I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me. She smiled and said to me..
“I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters. I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me… I stopped fighting with my in laws… I stopped fighting for attention… I stopped fighting to meet peoples expectation of me… I stopped fighting for my rights with inconsiderate people.. I stopped fighting to please everyone… I stopped fighting to prove they were wrong about me…. I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…
And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny.
The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful & so much more content.”
Some fights are not worth your time….. Choose what you fight for wisely.
“Know yourself, because … if you know yourself, you will understand, that good and bad, come from you.
It’s good that you should know your own existence: you’ll become amongst others … of a higher existence.
When you’re knowing yourself you know everything: with this knowledge you’re free from every evil thing.
As you don’t know you, you don’t know your worth!
If you can see your Self, you will see God, the Truth!
Your servants, seven planets and nine skies will be; it is a great shame that You are a slave to your body! If you should be looking for that blessing so blissful, don’t be chained down by animal pleasures, blissful! Become like men who are great … don’t eat or sleep! Explore yourself like who the world explore and seek!
Belonging to the realm of animals is food and sleep: the spirit that’s in you, lives by knowledge … to keep.
Begin waking up … how long will you keep sleeping? Look at yourself … you, are a really wonderful thing!
Think … and remember, from where you are coming: why is it fact, that in this prison you’re languishing? Break out from your cage and be flying to your tower …
It is so obvious that you’ve been made for a reason … it is such a shame if you don’t accomplish. It’s a pity, a shame for an angel to Satan be obeying: its such a pity for a king, a doorkeeper be obeying …
Upon your treasure you have some dragon squatting: kill that dragon … from suffering yourself be freeing! If you should feed it, you will into a coward change … and would when talking of treasure, become strange.
It is like, if you should have in your house a treasure, even if you are sick … in your hand you have the cure! You’ve fallen asleep, how to reach your destination? Talisman fascinates you, but treasure … why, go on? Smash up that talisman and that treasure take up … suffer a little pain, and from yourself … pain, take up!”
Many of us are like this couch. Top of the line quality leather and construction. Cold, elegant, unwelcoming even on its own, even tho It be impressive.
We cover ourselves in that which brings comfort and warmth. An inviting and friendly area offering a seat, a wrap in a cozy home-made blanky, with pretty pillows.
What else does the cover do? I protects from scratches, from anything “sticking” to it, and also it prevents debris from getting under the cushions.
This is what the feminine offers the masculine. A warm embrace. He is sturdy and strong under all that warmth, built to last.
We must ask ourselves, how do we feel about this union? Are we willing to pair, with respect, allowing the warmth and cozy to be supported by the firm and lasting?
Or will the blankets be stripped and thrown in a closet for whenever they are “needed”?
I’m sad because the warm and cozy had to become firm and strong. Being tossed aside until needed forced many to reach beyond the inner pull, becoming their own foundation.
Hopefully the past will offer brand new relationship qualities, better, stronger, more resilient, in the upcoming Kingdom Unions.
I’ve decided ….. I’m going to attend Unity Church on Sundays. I’m going to find a yoga studio and get serious about flexibility. I’m going to find a gym so I can rebuild muscle and fill out my skin. I don’t need approval or permission. I don’t need company. If I meet someone along the way who is interested in what I am, also, perhaps we’ll be friends. I’m not going to force myself into someone else’s idea of what my life should look like. It took me 20 years of shadow work to get where I am. Folks who have barely meditated, coming in to steer me … denied. I’m not a “member” of anything other than Life, and the Love it should embody. I flow into what brings me joy. When it stops, and begins to bring me upset, I cut out whatever it is. Not because there’s no love, or any disrespect. But because I love, honor and respect myself enough not to let her drown in others opinions about what is right and best for her. I’ll figure it out for Self. She deserves her authentic and transparent heart to live in beauty without these trespasses and abuses which attempt to squash her heart, strip her song, and replace it with their own. Just because someone gives you a gift doesn’t mean you have to relinquish yourself. Just because someone shows you a kindness doesn’t give them permission to reformat you. Leave the kindness if you must. Pack up, live in a tent. Whatever it takes to come back to Self, and it’s connection to it’s own higher self, and to God. No one can walk your path for you. Although many will insist you’re doing it wrong, And disapprove. Trying to force you into their mold. Gotta let them go.
Nobody watches you harder than the people who can’t stand you.
You will reach a point on your path where you do not require a single person to understand or relate to you.
You become a more positive, peaceful & harmonic person when you don’t react to people who use you as a mirror for their own insecurities & self hate.
When people say “you’ve changed” – there’s a 99% chance that you just stopped tolerating their bullshit.
Apologize to yourself for letting someone get comfortable with treating you like you’re average.
No longer responding or reacting to people who trigger you is one of the ways to strengthen your spiritual muscles.
No matter what’s going on in your life – always prioritize self-care. Some people may not like you because your light illuminates the shadow work they refuse to do.
Being happy is a very personal thing & it really has nothing to do with anyone else.
The key to breaking a pattern is to respond differently.
You know you’ve grown when the old you would’ve reached out by now & the new you never will.
What’s for you won’t lower your vibration – that’s how you’ll know. Any time you find yourself giving more energy than you receive – fall back.
Before clarity – there is confusion. Before healing – there is hurt. After pain – there is purpose. You’d be surprised how many things fall into place when you learn to follow your spirit & speak with your soul.
We can only share worlds if our vibrations meet at a common state of honesty & love.
