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Gratitude and Making Change

Published October 1, 2020 by tindertender

If you’re like me, you were trained to be apologetic, to feel small, and to say and do things to keep you feeling that way.

It took a few decades before I put my foot down to this behavior. I will no longer apologize for who I am … yet I will always look for ways to be grateful for, and to, the people in my life who help me on the way.

It is difficult to change (never break) habitual patterns that were taught to us as children and young adults. These are our most formative years, and one reason why the memories of youth stay with us so long … even for those who suffer dementia.

Yet changing habitual patterns is necessary if we wish to change our reality.

As Dr Joe Dispenza states, “Your personal reality is formed by your personality.”

It is important to do things differently if we wish to experience a shift in our personal reality.

Skip the coffee in the morning, have juice instead. Drive a different route to work. Pack a lunch rather than going out. Sit under a tree and eat it, or go to the car and listen to soft music while you eat. After work, go to a hot-springs for a soak rather than going home to sit in front of the television … read a book, or color, or zentangle … get your creative skills going. Change the time you eat, the foods you choose, fast for awhile. If you take sleeping pills, skip them a few days, as much as you can stand … let the mind wander and ‘put up with’ a few sleepless nights … much can be accomplished should we allow our hidden consciousness loose for a time. Much will be revealed … scary things we can then ponder on and work out, lovely things we can grow in mind …

These are only a few ideas, of which I put into practice on a regular basis, not all at once of course, but I choose at least one thing in the day to do differently.

Being predictable can lead to many problems when it comes to our relationships with others, and even more detrimental, with our selves.

If you are having a bad day, consciously make it a point to start creating a list of things you are grateful for … any and all things that come to mind. It will shift your perspective fairly quickly, seriously. It will make it easier to process through whatever got you in a funk in the first place and rather than dwell there, you will be able to move on, into the next idea, thought form, or practice. And don’t just visit the list next time you’re in a funk, create a new list … because this list changes over time.

Mostly, stop apologizing for being you, stop making yourself small, giving away your power to stand tall and strong …

I’m not saying to become agressive, or overpowering … becoming that which has held you down for so long …. I’m suggesting a rising …. to heights originally intended for you … for we.

It is not a chosen few who get to occupy these spaces of strength and personal authority. It is you, it is me, it is we.

Blame

Published October 1, 2020 by tindertender

“If you are blaming people, they are holding you captive — and you are never going to change.”

~ Pershlie Ami (Hopi)

Blame can be a big weight and a burden with negative influence – Blame role and impact symbolized by a heavy prisoner’s weight attached to a person, 3d illustration

Advice From A Medicine Woman

Published October 1, 2020 by tindertender

“Cure yourself with the light of the sun and the rays of the moon. With the sound of the river and the waterfall. With the swaying of the sea and the fluttering of birds.

Heal yourself with mint, with neem and eucalyptus.

Sweeten yourself with lavender, rosemary, and chamomile.

Hug yourself with the cocoa bean and a touch of cinnamon.

Put love in tea instead of sugar, and take it looking at the stars.

Heal yourself with the kisses that the wind gives you and the hugs of the rain.

Get strong with bare feet on the ground and with everything that is born from it.

Get smarter every day by listening to your intuition, looking at the world with the eye of your forehead.

Jump, dance, sing, so that you live happier.

Heal yourself, with beautiful love, and always remember…you are the medicine.” 

Advice from Maria Sabina, Mexican curandera (medicine woman) and poet.

Experts at Reality

Published September 30, 2020 by tindertender

As most of us are busy trying to create a reality for ourselves that is healthy, happy and whole, there are others working against us.

You see, their goal is to manipulate the reality of everyone around them … in this way, they manipulate their own.

Two kinds of players …

The honest, who keep to themselves,

And the greedy, who get a kick out of disrupting the lives of others. This gives them a sense of power … and it may even be rewarded by those higher up in the game, doing the same.

