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Give Yourself Permission to be Fully in Your Power

Published October 6, 2023 by tindertender

You do not have to “put up with” that which dwindles the happiness of your soul.

The sooner you let that go the sooner something new can come in.

Stop thinking so negatively about the journey.

You’ll need to be courageous.

Raise the vibration, the frequency, of thought patterns and the emotions you wrap them in.

You have to release the anger …. Something beautiful and abundant can’t come into your life if you’re still angry and hanging around certain people.

Sacred Exchange of Love

Published October 4, 2023 by tindertender

Today, I no longer think of myself as simply a chef. I create opportunities for a sacred exchange of love, gratitude and celebration of the gift of life on Earth. As anyone who cooks with love and care, I am an alchemist with the sacred task of transforming the sacrificed life of one being, whether it is plant or animal, dead or alive, into life-giving nourishment for another.

When I cook in right relationship, the love of the Great Mother flows through the love and sacrifice of her creatures, filling us with Divine Nourishment and creating oneness. One becomes food for another, dispelling the illusion of being separate. This is the nourishment I have always longed for.
When I eat in sync with the season, it’s as if a wise woman appears along a cold, barren trail. She invites me to warm myself by a fire with a deep bed of coals, and offers me a hot bowl of soup, a loaf of bread.

Our Mother Earth brings love to us through the form of food and sensual experiences. Without this we could not have a human experience. Without the human experience, our soul could not grow and evolve. Eating is a sacred act. Something living dies, we take it into our bodies, and it becomes part of us as we become part of it. Plant or animal, hunted, gathered, or bought in the supermarket, this exchange and balance creates the
interconnectedness in the physical realm and allows the natural world to continue. To treat the act of cooking and eating as a chore is a denigration of the love from our Mother, plants and animals. Eating is one of the most basic acts of self-nourishment and honoring of one’s life. It is a necessary step toward self-love and wholeness.

When we nourish ourselves with gratitude according to deep wisdom of nature, we are returning this love and respect by honoring our ife as sacred and interconnected with al there is. By nourishing ourselves nature’s way we are given a map to live by that honors and unites life, death, light, dark equally. It gives us the tools to receive the gifts of both sides to grow and evolve.

~ Mary Lane, Divine Nourishment, A Woman’s Sacred Journey with Food

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Art: Andrea Kowch, “Without Measure”
Andrea Kowch
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Re-Parenting Self

Published September 22, 2023 by tindertender

It’s what I had to do. I started 21 years ago. Unlearning everything taught and conditioned. Retraining myself, from a loving perspective, with my highest good in mind. @AmentiReAnkhet puts the process in words very well here.

“Re-parenting is the process of healing from childhood trauma & pain by intentionally making choices in your highest good.

In this thread are some tips to help re-parent yourself.

Discipline –
Learn to say no to what doesn’t serve you
Practice Letting Go
Build a foundation of habits/rituals that help ground & stabilize your life
Follow through on your plans & promises you make to yourself

Self-Care –
Breathwork
Meditation
Journaling
Proper Sleep
Connect with Nature
Conscious Awareness
Practice Boundaries
Focus on Nutrition
Move your body

Joy –
Listen to Music
Help someone
Do something spontaneous
Get a New Hobby
Create Human Connection
Be more childlike

Tend to your hurts & wounds. Provide words of encouraging affirmations. Provide or not deprive yourself physical affection & touch. Hold self accountability. Be kind to yourself. Honor your feelings. Creating a structure, will make life easier & help you find your center.”

I’m An Earthquake

Published September 20, 2023 by tindertender

I’m not here to be the floor that you walk on 
I’m not here to just do whatever you say
Watch out I’m flying in like a black swan
I’m gonna show that I’m more than just a pretty face

I’m not here to just walk along the old path 
I’m not here to be a number in your race
You might think you have control but it’s all mine
You don’t know it but you’re standing on the fault line

And I’m an earthquake
I’m here to shake things up 
I’m gonna shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
Things up
Things up
I’m an earthquake

You be the melody and I’ll be the bass line
I’m not here to be a fiddle that you play 
You can party with your wine and your moonshine
I’m gonna shake it up and open up the champagne

I’m an earthquake
I’m here to shake things up 
I’m gonna shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
Things up
Things up
I’m an earthquake

I’m swimming against the stream
You can feel the boat rocking but it’s not what it seems
You might think I’m a tidal wave
But I’m the earthquake

I’m an earthquake
I’m here to shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
Things up
Things up
I’m an earthquake
I’m here to shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
I’m gonna shake things up
Things up
Things up
I’m an earthquake

DEPRESSION TIPS

Published September 20, 2023 by tindertender

Shower. Not a bath, a shower.
Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything.
Use whatever lotion you like.
Unscented? Dollar store lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

Put on your favorite underwear.
Those ridiculous boxers you bought last year with jalapeños on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water.
Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something.
Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music.
Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, DANCE 💃 to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food.
Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s ramen. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something.
Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside.
Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone.
Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them.
Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

Find something to be grateful for!

