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Syonara

Published September 14, 2025 by tindertender
As painful as it is …
“Before I am your daughter, your sister, your aunt, niece, or cousin, I am my own person, and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.”
~Hannah-Joy Robinson
~Christian Schloe

It’s Hammer Time !!!

Published September 14, 2025 by tindertender

Of course, they don’t like witnesses.

Even their children are raging, excited to see who breaks first!

He even showed his face as he walked toward me with his hammer in hand, arm at his side.

When he saw I wasn’t alone, he did a little half spin, turned the other direction, and his driver pulled right up. He climbed into the car “casually”.

His getaway driver didn’t cover the license plate.

His woman and children really thought they’d see chaos when they drove by just a short while later in their SUV with their windows down, hanging out the windows, yelling as they drove by, as tho in a false panic, laughing hilariously, until they saw he failed to perform the deed and rolled their windows up.

They didn’t bother covering faces or plates either.

God saw it all.

Saw them.

Since “their intentions shall be their gift”, I imagine the next few days or so wont be pleasant for these 3 adults.

Have they just fouled the lives of those 2 children?

A Reminder

Published September 14, 2025 by tindertender

Division takes a lot of energy- to guard, polarize and annihilate-in words, actions or thoughts.

Go against the stream.
Rest is radical
Self care is golden
Restoration helps us ReStory.

The stories that are black and white breed
Black and white deeds.

Be a nest of green.
Seasoned with blooms and rest.

Trust too
the body’s softer wisdom.
The heart’s prayer
The soul’s song.

Tyrants and their bro-hoes trying to harvest Divine Feminine energy

Published September 10, 2025 by tindertender

There’s some third party unalivers out there trying to “transfer their sin” onto divine feminine, hoping she’ll have to process karmic return.

What’s with these witches and wizards “sewing” themselves or their crimes into other people?
Morals, ethics, honor … simple respect … appear to be lacking.

These desperate masculine tyrants “cover Mother” in the blame and shame of their vile and viscious behaviors. She is a Venerated Life Force!!! A chosen one of the Most High. Because she is Holy in the eyes of God, they do rituals to transfer all their “sin” onto her and force her to transmute it … the tears of the Mother, in All of her aspects … they feel she “owes” them a life worth living, and they don’t even try to be decent people. They bury her under the weight of their presence … they prostitute her energy, they violate her mind …

It is difficult being psychic. I have to remember that it isn’t all about me … it’s sometimes a challenge not taking what clairaudience delivers personally, for the words of intent from the invisible ones fill the mind … a challenge, for certain. They’re upset we hear and want to shut our mental down … calcify the pineal and such with toxins in food, air, water. Governements and secret stalkers are freaking out right now … worried about security. They cannot move in the shadow without getting seen or heard. Oracles, Prophets and Prophetesses are a threat …

These unseen, brutalizer masculine’s are a threat to society!! All they ever discuss is the innocence of the feminine, wanting to possess her energy, her life, her gifts. They want to harvest the essence and dress up in it, pretending to be her. They stalk her relentlessly!!! It is tiring, being surrounded my the sound of masculine voices speaking of the feminine in such a way. REDRUMmers, circling the flock like vultures, seeing them as though they are already ded and ready for feasting upon.

I’m simply not able to recognize any of the leaders as legitimate authorities, for they have made a business out of slavery … they pretend it isn’t true. They claim the citizenry aren’t capable of managing themselves …. they’re just “worker bees” … disposable … laborers unfit or unable to manage their own lives.

They “speak proper words” that express care, and solution, but the actions never change … the essence of the human bioform, the life force vitality, continues to be contained by violence and war, enslaved.

People cannot rest in the silence, to connect with the All That Is, if there is always someone trying to unalive them to steal their wealth and health. Many are seriously challenged with connecting to the Divine, with all the chaos and crime flooding their mind and community.

I’m Free!!!!