The question is …

Are we aware of this fact? Or are we being pulled here and there, at the whim of another, or others.

It is easy to tell ourself we will not be manipulated, but are we telling ourself the truth? How can this be truth when we cannot see the bigger picture? The game … the hoopla … the hoops we continuously jump through at the guidance of others?

Reality …. it’s tough, especially when we cannot see it.

I did not watch the debate more than 15 minutes last night. Two grown men, calling each other liars …. like arguing children. And people are caught up in it as if it is the most important thing in this world.

Who is creating reality? Arguing children, or you?

It’s plain to see should one step back and simply observe without getting emotionally entangled. It takes practice … and time is short.

Stepping back now would be the wise thing to do.

Stop the drink, the drug, the mind altering substances which inhibit clear thinking.

Unless of course you enjoy being played ….

Then by all miens, continue.

Realities are being designed, right now. The one you buy in to will be yours for some time.

Choose wisely.

I say these things for my benefit, as much as yours.

What you choose now will be your reality for years to come.

Step away from the players, be the Creator.

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Bend, Bend, Break

Published September 15, 2020 by tindertender

It takes a lot to love a thing, a life, in any of its forms …. and it takes very little to destroy it. Usually, it is destroyed simply because the one they long to hurt has become unaffected by them … so they harm what, and who, they love, trying to get them to bend to their will.

So the one who has refused to bend, to submit to the destroyer must also stand firm in the face of the torment of that which they love … for to fight it is in a way, bending to it. The task then, is to shed the responsibilities one might feel toward the harm … blaming self for the actions of another …. questions arise, “if I had agreed to bend, to submit, perhaps lives would be spared, harm not perpetrated on the innocent.”

We all know … or at least I hope so by now, this is a lie. No amount of bending to an aggressor will end aggression …. no amount of shrinking will stop a power tripping entity from doing harm …. no …. they will demand more, and more, until there is no thing left but rivers of pain and suffering.

So the warrior must continue to stand strong and firm … daring the destroyer to simply destroy it all … they will anyway. Why allow them to strip a soul of their sovereignty in the process? Breaking the Will that we all hold so dear.

They will destroy everything anyway … despite contracts, or treaties, or handshakes …. they will destroy it all … if not now, later.

It is too bad that so many are blinded by this truth. They cower, and they call it being a “savior” for simply delaying the inevitable. They keep in mind the promises made to them by said destroyer … Utopia.

They have already relinquished their soul … their sovereignty…. they settle for less because this keeps them ‘safe’ … all they need do is fulfill their obligations stated in the contract … feed the beast.

Their collective soul will rot … and rightly so …. unless of course they are experts at throwing off the guilt of their chosen actions and betrayals to innocence, perfectly okay with being traitor to life.

In that case, they have become the aggressor … no better, no worse.

The tears, the sobbing, the torment of the innocent is music to their ears …. it sings out in everyone’s ears these days … and people are so distracted by the manipulated chaos, the virus, the riots, the fires, the elections … that they cannot hear what is plainly occurring, and they deny its existence.

Soon tho, they will not be able to deny it any longer. Even the most fervent denier will no longer be able to refuse its truth.

The Forest

Published September 15, 2020 by tindertender

“One day when you wake up, you will find that you have become a forest.

You have grown roots and found strength in them that no one thought you had.

You have become stronger and more beautiful, full of life giving qualities.

You have learned to take all the negativity around you and turn it into oxygen for easy breathing.

A host of wild creatures live inside you and you call them stories.

A variety of beautiful birds rest inside your mind and you call them memories.

You have become an incredible self sustaining thing of epic proportions.

And you should be so proud of yourself, of how far you have come from the seeds of who you used to be.”

~Nikita Gill

The Becoming

Published September 14, 2020 by tindertender

This world tries to tell us who we are from the beginning of our lives.

