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Shadow Work

Published April 23, 2021 by tindertender

When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? Most of us were.

And I doubt we ever thought to question this fear. We were almost naturally taught to be afraid of the dark, because the dark is full of unknown things that might hurt us.

But what usually happened when you turned the light on? You learned the unknown things were not so scary. And they were not so unknown. They were just part of the environment.

We learned to associate darkness with scary and unknown, and we learned it’s better not to speak with our dark thoughts and emotions.

Turning the light on our emotional shadow is a lot more challenging than flicking a physical light switch on. So we avoid it. Superficiality is easier. But this darkness of our soul has a life of its own which thrives, whether or not we choose to acknowledge it.

It’s there, and it’s powerful.

Understanding Darkness

This fear of our emotional complexity grew as we grew, and with time became our shadow.

It’s a hidden part in us that influences our choices more often than we are aware.

In truth, much effort goes into repressing and hiding it from ourselves and others. It’s our dark side. The parts we are ashamed and afraid to show. But through denial, we fail to see that in the obscurity of darkness also lay our strengths.

For reasons originating in the past, we have decided to negate and hide this dark side without exploring it further. And so in return it keeps us distant from truly expressing ourselves.

In many ways, hiding our shadow can be considered the highest form of betrayal.

By concealing this part of us, we are saying we don’t deserve to show our complete selves, thereby betraying ourselves. In return, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over large parts of our lives from fear of being ‘exposed’ and rejected for the part of ourselves we are hiding.

As mentioned, our shadow can show itself as weakness or strength. Becoming aware of our complete self allows us an opportunity for expressing strength. Ignoring these qualities, however, will always produce a damaging result.

The more we repress these dark corners of our being, the more we face disorder in our personality.

This can manifest as,

addiction

anxiety

intentionally failed relationships or jobs,

…or other behaviors that cause destruction to ourselves and others.

To become aware of our shadow is to shed light on our earliest wounds and to give ourselves a chance for healing and transformation. But as long as we choose to close our eyes to this, the wounds will continue to decay while emitting poison into our lives.

To Deepen Our Spirituality, We Must Pass Through the Shadow

Any spiritual work must entail exposure and understanding of our shadow.

Solely focusing on finding our light keeps us away from places of shame, guilt, jealousy, greed, competition, lust and aggression. But it is these very emotions that must be worked through first before coming near our lighter sides.

Even certain spiritual practices like meditation can become difficult when we try to ignore our shadow self. Its repression shows up when we shut our eyes, and we’re left with only our thoughts.

As with all strong emotions, what we don’t want to look at always keeps us contracted and in rejection. Deep down we know these qualities and feelings reside in us, and hiding them leads us to a life of in-authenticity and sometimes incomprehensible self-destructive behavior.

If our shadow is not acknowledged and embraced, the depth of our spiritual and personal growth is limited. Denying to look at the darkness is rejecting ourselves the need to be received in totality by others.

We start to over-identify with the side of ourselves acquired through our own perception of reality. This in turn shapes our personality, the superficial side of us, which the world meets.

Our roles and personality try their best to help us feel worthy and lovable. For some, it is by being intelligent, successful, and powerful while for others it is the opposite. In whichever way our personality tries to control life, it remains just another attempt to be loved for something we know we’re not.

As long as this partial picture of ourselves is kept intact, we create separation.

The message is,

“I don’t want to look and feel certain parts inside me and I prefer to judge others for showing and living what I choose to reject”,

…hence choosing separation, inside and out. It is a painful cage of continuous isolation.

Embracing The Complete ‘You’

The way to our light is through darkness.

Whether we want it or not, the dark side in us is very active even though it is concealed and not evident to the outside. But we know it’s there, continuously asking for recognition.

The shadow should be met in a safe and loving environment. Otherwise, it is too afraid that its face will cause devastation and result in further isolation. When it’s safe we can start looking, seeing, and expressing what has been hidden from our awareness.

