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The Backfire

Published January 13, 2024 by tindertender

By @aradiant1899

When the “Men” or “Beings” claiming to be Male Gods have turned their backs on the Goddesses, they have turned their backs upon the very same force of Life that created them.

They have turned their backs on the strength that brought them into the World. They have turned from their own Truths for the Lies that Men don’t need Women or they must devalue a Woman.

Men who turn against the Goddess in Nature, turn against themselves for Hate. They turn towards the weakness of their own Egos which end up destroying them from the inside out leaving nothing more than empty shells of Numbness that have to be filled in other ways like Wars.

Men who turn against the Goddesses turn against their own Beginnings and will find their own Endings within their own hands because they valued destruction over Unity.

Men who turn against the Goddesses forget that it is through the Goddesses where bloodlines are born, solidified & strengthened.

To ostracize a Woman for BEING a Woman, to isolate her because he wishes to break her Spirit rather than allow her to flourish, to attempt to destroy a Woman’s heart and replace it with an ice cold stone CLEARLY ILLUSTRATES a Man unworthy of Her.

Men who set the “Stage” to play out their fantasy against a Woman for revenge & indecency will always find the Curtain closing on them because their Acts will always backfire.

A Woman was never meant to be the enemy of Man. These are lies and perpetual cycles and loops left for our current generations to break.

Ever since Man and Woman began to turn from Equals, to Unbalanced, societies have become more impacted, more unhealthy. Families have hurt.

The imbalances have done extreme mental health damages to the Youth. Our future generations cannot prosper if they repeat the patterns that past generations failed with.

True Love

Published December 11, 2023 by tindertender

In All the Right Places

Published August 22, 2023 by tindertender

Dr. Frank Mayfield was touring Tewksbury Institute when, on his way out, he accidentally collided with an elderly floor maid. To cover the awkward moment Dr. Mayfield started asking questions.

“How long have you worked here?”

“I’ve worked here almost since the place opened,”the maid replied.

“What can you tell me about the history of this place?” he asked.

“I don’t think I can tell you anything, but I could show you something.”

With that, she took his hand and led him down to the basement under the oldest section of the building. She pointed to one of what looked like small prison cells, their iron bars rusted with age, and said, “That’s the cage where they used to keep Annie Sullivan.”

“Who’s Annie?” the doctor asked.

“Annie was a young girl who was brought in here because she was incorrigible—nobody could do anything with her. She’d bite and scream and throw her food at people. The doctors and nurses couldn’t even examine her or anything. I’d see them trying with her spitting and scratching at them.

“I was only a few years younger than her myself and I used to think, ‘I sure would hate to be locked up in a cage like that.’ I wanted to help her, but I didn’t have any idea what I could do. I mean, if the doctors and nurses couldn’t help her, what could someone like me do?

“I didn’t know what else to do, so I just baked her some brownies one night after work. The next day I brought them in. I walked carefully to her cage and said, ‘Annie, I baked these brownies just for you. I’ll put them right here on the floor and you can come and get them if you want.’

“Then I got out of there just as fast as I could because I was afraid she might throw them at me. But she didn’t. She actually took the brownies and ate them. After that, she was just a little bit nicer to me when I was around. And sometimes I’d talk to her. Once, I even got her laughing.

One of the nurses noticed this and she told the doctor. They asked me if I’d help them with Annie. I said I would if I could. So that’s how it came about that. Every time they wanted to see Annie or examine her, I went into the cage first and explained and calmed her down and held her hand. This is how they discovered that Annie was almost blind.”

After they’d been working with her for about a year—and it was tough sledding with Annie—the Perkins institute for the Blind opened its doors. They were able to help her and she went on to study and she became a teacher herself.

Annie came back to the Tewksbury Institute to visit, and to see what she could do to help out. At first, the Director didn’t say anything and then he thought about a letter he’d just received. A man had written to him about his daughter. She was absolutely unruly—almost like an animal. She was blind and deaf as well as ‘deranged.’

He was at his wit’s end, but he didn’t want to put her in an asylum. So he wrote the Institute to ask if they knew of anyone who would come to his house and work with his daughter.

And that is how Annie Sullivan became the lifelong companion of Helen Keller.

