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Dismantling The Illusion

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

Written by:
https://twitter.com/SanandaEmanuel

The illusion is very easy to innerstand when one let go of how things SHOULD be and start embodying what actually are. Everyone is a POWERFUL CREATOR BEING.

You create with your Focus, Fantasy, Belief, WILL and action. But really everything is about FOCUS – What you focus on will manifest.

SO when you focus on everything you don’t want, woala. There you go, wonderful creation and you get to experience just that. The illusions are to keep everyone focusing on what they don’t want and feel very low, sad, anxious, stressed and all that. To break free is to really take back ones power of ones focus and at the same time OPEN ONES MIND = THIRD EYE.

It’s that easy as your mind keeps your beliefs and even when you focus on what you want, you’re beliefs are still a part of you and that means also what you manifest.

So open your mind completely and then focus on the absolute BEST CASE, MOST OPTIMAL DREAM SCENARIO. Also, trying to control how this manifests for you will block it all from happening so let go of that, of everything while continue to focus on the most profound dream of creation.

Also, your FAITH in it is SO POWERFUL. You HAVE TO TRUST YOURSELF – TRUST GOD – THAT THIS WILL MANIFEST. This way you are able to let go of everything and then use your heart as a GOLDEN COMPASS, to really calibrate one now moment at a time.

Still, there is also your souls evolution so you will get tested by being put in situations that you feel “bad”.

When this happens, you know that you have two options – one is to change your perspective of that situation so you love that one too – really feeling it deep inside of you. Or you could choose to learn that lesson another time as you’re not yet powerful enough to face that.

Both are perfect – follow your heart!! Your mind will play tricks on you, your gut will play tricks on you so always go FROM HEART TO GUT AND MIND, not the other way around.

For this dream to come true one really has to learn how to love it all but each soul aspect have very different journeys there so one can not tell you what is true for you in your saga where you are staring the leading role. IT IS YOUR MOVIE AFTER ALL. So trust yourself.

Trust God AND MANIFEST ONE NOW MOMENT AT A TIME. It is this easy, yet it’s very hard as we have the human ego aspect that wants to interfere. This is bypassed by letting go of ALL JUDGEMENT and just trust your path. IT IS THIS EASY. Dance with creation.

I LOVE YOU EVERYONE!

The Lovers To Avoid While You Are Healing

Published July 14, 2020 by tindertender

Written by:
https://www.facebook.com/maria.palumbo.loves
https://mariapalumbo.com/

Those who limit you to or judge the shape your body takes, the way it moves, the way it feels, the way it looks.

People who project their insecurities or fears onto you and are often facing a new trigger or issue.

People who cannot hold your no, your s*xuality, your boundary, your hurt, or your truth.

People who condemn your values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, boundaries.

People who do not know what their values, choices, s*xuality, needs, desires, fears, or boundaries are.

The perpetual child-like partiers drowning their emotions and depression in drugging/s*xing, etc.

Those spiritually bypassing their feelings and using crystals, gurus, as the primary way to enlighten self and grow.

The ones who give their energy/attention/affection/trust to other lovers/potential lovers, when they are triggered by you.

The ones that you often experience their emotional absence, when you are needing support.

Those who are unwilling to get help or do their own personal work, requiring difficult emotional labor and standstills in your intimacy.

You need not avoid those that have been through trauma
or heartache
or loss

These are not signs that anything is wrong.

In fact, those that have been through the most loss are often the most incredible lovers, if they decide to lean into the dark, explore it, shine light onto it, instead of ignore it or hide it away.

Because you deserve to explore the dark together with someone who will never make you responsible for their healing. Who will bring to the table deep value through their own healing + self-awareness and mastery.

To getting what you need and deserve, and letting that in.

Funny, When I Think About It

Published July 13, 2020 by tindertender

For nearly two decades I’ve listened to taunting, to threats, to those insulting my bodily form and my thought processes.

I’ve been degraded and verbally abused by some of the most ridiculous manipulative groups I’ve ever encountered.

They are doing it to many people these days.

Then a woman said, “I’m going to help her.”

She sounded like a goddess, a power house of a woman.

Gratefully, I began to listen.

A man came on board. Amazingly, he knew just how to speak to me to get my attention and cooperation.

I’ve had a male friend for 30 years. We spoke this afternoon and he said, “You were one of the very first people to make masks, and you don’t like to wear them.” I said, “Afer all these years, you still don’t know me. I made them, because other people needed them.”

