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How I cope with my own abandonment wounds

Published December 17, 2022 by tindertender

By @Theholisticpsyc

Abandonment wounds are wound we carry from:

  • being emotionally neglected by people we love
  • not being seen or acknowledged by society
  • having loved removed from us when we were “bad” as punishment

Abandonment wounds are carried within the subconscious mind in the of core beliefs.

These core beliefs include:

  • everyone I love will leave or hurt me in some way
  • i must be perfect in order to receive love
  • something about me is broken or unworthy
  • i don’t belong
  • no one cares about what I think or feel

The subconscious mind works to confirm these core beliefs.

Always looking for evidence that we don’t belong, that people will leave us, or that we’re not good enough.

Our abandonment wounds can:

  1. Create situations where we constantly procrastinate: this stems from a core belief that if I don’t get out of my comfort zone or don’t actually show up, I can’t fail. Or be seen as flawed/unworthy.

Obsessive achievement or workaholism: this stems from a core belief that if I’m constantly working or achieving I can bypass uncomfortable emotions and finally be “good enough.”

When my abandonment wounds come up, I’m flooded with intense emotions and racing thoughts.

Sometimes they come out of nowhere.

I can go to worse case scenarios (crisis thinking), or dissociation (shut down, numbness)

5 things I do when my abandonment wounds come up:

  1. Pause: being aware of this helps you understand that these are thoughts and feelings from past wounding, not “truths.” Pause before making any decisions or falling into negative coping mechanisms.

2. I remind myself I’m safe: when I’m having fearful thoughts, I know my inner child is afraid. My inner child didn’t have adults to soothe me or to help me work through difficult emotions. I put my hand on my heart, take a deep breathe & say: I AM SAFE, NOW.

3. I move my body: intense thoughts and emotions need an outlet. When we’re stuck in our thinking mind, moving the body helps us work through the emotions. I always feel better afterwards.

4. I shift my breathing: slow, steady breaths from the body send a signal of safety to the nervous system. I either stretch or take a quick walk with intentional deep breathing. It’s incredible how this shifts the state of mind.

5. I cry: grieving is taboo in our culture. We’re conditioned to “get up and keep going” at all costs. When past emotions surface, I let them come up. I always feel more relaxed and centered when I let the tears flow rather than covering them up.

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Biblical Picture of Man

Published December 16, 2022 by tindertender

Makes sense that my astral self is a young, loving, purely innocent female. Holy Spirit. I wonder if we all are trifecta, or if some are the same as they see in a man-made mirror.

Morals and Ethics

Published December 15, 2022 by tindertender

Sales … I could never be good at it.

People wanting to receive a great deal and an even better price. They are always told it’s possible, and often sales has to smooth ruffled feathers because the “lie” they told proved itself.

Why do people seek to mentally challenge themselves so much? Why do those selling services lie?

I know, I know…

They want to take the sale from the next guy.

But to allow oneself to become an habitual liar to gain monetarily??? Not my cup of tea. The lies don’t end till the project ends, then another begins and the same schmoozing falsehood techniques start all over.

The older I get, the longer my list of people and things to avoid inviting into my world grows.

Comfort vs Reality

Published December 15, 2022 by tindertender

The crazy you may think I am is only an unwillingness to see how I see … and that’s ok. Just please, don’t try to reformat me. Ask me to stay away if you can’t accept me and my truth. It’d be kinder than your continuous rejection, and trying to make me something I’ve expanded beyond.

I’m doing my best not to go back in the box. It’s strange, this expansion. So many want you to shrink and go back into the box of limitation and “comfort”.

No thank you. I’d rather drag you kicking and screaming into the reality I see …. Hence, our friction. Oh the joys of loving and living.

I Am

Published December 14, 2022 by tindertender

Welcome magic and wonder
Brilliance and grace
Welcome joy, satisfaction
Pleasure and strength

Welcome essence, beauty, presence
Time, spirit, form, and space
Welcome excellence in every blessing
Sacred and pray

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am

Welcome magic and wonder
Brilliance and grace
Welcome joy, satisfaction
Pleasure and strength

Welcome essence, beauty, presence
Time, spirit, form, and space
Welcome excellence in every blessing
Sacred and pray

What I seek, I am
What I wanna know, I understand
All I wish I could, I can
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

What I seek, I am (ooh-ooh)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

I am a seed, I am a tree
I am the flower, I am the bee
I am fire and I am wind
I accept love and also I give (I am)
I am loud and I am mighty (ooh-ooh)
I am silent and I tread lightly (I-I)
I am a brave and monumental (whoa-oh)
I am modest, I am gentle (I am)
I am a student and I teach
I am the sand and I am a beach
I am ease and I am power (I am)
I am bridge and I am tower (I am)
I am reason, I am wild (I am)
I am mother, I am child
I am many, I am few
I am God, and God is you (I am)

What I seek, I am (I am)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

What I seek, I am (ooh-ooh)
What I wanna know, I understand (I-I)
All I wish I could, I can (whoa-oh)
Who I wanna be, I am (to be)

I am, I am, I am
I am, I am, I am (I-I)
I am, I am, I am (whoa-oh)
I am, I am, I am (to be)
(I am)

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: India Arie Simpson / Alexandra Sarton / Verónica Santiago

Reconnecting to Nature

Published December 14, 2022 by tindertender

Darkness Withers and Dissolves

Published December 13, 2022 by tindertender

By @shiftingtimeline

We are transitioning through the dissolution of a depraved satanic consciousness dwelling in the unseen fallen realms that has been tagging into the blind spots of the individual and collective psyche to generate the loosh to keep itself alive.

We have essentially been used as conduits to self sabotage due to soul fragmentation which generates a shadow body that keeps energy running reversals into the fallen realms.