Published September 9, 2025 by tindertender

Don’t be afraid of your freedom
Freedom
I’m free to do what I want any old time
I said I’m free to do what I want any old time
I say love me, hold me
Love me, hold me

‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time
And I’m free to be who I choose any old time
I say love me, hold me
Love me, hold me
‘Cause I’m free
I say love me, hold me
Love me, hold me

‘Cause I’m free to do what I want
To be what I want any old time
And I’m free to be who I choose
To get my booze any old time
I say love me (love me forever)
Hold me (and love will never die)
Love me, hold me

‘Cause I’m free
Do you hear what the man say
These are the words me hear from my grandaddy, come
These are the words me hear from my grandaddy

He would say nothing in this world like when a man know he free
Free from the lock up, me say
Free from the debt
Free like a butterfly
Free like a bee

These are the words me hear from my grandaddy
Said it’s nice to be free, nice to be free
Free from the lock up, me say
Free from the debt

Don’t be afraid of your freedom
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m a new creation)
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (Don’t be afraid of your freedom)

I said I’m free to do what I want to be what I want any old time
I said I’m free to be who I choose, to get my booze any old time
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m free, I’m free, I’m free)
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m free, I’m free, I’m free)
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m free, I’m free, I’m free)
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m free, I’m free, I’m free)
‘Cause I’m free to do what I want any old time (I’m free, I’m free, I’m free)

Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Keith Richards / Mick Jagger
I’m Free lyrics © Abkco Music Inc., BMG Rights Management, Star Publishing Solutions Co. Ltd

Trauma is Not an Excuse

Published September 6, 2025 by tindertender

We cannot love people into being available or healthy partners. Instead, we must choose people who meet us with care and consistency, despite their traumas. Trauma is not an excuse to hide behind cruelty or to break someone else.

#traumabond #heartbreaks #mentalhealthawarness

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The Dogs Still Listen

Published September 3, 2025 by tindertender

Sometimes life takes everything from you—your career, your purpose, even your voice. That’s what Elaine believed, until the day she knelt in front of a dying shelter dog and heard, without words, that she was still needed.

“They called me a dinosaur—right to my face—while scrolling TikTok in my class.”

My name is Elaine Morris.
I taught English literature at Midstate College in Springfield, Missouri, for thirty-four years.
And this spring, I retired.
Quietly.
Unnoticed.
No banners.
No flowers.
Not even a handshake from the dean.

I walked out of Room 204 with a box of worn paperbacks, three dried-up markers, and a half-used tin of Earl Grey tea.
And I left behind a classroom that used to feel like a cathedral.

I started teaching in 1989. Back then, students took notes with pencils that squeaked across paper.
They raised their hands.
They stayed after class to argue about The Grapes of Wrath.
I remember a farm boy named Tyler who cried reading Of Mice and Men—said it reminded him of putting down his granddad’s dog.
Another girl, Amanda, wrote me a letter on real stationery after graduation. I still keep it in my nightstand.

But now?

Now they scroll.
They ask if they can just “email it” instead of speaking aloud.
I used to say, “Turn to page 64.”
Now I say, “Make sure your Wi-Fi’s working.”

Last semester, one of them called me “outdated.”
Another, a redheaded boy with expensive shoes, laughed and said, “No offense, but lectures are like… boomer YouTube.”

They didn’t mean it to be cruel.
That’s the worst part.
They didn’t even look up.

So I stopped asking them to.

I drank my tea.
Read my poetry out loud like I always had.
And walked out that last day with nobody knowing it was the last.

Except Sammy, the janitor.

“Last day, huh?” he said, pausing his mop outside the door.

I nodded.
He handed me a keychain I must’ve dropped a year ago.
“Guess it’s yours again.”

Then he walked away.

I sat in my car for nearly twenty minutes before turning the ignition.
I didn’t cry.
I just stared at my hands on the steering wheel, wondering what they were supposed to hold now.

The next morning, I made oatmeal, out of habit more than hunger.
Fed the birds.
Listened to the wind roll off the Ozarks through my open kitchen window.
And for the first time in decades, I had nowhere to be.

