Believe all your problems in relationship have to do with the other person. They are too mean, or needy, or not smart enough, or demanding, avoidant, anxious, narcissistic.
Or
Believe all of your problems in relationship have to do with you and you can’t grow. Believe your worthless, hopeless, beyond love, no one ever really cares.
Don’t get help and stew in that not so s*xy misery.
Pointing fingers at all will leave you hurting and alone.
Instead adopt a “we” attitude when in relationship.
We can grow.
We can learn.
We can laugh at ourselves.
We can heal.
We hurt but are not broken.
We make mistakes and still deserve love.
We got this.
You deserve that. To be held. For a long long time.
Surround yourself with people who talk at you, instead of with you. People whose problems always seem worse than yours.
Those that like to hear themselves talk. Who use you as a sounding board. They are always facing something they need to get off their chest.
Surround yourself with people who always have a new pain they need you for. Using your touch, your energy, as a way to reduce their discomfort.
Caretake their needs. They need more help than you do, you rationalize. Therefore you never have too many emotional needs. You never ask for help, for you can see how lonely Needy Vulnerable Other people are.
Let yourself s*xually and/or emotionally give to them, as a service. It is too hard creating boundaries. You don’t mind just being who people need you to be at all times.
How depressed people stay depressed, is by never getting angry. Always bending over backwards and being flexible.
Choosing loved ones that mimic dad or mom. People who ignore Invalidate Who you are. People that lean too hard on you at all times.
Have an ex lover? Or someone you are interested in? Stay energetically open to connecting with them, even when the relationship is unclear or unhealthy. When it gets in the way of you trusting and deepening with someone else.
Have frequent daily reminders of this relationship around, always taking you out of the present moment. Unconsciously making you hope for or live for the possibility of connecting with them.
Keep photos of the past, the ones who have died to you literally or metaphorically. Do not replace them with photos that reflect what is true today.
Live in a mental graveyard of the dead. Of regret. What happened always making you fear what COULD happen.
Love people who do not really care too much either way. Who encourage your addictions to suffering and loss of self, because they get something out of it. Because you have more focus and energy on them, when you do not treat yourself all that great. They can always get what they want when you don’t honor who you are.
It is easy to be a master at being depressed, especially during the aftermath of continual attack and murders of people of color. We are also facing the numbers of deaths crawling back up from the virus. You must, MUST, be even more diligent on owning your energetic boundaries Asking for help. Getting good help. Being with people who see you, instead of use you as an escape. Be with people that you cannot escape with because they want to look into your eyes and feel you really looking back.
Do not stay in the cozy prison of your numbness. It will only get worse there. Get help, even if you do not know what to say. Let people love you, by speaking up. Let people see you, by letting yourself be seen.
Depression makes you think no one really cares all that much anyway. So why bother? The truth is the world deeply cares. Especially the moment you decide you are worthy of being cared for.
Hello, everyone. Today I just have a short message from Archangel Raphael, who sometimes uses my account. She is currently busy holding together a tectonic plate system and calming down a volcano.
I’ve described to you in the past the work that AA Raphael has done to remove implants from your brains and help you heal from what has happened over the time you’ve spent on this planet. She wants to let you know that we all need to work on setting appropriate energetic boundaries to deal with those who hurt us, with their words and actions. This again is a matter of strengthening the energy bubble around your body, known as the “auric field.”
Sometimes we are in family or work or community situations where we are required to maintain relationships that no longer serve us in a positive way. Without a strong energetic barrier between ourselves and those who want to hurt us, our energy fields become ineffective.
I would like to add that this also applies to the constant barrage of negativity that comes out of all of the different political factions in the world. Politics are designed for control. The messages that come out of politics are meant as a mind control operation.
With a strong auric field, the harmful messages of hate and judgment that come from poor relationships or the media will more easily bounce off you, rather than deplete your precious Creator energy we each carry.
This thread from March will give you some information on how to strengthen your auric field. The Christ Letters we have been discussing offer more complete information on healing the energy you output to change your reality. https://twitter.com/archangelamongu/status/1235959759188013057?s=21
AA Raphael also sends her love, and wants you to know she and her teams are working to deal with all of those who are ill and struggling with COVID-19. She and the healing teams of her gestalt are always in your service, simply by asking for their assistance in your mind.
In this existence, we are seen yet also unseen (physical form vs our thought form). We are here and yet not here.
It is often stated that there does not appear to be an answer to a situation or circumstance. I know I’ve done it.
How can no solution exist?
We are here in the physical, and also in the spiritual through thought and energy.
If we become still and know that our perspective has been limited, opening to new ways of seeing things from our various positions in the seen and unseen worlds, answers will begin to flow.
