Surround yourself with people who talk at you, instead of with you. People whose problems always seem worse than yours.
Those that like to hear themselves talk. Who use you as a sounding board. They are always facing something they need to get off their chest.
Surround yourself with people who always have a new pain they need you for. Using your touch, your energy, as a way to reduce their discomfort.
Caretake their needs. They need more help than you do, you rationalize. Therefore you never have too many emotional needs. You never ask for help, for you can see how lonely Needy Vulnerable Other people are.
Let yourself s*xually and/or emotionally give to them, as a service. It is too hard creating boundaries. You don’t mind just being who people need you to be at all times.
How depressed people stay depressed, is by never getting angry. Always bending over backwards and being flexible.
Choosing loved ones that mimic dad or mom. People who ignore Invalidate Who you are. People that lean too hard on you at all times.
Have an ex lover? Or someone you are interested in? Stay energetically open to connecting with them, even when the relationship is unclear or unhealthy. When it gets in the way of you trusting and deepening with someone else.
Have frequent daily reminders of this relationship around, always taking you out of the present moment. Unconsciously making you hope for or live for the possibility of connecting with them.
Keep photos of the past, the ones who have died to you literally or metaphorically. Do not replace them with photos that reflect what is true today.
Live in a mental graveyard of the dead. Of regret. What happened always making you fear what COULD happen.
Love people who do not really care too much either way. Who encourage your addictions to suffering and loss of self, because they get something out of it. Because you have more focus and energy on them, when you do not treat yourself all that great. They can always get what they want when you don’t honor who you are.
It is easy to be a master at being depressed, especially during the aftermath of continual attack and murders of people of color. We are also facing the numbers of deaths crawling back up from the virus. You must, MUST, be even more diligent on owning your energetic boundaries Asking for help. Getting good help. Being with people who see you, instead of use you as an escape. Be with people that you cannot escape with because they want to look into your eyes and feel you really looking back.
Do not stay in the cozy prison of your numbness. It will only get worse there. Get help, even if you do not know what to say. Let people love you, by speaking up. Let people see you, by letting yourself be seen.
Depression makes you think no one really cares all that much anyway. So why bother? The truth is the world deeply cares. Especially the moment you decide you are worthy of being cared for.
Men … so ready to “defend”. Bless them. I cannot fathom what it must be like to dwell constantly with the knowing that at any time, the inner defender may need to be unleashed.
To see them in action … ooohhhhh …..
To know of the safety they provide their families.
The security they bring to their wives, to their children.
It is a heavy load. One I’ve never really thought about before.
What do they go through when their protection efforts have failed? What happens to their hearts, their minds?
Who will defend their inner being when that time comes?
The woman.
The nurturer.
This is why partnership is imperative. We balance each other in the flow of life.
If one half is suppressed, the functioning of the whole suffers.
May the masculine be recognized for his efforts.
May the value of woman be realized as the important aspect of life that she is.
May partnership become full and well rounded, in balance.
And may all hearts be blessed with the knowing that whatever we go through, if we utilize partnership in its proper form, ALL will be well, no thing can destroy it.
May all beings be honored, endowed with grace, and trust rebuilt … beyond any doubt.
Heart of the Issue:Hope ~ Do not give up; there is hope yet. A wish will be granted. A birth is imminent. Fertility is everywhere. (Goddess: Yemaya ~ Often depicted as the goddess of hope and love. She is also considered the nourishing mother aspect of all water.)
The Challenge you Face:Justice ~ Justice will be done for the good of all. Take responsibility for your actions. The chaos in your life will end; natural order will be restored. (Goddess: Maat ~ She brought Law to chaos. She created and judged every natural law in the universe, making her one of the most powerful deities.)
The Solution: Unity ~ You will be victorious. Teamwork or a partnership may be better than going it alone. Synergy is important right now. Delegation is useful. (Goddess: Boudicca ~ Her name means “bringer of victory”. She did what no other could do in her time: she was a queen, a warrior, a leader, and a mother.)
Reading from the deck “Goddesses and Sirens” created by Stacey Demarco
I live in a way now that if something feels broke, I fix it.
I don’t often lament anymore. Or get stuck in shame, or talk to my mom about it for hours or get everyone’s opinion or eat a bag of whatever.
I do something about it.
For example: Yesterday I was having a real AF relationship check-in with my husband, we hit a painful spot, and decided to get coaching ON THE SPOT.
We got clarity, excitement, closeness, and spent the rest of the day in bliss. The ease that we get when we have nowhere to be and no schedule to keep under other than the spaciousness of going on adventures and experiencing the world together, is incredible.
If something feels like it hurts in my relationships, I lean in and figure it out. I refuse to walk around in pain or allow my loved ones to be in pain.
