Written by: @Theholisticpsyc
A child who wasn’t able to emotionally develop, becomes the adult who: takes everything personally, is highly defensive, & struggles to voice what they actually feel.
HERE’S WHY
Our emotional development happens beginning at birth & through childhood, where we learn: how to identify and regulate our emotions.
Emotional maturity comes from this process.
In order to learn this, we need to be modeled it by a parent figure.
If we’re raised in a home where we are parentified (made to be the emotional caretaker for a parent), where a parent is too busy or overworked, or where a parents rage or emotional instability runs the climate of the home— we don’t get to emotionally develop.
The sole focus becomes staying safe in the environment.
So, we cope with hypervigilance.
Hypervigilance is the attunement to the environment. Meaning, we sense everyone else’s emotions or shift in facial expressions or behavior.
We know when a parents mood is going to shift & how that will impact us, when we might be blamed or shamed, or when a parent might withdraw from us completely (ie: the silent treatment.)
We learn & adapt quickly to caretaking the emotions of those around us. Or managing those emotions the best we can as children.
Sometimes this is mistaken as empathy— it’s not.
It’s a survival mechanism.
Long term hypervigilance creates nervous system dysregulation.
We become high reactive to those around us because we’ve learned that people are not safe & we must defend ourselves.
Everything feels personal, because at one time in our lives: it was.
With our awareness on the external, this leaves little time for self awareness, self reflection, or emotional regulation.
The result: we are emotionally immature.
Unable to know what we feel, how to express it, or if it’s even ok to feel what we feel (many of us have been shamed for our emotions: “stop being dramatic,” “don’t be so sensitive” “man up.”)
In earliest years we were made responsible for adult emotions.
This is never the role of a child.
They mean to overtake the human bioform with AI. They’re already implementing it in the body … it isn’t conspiracy when it’s factually stated by the White House. You know if they’re telling you they “need to”, they already have.
Time seems to be going so fast that I feel it’s going to flip.
Is this the time war? Where we go one direction for awhile, then reverse for awhile? Do we just bounce from one polarity of the time construct to the other? Are we trapped in a loop? If so, how do we blast out?
I see it as a sock, flying thru the air with a golf ball in it. It goes very fast, then the ball stops suddenly and the sock peels up and propels the ball into the other direction.
Is it possible that instead of the sock rolling up and pushing off the ball, that the ball could actually tear the fibers of the toe and burst forth from the sock before it flips?
Can the momementum which carry’s the sock move faster than the sock?
At peak momentum, does the golf ball (earth) protract some device which pierces the “fabric” of time, ending the loop?
Maybe slipping out of the sock is a good thing.
Maybe what appears as a loop, is something other.
You’d have to speak to the Loop Masters about that.
I Choose My Fantasy.
So many spewing their rhetoric as though it were fact.
Everybody’s being exposed for who/what they are, including me.
It’s messy, but necessary business.
For an ever so brief moment, I went there in my mind.
Did you just confess a fantasy?
No, but sometimes I engage a fantasy trying to choose me.
Why do you make yourself available every so often to remind them you’re done with their crap?
Why go there at all with your time, attention and intention?
Leave them be. Walk away and stay gone. That’s the best affirmation of “I’m-done-ness”.
Sometimes we dive right into interference, just to see where it’s at.
I sense this is more or less what the collective human race is doing at this time, each in their own way.
Once you’re immersed in it, whatever “it” is, then there’s a risk you can’t see it anymore.
Pull up,
Pull back.
Balance in all things.
You’re either consciously playing, or your a programmable pawn.
You know you’re about to enter a new life cycle. New dwelling, perhaps in a new state, new car, new potentials in friendship, partnership and future.
Let us say you have vision in mind, circumstances as they are now, and the potentials for future, thru circumstance, choices and actions … how these choices may create situational potentials, some favorable, some that can destroy the dream.
If you start seeing life as a game of chess, you can say you’re no longer a pawn, but a conscious player, in the game of life.
Once you realize your choices create chain reactions leading to a culmination of events … there’s no going back, and you can be certain others will try and “force a game” on you.
Why do you think the wealthy train their children from youth?
Future leaders, who know the game … the game of strategy.
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