Fat, skinny, dim witted, intelligent, mentally challenged, pretty, ugly, selfish, generous, and any number of other things.

Before we become adults our psyche can be corrupted by the many opinions of our peers. We attempt to live up to their expectations.

Doctors may label us as ‘something’ in order to have an excuse to prescribe various medications which alter our chemistry in order to ‘help’ us. Once they do this, family, friends, society as a whole does its thing and tries to validate this ‘diagnosis’. Usually all done out of ignorance, or a requirement to prescribe meds, or a failed understanding of our experience of the Spiritual Realms, which we may have become connected to.

Triggers born of such experiences and judgments can be difficult to shed as we begin to stand more firmly in our OWN perceptions and ideas of Self. It can take a lot for us to finally say, No More … you are not allowed to define me any longer.

Yet the trigger is sometimes flipped by our connections, even unintentionally, due to the wounds we carry.

This is a good thing, for it allows us the opportunity to see it, to evaluate it, to sit with it and trace it to its source, to see how it has affected our lives and our decisions about self and relationships.

This is when healing can occur if we are willing to look at it deeply, acknowledge it so that it can be released, rather than suppressed. In suppression it will ALWAYS have opportunity to rear its head.

Acknowledgement and release is the only way to freedom from the stigma that began with others placing their own perceptions of our value on us, which we often take on as our own.

Becoming a healer is a difficult process, and always begins with our willingness to heal Self first. Becoming a healer cannot BE any other way, for books cannot teach it … it must be experienced for Self in order to BE IT, and to be of assistance for others.

Bless the courageous and their Stubborn Will which demands to become that which they have always needed, a nurturer. And somewhere along the line, transforming that Stubborn Will into a Skillful Will that is of benefit not only to Self, but to the World.

I love you so much.

Your Brilliance, your Endurance, and your Love for Life is tremendous and oh so beautiful.

I am one of the most Blessed Women, simply for knowing you. And for finally, coming into the true knowledge of what it means to be whole. I am so happy that this Life is a continuous opportunity for development and advancement in the Spiritual things …. in the Heart, Mind, Body and Emotional states which need focus to become Balance.

As chaos flies all about the world, let us reel in our energies, harness it, and apply it to that world we wish to co-create together … a world of beauty, acceptance, care, compassion and Love … in all of its forms.

Muah.

Learning Through Experience

Published September 9, 2020 by tindertender

Shamanism is all about learning through experience. The analytical clever mind can block one getting deeper due to wanting to pick things apart, judge and criticize. The mind knows no better, it thinks it’s protecting, but it’s not. It’s hindering progress.

To really make the most of the experience you will need to either befriend your mind by thanking it and asking it to take notes and you will get back to it later, or with intent, expand your soul essence to be more encompassing than the size and influence of your mind. In this way, you can move deeper and use the mind as a defining tool rather than something blocking your way.

Blessings.

https://www.contemporaryshaman.net/

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Reality

Published September 3, 2020 by tindertender

In these days, it is easy to walk away from those ‘people’ who attack us … not so easy with the invisibles. No, there, we simply must withstand it.

Good luck everyone, we’ll all need it.

Unity was my intention … however, rejected … told to get over myself … to get off my pity party … simply for the sharing of an astral experience and the seeking of insight.

May this world and all benevolence come through the trials we face intact, whole, and in love.

Something’s Not Right

Published September 3, 2020 by tindertender

Conspiracy theories are something Hollywood pays attention to, this is just about feeling in your own gut that something isn’t right.

The difficulty about lying is making the lies consistent with everything around us.

No politician or doctor has been able to do that for 2020.

Taking a close look at the information we receive is critical at this point.

Do you feel as though you are being attacked?

From all sides, in the seen and unseen world?

Do you feel like peace has been utterly replaced with chaos?

If yes, then it is time to begin creating that which we wish to see … leaving behind us all of the bullshit, and the artists who shape it into form for our ingestion.