All posts tagged Growth

Honor the Whisper of Your Soul

Published March 12, 2022 by tindertender

And the day came when the wish to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~ Anais Nin

What things do you get complimented on and shrug off because it comes so naturally? This is an important question when determining what your special gifts are.

What situations bring out your bliss?

Dreams are important because they speak the language of Soul. They are a compass, pointing you in the right direction, helping to correct your course when needed.

The language of the Soul is different than spoken word. Often it is symbolic, for example: the roof of a house = the roof of the body … the Mind. Learn this language, and you’ll advance much quicker than if you try to take the dreams literally.

Embracing Growth

Published February 26, 2021 by tindertender

Sometimes, we must learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable … stretching capacity. Rather than medicate to numb ourselves from the experience, we must learn to breathe, to smile, and not get lost in the details of it. Doing so will only increase the anxiety around whatever the situation is.

We are all changing energetically these days, that in itself is enough to cause discomfort. However, this is growth … and growth is never easy, especially if the growth happens too fast. Ask any tall person who experienced rapid growth and how it felt on their joints. Ask any Shaman about the birth of a Healer … they will tell you it looks like what the western world calls insanity.

These times offer us a magnificent opportunity to jump into the new, and our response ought to be an embracing of it, not a fighting against it … to simply respond to that which is presented to us in any given moment in the best way we know how … and usually that means stepping into our authentic power, a position we may not have ever experienced before.

Often, there will be opposing forces set against this new reality being birthed in us … and they must be left behind.

Love yourselves in every moment, and remember to be grateful for this life, in all its forms, in all of its circumstances.

A New Day is coming.

Stretching Through Perceptual Judgement

Published February 1, 2021 by tindertender

There are those who see the present moment and make the assumption that it will always be this way.

They judge people based upon their current predicaments. Seemingly unknown to them is the fact that no-thing remains the same in an ever evolving world. It is as tho they have not been watching history … their own … in order to know without doubt about this constant evolution of circumstances.

One new in an experience may seem like a failure or a flop, until they get the hang of it and learn to master it.

One who has seemed weak at one point in a particular circumstance will grow to become strong in it, increasingly so as time goes.

This is why there is a constant need for new experiences in life, because once lived through, life would stagnate otherwise.

We see these judgements all the time from accusers who say we have not changed, when they have not even been around or willing to observe the growth in us through the years.

Sometimes improvement is a slow process. Mental and emotional healing takes time, and effort. Without effort to rise above, the situation may never seem to change.

Yet, there are those of us who know without doubt the improvements we’ve received, because we are willing to stretch our capacity, and we are resilient in our intention to overcome obstacles, while remaining ‘heart open’ to the next, better thing coming along.


So when someone, or a group of someone’s say, “As long as (s)he does this, (s)he is okay, and I/we can cope with them” … Simply take what resonates with you in the circumstance, and let the rest go.

Doctors, parents, acquaintances, and the unseen all have opinions about what is best for us, and their desire to lead us knows no bounds.

They do not understand, or ignore the obvious strength and capabilities which lay, at times hidden, within a Soul. They see lack rather than potentials.

In my opinion, those who focus on the lack they envision in a person, a people, or a situation, have no business judging any portion of life … except perhaps their own … their own, which they never look at because they are too busy trying to change the world, not understanding that this happens when they go within and change their own Self.

Life is like a rubber band. When the rubber band is new it is stiff, and difficult to get any type of stretch. With experience comes the ability to maximize this stretch … capacity to maintain composure thru many situations, capacity to see things in a new way as they open to possibilities, capacity to shed layers of old and welcome in the new..

So, to those who sit in a seat of judgement and see lack … I say, “Get off my cloud with your limiting thoughts and ideas. You will not shape my personal perceptions of Self, and indeed, I will show you how it is done, and you will thank me later … or not.”


  1. Do simple math problems or puzzles in your head.
  2. Visualizing is excellent for boosting your creativity. 
  3. Write down three things you are grateful for. (Do this for about 3 weeks and see where it leads you).
  4. Fit in a few rounds of memory or logic training using word games or brain-training apps.
  5. Have fun with a jigsaw puzzle. Doing jigsaw puzzles recruits multiple cognitive abilities.
  6. Read thought provoking books.
  7. Try your hand at cards. A quick card game can lead to greater brain volume in several regions of the brain.
  8. Build your vocabulary, more regions of the brain are involved in vocabulary tasks.
  9. Dance! Learning new dance moves can increase your brain’s processing speed and memory.
  10. Take a new route. Don’t get stuck in a rut when it comes to your daily tasks.
  11. Meditation may help fine-tune your memory and increase your brains ability to process information.
  12. Draw a map of your town from memory.
  13. Try using your non-dominant hand.