The silence wasn’t peaceful.
It was heavy.

I pulled out an old yearbook from 1994.
There I was, on page 12, caught mid-laugh in front of a chalkboard.
My hair was thick and curly then, a little wild.
My arms were full of books.
And my eyes looked… alive.

Now, at sixty-seven, I wear soft shoes and a wrist brace.
I shuffle more than stride.
And the house feels too clean, like it’s waiting for something to happen that never does.

Around 3 p.m.—the hour I used to prep for my evening class—I opened Facebook.
Just to scroll.
Out of boredom, I guess.

A photo stopped me.

A blurry image of a dog, posted by Greene County Shelter.
White muzzle.
Blind in one eye.
Caption: “URGENT: Hospice foster needed for 13-year-old female, owner deceased. Not eating. Losing hope.”

Her name?

Sadie.

That name pulled something out of me I hadn’t felt in years.

Sadie was the name of my childhood dog.
Brown with a white chest.
Used to follow me into the hayloft and sleep with her nose under my arm.
She died the night I got my acceptance letter to college.
I cried into her fur until sunrise.

Now here was another Sadie.
Also dying.
Also forgotten.

I stared at the post until my oatmeal went cold.
Then I clicked “Interested.”

That night, I couldn’t sleep.
I walked barefoot around the living room, stopping to touch the old bookshelf I built with my father in ’72.
I ran my finger across the dusty spines: Frost, Dickinson, Faulkner.
No one reads them anymore.

They want screens.
They want speed.
They want answers before the question’s even finished.

But dogs don’t.
Dogs take time.

I thought of Sadie again—both of them.
And I whispered to no one, “What if I still have something left to give?”

The next morning, I drove to the shelter.
First time I’d been back since volunteering as a student in ’85.
The building was newer now, but it still smelled like bleach and despair.
A girl with blue hair and a clipboard greeted me.

“You here for hospice fostering?”
Her voice was flat, tired.
“I think so,” I said. “I clicked online. About Sadie.”

She nodded.
“Old gal hasn’t moved much. You sure you’re up for it?”

I smiled.
“I taught college kids who thought Shakespeare was a TikToker.
I think I can handle a tired dog.”

The girl laughed, just a little.
Then led me past rows of cages, most full.
Dogs barking, pacing, chewing on metal.

And then we stopped.

There she was.
Sadie.
Lying on a faded blanket, ribs showing, paws curled under like she was trying to disappear.

She didn’t lift her head.

The girl opened the gate.
“Go slow.”

I knelt down—slowly, knees popping—and whispered,
“Hey there, Sadie. You waiting for someone?”

Her ear twitched.
Then she lifted her head.
Blind eye milky, the other watery and deep.

She didn’t bark.
She didn’t flinch.

She just looked at me.
And didn’t look away.

I held out my hand.
She leaned into it.
Her fur was coarse, warm, alive.

That was the moment.

Not when I gave lectures.
Not when I got tenure.
Not even when I won that teaching award in 2007.

This.
This silent, fragile leaning.

That was when I knew.

I had just been chosen.
Not as a professor.
But as a person.

I stood up, knees aching, and said to the girl,
“What do I have to sign?”

The girl raised her eyebrows.
“You sure?”

“I’m not sure about much these days,” I said.
“But I know this: she’s not dying here.”

We rode home in silence.
Sadie in the passenger seat, head down, but present.
I kept one hand on the wheel and the other close to her paw.
Just in case.

When we pulled into my driveway, she looked out the window.
Then looked at me.
And wagged her tail once.

Just once.

But it was enough to break my heart in the best possible way.

🪶 Part 2 – A Name from the Past
“I didn’t expect to cry over an old dog’s name. But some names hold everything you’ve ever lost.”

Sadie was curled in the corner of my rug like she’d always lived here.
One paw under her chest.
The other stretched toward the fire, like she remembered what warmth was.

I sat on the couch, hands folded, staring at her the way I used to stare at midterms.
Carefully.
Afraid to make a sound.
Afraid I’d ruin the stillness.