If You Want to Change the World …

Published September 3, 2023 by tindertender

“If you want to change the world . . . love a woman — really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing —
every winged one, every furry and scaled one,
every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,
every not yet born and dying one . . .
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.
If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet, you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman — one woman
beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,
beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety
and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices
we have forgotten that true liberation
comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire
and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see — really see
if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.
If not, walk away. Right now.
Don’t waste time “trying.”
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her
because ultimately it’s not with who,
but when we choose to surrender.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman.
Love her for life — beyond your fear of death,
beyond your fear of being manipulated
by the Mother inside your head.
Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her.
Say you’re willing to LIVE with her,
plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,
by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess
through your adoration and devotion.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman
in all her faces, through all her seasons
and she will heal you of your schizophrenia —
your double-mindedness and half-heartedness
which keeps your Spirit and body separate —
which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self
for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman.
Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one
and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,
trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesn’t need any more choices.
What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,
of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,
of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots
strong enough to hold the Earth together
while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman, just one woman.
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.
Love her through her fear of abandonment
which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.
No, she is not weak in her codependence.

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman
all the way through
until she believes you,
until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,
her wildness have returned to her —
until she is a force of love more powerful
than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.

If you want to change the world,
lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.
Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger
and love a woman . . .
beyond all of your striving for greatness,
beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you
if you would only take her in your arms
and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.

What if peace is a dream which can only be re-membered
through the heart of Woman?
What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine
is the key to opening Her heart?

If you want to change the world . . . love a woman
to the depths of your shadow,
to the highest reaches of your Being,
back to the Garden where you first met her,
to the gateway of the rainbow realm
where you walk through together as Light as One,
to the point of no return,
to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.”

~ Lisa Citore
https://lisacitore.com/poetry/if-you-want-to-change-the-world-love-a-woman-2008/

Art: Red K. Elders, “Aphrodite” 22KT ROSE GOLD
Red K Elders Art

Healing with Hemp

Published September 1, 2023 by tindertender

Hemp has a natural resonant FREQUENCY that promotes homeostasis in any environment it finds itself. The plant has been hidden from humanity and lied about (sound familiar) for over 100 years now.

Empress ~ by Yaima

Published September 1, 2023 by tindertender

The Empress
The Third Release,
A companion to the Magician & High Priestess-
A Musical journey
through the Major Arcana…

Take Time & Listen,
Connecting Deeply
with Mother Earth,
And all that is,
A time of Empathy,
Compassion
Nurture those
who are near.

Pachamama,
Madre Tierra
Mother of Thousands-
Giver of Life.

Well its been told
time and again
of golden meadows
hidden by
the silver mist
upon the mountain ridge.

Older than the time
upon your wrist
between the earth
and sky
above the clouds
and crowned
by twelve bright stars

Haleakalā
Madre Tierra
Haleakalā
Madre Tierra

To truly see
that misery
is a choice we make
to stay intwined
Or step away
detach from suffering.

Through awareness
open up
the solar plexus
in concordance
with the universal
Truth
Design

Haleakalā
Madre Tierra
Haleakalā
Madre Tierra

Pachamama
Madre Tierra
Haleakalā
Hallelujah

Mountain Meditation

Published August 24, 2023 by tindertender

I noted yesterday that the radio stations are playing the same regurgitated crap they’ve been playing for decades. Why? There are SO many, better, sounds … from folks who “haven’t” sold their soul.

Bring Balance to your Life

Published August 21, 2023 by tindertender

If you used to toss cigarette butts out onto the land (they don’t decompose) then spend time picking up the ones you see. Pick up as many as you think you threw out. Balance that shit.

If you’ve been opinionated and refused to ever hear or respect another’s perspective or ways, then make it an intentional point and effort to “listen” and to “hear” people, and do your best to see and hear from their perspective.

If you’ve lived a life of addictions … porn, gambling, drugs, alcohol, over-eating .. whatever, be intentional about bringing balance to one-sided and heavy situations.

Undo the negatives.
Apologize.
Be the bigger person.
Let it go.
The need to be right all the time.