Oracle Reading 11-3-2020

Published November 3, 2020 by tindertender

Be bold, and mighty forces will aid you. Take action. Good luck favors the brave.

Today I will start a new journey. I will not wait until everything is just right. I know there will always be challenges, obstacles, and imperfect conditions. So what! I will get started now. With each step I will grow stronger, more skilled, and more confident. I will take a risk and I will succeed.

You are transforming. Let go of the past. Embrace the light and joy of this new day.

Today I will embrace transformation. I have the courage to let go of the past. I will eliminate the negatives in my life and make room for all things positive and beautiful. I can choose to grow and I know it is I who must do the choosing. I give thanks for this new day, a new start, and a new life.

Trust the process and be patient. Becoming cannot be rushed. Change is beautiful.

Today I embrace the transformation in my life. I will not be upset with things I cannot change, for change has its own timing. Instead, I will let go and flow into this powerful process. Once it starts I know it will not stop. Right now I will have patience with myself, forgive myself and love myself. I know I am an amazing being on a journey to beautiful change.

Reading from the deck Magical Times Empowerment Cards created by Jody Bergsma


Published October 9, 2020 by tindertender

Going along in life it may sometimes feel as though everything has fallen apart, literally.

You may tell yourself you’ve failed, others may say the same, reaffirming your thoughts of insufficiency.

Since we are always at choice, we have the opportunity to shift perspective, to see it from another angle.

Perhaps when things seem to fall apart, or literally do, instead of seeing it as failure, seeing it as simply an opportunity to come at it from a different position, or frame of mind.

Perhaps it is an opportunity to realize that the way one is thinking about the situation needs rebirthing, refreshed.

Perhaps it is a necessary step in the process, a baby step if you will, to the next level of reality in the situation.

Usually, personal growth is made in increments. Every time there is a set back it can feel like a failure, but is only a step in the right direction, one step at a time, a continual birthing and death to perception of the circumstance.

Rather than allowing our self to fray and fall apart every time a step is made, every time we walk out of the old and into the new, an embrace for the newness ought to be cultivated in mind. A sense of gratitude for the progression in the issue, and indeed in life itself, held in mind and honored by the spirit within.

You are not failing my dear, nor are your efforts wasted. You are in a continual state of rebirthing yourself, ever more into higher perspectives and realities.

Affirmation 10-5-2020

Published October 5, 2020 by tindertender

Today is a day to focus on growth. Every day is an opportunity for me to grow as a person, to grow in spirit, to grow in knowledge, to grow in understanding. There may be some limits to my physical growth, but there is no limit to how far I can expand my mind. Today I will look to each experience as a chance to grow – in mind, body, and spirit.

~ A Daily Book of Pagan Prayer by Megan Day

Oracle Reading 9-1-2020

Published September 1, 2020 by tindertender

Shed old skin

Cast off the old. Reveal your true colors, talents and gifts to the world.

The energy of renewal is washing over your life at this time. If for some reason you feel that your true self hasn’t been recognized or if you’ve been misread by others, know this energy is now leaving you. As you’ve been working through your old stories and all the self-limiting beliefs that you’ve accumulated along the way, you’ve been peeling away a shield of skin that has created limiting experiences. Your own personal commitment to growth has been recognized and now the external world will begin to reflect all of the work that you’ve been doing within. If you feel someone you love has misunderstood you recently, they will be able to see beyond that if you’re willing to recognize your own challenges. This is a time for renewal, abundance and connection. Let yourself be reborn and celebrated.

Stay rooted and grounded

Take time to connect deeply with the energy of the Earth so that you can feel supported and make decisions based on strength and integrity.

It’s important for you to take a grounded approach to your current situation. If you are rushing ahead or making a decision based on your more fearful responses, you will miss out on the growth you deserve. Take some time to calm down and get grounded before proceeding further. Breathe, relax and connect with your center. Then consider what to do. It’s important to plant seeds that are going to grow into something beautiful rather that turn into a weed you have to deal with!

Reading from the deck “Angels and Ancestors” oracle cards created by Kyle Gray

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