The vet had sent me home with a bag of medicine and warnings.
Renal failure.
Muscle wasting.
“Don’t get attached,” he said, too casually.

I wanted to say, Sir, I’ve taught five generations of heartbreak in paperback form—of course I’ll get attached.
But I just nodded.
Took the pills.
Paid the fee.
And drove home with a silent passenger.

That first night, I left my bedroom door open.
She didn’t move from the rug.
I whispered, “Goodnight, Sadie,” and felt foolish for how natural it sounded.

At 3:17 a.m., I woke up to a sound I hadn’t heard in forty years.
The soft tick-tick-tick of nails on hardwood.
I turned toward the doorway—and there she was.
Watching.
Waiting.

“Come on,” I said softly.
She walked in slow circles.
Then climbed onto the bed like it was a mountain she’d once known.

When she laid her head on my ankle, I cried.
Not loud.
Just enough to remember I was still alive.

In the morning, I dug through my garage until I found it.

A cardboard box.
Faded blue ink on the side: ELAINE – COLLEGE STUFF – 1985.
Inside: photos, a Walkman, old letters, a bracelet from a student I’d tutored in ‘88.

And at the very bottom—a Polaroid.
Me, age twelve.
In overalls.
Grinning like I had no idea what loss was.

Beside me: the first Sadie.
Mutt of unknown origins.
One ear up, one down.
Her head resting on my knee like it belonged there.

I held the photo next to the new Sadie, now sleeping beside the fire.
They weren’t the same dog.
But grief doesn’t care about accuracy.
It only cares that something you loved is gone.

And sometimes, when the world gets quiet enough…
It sends you back what you lost—just with more gray.

The next few days passed in soft routines.

Morning pills in peanut butter.
Short walks around the block.
Long pauses at fire hydrants like they were memory stones.
She refused to eat dry food, so I cooked her scrambled eggs with goat cheese.

Neighbors noticed.

One of them—Mrs. Lorna Finch, who once told me she “never trusted pit bulls”—came to the gate and said,
“She looks like she belongs here.”

“She does,” I answered.

“She yours?”

“She’s mine now.”

Lorna nodded once.
“Good.”

Then walked away.

That weekend, I took Sadie to the little park behind Midstate College.
The one where I used to read under the big sugar maple after lectures.

I sat on a bench with Sadie at my feet, watching two kids play with a drone.
They screamed at it like it was alive.
Never looked at each other.

No skin.
No laughter.
Just tech.

I thought about my final seminar.
Only four students showed up.
One kept texting.
Another asked if the final could be replaced by a podcast episode.

I told them to just… write me something honest.
None of them did.

That afternoon in the park, I closed my eyes and spoke to Sadie like she was an old colleague.
“I don’t think they even hated me,” I said.
“I think they just… didn’t see me.”

Sadie let out a long breath.
Like she understood.
Like she’d been invisible too.

That night, I was in the kitchen cleaning out my spice drawer when the phone rang.

Landline.
Still have it.
Not because I need it—just because I can’t let it go.

“Elaine?”
A woman’s voice.
Trembling a little.

“This is she.”

“This is Melanie. Melanie Kravitz. From your 2001 Gothic Lit class.”

I dropped the paprika.

“I’m sorry to call out of nowhere. I saw a photo of you with a dog on the Greene County Shelter page. I wasn’t sure if it was you but… your hands looked the same.”

That made me laugh.
They do look the same.
Spotted. Veined. Honest.

“I’m a vet now,” she said. “At Ozark Hills. If you ever need a second opinion, or a favor… I owe you.”

“You don’t owe me anything.”

“I do,” she said softly. “You told me I could write. That I didn’t have to marry my boyfriend just because he said so. That I had value.”

I couldn’t speak for a moment.

Then: “Sadie’s sick.”

“Sadie?”

“That’s the dog.”

Silence.

“My grandmother’s name was Sadie,” she said.
“She raised me after my mother left.”

I felt a chill.