I often face panic whenever I’d look at my bank account. After a year of feeling like shit, I decided to get some training on money and been rocking my woman on fire programs ever since, that continue to book up effortlessly and with so much fun.
Whenever I look at my bank account, all of my bills have been paid and I still have more than enough. It is an unreal feeling.
If something feels unclear or uncomfortable? I have a conversation right away, or at least I want to.
If something doesn’t feel quite right? I inquire about it and get to the bottom of it.
To allow something to be crunchy, uncomfortable, or unfinished, or not to speak to what I perceive to be an elephant in the room and figure it out, THAT is where I struggle.
To sit in the UNKNOWING and have no idea how something is moving or what is happening, that is when I start to freak out.
Not when I feel like I can act, repair, create, influence, make something.
I know I’m not alone in this:
High achievers, perfectionists, emotionally mature humans, we can have a real hard time with having a hard time.
Letting it not feel that good, and not making a story about it or heaping judgements on self or others. Not RUNNING from the thing that feels momentarily unsolvable, and instead, making space for all of the uncomfortable unclear feelings that come along with it.
In woman on fire, we learn how to sit in the fire. Unharmed. Freaking the FOOK OUT or going numb, running away or leaning in, and learning self-compassion and gentleness. Learning how to take a breath and make enough space for a feeling until it reveals your heart underneath. It reveals a need you didn’t realize you had, or a desire you have been ignoring.
We get to NOT BE PERFECT, and stay with it anyway. If we fail or succeed or are loved or hated, it makes no difference, for how we learn to show up for ourselves is what keeps us in the fire. Everything that is not meant to be, burns slowly and steadily away. So our aliveness can wake up fully.
Reach out to me to chat to see if this community is for you. For the ones who are tired from running from their fire and ready to embrace it.
Stop, breathe a few times, bring your attention to the center of your chest. Now, move two inches up, and than try to see with your minds eye, go two inches inside that area. This is your higher heart chakra. Focus, imagine a octahedron, the TRUE form of a “diamond”.
This is your “Diamond Core God Cell”. This is YOU, your Divine Soul Matrix. See now this symbol, this instrument, becoming brighter, expanding, encompassing your whole being, expanding beyond your vessel. Place your hands on your chest, right hand on top of left; Recite three times; My diamond core god cell is fully activated. Continue seeing this becoming brighter and expanding.
You can share what you know, your can share your light, love everyone unconditionally. But you can only “save” yourself. Each individual must go through the change and experience themselves. Each one must walk their own path. You cannot “drag” anyone into the fifth dimension.
Every being on Earth knows at one level or another that something is changing. Perhaps there are some that may not be aware in this now, from their human mind. But at the soul level they know what is unfolding. And that information is being trickled into their NOW consciousness.
You do not have to wait for open contact. Do the necessary clearing and alignments. Call upon the group of beings you wish to communicate or have contact with. Let them know you are ready to move forward with the next step.
Question: What is proper cleaning and alignment?
Answer: Meditation, time in nature, mantras, consuming light food, water.
The purging of the old, emotional, mental as well as physical imbalances continues. People are being pushed, pulled and twisted in their dream state, and in their awakened state as well.
The time for the games has come to an end. Snap out of the 3D illusion willingly, or prepare to be jolted until you’re awake.
Ultimately you only have one choice to make, fear or love.
Through the choices you make in this now, you either align or move further away from your spiritual aspect.
It does not matter if the world “opens up” or not. You know why? Because 3D is shutting down. The world will open up, yes, no worries. However, the next collapse will be worse than any “virus”. It is unavoidable. As always, those attached to 3D beliefs have it hardest.
Do not forget to spend time outside as much as possible. I don’t say this for the vitamin D issue. I say this because the Sun offers one hundred thousand other things besides vitamin D. This year’s Summer Solstice is going to be the most powerful one yet.
6/20/2020 will be a Saturday. Set your intention to be outside for more than half of that day. Walk in nature, meditate, or just sit in a forest or a field, or your back yard. Allow the higher energies to enter your being, as they flow through and around you, feel the upliftment.
The energy, the design, the structure of the new reality, of the new world is held WITHIN YOUR DNA. As more and more of your DNA connects and activates, as your consciousness expands, through the light within you, unifying with Mother Earth’s light, the new world shall emerge.
Do all that is necessary to ground yourselves. As the process accelerates, you will find yourselves in the midst of “tornadoes”. Exercise your power to remain calm.
The only time you have failed at life is when you have chosen fear over love.
Empty mind. Full heart.
F.E.E.L: Fabulous Emotions Emanating Love The gift of feeling is of your soul’s essence. Listen, be, allow yourself to feel, the light and love. Allow your feelings to guide you. They will never mislead you, unless you allow fear to come into play. Then everything crumbles.