This has been happening unconsciously and as a program written into a digressed genetic code, engineered over multiple ancestral cycles that are culminating at this pinnacle juncture as past, present and future come together to rewrite the timelines free from consciousness enslavement.

For this transition to take place, the individual and collective shadow must surface to the light of consciousness to be healed/integrated. We are in the Age of Information of which there are different two pathways, one of which transforms knowledge through the heart to embody the true divine kingdom of heaven from within.

Knowledge in absence of heart is the path of the false light. This is a phase in the evolutionary process which most of us will likely transition through, until we relinquish control of the ego mind and become the vessel for spirit to work through in service of the wider evolution beyond our own personal interests, whether that’s the need to be right, to save the world, gain recognition/power, or profit materialistically from our pursuits.

These temptations are rife in the collective awakening field at the moment, as we come into greater awareness of spiritual laws that can activate great power. Used irresponsibly, we pervert these laws for personal interest, which constitutes a form of black magic and keeps us disconnected from re-anointing with the purity of our essence.

This is like another test to demonstrate how much we trust in our higher nature to keep us safe and provide what we need to continue along our highest expression in fulfilment of our souls covenant, in this lifetime and beyond.

When we are still governed by unconscious fear, the doorway to the divine through the heart closes and we remain in servitude to the lower will that seeks external gratification. We substitute organic consciousness for an artificial intelligence that mimics our creative power and keeps us tethered in lower virtual reality expressions.

What we will eventually come to realise is that we are never alone when truth and connection is with us. As co-creative soul collectives we are never in a state of lack or unworthiness, because together we are serving the collective evolution. When we misuse our awareness to manipulate or harm another, we are only doing that harm to ourselves, and necessitating more karmic evolutionary lessons until we are embodied in this realisation.

This takes a level of spiritual maturity to move beyond the need to reap vengeance for perceived wrongdoings perpetrated against us, or to engage in conflict by asserting our will and authority over others. Once we honour free will in accordance with the Law of One there is no longer the need to return to the obsolete ways of separation consciousness. We have transformed internally and have seen this mirrored back through our external experience.

Darkness withers and dissolves in the light of this purity because we are no longer feeding it through unconscious consent. We have starved the imposter forces from our field. This way we can move uninhibited along the ascension pathway, free to birth reality from the imagination of the personal and collective mind in communion with the forces of nature, of which we are inseparable.

https://www.llresearch.org/library/the-law-of-one

Get Your Heart Straight Before It’s Too Late

Published December 12, 2022 by tindertender

You know what I’m sorry about when I read these things? I’m sorry about the fact they were carrying so much hate in their hearts for so many people before they transitioned.

To die with that much hate in one’s heart … where do you think their consciousness goes when they join the land of spirit?

Number Message 222

Published December 12, 2022 by tindertender

Going home for lunch, came to the intersection. The vehicle to my right went first, and rather than wait for me to take my turn, the guy behind her sped thru the intersection after her.

I did not get emotionally bent, I simply entered the intersection after him. His license plate began 222, and I realized he was simply in a hurry to deliver my number message. 😊

Meaning of number 222

It’s time to commit to your relationships, both romantic and personal. Have faith that your love life will work out one way or the other after all the challenges you’ve faced.

2’s represent tolerance and endurance. 22 as a Master number relates to balance and high performance of miracles that are manifesting in your life.

Take a peaceful stance in life, stay true to yourself, remain in harmony. Stay focused on the bigger picture. Do not take your eyes off your destined truths. 222 means there is balance between both the good and bad in your life.

Get rid of all the negative vibes that are in your life. Balance your life emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Have confidence in yourself.

You are being led towards a path of making great choices that will lead to your development rather than your destruction. Get rid of all negative energy around you. Something is about to happen for you as long as you remain trustworthy to your inner heart desires. Stay humble and remain hopeful for better days.

https://www.sunsigns.org/angel-number-222-meaning/

Gut Health

Published December 12, 2022 by tindertender

By @tenomnft

Herbs for detoxing the gut are a must, our gut is the foundation of everything, if our gut is imbalanced our immune system won’t function properly making it harder to rid ourselves of toxins.

Some recommendations:

astragalus root – boosts immunity and supports liver function; helps to flush out toxins from the body. take 1-3 grams of powdered root daily in water or tea.

cayenne pepper – reduces inflammation, flushes out toxins and increases blood flow. add it to soups or teas and take 1/2 teaspoon daily.

ginger – regulates digestion and can lower cholesterol levels; also aids in cancer prevention. use fresh ginger, grated into hot water and added to foods. take 1-2 grams daily.

turmeric – lowers LDL “bad” cholesterol (this is good) while boosting HDL “good” cholesterol. It has strong anti-inflammatory properties as well as antioxidant effects.

turmeric may decrease risk of certain cancers including colon and prostate cancer. take 1/4 cup turmeric powder daily in water or food.

dandelion – rich in vitamins A, C and B complex; diuretic that cleanses your body of toxins and excess fluid. drink dandelion tea several times a day by steeping 1 tsp dried leaves per cup of boiling water for 10 minutes.

fennel – stimulates digestive juices and appetite. Take 2 capsules twice daily.

garlic – supports liver function and fights infection. take 500 mg three times daily.

echinacea – boosts immune system and is known to naturally aid in digestion. take 4 capsules daily.

lavender – improves sleep and relieves anxiety. take 1 drop in capsule form before bedtime.

During the holidays we’re more frequent to consume excessive foods, indulging in all of our favorite treats -that combined with the seasonal changes can weigh the body down. it’s important to take optimal care of our health to keep us vitalized during the slow seasons.

Always consult your doctor or physician before incorporating herbs into your daily regimen, especially if you’re using pharmaceutical medicine or suffer from any autoimmune diseases.

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