“Would you… would you come see her?” I asked. “I think she’s holding on for someone.”

Melanie arrived the next day.
Shorter than I remembered.
Hair tied up.
Still had that nervous kindness in her face.

She knelt by Sadie without saying a word.
Listened to her heart.
Checked her gums.
Then looked at me and said, “She’s tired. But she’s still in there.”

“She’s all bones.”

“So were we,” she said, “when you gave us a chance.”

That night, after Melanie left, I lay in bed with Sadie tucked into my side like a puzzle piece that finally fit.

I stared at the ceiling and whispered,
“What are you trying to teach me, girl?”

No answer.

But I swear—I dreamed in color for the first time in years.

🪶 Part 3 – The Dog Knew Me First 👇👇⏬⏬

“They posted my face online, called me pathetic—and Sadie licked my hand like I was still worth something.”

It started with a ping.

I was sitting on the porch with a mug of chamomile, Sadie curled up at my feet, when my phone buzzed.

13 new notifications.

Strange. I don’t get many these days. Just newsletters, pharmacy reminders, and the occasional forwarded joke from Lorna down the street.

I tapped the screen.

The first thing I saw was my own face.

Blurry.
Washed out by shelter lighting.
Eyes tired.
Hand gently resting on Sadie’s back.

Underneath, bold white text in a screenshot of a tweet:
“Boomer professor retires, adopts dying dog to ‘feel needed.’ This is so painfully sad.”

I blinked.

The caption from the person who reposted it was worse:
“She used to grade my papers. Now she’s grading kibbles.”
1,249 likes.
Dozens of laughing emojis.

I stared at it for a long time.
Long enough for the tea to cool in my hand.

Sadie stirred.
Lifted her head.

I looked down.
Her eyes were cloudy, but they found mine.
She leaned forward and licked the edge of my hand—right where the skin folds into itself.

It wasn’t much.
But it was real.
And in that moment, it meant more than any peer-reviewed publication ever had.


By lunchtime, the post had spread.

A student I barely remembered emailed to apologize:
“It wasn’t me, Dr. Morris. I just wanted you to know. Some of them are cruel.”

Some of them are cruel.
That sentence hit harder than the post itself.

Because when I started teaching, cruelty wasn’t clever.
It was shameful.
Students might grumble or gossip, but they didn’t humiliate you publicly and call it content.

Melanie came by that afternoon, holding a brown paper bag of supplements for Sadie.

She saw my face before I could fake a smile.

“I saw it,” she said quietly.
“Don’t read the comments.”

“I did.”

“I’m sorry.”

I sighed.
“It’s not the words. It’s the fact that they believe them.”

Melanie sat beside me.
“You saved my life once. In a classroom. In a moment. When I was just a kid with panic attacks and a spiral notebook.”

I looked at her hands—now sure, practiced, capable.

She continued, “Now you’re saving a dog who has nothing left. That’s not sad, Elaine. That’s grace.”

I didn’t reply.
But I didn’t cry either.
Which meant I believed her—at least a little.


That evening, I received a message on Facebook from someone named Lenny Parks.

“Saw what happened online. Don’t let them win. I work at the shelter part-time. If you’re ever up for volunteering… we could use someone like you.”

Lenny was young—mid-twenties, maybe.
His profile picture showed him holding a three-legged terrier with a look of such love I couldn’t ignore it.

I hesitated.
Volunteering?

I had taught Paradise Lost for three decades.
Given keynote speeches on Emily Dickinson’s structural rhythms.
And now a stranger thought I might be useful cleaning kennels?

Sadie sneezed beside me.
A loud, wet snort of a sneeze.
I laughed.
Then I messaged back: “I’ll come Wednesday. If you don’t mind old bones.”

He replied instantly: “The dogs won’t.”

Wednesday morning, I stood outside the shelter in worn sneakers and a cardigan I didn’t mind ruining.

Inside, the scent of bleach and wet fur wrapped around me like a memory.

Lenny met me at the door.

“You made it.”

“I said I would.”