People are so tense these days. Muscles contracting, heart speeding up, tensions rising, anxiety or fear. They are too much in their head and body … shrinking, becoming more and more rigid.
Life is a flow.
Momentum occurs when the intention and drive are combined into action. Rigidity has no ability to flow, it sinks.
Many men prefer girls in their life. They are focused on the physical form, the attractiveness. They are unconcerned with her character in the beginning, for it is her physical condition that speaks to his hormones, revving up his testosterone output.
He cannot think straight.
And often times, he lacks the necessary mindset to recognize the value of a woman.
Woman, stomach stretched from child bearing, breast flattened, not as plump as they once were. Her body stretches in life, and shrinks, reshaping itself into new form.
Man …
He ridicules her belly, her weight. He tells her other women (girls) are better looking, more ‘natural’ blind to the fact that what happens to the crone is purely natural.
He accepts a portion of this reality and rejects the rest.
Never satisfied.
And consistently reminding the woman she should also never be satisfied with herself.
That she should always work specifically to regain momentum in his pants, in his lust.
Women …
We tire of playing the masculine testosterone game.
He cannot see a woman, all he sees is form.
There is no depth to him.
He is shallow.
As he uses the ‘girl’, wasting her time in his lust, time she could be available for the one who DOES see her value.
Selfish men who cannot think with anything other than their penis ought have no say in what a women should be thinking of self.
He holds no value for experience, does not see her worth, and wants to convince her she lacks merit.
Leave him behind.
He lacks the integrity needed to create harmony in this world.
And sometimes, being alone is the greatest blessing.
Fortunately, there ARE a few men who have awareness of the crone and embrace her unique strengths, only gained through living … a long time … hahahahaha.
I woke to find that sometime during the nights rest I had written on a piece of paper “Judaism of the 18th”.
I have a feeling someone is trying to tell me something.
Puzzled, I google the phrase and this is what I find:
The Numerical Significance of Chai
In Judaism, the word “chai” is numerically significant and the number 18 is universally synonymous with this word. Numerically, the words consists of the eighth (8th) and tenth (10th) letters of the Hebrew alphabet Chet (ח) and Yud (י), adding up to eighteen the number 18, which is also the word “Chai”. According to Jewish traditions and scriptures there are prayers, including the Amidah, commonly referred to as “Shmoneh Esreh” (which translates to “the 18”) and refers to the eighteen individual prayers. There is a deep connection drawn upon the word ‘chai’, its meaning ‘life’ and the numerical value of the letters that comprise this word.
Chai (חי) is the Hebrew word for life.
Amidah
The nineteen blessings are as follows:
Avot (“Ancestors”) – praises of God as the God of the Biblical patriarchs, “God of Abraham, God of Isaac and God of Jacob.
Gevurot (“powers”) – praises God for His power and might. This prayer includes a mention of God’s healing of the sick and resurrection of the dead. It is called also Tehiyyat ha-Metim = “the resurrection of the dead.”
Rain is considered as great a manifestation of power as the resurrection of the dead; hence in winter a line recognizing God’s bestowal of rain is inserted in this benediction. Except for many Ashkenazim, most communities also insert a line recognizing dew in the summer.
Kedushat ha-Shem (“the sanctification of the Name”) – praises God’s holiness.
During the chazzan’s repetition, a longer version of the blessing called Kedusha is chanted responsively. The Kedusha is further expanded on Shabbat and Festivals.
Binah (“understanding”) – asks God to grant wisdom and understanding.
Teshuvah (“return”, “repentance”) – asks God to help Jews to return to a life based on the Torah, and praises God as a God of repentance.
Selichah – asks for forgiveness for all sins, and praises God as being a God of forgiveness.
Geulah (“redemption”) – asks God to rescue the people Israel.
On fast days, the chazzan adds in the blessing Aneinu during his repetition after concluding the Geulah blessing.
Refuah (“healing”) – a prayer to heal the sick.
An addition can ask for the healing of a specific person or more than one name. The phrasing uses the person’s Jewish name and the name of their Jewish mother (or Sara immeinu).
Birkat HaShanim (“blessing for years [of good]”) – asks God to bless the produce of the earth.
A prayer for rain is included in this blessing during the rainy season.
Galuyot (“diasporas”) – asks God to allow the ingathering of the Jewish exiles back to the land of Israel.
Birkat HaDin (“Justice”) – asks God to restore righteous judges as in the days of old.
Birkat HaMinim (“the sectarians, heretics”) – asks God to destroy those in heretical sects (Minuth), who slander Jews and who act as informers against Jews.
Tzadikim (“righteous”) – asks God to have mercy on all who trust in Him, and asks for support for the righteous.
Boneh Yerushalayim (“Builder of Jerusalem”) – asks God to rebuild Jerusalem and to restore the Kingdom of David.