There are many unpolished diamonds of strength, creativity, and beauty, which we’ve kept limited so that others close don’t feel small, intimidated or scared. Speaking to our shadow is an immense step towards healing and self-love.

Initially, when we embark on this exciting and necessary journey, we may not be sure who we really are. But this is only because we are so used to our masks that expressing our true self is like meeting a familiar stranger.

Soon new possibilities, choices and, perceptions appear.

Suddenly we can face the many question marks in our life from a place of strength and authenticity. We strengthen our capacity to be in this world more fully and completely.

So, are you ready?

Shadow Work: The Ultimate Guide + Free Psychological Test
https://lonerwolf.com/shadow-work-demons/

Transformational Co-Existence

Published April 23, 2021 by tindertender

Do not underestimate the Power of your Personal Transformation and its effect on the Planetary Mind.

Leave behind the messianic obsession. Remember the purpose and commitment in the larger pattern.

GAIA, As you awaken, I heal myself. As I awaken, you are healed.

I open to Self-Remembrance.

I claim my alignment with the Highest Wisdom!

I call forth Divine Action in all that I do!

☀️ Sacred Offering ☀️

Published April 8, 2021 by tindertender

With humility – I surrender my self to the greatest power

With gratitude – I accept the mantle of infinite service to the divine

With love – I commit my wealth to reduce the sufferings of all life

With faith – I live to bring light into the darkest realms of existence

With spirit – I give my strength to increase the flow of Nature

With joy – I embrace the almighty to share the essence of its bounty

With truth – I reveal the sacred path with pure intention

With honour – I connect and harmonise with all that is sublime

(Image – jesusagrario.wordpress.com)

Source: INNER LIGHT: https://www.minds.com/groups/profile/1195450801911361536
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“Normal” No Longer Exists

Published April 7, 2021 by tindertender

“Normal” No Longer Exists

What if we don’t go back to Normal? What will New look like for you?

Mastering Alchemy offers concepts and tools to expand your skills and ability to consciously choose how to experience your life. Learn the simple, powerful tools:

https://masteringalchemy.com
https://www.facebook.com/ACourseInMasteringAlchemy

Self-Awareness Is Everything

Published April 1, 2021 by tindertender

When you’re actually self-aware… you’ll find there’s no time or space to focus on what other people are doing with their lives… this journey is not a competition.

We carry our attachments, trauma, and pain in our bodies… as we let them go… our bodies, our actions, and our lives change.

I’d rather get hurt from loving too much than hurt someone else because I’m full of hatred.

NO ONE can knock me off my healing and growth path unless I let them…

And that is my Power.

Source: @cjzingle

Still, I Rise

Published March 31, 2021 by tindertender

From youth the feminine has been trained to see the masculine as provider, leader, caretaker, boss … she has been taught to relinquish her personal authority to him.

Often, she discovers that the roles we are told belong to him are poorly managed, leaving us to fulfill the roles ourselves, yet not getting the recognition of authority, regardless.

Personally, my conscious self has determined to hold the position of Head-of-Household, I pay the bills, I make the decisions.

Yet in the astral, my young, trusting, innocent self is holding on to the position of subservience.

Oh how she challenges me!!

I hereby decree that any masculine or feminine of the 4D astral or any dimension seeking control, the magician who hypnotizes and manipulates into subservience the human being, has NO AUTHORITY here!

The astral me does NOT have my conscious permission to enter into ANY agreement which is less that empowering to Self, which brings harm or abuses to Self, or ANY of my relations with my human family, ANY other life form, or to the planet and that which lives here … I avow this across all timelines, past, present, future and parallel, and beyond time, ALL dimensions, ALL universes, All planetary systems AND the void.

I’m stepping in, and She of Me in the Astral will fall in line with MY wishes, embracing HER authority.

I will untrain her, bring her forth into her Sovereignty and Divinity … leaving behind subservience and the gifting of personal Will to any other.

