Perhaps the most important question you can ask a potential love partner relates to their relationship with the shadow—their own, and the shadow that emerges in the relationship itself. That is, “How much work are you willing to do on yourself and the relationship when the sh%t hits the fan? Are you willing to go as deep as we have to go to work it through, or are you only interested in a breezy, low-maintenance relationship?”
Few people ever talk about this during the romantic phase, because they are not envisioning the challenges to come. Yet it is an essential inquiry. I have known many people who were shocked to watch their ‘great love’ walk out the door when the connection required personal accountability and therapeutic work-through. Some of us will brave the journey; others will flee the fire.
Some of us will do the work to transform our stories into the light at their source; others will run away with their ‘tales’ between their legs, only to find out later that their tales go with them everywhere they go.
If we can determine someone’s willingness at the beginning, we can save ourselves a lot of trouble later. (~an excerpt from ‘An Uncommon Bond’)
“To learn to creatively live with the daemonic or be violently devoured by it. We will decide our own destiny. Let us choose wisely.” ~ Stephen Diamond
As Jung famously said, “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
“The serpent that stings us means to hurt us and rejoice as it does so. The lowest animal can imagine the pain of others. But to imagine the joy of others and to rejoice at it is the highest privilege of the highest animals.” ~ Nietzsche
“What is most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine.” ~ Susan Sontag
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor Frankl
“We are stronger than things are terrible.” ~ Jordan Peterson
“Too much of the animal distorts the civilized man, too much civilization makes sick animals.” ~ Jung
“When emptiness is possible, everything is possible. Were emptiness impossible, nothing would be possible.” ~ Nagarjuna
7 Signs You Have Achieved Balance Between Shadow & Light
1.) You playfully don and discard your “masks”
2.) You have reconciled your demons
3.) You have discovered a balance between grandiosity and humility
4.) You honor your anima/animus: If you are a woman, you are deeply in touch with your inner masculine (animus). If you are a man, you are deeply in touch with your inner feminine (anima).
5.) You practice emotional alchemy
6.) You have learned to transform setbacks (wounds) into steppingstones (wisdom)
7.) You have come to terms with both your wormlike and godlike nature
Anyone who has been involved in an abusive relationship can tell you that it started out beautifully.
All the right things were said.
They portray that they want your highest good, and even assist you in gaining it.
After time, usually about a year, the real soul begins to show.
They may even warn you about it …
Saying some verbiage, or action may appear unloving, judgmental, or even offensive.
And it will be.
This is how it begins …
They “hook” you by telling you all the things you want to hear. Then they’ll turn on you. Tearing down your foundation so they can reconstruct it as they wish.
They will be all the things they warn you about, all the while saying it is coming from a place of love.
The sugar begins to waver between abuses. The sugar is used just enough to make you believe in the love … abuse, love, abuse, love … keeping you off balance.
The sweetness they lured you with becomes tainted.
You’re “hooked” now.
They’ll drag you around, tearing you down, and insist there is a loving reason for it all.
They’ll attempt to reformat your mind, your way of being.
They’ll re-create you … to their liking.
All you must do is cede your Will.
Take on their instruction as tho they are lord.
You’ll get a verbal lashing at the least.
A physical beating, and sometimes worse, also … if they are able.
It’s manipulation in the highest.
A common trait among many.
There are some on these social media sites who have been pumping you up, making you think you have power … and now, as I observe, some are entering the “tear you down” phase. They’ve even warned you about it.
Manipulation in the finest.
Although I’d like to save you the pain of it, the torment of having your mind reformatted, I cannot.
This is an observation and choice you must make on your own.
All I can do is spell it out, so you’ll have something to base your intuition on when it starts to feel quite ugly.
It feels ugly because it is.
Drop these ones like a hot potato.
If they “build” you, they can “claim” you.
Stand in your own authority.
Leave these ones behind.
They all have an agenda.
And it is NOT your highest interest …
It is theirs.
Many of these ‘gurus’ on social media are channelers. They receive a certain message, and they push it onto the public. They are the messengers. Obeying their instruction. Requesting you do the same.
They may receive a seat at the table if they get enough to follow the message.
It’s a hierarchy. They are striving to move on up, by getting followers, by becoming your ‘leader’.
Many of these messages nowadays are coming from non-human entities.
Working to format your internal hardware, rewire it to their liking.
Choose your path.
Exercise your Will.
Stand in your Sovereignty.
Leave them to play the game by themselves.
It’s about collecting souls.
Those who obey, and those who rebel.
The categorization is taking place now.
Protect your Mind, Spirit and Soul.
Don’t give these manipulators control over your mind.
The occult have their puppets in the open, working to snare you …
She looked fabulous with her long wavy hair, dressed in skin tight pants, she looks lovely in black.
She hangs out in dark places, with people who do the same. I asked if I could join them awhile.
Upon exiting the “bar” to go to the next, we found my car had been smashed into … a complete wreck. Upon closer look, I mentioned it wasn’t even my car, but she took the keys and started what was left of the motor …. hahaha, anyone with skills can do that … it wasn’t my car.
As we walked along, to the next bar, she recorded me a message … to eat a lot of jiffra matter and produce lots of shit.
She had a great accent, perfect hair, a nice body …. no one would ever guess she is the Queen of Shit.
Hanginging out in shitty places where shitty things happen, instructing people on how to behave in shitty manners and even on how to go about producing shitty fecal matter!
I had no idea the Queen of Shit would be so glamorous.
I wonder why she chose to hang out with me.
Could it be she thinks of me as shit?
Well, no thank you beautiful lady.
I’m changing my diet.
You’ll have to collect shit somewhere else.
Tomorrow after work I think I’ll take her someplace a little more my style … where the light shines brightly, the fresh breezes blow, and the only shit around is that which people actually pick up that their favorite four legged companions drop … the canine.
I will smile from ear to ear as I imagine her walking by my side, in shock at the brightness and purity of it.
Perhaps I’ll offer her some of an orange I’ll bring along to snack on.
Update: I had the perfect avocado and roma tomato on plant based pita chips followed by a purple plum and a bit of lemon ginger kombucha for lunch. Yum, and I still feel all light and fluffy!! Hahahaha.