All posts tagged Skill


Published July 9, 2020 by tindertender

You should be noticing right about now polarity resting very close to each other.

Emotions swing from sadness to gladness, so quickly you could swear they had smashed right into each other.

Same for all other emotional states.

We see it in the media … one minute they are demanding the economy remain closed, and on the other hand they are complaining about unemployment and jobless claims.

Yes … the media is having its own smashup of polarity.

Begin to notice it, in yourself, and in all things you are viewing currently.

Eventually, polarity ought to meet, and then begin to distance from each other once more.

Do your utmost to maintain a calm mind. (I have difficulty taking this advice, personally).

Alcohol and other substances will throw you into a spiral, a spiral from which you will not be able to clearly define anything.

Choice …

We determine how difficult we will make this on ourselves.

It WILL be difficult, regardless.

Stubborn Will says, “I can do whatever I want to do.”
Followed by, “Why did I do that, or continue to do that?”

Yes … my dilema too.

I keep wondering when Stubborn or Strong Will transforms into Skillful Will.

It seems my mind is not quite done messing with me yet.

Powers that be, please let the Will be transformed soon.

In the mien time, I keep saying …


Inspiration 6-11-2020

Published June 11, 2020 by tindertender

Make a commitment to learn something new. Have you always wanted to knit, roller skate, skydive, or play an instrument? Try it! Be a beginner and see what calls to you.

One of the secrets to staying young is to always do things you don’t know how to do, to keep learning. ~ Ruth Reichl

Sometimes we stop ourselves from doing new things because we want to do it “right” right away. We’re not willing to be messy or clumsy, or to make mistakes. But trying to always do things right can make us rigid, and never trying something new can keep us isolated in our old routines.

Imagine yourself looking at the world with a beginners mind, and being willing to try new things. This means you are also willing to be messy, clumsy, and imperfect. That’s what beginners do.


Dear teenage boy at the skate park

Published June 9, 2020 by tindertender

The “Pay it Forward” Effect

You’re probably about 15 years-old, so I don’t expect you to be very mature or for you to want a little girl on your skate ramp for that matter.

What you don’t know is that my daughter has been wanting to skateboard for months. I actually had to convince her that skateboarding wasn’t just for boys.

So when we walked up to the skate park and saw that it was full of teenage boys, she immediately wanted to turn around and go home.

I secretly wanted to go too because I didn’t want to have to put on my mom voice and exchange words with you.

I also didn’t want my daughter to feel like she had to be scared of anyone, or that she wasn’t entitled to that skate park just as much as you were.

So when she said, “Mom it’s full of older boys,” I calmly said, “So what, they don’t own the skate park.”

She proceeded to go down the ramp in spite of you and your friends flying past her and grinding rails beside her.

She only had two or three runs in before you approached her and said “Hey, excuse me…”

I immediately prepared to deliver my “She’s allowed to use this park just as much as you guys” speech when I heard you say, “Your feet are wrong. Can I help you?”

You proceeded to spend almost an hour with my daughter showing her how to balance and steer, and she listened to you – a feat not attained by most adults.

You held her hand and helped her get up when she fell down and I even heard you tell her to stay away from the rails so that she wouldn’t get hurt.

I want you to know that I am proud that you are part of my community, and I want to thank you for being kind to my daughter.

She left the skate park with a sense of pride and with the confidence that she can do anything, because of you.

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