Many men just don’t get it. They want to insist, or demand an action, way of being, or response to whatever …

When all they need do … is need us …

Without manipulation or coercion.

And yet sometimes, the need must go unanswered.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@valentinsteph

TO THE HUMAN WITH NO BOUNDARIES

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo

I get it.

Mom had you be her confidant
lover
sister
brother
mother
father
husband
wife

Now it gets confusing.

What is family, what does family look like?

What ARE boundaries?

What does it mean to have boundaries?

Who should I have s*x with, be naked with? Open my soul to?

Who is worthy of me, who deserves me? How much do they get to have of me?

You may want to put everything inside of you that moves. It doesn’t matter. Having little authority over your body, mind, heart growing up, it can be hard to find authority over yourself now.

Everything floods into everything. It’s hard to tell who is:

Partner
Sister
Co-creator
Friend
Brother
Mother

S*x permeates EVERYTHING. Inappropriate boundaries feels NORMAL, healthy, even s*xy.

Siblings being attracted to siblings. Not sure of how to handle the attraction, therefore acting out at each other for attention.

Who deserves your allegiance? Who does not?

When all lines were crossed.

Father looked at you and your needs/feelings/body/health of your own, no longer existed.

He made you his:

punching bag
savior
devil
victim
perpetrator
angel (the rare times you impressed him.)

Shouting in your face. Making mom seem like a welcome escape.

His love was terrifying.

Therefore you wonder: If I am terrified, then am I in love? If I am lost in a confusing web of unclear needs, is that love?

If the walls keep changing, is that love?

It feels like love.

In woman on fire we begin to separate you from everyone else. Untangle you string by string.

The ropes on your feet, around your hands, the ropes around your mouth, keeping you lost. You begin to shake free slowly, gently, from what they told you love was.

Maybe it means f*cking everything that moves, until you are sickened and so alone that you do not know what to with yourself. We will walk with you back home to you.

Maybe it means celibacy. Walking away from everything for a bit so you can feel the pulsating of your heart underneath your pu$$y. So you can feel how truly deeply they are linked. We will listen as you trust who you are again. What you really want.

Maybe it means somewhere in between. Letting in slowly your true desire. And being able to breathe deeply as the lights go on.

When you can see it all for what it truly is, you no longer live in the darkness of confusion.

I love you and I love this. Us. Together. Getting free.

Starting soon 

https://mariapalumbo.com/?fbclid=IwAR39NRxE6k0mxIFh7rOuQ9el8f5Vvx6jl2vVWlnRF00mfO9alTLQJ48AXJI

Deep Personal Truth

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

Her heart broke
The moment he spoke
For she knew
He couldn’t believe

Her words
Weren’t her’s
But His
He had little faith…

Sometimes
She weeps
Remembering
His doubt

In the end?
His faith didn’t matter
Only hers did

She hates him
Because he did…
Nothing
That selfish prick

He listened
Like a haunted man
Knowing her
Changed him

Still
To this day
He hopes
She will say
Something
Different

Yet
She can’t
For her voice
Remains
Whispering
The same
Husky
Sweetness
As she always does

Stuck on repeat
She
Stays through the night
Helping him
Again

Written by: https://twitter.com/AgainMeMary1?s=20

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@finleydesign

Connecting with Love

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

“It’s NOT my fault!” You say –
As you stand in silence to the lack of equity and injustices that’s displayed!

You turn your head and refuse to see the existence of such a thing –
You say I wasn’t there, how is this my fault, you sing!

Well let me tell you my friend, it’s our ability – To become, the responsibility!

To be part of the of the solution –
To educate, support and help, bring resolution!

To a world victimized by all the ism’s –
We need more activism!

I believe it is my purpose to be a Steward of the earth – For the greater good
to rebirth!

In my community, in my world –
I cannot sit in silence or turn an eye to the injustice as it swirls!

Round and round we go –
And still we do not know!

Our eyes are open yet we do not see –
When we stand in silence and let things, just be!

We continue to leave the wounds unhealed-
Because we believe we’ll stir up problems with our lips unsealed!

Well I don’t care if I rattle a few chains –
If it helps to subside the suffering pains!

I’ve wronged people in my life,
can you say you’ve not –
It’s taken courage to face this truth I’ve sought!

It’s humbled me
indeed –
Forgiveness is the ally that I breed!

I’ve been empowered to be a better human – To cultivate compassion, and weed out the inhumane!