Find your equal – not your whole.
Grace over grudges.
To fully heal you must understand why your subconscious prioritized their manipulation over your self respect.
Trust the process – even when it seems like it’s not processing.
The heartbreak that comes from leaving a one-sided relationship is never as painful as the loneliness that comes from abandoning yourself in order to stay.
A big fuck you to anyone who used you to make them “feel good” until they didn’t need you anymore & then left you wondering where you went wrong.
The ego wants more – the soul needs less.
When someone ghosts you – respect the dead & never disturb them again.
Any relationship that requires you to be quiet or a watered down version of yourself for it to “work out” – is not the relationship for you. Never allow someone to control your narrative. Feed your soul – not play a role. The journey of freedom awaits you.
Love does not leave someone traumatized. Whatever happened – it was not love.
Sometimes the Universe will hold you back temporarily until the road is safe & clear to continue. Be thankful for the stall.
“We’ll figure it out together” is a love language.
Trust what you feel – not what you hear.
Never let irrelevant people control your mind, feelings & emotions. Peace of mind is the real bag. Secure it.
Never be so loyal that you betray yourself.
Seeking validation from others is a reflection of lack of self-love – accept yourself in order to be your authentic self. Your soul doesn’t give a shit about impressing others – it seeks fulfillment over validation.
The more healing you do – the more sensitive your body is to recognizing bad energy.
A person who finds peace instead of revenge can never be bothered.
You know you’ve mastered a soul lesson when the circumstance has not changed but the way you respond has – that’s true energy self mastery.
Stop chasing what your mind wants & you’ll get what your soul needs.
The belief that human beings have evolved from monkeys is a false and degenerative belief. Whether it be the strict Darwinism of Natural Science, or the Alien God Ideology of the New Age, animals have never been part of the natural human stream.
In Spiritual Science it is understood that the lower kingdoms of the earth emerged out of the human form, or the divine human template, in earlier non-physical epochs of the earth.
Thus, all beings from all kingdoms of life (elemental, mineral, plant and animal) exist within the human form. And, they emerged from the human template, not the other way around.
Rudolf Steiner, over a hundred years ago, warned us about the dangers of believing that we stemmed from animals.
“…if we consider Darwinism a basis for the only view of the world that is valid, if we believe that the only true view is that human beings descended from animals, and if we live with this thought within ourselves — I descended from the animals, I originate only from such forces that also create the animals — then this leads souls in the present to become similar to their own thought conceptions of themselves!
If people believe (here in the physical body) that only animal forces were active in their evolution, then they will fashion for themselves a consciousness for the time after death that will cause them to see themselves as animals. “
Here Steiner illustrates an important point: our idea about our origins as human beings affects our souls experience after death! Our understanding of creation can create a structure of support upon our passing, or one of confusion.
When we consider this, inverting and confusing our origin story is a means of control for lower forces as it makes our soul identify with dark and chaotic forces upon our death.
Turtle woman is making an offering of wampum to the plants of the river.
“Please”, she asks, “can you help us?”
She explains how we need the rivers to be clean and she acknowledges the plants as the cleaners of the river.
She speaks to the wampum and thanks them also for the light they bring the world.
She talks to the plants for a long time. Telling them what is happening. She explains that the two legged have lost their ways. But there are still some who remember. She tells them about the babies that are coming who need clean water. She cries for her grandchildren.
The plants, being loving and generous, wait for her to finish speaking and then they tell her they have heard her prayers. They agree to help. They are gentle. They never have an unkind word to say about anyone.
From the shore a young person sings a turtle song. Unbeknownst to them, turtle woman is pleading for the world only a short distance below at the bottom of the river.
My daughter handed me her school progress report. Although it displayed a steady stream of positive check marks, there was one check mark standing dejectedly alone from the rest.
“How am I doing, Mom?” my child asked with a level of maturity that did not match the small dishevelled person gazing up at me with smudged eyeglasses that teetered on the tip of her nose. With her small finger, she pointed to her teacher’s neatly printed words next to the lone check mark.
It read: “Distracted in large groups.” But I already knew this. I knew this long before it was written on an official report card. Since she was a toddler, this child has offered astute observations of the world around her.
After pointing out all the positives on the progress report, I told her what was written. Upon hearing the news, she gave a tiny, uncertain smile and shyly admitted, “I do look around a lot.”
But before my child could feel one ounce of shame, one iota of failure, I came down on bended knee and looked her straight in the eye. I didn’t want her to just hear these words, I wanted her to feel them. This is what I said:
“Yes. You do look around a lot. You noticed Sam sitting off by himself with a skinned knee on the field trip, and you comforted him.”
“You noticed Banjo had a running nose, and the vet said it was a good thing we brought him in when we did.”
“You noticed our waitress was working really hard and suggested we leave an extra good tip. You noticed Grandpa was walking slower than the rest of us so you waited for him.”
“You notice the beautiful view every time we cross the bridge to go to swim practice.”
“And you know what? I don’t ever want you to stop noticing because that is your gift. It is your gift that you give to the world.”
As I watched my daughter beam with the glow of acceptance, I realized her approach to life had the power to change the world.
You see, we are all just waiting for someone to notice—notice our pain, notice our scars, notice our fear, notice our joy, notice our triumphs, notice our courage.
And the one who notices is a rare and beautiful gift.
~Rachel Macy Stafford, author of “Hands Free Life.” Her author page is @TheHandsFreeRevolution on Facebook.
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