When Helen Keller received the Nobel Prize, she was asked who had the greatest impact on her life and she said, “Annie Sullivan.”

But Annie said, “No, Helen. The woman who had the greatest influence on both our lives was a floor maid at the Tewksbury Institute.”

Emotional Maturity

Published October 7, 2022 by tindertender

Written by: @Theholisticpsyc

A child who wasn’t able to emotionally develop, becomes the adult who: takes everything personally, is highly defensive, & struggles to voice what they actually feel.

HERE’S WHY

Our emotional development happens beginning at birth & through childhood, where we learn: how to identify and regulate our emotions.

Emotional maturity comes from this process.

In order to learn this, we need to be modeled it by a parent figure.

If we’re raised in a home where we are parentified (made to be the emotional caretaker for a parent), where a parent is too busy or overworked, or where a parents rage or emotional instability runs the climate of the home— we don’t get to emotionally develop.

The sole focus becomes staying safe in the environment.

So, we cope with hypervigilance.

Hypervigilance is the attunement to the environment. Meaning, we sense everyone else’s emotions or shift in facial expressions or behavior.

We know when a parents mood is going to shift & how that will impact us, when we might be blamed or shamed, or when a parent might withdraw from us completely (ie: the silent treatment.)

We learn & adapt quickly to caretaking the emotions of those around us. Or managing those emotions the best we can as children.

Sometimes this is mistaken as empathy— it’s not.

It’s a survival mechanism.

Long term hypervigilance creates nervous system dysregulation.

We become high reactive to those around us because we’ve learned that people are not safe & we must defend ourselves.

Everything feels personal, because at one time in our lives: it was.

With our awareness on the external, this leaves little time for self awareness, self reflection, or emotional regulation.

The result: we are emotionally immature.

Unable to know what we feel, how to express it, or if it’s even ok to feel what we feel (many of us have been shamed for our emotions: “stop being dramatic,” “don’t be so sensitive” “man up.”)

In earliest years we were made responsible for adult emotions.

This is never the role of a child.

Authenticity

Published August 31, 2022 by tindertender

Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, but trusting them not to.

Yet they try … time and time again.

True Love allows people to show their authentic selves. It can hurt, yes, but it’s a service many of us provide.

When people are not authentic, when they are master manipulators, giving them the reins shows us their authenticity.

It’s the back door to hidden behaviors.

One way or the other, people will …

Adieu

Published March 4, 2022 by tindertender

It has been said that if you give with the expectation of receiving something in return then it’s not really a gift from the heart or out of love.

Yet when one party is always giving, the other always taking, there is imbalance. The relationship is not healthy.

So the gift giving stops.

The relationship ends.

It has proven itself to be unsustainable in its current form.

When ones cup is being depleted without care of return then the exchange must stop. Not because of the lack of receiving, but because of the lack of care.

I fill your cup, you fill mine.

Otherwise, we simply are not good for each other.

I bid you adieu.

I’ve no interest in vampiric relationship.

Illustration by Édouard Toudouze

Relationships In Time

Published January 5, 2022 by tindertender

Our relationship with the trees and the plants is symbiotic. They cleanse and purify our negative energies releasing them back out into the world in a balanced way. They take our breath, the carbon monoxide of our breath, and they purify and release it back out for our next breath.

But there are violators in the system who harvest the energy we have within us, we release it into the atmosphere … cheering for games, fear based emotion and anger due to the manipulation of mass media and movies … this energy is meant to go to our beloved Earth.

The trees and the plants are suffering because their symbiotic energy exchange with human and other life is being hijacked by violating dominators seeking power.

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I visited a very dark place in the astral. The people were not permitted to use the bathroom facilities in the night when the city was dark. I asked a masculine their, do what do we do? He said, make an excuse and use it anyway.

I believe this was a glimpse of the violator/oppressors “kingdom”. Little light, little energy, little resources, and certainly not enough for those ensnared. They are experiencing great scarcity. Many of them will be lifted out of that space (maybe?) and into the true kingdom. I am so grateful to my beloveds for showing me.

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Some beings cannot be in water, or cross water. This is why having a humidifier in your bedroom decreases negative dream space experiences. Salt bathing eliminates other intruders from the sleep space.

