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Songs for the Cosmic Lover

Published December 17, 2023 by tindertender

Wow! Catch a body. Cosmic love songs.

Those who don’t have bodies, but love deeply, to love….

The pain of separation is what this speaks of to me.

Midnight psychic lovers …

I Started Succeeding When …

Published November 20, 2023 by tindertender

I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me. She smiled and said to me..

“I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.
I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…
I stopped fighting with my in laws…
I stopped fighting for attention…
I stopped fighting to meet peoples expectation of me…
I stopped fighting for my rights with inconsiderate people..
I stopped fighting to please everyone…
I stopped fighting to prove they were wrong about me….
I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

And I started fighting for
my vision,
my dreams,
my ideas and
my destiny.

The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful & so much more content.”

Some fights are not worth your time….. Choose what you fight for wisely.

Gotta Let Them Go

Published November 16, 2023 by tindertender

I’ve decided …..
I’m going to attend Unity Church on Sundays.
I’m going to find a yoga studio and get serious about flexibility.
I’m going to find a gym so I can rebuild muscle and fill out my skin.
I don’t need approval or permission. I don’t need company.
If I meet someone along the way who is interested in what I am, also, perhaps we’ll be friends.
I’m not going to force myself into someone else’s idea of what my life should look like.
It took me 20 years of shadow work to get where I am. Folks who have barely meditated, coming in to steer me … denied.
I’m not a “member” of anything other than Life, and the Love it should embody.
I flow into what brings me joy.
When it stops, and begins to bring me upset, I cut out whatever it is. Not because there’s no love, or any disrespect. But because I love, honor and respect myself enough not to let her drown in others opinions about what is right and best for her.
I’ll figure it out for Self.
She deserves her authentic and transparent heart to live in beauty without these trespasses and abuses which attempt to squash her heart, strip her song, and replace it with their own.
Just because someone gives you a gift doesn’t mean you have to relinquish yourself.
Just because someone shows you a kindness doesn’t give them permission to reformat you.
Leave the kindness if you must.
Pack up, live in a tent.
Whatever it takes to come back to Self, and it’s connection to it’s own higher self, and to God.
No one can walk your path for you.
Although many will insist you’re doing it wrong,
And disapprove.
Trying to force you into their mold.
Gotta let them go.

Words of Wisdom

Published November 12, 2023 by tindertender

Nobody watches you harder than the people who can’t stand you.

You will reach a point on your path where you do not require a single person to understand or relate to you.

You become a more positive, peaceful & harmonic person when you don’t react to people who use you as a mirror for their own insecurities & self hate.

When people say “you’ve changed” – there’s a 99% chance that you just stopped tolerating their bullshit.

Apologize to yourself for letting someone get comfortable with treating you like you’re average.

No longer responding or reacting to people who trigger you is one of the ways to strengthen your spiritual muscles.

No matter what’s going on in your life – always prioritize self-care.
Some people may not like you because your light illuminates the shadow work they refuse to do.

Being happy is a very personal thing & it really has nothing to do with anyone else.

The key to breaking a pattern is to respond differently.

You know you’ve grown when the old you would’ve reached out by now & the new you never will.

What’s for you won’t lower your vibration – that’s how you’ll know.
Any time you find yourself giving more energy than you receive – fall back.

Before clarity – there is confusion. Before healing – there is hurt. After pain – there is purpose.
You’d be surprised how many things fall into place when you learn to follow your spirit & speak with your soul.

We can only share worlds if our vibrations meet at a common state of honesty & love.

Find your equal – not your whole.

Grace over grudges.

To fully heal you must understand why your subconscious prioritized their manipulation over your self respect.

Trust the process – even when it seems like it’s not processing.

The heartbreak that comes from leaving a one-sided relationship is never as painful as the loneliness that comes from abandoning yourself in order to stay.

A big fuck you to anyone who used you to make them “feel good” until they didn’t need you anymore & then left you wondering where you went wrong.

The ego wants more – the soul needs less.

When someone ghosts you – respect the dead & never disturb them again.

Any relationship that requires you to be quiet or a watered down version of yourself for it to “work out” – is not the relationship for you. Never allow someone to control your narrative. Feed your soul – not play a role. The journey of freedom awaits you.

Love does not leave someone traumatized. Whatever happened – it was not love.

Sometimes the Universe will hold you back temporarily until the road is safe & clear to continue. Be thankful for the stall.

“We’ll figure it out together” is a love language.

Trust what you feel – not what you hear.

Never let irrelevant people control your mind, feelings & emotions.
Peace of mind is the real bag. Secure it.

Never be so loyal that you betray yourself.

Seeking validation from others is a reflection of lack of self-love – accept yourself in order to be your authentic self. Your soul doesn’t give a shit about impressing others – it seeks fulfillment over validation.

The more healing you do – the more sensitive your body is to recognizing bad energy.

A person who finds peace instead of revenge can never be bothered.

You know you’ve mastered a soul lesson when the circumstance has not changed but the way you respond has – that’s true energy self mastery.

Stop chasing what your mind wants & you’ll get what your soul needs.

