Surround yourself with people who talk at you, instead of with you. People whose problems always seem worse than yours.
Those that like to hear themselves talk. Who use you as a sounding board. They are always facing something they need to get off their chest.
Surround yourself with people who always have a new pain they need you for. Using your touch, your energy, as a way to reduce their discomfort.
Caretake their needs. They need more help than you do, you rationalize. Therefore you never have too many emotional needs. You never ask for help, for you can see how lonely Needy Vulnerable Other people are.
Let yourself s*xually and/or emotionally give to them, as a service. It is too hard creating boundaries. You don’t mind just being who people need you to be at all times.
How depressed people stay depressed, is by never getting angry. Always bending over backwards and being flexible.
Choosing loved ones that mimic dad or mom. People who ignore Invalidate Who you are. People that lean too hard on you at all times.
Have an ex lover? Or someone you are interested in? Stay energetically open to connecting with them, even when the relationship is unclear or unhealthy. When it gets in the way of you trusting and deepening with someone else.
Have frequent daily reminders of this relationship around, always taking you out of the present moment. Unconsciously making you hope for or live for the possibility of connecting with them.
Keep photos of the past, the ones who have died to you literally or metaphorically. Do not replace them with photos that reflect what is true today.
Live in a mental graveyard of the dead. Of regret. What happened always making you fear what COULD happen.
Love people who do not really care too much either way. Who encourage your addictions to suffering and loss of self, because they get something out of it. Because you have more focus and energy on them, when you do not treat yourself all that great. They can always get what they want when you don’t honor who you are.
It is easy to be a master at being depressed, especially during the aftermath of continual attack and murders of people of color. We are also facing the numbers of deaths crawling back up from the virus. You must, MUST, be even more diligent on owning your energetic boundaries Asking for help. Getting good help. Being with people who see you, instead of use you as an escape. Be with people that you cannot escape with because they want to look into your eyes and feel you really looking back.
Do not stay in the cozy prison of your numbness. It will only get worse there. Get help, even if you do not know what to say. Let people love you, by speaking up. Let people see you, by letting yourself be seen.
Depression makes you think no one really cares all that much anyway. So why bother? The truth is the world deeply cares. Especially the moment you decide you are worthy of being cared for.
In this existence, we are seen yet also unseen (physical form vs our thought form). We are here and yet not here.
It is often stated that there does not appear to be an answer to a situation or circumstance. I know I’ve done it.
How can no solution exist?
We are here in the physical, and also in the spiritual through thought and energy.
If we become still and know that our perspective has been limited, opening to new ways of seeing things from our various positions in the seen and unseen worlds, answers will begin to flow.
People are so tense these days. Muscles contracting, heart speeding up, tensions rising, anxiety or fear. They are too much in their head and body … shrinking, becoming more and more rigid.
Life is a flow.
Momentum occurs when the intention and drive are combined into action. Rigidity has no ability to flow, it sinks.
Every year they cross at the same place, cruising through rural yards, sleeping in open meadows.
The path they use generation after generation is so well known humans post signs, alerting drivers to the potential of sighting one, maybe hitting one with a vehicle … a warning.
I think about people and their generational paths.
Were parents, grandparents, and earlier in the familial line alcoholics? Was someone a woman beater? Lazy? No job? Any number of limited behaviors that potentially infected the whole line of life, generation after generation, stuck in the same rut?
Much like the elk utilize the same paths, the same methods of hunting for food on the same grounds as their ancestors. Are they too stuck in a rut? Or do they just do what the mind tells them they should do?
It is every person’s responsibility to examine the functioning of the mind. Taking control of the output … controlling emotions, rather than being controlled by them.
Purposefully looking at habitual patterns and altering course … changing the pattern to something new, for a different experience, for a new potential of growth.
Only by being consciously aware of our mind and the thoughts therein can we master it. This requires work, continual practice.
Negative self talk should be rephrased immediately upon noticing. If it is allowed to continue, it will spew into the world, affecting relationships, causing hardship.
To change perspective and develop new ideas and outcomes, alter habitual patterns.
Now that you are an adult, it is your responsibility to perfect your character.
Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character.
Artists do not allow an outside influence to construct their painting, or other creation. It is born of their own accord.
Remember this when it comes to your character.
Who you are, is the masterpiece YOU create.
It is your art piece.
It is your statement to the world.
An original.
If an outside source is constantly telling you what your painting or creation should look like, what it should represent and so forth, it is no longer your perfect creation … it is tainted by outside influence and it is not 100% authentic.
Embrace YOU
You are magic, walking around spinning off pieces here and there wherever you go, affecting the world around you.
It is powerful
And when pure, authentic character and personhood blooms, it is the rarest flower (or bush, or tree, whatever analogy the masculine might like to use) and no other is quite like it … like YOU.
I had no idea Character Evolution could be so fun.
We get to choose our persona every moment. Who will we be today? Are we grouchy, happy, sad. Do we seem to fluctuate readily and often between such emotional states?
Control Your Mind
Take command of your output.
Of course there will be times when we burst open and spew that which we are attempting to leave behind, it happens. The key is in recognizing it when it happens, and making the shift … choosing your reality, not letting emotion steer the ship. It’ll crash more often than not.
Grab the reigns, ride this wild life like no body’s business!
Becoming the best version of YOU possible, through sheer Will Power!
Establish a spiritual routine. Your skin may be clear but your aura is ashy, your chakras are weak & your soul is not on fleek. People have become so accustom to winning materialistically that they have no clue that winning spiritually trumps everything. Prioritize.
For Healthy Mental Health:
Thick skin Airplane mode Focus No apologies for personal choices Space Close friends Noise-cancelling headphones Sleep Proper Nutrition Healthy living environment Clearly defined boundaries Assertiveness Self-love Quick exits from toxic settings
If someone shows you they don’t give a fuck about you – stop going back to double check.
Reminders When Manifesting:
•Always stay positive •Say it like it’s already done •Don’t spend time thinking about anything opposite to what you want •Meditate on what you want •See, smell, taste, hear & feel it •If it’s real in your brain – it’ll be real in the physical
We all deserve some good after all the shit we’ve been through.
What you don’t heal in your singleness will spread like a disease in your togetherness.
When you become a diamond – you’ll understand why life had to apply all that pressure.
Never confuse what you’re offered for what you’re worth.
The ego hurts you like this: you become obsessed with the one person who does not love you & blind to the rest who do.
Eliminate whoever & whatever doesn’t help you evolve.
Not all of us grew up having role models – many of us grew up around people we didn’t want to be like & were exposed to shit we’d never want to be around. Although we weren’t dealt the right cards – we can always re-shuffle the deck for a better outcome. Trust & believe that.
Keep pushing forward, stay on track & be positive. No matter what kind of rough spot you’re in mentally, physically or emotionally – it’s all temporary. Be gentle with yourself.
Growth isn’t always about money or status. Sometimes the best growth is within you – the way you think, the way you feel, the way you treat others, the way you move & the way you treat yourself.
You always face the greatest struggle, the greatest opposition & the greatest discouragement right before the breakthrough.
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