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What if Geoengineering is actually a tactic to keep the unseen violators in their hole, so they can be rousted up?

What if those who mean to harm, and those who mean to free, both have and use this technology.

The Time Master, The True King, is reigning supreme with His family. It’s only a matter of “time” now before every living being, in all dimensions and realities, see it.

Image credit: Shutterstock

Love & Relationship – Misunderstood

Published March 18, 2021 by tindertender

Love is one of the most misunderstood and misplaced human experiences. Ever. Love is far more than a pleasant feeling. Love is a creative power. Love is not something you give away. It is something you reflect. Listen to understand why “I love me when I am with you” has far more balance and affection than “I love you”.

https://masteringalchemy.com/

Love and Relationship Meditation

Published March 9, 2021 by tindertender

https://masteringalchemy.com/

Who/What Is A Goddess?

Published January 29, 2021 by tindertender

This is for some of my devine feminines who were/are Goddesses and stepped down from much higher realms – so let’s ask the question: “WHO AND WHAT IS A GODDESS”?

A Goddess knows her strength. She’s anchored in her truth. She has channeled her experiences, good and bad alike, and transformed them into wisdom. She can guide you from dark to light and sometimes She will guide you into the depths of your own darkness so you can bring it to light, heal, transmute, and evolve.

She is a warrior of light. Unafraid she walks the earth and every step she takes along the way is a blessing for this planet.

All life is created in her sacred womb. It is She who breathes life into existence.

If you are blessed to have Her goddess energy touch your life She will transform you forever.

As the saying goes: “Be aware of what you’re wishing for.”

A man who has fully embodied divine masculine energy yearns for union with his goddess but a man who has yet to make contact with his higher self will run from Her.

When you have reached the light She will be your blessing but when you are still in darkness She will terrify you as She will inevitably force you out of your comfort zone.

He has to make sure that he’s ready for her. She will shower his life with magic. Her presence alone will challenge his mind and heart to enter uncharted territories. It is in this space where his conscious awareness is tested by the universe.

And it is here where his most profound transformation begins
-if he is not afraid of her power,
-if he is not intimidated by how unapologetically real she is.

You cannot love Her half-heartedly. She will know and not fall for it. She does not submit or acquiesce to a relationship that is less than sacred, true, and healing.

Her divine feminine wisdom knows that this planet needs Her energy to thrive and she will not sacrifice any of it to a man with limited conscious awareness. But She will worship a God who has done the inner work and is ready for a divine union.

This planet needs the union of Gods and Goddesses to be the conscious creators of new earth. The old earth too was once created by Gods and Goddesses.

Only when you are in touch with your own soul you are able to form a sacred union.

Mutual honor, freedom, trust, loyalty, authenticity, and integrity are the building blocks for romantic relationships of new earth.

All of this you must first find and cultivate within yourself to be ready for it.

Separating a God and a Goddess is to separate the cross. This is the meaning of Christ-Consciousness. The wisdom that males and females are equals who belong to each other.

The old world has been ruled by harsh male energy for far too long. Over time females have been forced to be more and more like men and ultimately, men have become suspicious of females.

It is time for women to be females again, nourishing, peaceful, compassionate, supportive creatures of unconditional love.

And men must be true again, comforting, caring, building, in touch with their masculine strength.

Come together in love. Evolve from trickery, manipulation, jealousy, and games. Learn to be vulnerable, regardless of your gender.

Begin by becoming a mate to your own soul. This is the first step before you can find and unite with your soulmate.

Ego (FEAR) brought us here, love takes us to the next level.

Separation is fear. Fear is an illusion.

Love means unity, oneness, harmony.

When will you wake up and surrender to love? That will be your moment of truth, the moment you acknowledge your own goddess within regardless of your gender, fall in love with Her and breathe life into your own existence.

Decide to acknowledge, honor, and worship the Goddess within now. Will it, speak it, and be ready for the shift.

Understand that She gave you the greatest gift of all, your life.

The masculine energy carries the frequency of light which is information. The feminine energy carries the frequency of love which is creation. Love is the only reality. Herein lies the power of all of creation. Love creates life based on the information provided.

“Choose love, choose love, this life is nothing but a burden without love.” ~ Rumi

Source: @Karina89350882