I may not be able to change history –
Yet I’m able to change myself, my thoughts my attitude, to rewrite my story!

I must believe this to be true –
Or I will die a slow painful death, I’m sure!

Disconnection is a symptom of fear –
Fear of the unknown, ignorance that showers the soul with dreadful tears!

I may not have been physically present in the day –
However, I can still feel the sorrow and pain that was caused in every way!

I feel it in my blood, my soul.
And until I face this fact I cannot feel whole!

Half of my Ancestors were raped and murdered , stripped of their
culture –
While the other half lived in riches at their expense, like vultures!

I could say it’s not my fault, for I wasn’t there –
But the truth remains, I’m there as long as I’m aware!

I choose to listen and show up for the greater good –
That supports unity and harmony for All, as it should!

I urge you now, take your disconnection –
Find a way to turn it into Reconnection!

With Love
💖🙏🕯

By: Alicia Tarin – 2020

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@judebeck

Watery Release

Published July 6, 2020 by tindertender

Decades old pain arose, surprising me, for I thought I had put it to rest. Well, I did put it to rest … without the proper processing necessary first.

I cried for a whole day. And even some on the second day.

I told myself to stop living in the past, to push it aside, to shut off the tears, to ‘woman’ up.

And then I spoke to some very dear friends, one of which asked me this:

Do you take a shower to wash your body?

I said, yes.

She said, “Tears are a cleansing for the soul. It washes it pure after trauma, or heartbreak of any kind.”

She explained to me that I should NEVER shut down my tears, that I should pay very close attention to what is being “washed away”, to feel it thoroughly and then release it.

After this talk, I vow to never put a damper on my tears, never to put the breaks on any release of past hurt or trauma.

I will allow my tears to wash my pain.

I will permit the process of healing in my person.

And I will not be ashamed.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@aliyahjam

RISE!!!

Published July 2, 2020 by tindertender

If you’re searching
For the answer
To the riddle
Here on Earth,

The Riddle’s
Gone unanswered
From the moment
Of it’s birth.

Searching
For the answer
So many
Would pursue,

In favor
Of their honor
She provided
Just one clue.

Rise up
From the ashes
You decide
Which way to go,

Either up,
Down,
Or side ways,
Then you’ll need
To know.

You will Rise,
Like a flame,
Rise live again,

You will rise
Like a flame
Rise live again.

If you’re searching
For the answer
To the riddle
Here on Earth,

The Riddle’s
Gone unanswered
From the moment
Of it’s birth.

Searching
For the answer
So many
Would pursue,

In favor
Of their honor
She provided
Just one clue.

Rise up
From the ashes
You decide
Which way to go,

Either up,
Down,
Or side ways,
Then you’ll need
To know.

You will Rise,
Like a flame,
Rise live again,

You will rise
Like a flame
Rise live again.

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Pepper Proud

Get You A Good One

Published July 2, 2020 by tindertender

Written by Maria Palumbo:
https://mariapalumbo.com/

Get you a good one that will love the woman in you.

The part of you that can look at him and THAT IS IT. He MUST have you then and there.

The part of you that can hold him when he needs to be held.

Even when he doesn’t think he deserves it.

The part that helps him surrender to you. He cannot help himself.

The part of you that can remember who he is, when he forgets.

Get a love that will not be able to get enough of your brilliance, your mind, your truth, your understanding, your opinion.

He will trust you.

He will go to you. With all the nothing and somethings.

He will long for you, any hour of the day.

No matter what you are wearing. Especially when you are gently undone.

Get you a good one that will not only love the woman in you.

But will love the child.

The way you look at him and he can feel that he’s holding your heart.

The way you trust him, to step in and help you, when you’re not too sure what to do.

The way you fear. Sometimes for no good reason at all.

The times you do not even really know what you need, you just know that you need him there.

The part of you that needs to be reassured, reminded that he’s not going anywhere.

That there will never be anything that comes close to you.

He can make you soup and rub your back and put you to bed.

Will not punish you for your softness, but will encourage you to go there with his easy smile.

Find someone that loves the fierce woman in you and the sweet child. Will not be afraid of any part of you, but get to know it well.

You get to feel what it’s like to be wanted for all that you are.

Always.

Photo: https://unsplash.com/@scottbroomephotography

Loving

Published July 1, 2020 by tindertender

Our heart is what connects us to all other souls and the mothership of life. And its ever so easy to love; they key is to let the heart be in charge, not the mind.