He smiled.
“I like that. People say a lot these days. Doesn’t mean much.”

He handed me gloves and led me to the back.

“Start with kennel 12. Old lab mix named Rufus. Doesn’t bite. Just moans a lot.”

I nodded.
“Sounds familiar.”

I hadn’t scooped dog poop since the 80s.
But the body remembers things.

I cleaned.
I scrubbed.
I cooed at trembling muzzles.

It was messy, exhausting, and smelled like heartbreak.
But for the first time in months, I felt useful.

And the dogs didn’t care that I was old.
Or mocked online.
Or no longer “relevant.”

They only cared that I came back.

That afternoon, while rinsing out a metal bowl, I heard barking from the lobby.
Not panic barking.
Excited.
Hopeful.

A family was adopting.
Lenny waved me over.

“You want to say goodbye to Charlie? He’s heading home.”

I peeked around the corner.

A pit mix with bright eyes and a crooked tail was wagging so hard he nearly fell over.
A little girl with freckles kissed his nose.

I smiled.

And something inside me whispered, Maybe there’s still a place for you here.


But peace doesn’t stay long.

Not in this world.

That night, I got a call from the shelter.
Rufus had bitten a volunteer.
They were short-staffed.
Would I come?

I grabbed my keys and went.

When I arrived, Rufus was cowering in the corner of his kennel.
His teeth bared—not in aggression, but in fear.

I knelt, slowly.
Spoke in the voice I used when freshmen cried in my office after a bad grade.

“It’s okay, boy. You’re not in trouble.”

He looked at me, then collapsed into my lap like a falling tree.

I stroked his back, felt every rib.
So much weight gone.
So much trust still left.

And then I said it, out loud:
“Maybe I’m not done teaching.”

Not people.
Not anymore.
But these forgotten souls?

They still listened.
They still learned.

When I got home, Sadie was curled on the couch, tail thumping once as I entered.

I sat beside her and opened my laptop.
The viral post was still spreading.
But something new had appeared.

A comment.

From a stranger.

It read:
“She taught me Shakespeare and grace. Now she’s teaching me what love looks like at the end of life. Thank you, Dr. Morris.”

I didn’t recognize the name.

Didn’t need to.

Because some lessons take years to bloom.
And some students grow in silence.


Later that night, I stood at the back window, watching the moonlight hit the frost on the garden stones.

Sadie came up behind me.
Rested her head against my knee.

I placed a hand on her back.

“We’re not done yet,” I whispered.

Her tail wagged, barely, but enough.

Just enough.

Source: https://petmaximalist.com/the-dogs-still-listen/?fbclid=IwdGRjcAMlyvlleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHogPoLZmro4QxJBPVRRAaODlQUPGw_J-OznqC8aXP3NeSRXezAsI63qBZrd6_aem_xunMvzknfAombEa1IM-eDg

Singer of the Soul

Published September 1, 2025 by tindertender

~Permission.

You have permission to inhabit your own life.
To say no
To say yes.
To inhabit your own knowing
Your own body,
And all you allow or do not allow
within it.

To love who you love.
To feel.
To inhabit anger,
contentment,
joy. And heavy sorrow.
To be full of strength,
and to know weakness.

Permission to stand for something. Or to walk away.
To find rest. To tell your story.
To give or take what is yours,
And to never explain why you leave —
Or why you stay.

You have permission, grand permission,
to have a voice. And to use it.
And to let others have theirs too.
To add your voice to the Grand Mosaic,
Your brilliant tile to humanity,
and not be silenced.

You have permission to tell the truth
and to let others tell theirs. Or to be in quiet.
To choose to engage in the old wars
To win the game. To lose it,
or to stand firm.
–Or to find something higher.

To know. –When not to listen,
Or when to be cracked open.
To let the silver spores of being, infuse your life
Or to watch your tender soul unfurl,
and come to flower.

You have permission to be Wild. So wild
To live in, under, to live through.
To experience belief. And what it is to follow.
To Lead,
Or to gather all you own, your whole being, if need be,
and take up your sacred path.

