often facing a new trigger or issue.
People who cannot hold your no, your s*xuality, your boundary, your hurt, or your truth.
People who condemn your values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, boundaries.
People who do not know what their values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, fears, or boundaries are.
The perpetual child-like partiers drowning their emotions and depression in drugging/s*xing, etc.
Those spiritually bypassing their feelings and using crystals, gurus, as the primary way to enlighten self and grow.
The ones who give their energy/attention/affection/trust to other lovers/potential lovers, when they are triggered by you.
The ones that you often experience their emotional absence, when you are needing support.
Those who are unwilling to get help or do their own personal work, requiring difficult emotional labor and standstills in your intimacy.
You need not avoid those that have been through trauma
These are not signs that anything is wrong.
In fact, those that have been through the most loss are often the most incredible lovers, if they decide to lean into the dark, explore it, shine light onto it, instead of ignore it or hide it away.
Because you deserve to explore the dark together with someone who will never make you responsible for their healing. Who will bring to the table deep value through their own healing + self-awareness and mastery.
To getting what you need and deserve, and letting that in.