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A poem by Charlie Chaplin

Published December 1, 2025 by tindertender

A poem by Charlie Chaplin written on his 70th birthday on April 16, 1959:

When I started loving myself
I understood that I’m always and at any given opportunity
in the right place at the right time.
And I understood that all that happens is right –
from then on I could be calm.
Today I know: It’s called TRUST.

When I started to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
When I tried to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time is not right and the person was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I know: It’s called LETTING GO

When I started loving myself
I could recognize that emotional pain and grief
are just warnings for me to not live against my own truth.
Today I know: It’s called AUTHENTICALLY BEING.

When I started loving myself
I stopped longing for another life
and could see that everything around me was a request to grow.
Today I know: It’s called MATURITY.

When I started loving myself
I stopped depriving myself of my free time
and stopped sketching further magnificent projects for the future.
Today I only do what’s fun and joy for me,
what I love and what makes my heart laugh,
in my own way and in my tempo.
Today I know: it’s called HONESTY.

When I started loving myself
I escaped from all what wasn’t healthy for me,
from dishes, people, things, situations
and from everything pulling me down and away from myself.
In the beginning I called it “healthy egoism”,
but today I know: it’s called SELF-LOVE.

When I started loving myself
I stopped wanting to be always right
thus I’ve been less wrong.
Today I’ve recognized: it’s called HUMBLENESS.

When I started loving myself
I refused to live further in the past
and worry about my future.
Now I live only at this moment where EVERYTHING takes place,
like this I live every day and I call it CONSCIOUSNESS.

When I started loving myself
I recognized, that my thinking
can make me miserable and sick.
When I requested for my heart forces,
my mind got an important partner.
Today I call this connection HEART WISDOM.

We do not need to fear further discussions,
conflicts and problems with ourselves and others
since even stars sometimes bang on each other
and create new worlds.
Today I know: THIS IS LIFE!

🌳💚💗 Sisterhood 🌳💚💗

Published November 30, 2025 by tindertender

If I show you my heart
Will you know what that means?
If I tell you the truth
Will you still hold my gaze?
If I own all the parts that society shuns
Will you shun me too?
Would you choose to let me walk this path
Without you?

Or will you laugh that wild laugh,
Roar from your knees,
Dance like the wind
Strip like the trees
Will you throw out the lies
And the fear of ‘too much’
And redefine ‘sisters’
Beside me…

~ by Clare Dubois, Founder of http://www.treesisters.org

Image credit and deep thank you to our Artist Partner Tamara Phillips ART

You call it FREEDOM

Published November 26, 2025 by tindertender

You call it FREEDOM, but biology calls it FAILURE (a man can’t truly love two women and here’s why):

This isn’t about morality. It’s about biology:

The Y chromosome doesn’t lie. The vasopressin gene responsible for pair bonding – is embedded in a man’s DNA. The higher the level of this hormone, the stronger the instinct to attach, protect, and invest in one woman. It’s not a choice. It’s hardwired.

True alphas are monogamous.

Swans. Wolves. Eagles. All dominant males in nature choose one mate and fiercely protect their bond. Why? Because evolution eliminates the weak. Males who spread themselves thin produce weaker offspring and vanish.

Polygamy is a myth invented by the weak.

It’s not “male nature.” It’s a cowardly way to escape intimacy, depth, and emotional growth.

Real bonding rewires the male brain – activating the prefrontal cortex, the center for strategy, long-term planning, and protection.

Monogamous men are more powerful. They have higher testosterone, more dopamine in stable relationships, and greater emotional resilience. The ones jumping from woman to woman? Burnt out hormones, fried nervous systems, and a void they can’t fill.

Real strength lies in choosing one. The best one. The most worthy. And building depth over time. Collecting mediocrity is not “alpha” – it’s the move of an emotionally stunted boy afraid to grow up.

A If you can’t build with one woman – the problem isn’t human nature. The problem is you.

Monogamy isn’t a limitation. It’s a test of strength. And if you’re truly a man – you already know that.

Love 💕 999 🕊️

Published November 23, 2025 by tindertender

When a human being chooses to live in ignorance, arrogance, self-absorption, self-centeredness, selfishness, and self-indulgence… they become emotionally addicted to the identity of pride. They become addicted to the illusion of control, the illusion of superiority, and the illusion of certainty. They attach their worth to stubbornness and rebellion, refusing to soften, refusing to listen, refusing to feel the truth that lives within the heart of their soul.

When someone chooses arrogance over humility, when they choose self-absorption over self-awareness, they disconnect from the true condition of their soul. They choose unloving beliefs. They choose unloving emotions. They choose unloving behaviors. And because of that, they have zero desire to deconstruct their facade.
Zero desire to deconstruct their traumas.
Zero desire to deconstruct their emotional wounds.
Zero desire to deconstruct their sins, their shadows, their false identities that were inherited through their family DNA.

Instead, they worship their addictions.
They praise their attachments.
They treasure their codependencies as if they are sacred.
They idolize the very prison that keeps them suffering.

And so they become emotionally addicted to their rage, their anger, their hatred, their bitterness.
They become addicted to their false assumptions.
They become addicted to their false narratives.
They become addicted to their false stories and false judgments.
They become addicted to the identity of their own fears and terrors.

And then, because they refuse to feel, refuse to take accountability, refuse to take ownership, they project all of it onto their reality, onto the people around them, onto the world, onto the ones who actually love them.

And this is why humility is the gateway to God.
This is why emotional transparency is the portal to liberation.
This is why the willingness to feel is the key to freedom.

Because until a soul becomes willing to dismantle everything false within them,
they will remain trapped in the illusion that is destroying them.