You have permission to live in your full truth today,
Even if it that truth is gone, tomorrow.
To be reborn.
Stunned like a babe, gasping from the womb,
only to find rest in the warmth and soft breast
of new Knowing.

You have permission to follow the call of your soul —
Even if it doesn’t make sense.
Even if it is inconvenient.
Even if it only forms more questions —
Even if it only brings you freedom,
Or a heavy burden.

For you are not a herd beast.
You are a Being of Light
Individuating your way out of the sleeping tribe.
You are an archangel, exalted to human,
Spreading the great arms of your wings
into Life.

You are a Boat Builder,
A Clock Maker,
A Worker at the Compass.
Full of beauty. Complexity,
and magnificent contradiction.

You, my dear, are a Singer of the Soul.

Never,
Ever,
ask for permission.

~ Rachel Alana (R.A Falconer) Midwives of the Soul

photography | Massimo Tommi

CHAOS at Burning Man

Published August 29, 2025 by tindertender

The Orgy Dome was destroyed.

Is Burning Man more than just a party?

Burning Man incorporates occult elements through its ceremonial nature and emphasis on ritual, drawing inspiration from the “Mysteries” of ancient ritualistic traditions, though the event itself is not inherently an occult gathering but a secular, non-religious event centered on the human need for ritual and community. Participants create cults and interactive rites as part of the art and cultural experience, turning the event into a platform for radical self-expression and deep, transformative experiences through participation and immediacy. 

Ceremonial and Ritualistic Nature

  • Ritual as Core:The event’s ceremonial nature stems from its origins as a bonfire get-together, with attendees engaging in rituals that fulfill a primal human need for belonging and connection. 
  • Ancient Influences:Co-founder Larry Harvey was interested in anthropological theories of religion and the role of ritual, which influenced the structure of the event, resembling ancient rites of passage. 

Artistic and Cultural Interpretation of Occultism

  • The Mysteries:The term “Occult” refers to the way participants create cults and secret rites as interactive art, inspired by ancient “Mysteries” where initiates undergo trials to access secret knowledge and participate in visions. 
  • Initiation and Transformation:These artistic cults mimic the “Mysteries” by recruiting initiates, subjecting them to trials or rituals, and marking them with tokens of secret knowledge. 
  • Sacred Space and Grief:The event features the Temple, a structure dedicated to grieving and remembrance, where people write messages and leave photos, creating a sacred space that offers deep emotional experiences for participants. 

Not a Traditional Occult Gathering

  • Secular and Non-Religious:The vast majority of attendees are non-religious, and the spiritual experiences reported at Burning Man are often similar to those in religious groups but are not tied to established faiths, according to The Conversation
  • 10 Principles:The event is guided by the 10 Principles of Burning Man, which emphasize radical inclusion, gifting, decommodification, communal effort, and leaving no trace, creating a unique cultural environment. 

The “Occult” Experience at Burning Man

  • Empowerment through Art:Participants are encouraged to create art, performances, and interactive experiences that engage others, turning the event into a space for radical self-expression and participation. 
  • Immediacy and Transformation:The emphasis on immediacy and participation fosters transformative, consciousness-altering experiences, akin to initiatory rites, as described in the concept of the Mysteries

First the sand storm …

Then the rain storm …

I Believe in Love

Published August 27, 2025 by tindertender

It’s amazing …
Foes have made up a story in their mind regarding the collective. They are certain every detail they “know” is correct and true. They do things to “make it” seem so, by sabotaging the life.

Me?
I dream of love. I dream of Soul connection and happiness. The details are many. My Soulmate is silent much of the time. My Family Divine are the true definition of Ninja and Stealth. I laugh at myself a little, thinking about mine adversary and the ridiculous stories they’ve made up. I self-reflect and wonder if my internal story regarding love with the unseen is real?
Or madness …
One thing is for certain; my dreams of love are greater than my enemy’s fantasy for my suffering.
I BELIEVE IN LOVE!