By the determination of my Conscious Self, I vow this to be true.

Do not think that because she agrees to anything in 4D or other realms it be valid, for I have told you … she does not have the authority in her current state to make these agreements, I forbid it.

You Voyers, Violators and Manipulators have given me a run for my self … in a way, I thank you, for it is with these challenges, I Rise.

She/Me WILL command our own presence …

Time Space – Why it Distorts Your Reality

Published March 30, 2021 by tindertender

Time is an application, not a fixed reality. Understand how to change time and you will understand how to totally change what you believe to be your reality.

https://masteringalchemy.com/

https://www.facebook.com/watch/ACourseInMasteringAlchemy/

The Programmable Mind

Published March 30, 2021 by tindertender

The Power is in Your Hands

In this clip, Bruce Lipton PhD, explains how the mind functions as a regulator between our beliefs and reality, making sure that the experience is coherent. This is why when we change our beliefs, we can also change our reality. Studies have shown that in ordinary waking consciousness, we are in fact, conscious only about 5% of the time. This means that 95% of our decisions and actions are actually regulated by unconscious activity. Another way of expressing that is programming accounts for the vast majority of our actual behaviour.

Guilt and blame do not even have anything to do with us, they are 2 sides of a coin … those are learned strategies and learned experiences, not even ours. Calling back our energy and not participating in that mode of mindset will help us rebuild and rebalance our own beingness. We can be kind. Learning how to use energy and connect it to a situation is a skillset. ~ Jim Self.

A Woman Rejected

Published March 29, 2021 by tindertender

She was repeatedly rejected, belittled, patronized, and underestimated. Born in Baltimore on April 6, 1906, she spent her childhood summers milking goats.

She was expected to marry into privilege and settle into the role of wife and mother, according to A Mighty Girl.

But, she had other ideas.

She at first wanted to become a diplomat, but women accounted for only six of the 1,500 U.S. diplomats at the time and she was repeatedly rejected.

After an accident in Turkey, she lost her left leg below the knee,” according to Intel. “She was fitted with a wooden prosthetic leg, which she affectionately nicknamed ‘Cuthbert.’”

Because she was a woman, she was rejected by the United States Foreign Service. Because she had a disability, she was turned down by the Department of State.

So, she did what many women and people of color did during that time – she went to France, where she became an ambulance driver at the start of World War II.

After meeting a British Intelligence Officer, she joined the newly-created Special Operations Executive (SOE), becoming the second female agent to be sent to France.

“After limited training, this one-legged American woman was among the first British spies sent into Nazi-occupied France in 1941,” according to NPR. “She posed as a reporter for the New York Post.”

Her name was Hall, Virginia Hall.

She was the “real-life female James Bond,” wrote Dusica Sue Malesevic.

She “was the baddest broad in any room she walked into,” according to the Hartfield Book Company. “When the State Department proved to be a sexist boys’ club that wouldn’t allow her in, she gave the finger to society’s expectations of women and became a spy for the British.”

She is “one of the most important American spies most people have never heard of,” according to NPR.

This is part of a continuing series on the Peace Page for Women’s History Month.~~~~~“The odds of success, let alone survival, were not high for Virginia Hall when she was sent to spy behind enemy lines during World War II,” according to Sonia Purnell, author of Hall’s biography.“

No one in London gave Agent 3844 more than a fifty-fifty chance of surviving even the first few days,” wrote Purnell. “For all Virginia’s qualities, dispatching a one-legged thirty-five-year-old desk clerk on a blind mission into wartime France was on paper an almost insane gamble.”

But, Hall “proved exceptionally adept at eluding the Gestapo,” according to A Mighty Girl.

“She learned how to change her appearance within minutes depending on whom she was meeting,” Purnell wrote. “Altering her hairstyle, wearing a wide-brimmed hat, putting on glasses, changing her makeup, wearing different gloves to hide her hands, or even inserting slivers of rubber into her mouth to puff out her cheeks: it all worked surprisingly well.”

