Stretching Through Perceptual Judgement

Published February 1, 2021 by tindertender

There are those who see the present moment and make the assumption that it will always be this way.

They judge people based upon their current predicaments. Seemingly unknown to them is the fact that no-thing remains the same in an ever evolving world. It is as tho they have not been watching history … their own … in order to know without doubt about this constant evolution of circumstances.

One new in an experience may seem like a failure or a flop, until they get the hang of it and learn to master it.

One who has seemed weak at one point in a particular circumstance will grow to become strong in it, increasingly so as time goes.

This is why there is a constant need for new experiences in life, because once lived through, life would stagnate otherwise.

We see these judgements all the time from accusers who say we have not changed, when they have not even been around or willing to observe the growth in us through the years.

Sometimes improvement is a slow process. Mental and emotional healing takes time, and effort. Without effort to rise above, the situation may never seem to change.

Yet, there are those of us who know without doubt the improvements we’ve received, because we are willing to stretch our capacity, and we are resilient in our intention to overcome obstacles, while remaining ‘heart open’ to the next, better thing coming along.


So when someone, or a group of someone’s say, “As long as (s)he does this, (s)he is okay, and I/we can cope with them” … Simply take what resonates with you in the circumstance, and let the rest go.

Doctors, parents, acquaintances, and the unseen all have opinions about what is best for us, and their desire to lead us knows no bounds.

They do not understand, or ignore the obvious strength and capabilities which lay, at times hidden, within a Soul. They see lack rather than potentials.

In my opinion, those who focus on the lack they envision in a person, a people, or a situation, have no business judging any portion of life … except perhaps their own … their own, which they never look at because they are too busy trying to change the world, not understanding that this happens when they go within and change their own Self.

Life is like a rubber band. When the rubber band is new it is stiff, and difficult to get any type of stretch. With experience comes the ability to maximize this stretch … capacity to maintain composure thru many situations, capacity to see things in a new way as they open to possibilities, capacity to shed layers of old and welcome in the new..

So, to those who sit in a seat of judgement and see lack … I say, “Get off my cloud with your limiting thoughts and ideas. You will not shape my personal perceptions of Self, and indeed, I will show you how it is done, and you will thank me later … or not.”


  1. Do simple math problems or puzzles in your head.
  2. Visualizing is excellent for boosting your creativity. 
  3. Write down three things you are grateful for. (Do this for about 3 weeks and see where it leads you).
  4. Fit in a few rounds of memory or logic training using word games or brain-training apps.
  5. Have fun with a jigsaw puzzle. Doing jigsaw puzzles recruits multiple cognitive abilities.
  6. Read thought provoking books.
  7. Try your hand at cards. A quick card game can lead to greater brain volume in several regions of the brain.
  8. Build your vocabulary, more regions of the brain are involved in vocabulary tasks.
  9. Dance! Learning new dance moves can increase your brain’s processing speed and memory.
  10. Take a new route. Don’t get stuck in a rut when it comes to your daily tasks.
  11. Meditation may help fine-tune your memory and increase your brains ability to process information.
  12. Draw a map of your town from memory.
  13. Try using your non-dominant hand.


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