All posts tagged Personality

Weird Is The New Cool

Published February 2, 2022 by tindertender

The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars …
~ Jack Kerouac

You’ve had a golden experience – one which seems impossible to describe. Yet, be reminded of the Biblical phrase, “To the one in whom much has been given, much is expected.” It is your sacred duty to find the words, or at least the symbols, and courage to express them to your tribe (and to the parts of yourself) that didn’t go on this adventure. If you are called strange or odd behind your back, then so be it. Weird is a mantle to wear proudly, because in being true to yourself, you might inspire someone else to be more of themselves. When you peer outside the confines of the ordinary world, you encourage others to recognize there is joy in being themselves. The word weird comes from the Old English wyrd, which means fate, chance, fortune, destiny, and one who stands in both worlds. Be emboldened to be your weird self for it is the weird ones who bring forward noteworthy contributions.

Mantra ::
I validate my uniqueness as soul gold. As I share, the treasure is multiplied!

Artwork by Rassouli

~ The Hero’s Journey dream oracle by Kelly Sullivan Walden

Glowing Hermit-ics

Published February 3, 2021 by tindertender

They say Leo’s love attention, crave it even, wanting to be the center of everyone’s focus. ‘They’ do not know me, or many others.

I am of the mind that people say this about the Leo simply because the ‘horoscope’ that has been printed for decades describes us as such.

Mostly, it’s just “leave us the heck alone”.

But when we shine, we shine so bright, which may cause this misperception, and even cause some to despise us for the genuine happiness we radiate.

And when we radiate happiness, it GLOWS and gets all over everything and everyone. Maybe this is why so many talk smack about our brightness, calling it ego.

Sometimes the brightest lights are the most severely attacked.

The slanderers cannot stand the light shining upon them. After all … we are quite bright, illuminating the shadows some try to hide.

Personally, I find relief when others decide not to focus on me … allowing me ME time … without interruption, or judgement, or scheming ways to manipulate or control.

Maybe I get this from my recluse father.

Genetics … hermit-ics … hahahaa

The Message Is …

Published November 8, 2020 by tindertender

Do you.

Regardless of what others say you must be.

Regardless of the judgements and attempts to make you feel ‘less than’.

Do you.

Your unique and wonderful you.

The whole of the world, it will seem at times, desires to dictate your character, mold your personality and shift the ‘base’ upon which you stand.

Do you.

Claim your individuality.

Be a significant marker in this world.

Be the best you possible.

That means loving ALL of you, all of your traits, despite others telling you certain aspects of self ought to be rejected, reformatted, forgotten.

Many will deny you, betray you, and try to convince you it is because of you.

It is a difficult process of reclaiming Self, once rejected by self.

Don’t do that.

Do you.


Gratitude and Making Change

Published October 1, 2020 by tindertender

If you’re like me, you were trained to be apologetic, to feel small, and to say and do things to keep you feeling that way.

It took a few decades before I put my foot down to this behavior. I will no longer apologize for who I am … yet I will always look for ways to be grateful for, and to, the people in my life who help me on the way.

It is difficult to change (never break) habitual patterns that were taught to us as children and young adults. These are our most formative years, and one reason why the memories of youth stay with us so long … even for those who suffer dementia.

Yet changing habitual patterns is necessary if we wish to change our reality.

As Dr Joe Dispenza states, “Your personal reality is formed by your personality.”

It is important to do things differently if we wish to experience a shift in our personal reality.

Skip the coffee in the morning, have juice instead. Drive a different route to work. Pack a lunch rather than going out. Sit under a tree and eat it, or go to the car and listen to soft music while you eat. After work, go to a hot-springs for a soak rather than going home to sit in front of the television … read a book, or color, or zentangle … get your creative skills going. Change the time you eat, the foods you choose, fast for awhile. If you take sleeping pills, skip them a few days, as much as you can stand … let the mind wander and ‘put up with’ a few sleepless nights … much can be accomplished should we allow our hidden consciousness loose for a time. Much will be revealed … scary things we can then ponder on and work out, lovely things we can grow in mind …

These are only a few ideas, of which I put into practice on a regular basis, not all at once of course, but I choose at least one thing in the day to do differently.

Being predictable can lead to many problems when it comes to our relationships with others, and even more detrimental, with our selves.

If you are having a bad day, consciously make it a point to start creating a list of things you are grateful for … any and all things that come to mind. It will shift your perspective fairly quickly, seriously. It will make it easier to process through whatever got you in a funk in the first place and rather than dwell there, you will be able to move on, into the next idea, thought form, or practice. And don’t just visit the list next time you’re in a funk, create a new list … because this list changes over time.

Mostly, stop apologizing for being you, stop making yourself small, giving away your power to stand tall and strong …

I’m not saying to become agressive, or overpowering … becoming that which has held you down for so long …. I’m suggesting a rising …. to heights originally intended for you … for we.

It is not a chosen few who get to occupy these spaces of strength and personal authority. It is you, it is me, it is we.

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