Morning Mantra’s

Published October 27, 2023 by tindertender
I Am the Palace
Any Energy I do not need may leave
Love always wins
I Am Grateful
I Am Sacred
Ready for our unity
Joy is my guide

It’s Rutting Season

Published October 6, 2023 by tindertender

I Don’t Care Anymore

Well you can tell everyone I’m a down disgrace
Drag my name all over the place
I don’t care anymore

You can tell everybody ’bout the state I’m in
You won’t catch me crying ’cause I just can’t win
I don’t care anymore
I don’t care anymore, d’you hear?

I don’t care what you say
I don’t play the same games you play

‘Cause I’ve been talking to the people
That you call your friends
And it seems to me there’s a means to an end
They don’t care anymore

And as for me I can sit here and bide my time
I got nothing to lose if I speak my mind
I don’t care anymore
I don’t care no more

I don’t care what you say
We never played by the same rules anyway

I won’t be there anymore
Get out of my way
Let me by
I got better things to do with my time
I don’t care anymore
I don’t care anymore
I don’t care anymore
I don’t care anymore

Well, I don’t care now what you say
‘Cause every day I’m feeling fine with myself
And I don’t care now what you say
Hey, I’ll do alright by myself
‘Cause I don’t

‘Cause I remember all the times I tried so hard
And you laughed in my face ’cause you held the cards
I don’t care anymore

And I really ain’t bothered what you think of me
‘Cause all I want of you is just to let me be
I don’t care anymore
Do you hear, I don’t care no more

I don’t care what you say
I never did believe you much anyway

I won’t be there no more
So get out of my way
Let me by
I got better things to do with my time
I don’t care anymore
Do you hear, I don’t care anymore
I don’t care no more
You listening? I don’t care no more
No more

Oh yeah, yeah
Oh yeah, yeah
Oh yeah, yeah

You know I don’t care no more
Don’t care no more
No more, no more, no more
Don’t care no more
No more, no more

No more, no more
No more, no more
No more, no more
No more, no more
No more, no more

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: Phil Collins

Re-Parenting Self

Published September 22, 2023 by tindertender

It’s what I had to do. I started 21 years ago. Unlearning everything taught and conditioned. Retraining myself, from a loving perspective, with my highest good in mind. @AmentiReAnkhet puts the process in words very well here.

“Re-parenting is the process of healing from childhood trauma & pain by intentionally making choices in your highest good.

In this thread are some tips to help re-parent yourself.

Discipline –
Learn to say no to what doesn’t serve you
Practice Letting Go
Build a foundation of habits/rituals that help ground & stabilize your life
Follow through on your plans & promises you make to yourself

Self-Care –
Breathwork
Meditation
Journaling
Proper Sleep
Connect with Nature
Conscious Awareness
Practice Boundaries
Focus on Nutrition
Move your body

Joy –
Listen to Music
Help someone
Do something spontaneous
Get a New Hobby
Create Human Connection
Be more childlike

Tend to your hurts & wounds. Provide words of encouraging affirmations. Provide or not deprive yourself physical affection & touch. Hold self accountability. Be kind to yourself. Honor your feelings. Creating a structure, will make life easier & help you find your center.”

King Baldwin IV

Published August 18, 2023 by tindertender

“When I was sixteen, I won a great victory. I felt in that moment I would live to be a hundred. Now I know I shall not see thirty.

None of us know our end, really, or what hand will guide us there. A king may move a man, a father may claim a son, but that man can also move himself, and only then does that man truly begin his own game.

Remember that howsoever you are played or by whom, your soul is in your keeping alone, even though those who presume to play you be kings or men of power.

When you stand before God, you cannot say, “But I was told by others to do thus,” or that virtue was not convenient at the time. This will not suffice. Remember that.” – King Baldwin IV, Kingdom of Heaven.

King Baldwin suffered from leprosy, plaguing him from a young age, he would fight wars and rule Jerusalem despite this illness, and die at the age of 24.

The Whole World Paused This Morning

Published August 18, 2023 by tindertender

Do you know why? Because an 8 year old’s tank was empty.

The boys had already started their school day at their desks and I was preparing to leave for work when I noticed my littlest standing in the bathroom wiping his face.

I paused at the door and asked if he was okay. He looked up with tears silently dripping and shook his head. When I questioned if something happened, again he shook his head.

So I sat on the side of the tub and pulled him in my lap. I told him sometimes our heart tanks feel empty and need to be refilled.

He cried into my chest and I held tight.
I asked if he could feel my love filling him up?
A nod, and tears stopped…

I waited a minute…

‘Has it reached your toes yet?’
He shook his head no…

‘Okay man. We will take as long as you need. Work doesn’t matter right now. School isn’t important either. This right here, is the most important thing today, okay? Filling you back to the top. Is that good?’
nods

One more minute…
‘Is your heart full of mamas love now?’
‘Yeah…’
looks in his eyes I see it shining in there, you’re full to the top, and you’re smiling!

Y’all. You may not be 8- you may be 28, 38, 48 or whatever- but ALL of us run on empty just like he did. His weekend was so busy and so full and his little soul was just dry!!!

We all have to pause, and take a moment to refill with the good things. Scripture, prayer, sunshine, worship, song, laughter, friends, hugs. Refill your empty, or you’ll find those emotions (tears, anger, snappy words) overflowing with no reason why.

Take a moment. Refill. It’s the most important part of your day!