And for those who choose truth,
who choose humility,
who choose emotional honesty,
who choose divine accountability,
they resurrect.
They rise.
They rebirth.
They reclaim their original soul identity in God.

We God This.
Sacred Sovereignty. Divine Liberation.
Rise in Truth. Rise in Love. Rise in Humility.

We GOD this ,

Jason Justice Love 💕 999 🕊️

For Warmth

Published November 18, 2025 by tindertender

I hold my face in my two hands.
No. I am not crying.
I hold my face in my two hands
to keep my loneliness warm ~
two hands protecting,
two hands nourishing,
two hands preventing
my soul from leaving me
in anger.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Be Free Where You Are

My Life is NOT Your Script. I’m No Actress.

Published November 13, 2025 by tindertender

“When someone predicts what the future will be and you give your attention to that, you are lending your creative power to that outcome. The future is not set in stone. We are creating it right now. Especially ignore those who speak vile words of brokenness or unworthiness or weakness over your life.”

It annoys me to no end how masculines unseen, AND their feminine co-conspirators, demand that someone is no one unless their life matches some weird prophecy some random dude dreamt of in history long ago. My life is not a script. My life does not require their approval in order to BE. My life does not need to conform to their script or ideology. It seems to me they do not worship, and are not a part of, the same Living System the Mother Father Divine Most High have gifted the living, here. No. I will not shift my existence so you can “tolerate” it, actor, actress, script writers. You do not get to write my next “lifetime story” !!!!! In fact, I believe it is the Highest here now. Rewriting yours. It’s the end of your relationship with batteries. It’s the end of you trapping, and feeding upon, Gods family.

Precious Moments

Published November 9, 2025 by tindertender

With each year I become more grounded,
As my soul becomes more free,
I’ve grown roots that keep me stable,
I’m finally enjoying being me.

Life is now rich with simplicity,
I avoid the drama that some may bring,
I’m happy in my own company,
My heart has learned how to sing.

In each new silver hair I rejoice,
Aging is a blessing, some never know,
My journey has brought me so far,
And hopefully, still, some way to go.

I cherish each precious moment,
The laughter shared, the silent peace,
In every chapter, I now stand stoic,
With wisdom my worries cease.

So here’s to the years that shape and mold,
With knowledge gained and stories to tell,
I embrace the path that I have walked,
In this seasoned body, I’m happy to dwell ..

🖋️C.E. Coombes
🎨 Credit to unknown artist

THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING SINGLE

Published November 9, 2025 by tindertender

What people don’t realize is that some people are single in this generation because they are healed, which makes them incompatible with trauma bonds.

Unfortunately, trauma bonds are the template of our culture at this time.

Those who choose peace over trauma will have difficulty in relationships because most people that we meet are emotionally damaged in some way.

Healed people seek healthy bonds. These bonds hold space for authenticity and correction. It’s kind of like an oxymoron.

About 90% of the relationships/marriages that we see are actually trauma bonds. Those involved “need” the other person to make them feel whole because they’re both broken mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually.

Let that sink in for a moment…

With so much love,

Unknown

(Image credit: Ben Smith)

Everything in Divine Timing

Published November 4, 2025 by tindertender

“To love is to give the light from your own soul. Love is an inward beauty which flows from the heart. Let love rule your heart and life.”

“Ministers of God are by your side, no single detail, not a thought or an action, escapes them. But they judge not; they only love, with deep compassion and wide understanding. Remember, so that you look upon all people with the same gentle loving kindness.”

“Every soul has to withstand great pressure and be well tested. Suppose you are called to an important piece of work which is going to involve many souls; and suppose you had not been tested and proved? It is possible that you would break down under the stress of the work. Follow the path of light with all its testings and disappointments.”

~ White Eagle

There is a very important reason you don’t replace an accomplished person with an untested one. The untested won’t be able to bear the weight of responsibility, however, they have drivers (also unqualified, or they would already be in position) who will assist them in fouling up every sacred thing, while pretending to be accomplished.

1119 ~ Alpha / Omega :: A New Dawn

Published November 1, 2025 by tindertender

They took offense
To the symbols my spirit
impressed upon itself
During its battle.
They didn’t feel
Our journey worthy.
The Most High
Corrected them.

The journey
Requires no defense
No explanation

It is personal
This walk with God

Others may scoff
Ridicule
Deny the right of

But did they pray
Before they condemned?

Were they of Unity Consciousness
Or were they laying out rules
Deeming another insufficient
Or faulty, or unworthy of?

What are you supporting
With your vital force?

What are you earning
Taking
Interrupting?

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I am almost home now,
And you, you are always waiting
beyond that horizon
I must make for myself
again and again.
My old body and my young
body, in one body,
greeting and meeting, half aware
and half unaware
of going or returning.
The door opening to a new light,
an astonishment of welcomes,
a surprise party.
The true dream beneath
the first dream.
~~From the book “Everything is Waiting for You, by David Whyte

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I will not die an unlived life.
I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid, more accessible,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance;
to live so that which came to me as a seed
goes to the next as a blossom
and that which came to me as a blossom,
goes on as fruit.
~ Dawna Markova

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All limitless beings, without exception. Human life is like a stream swiftly flowing down a steep mountain. This body is subject to destruction. You will attain bountiful happiness. There is no permanent circumstance. We fear not, but remain undaunted. Bless us that we may be mindful of impermanence.
~~Natural Liberation, Translated by Alan Wallace

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To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wildflower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.

  • William Blake

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The further you enter into truth, the deeper it is.

The way up and the way down are one and the same.