Birkat David (“Blessing of David”) – asks God to bring the descendant of King David, who will be the messiah.
Tefillah (“prayer”) – asks God to accept our prayers, to have mercy and be compassionate.
On fast days, Ashkenazic Jews insert Aneinu into this blessing during Mincha. Sephardic Jews recite it during Shacharit as well.
Avodah (“service”) – asks God to restore the Temple services and sacrificial services.
Hoda’ah (“thanksgiving”) – thanks God for our lives, for our souls, and for God’s miracles that are with us every day.
When the chazzan reaches this blessing during the repetition, the congregation recites a prayer called Modim deRabbanan (“the thanksgiving of the Rabbis”).
Sim Shalom (“Grant Peace”) – asks God for peace, goodness, blessings, kindness and compassion. Ashkenazim generally say a shorter version of this blessing at Minchah and Maariv, called Shalom Rav.
Prior to the final blessing for peace, the following is said:
We acknowledge to You, O Lord, that You are our God, as You were the God of our ancestors, forever and ever. Rock of our life, Shield of our help, You are immutable from age to age. We thank You and utter Your praise, for our lives that are delivered into Your hands, and for our souls that are entrusted to You; and for Your miracles that are with us every day and for your marvelously kind deeds that are of every time; evening and morning and noon-tide. Thou art good, for Thy mercies are endless: Thou art merciful, for Thy kindnesses never are complete: from everlasting we have hoped in You. And for all these things may Thy name be blessed and exalted always and forevermore. And all the living will give thanks unto Thee and praise Thy great name in truth, God, our salvation and help. Selah. Blessed be Thou, O Lord, Thy name is good, and to Thee it is meet to give thanks.
There is a quiet still place inside of you that will always be available as a sanctuary, yet finding such a space in the natural world will enhance and complement this internal place of peace. Whether it is a cave, meadow, forest, seashore, or any other setting in Nature, this is where you can see, hear, and feel the presence of the Creator in your surroundings. Let it become a temple for your heart and soul.
Rather than having your computer, television, or any other human-made device or activity be your sanctuary, allow yourself to discover the perfect place in Nature where you can simply be and breathe. Doing so bridges the connection between the internal and external, facilitating a spiritual communion that allows your being to be aligned in dramatic and quiet reverie with All That Is. In today’s busy world, it becomes even more critical to set aside time for sanctuary – even if you have to schedule it!
It is time to take a break! Not just a coffee break, but a respite from the usual environment you find yourself in. That trip you wanted to take? Go for it. Tired of being indoors? Make it a point to get outside. Have become so attached to your surroundings that you have created within them an illusion of safety, yet it is not these things that make you feel safe. Rather, the familiarity you have imbued in your surroundings have generated this false sense of security.
Taking time away from the familiar is literally about changing your external environment in a significant way, such as doing something unusual or perhaps something you have always wanted to experience. Another perspective is breaking through the barrier of beliefs that have constricted you in any way from being who you truly are. This is your opportunity to do some intentional breaching of these thought patterns, which will open you to different worlds and perspectives.
This is a time of considerable harmony for you, one where the various elements in your life are flowing together smoothly. Just as in musical harmony, it is the interface of these elements that merge into a cycle of symmetry and balance that evokes feelings of harmony. The challenge is to sustain this inner accord even when there is considerable dissonance outside of your own mind, heart, and body.
Note the sensations, emotions, and thoughts you experience when everything seems to be moving along well. Take three deep breaths, and let your breathing be the anchor that reminds you of this state of consciousness. Whenever you perceive chaos around you, know that it is a mirror for your inner turmoil. When you recognize this, take three or more breaths to bring forth the memory of those moments when your life was like a symphony. Then every time you exhale, you are releasing the energy of your internal state of harmony into the world, and it will have amazing effects.
Men … so ready to “defend”. Bless them. I cannot fathom what it must be like to dwell constantly with the knowing that at any time, the inner defender may need to be unleashed.
To see them in action … ooohhhhh …..
To know of the safety they provide their families.
The security they bring to their wives, to their children.
It is a heavy load. One I’ve never really thought about before.
What do they go through when their protection efforts have failed? What happens to their hearts, their minds?
Who will defend their inner being when that time comes?
The woman.
The nurturer.
This is why partnership is imperative. We balance each other in the flow of life.
If one half is suppressed, the functioning of the whole suffers.
May the masculine be recognized for his efforts.
May the value of woman be realized as the important aspect of life that she is.
May partnership become full and well rounded, in balance.
And may all hearts be blessed with the knowing that whatever we go through, if we utilize partnership in its proper form, ALL will be well, no thing can destroy it.
May all beings be honored, endowed with grace, and trust rebuilt … beyond any doubt.
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