She “emerged as a fearless guerrilla leader who helped liberate whole swathes of France,” according to Time.

“She armed and trained three battalions of French resistance fighters for sabotage missions that helped paved the way for the Allied invasion,” according to A Mighty Girl. “One of her many radio reports shows the breadth of her missions; in it, she states that her team has destroyed four bridges, derailed freight trains, severed a key rail line, and downed telephone lines. By the war’s end, Hall had spent over three full years operating undercover behind enemy lines and, in the words of an official British government report at the end of the war, she was ‘amazingly successful.’”

“There’s a saying that the actress Ginger Rogers did everything her on-screen dance partner Fred Astaire did except backwards and in heels,” according to writer Raquel Laneri. “Well, Virginia Hall . . . did everything that the fictional James Bond would do, except in real life and with one leg.”

She also “masterminded jailbreaks for captured agents, mapped drop zones, reported on German troop movements, set up safe houses, and rescued escaped POWs and downed Allied pilots.” “She was able to play on the chauvinism of the Gestapo at the time,” said Craig Gralley, a retired CIA officer who has written his own book about Hall — a novel, “Hall of Mirrors”. “None of the Germans early in the war necessarily thought that a woman was capable of being a spy.”

“When James Bond was still in diapers, Virginia Hall was behind enemy lines, playing a dangerous game of cat and mouse with Hitler’s henchmen,” according to the Hartfield Book Company, which published “Code Name Badass: The True Story of Virginia Hall” by Heather Demetrios.“

The Nazis called her ‘La Dame Qui Boite,’ the lady who limps,” according to the Maryland Women’s Hall of Fame. “Hunted by Gestapo Chief, Klaus Barbie (“The Butcher of Lyon”), [Hall] had to make a harrowing last-minute escape over the snow-capped Pyrenees, dragging her prosthetic limb, ‘Cuthbert’ behind her.”

“Barbie ordered ‘wanted’ posters of Hall that featured a drawing of her above the words ‘The Enemy’s Most Dangerous Spy — We Must Find And Destroy Her!’, wrote Greg Myre of NPR.~~~~~“Hall was rewarded by becoming the only civilian woman of the war to be decorated with the Distinguished Service Cross for “extraordinary heroism,” according to Time. She was also made a Member of the British Empire (MBE) and was nominated for the French Croix de Guerre, according to the Maryland Women’s Hall of Fame.

After the war, Hall “joined the newly formed CIA, which succeeded the OSS, and worked there for 15 years, mostly at headquarters.”

British author Sonia Purnell wrote Hall’s biography, titled, “A Woman of No Importance”.

Explaining the irony in the title, Purnell said, “Through a lot of her life, the early life, she was constantly rejected and belittled. She was constantly just being dismissed as someone not very important or of no importance.”

“I do think that she became America’s greatest spy of World War II,” Gralley said.

“Virginia Hall, of Baltimore, became our country’s first and arguably greatest spy of the Second World War,” according to the Maryland Women’s Hall of Fame. “During the course of her astounding career, and despite a significant physical disability, she served as an intelligence officer for the British Special Operations Executive, the U.S. Office of Strategic Services, and the Central Intelligence Agency.”

“CIA officers have said that the techniques she developed 80 years ago to build up the French Resistance still inform the agency’s missions today, including Operation Jawbreaker in Afghanistan before and after 9/11,” according to Time.

“Her story is on display at the CIA Museum inside the spy agency headquarters in Langley, Va. — but this is off-limits to the public.” “She was the most highly decorated female civilian during World War II,” said Janelle Neises, the museum’s deputy director.

“She was a woman very much ahead of her time,” said Judith Pearson, author of “The Wolves at the Door,” about Hall’s World War II activities.

Years later, when admirers talked about her adventures, Hall would simply reply, “Not bad for a girl from Baltimore.”

Take that, James Bond.

~ jsr