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Compassion Doesn’t Come with a Price Tag

Published December 6, 2025 by tindertender

I almost let a teenage girl freeze to death on Thanksgiving Eve because of a stupid sign I hung on my own wall.

NO LOITERING. NO SLEEPING. NO PETS.

I run a 24-hour laundromat in Chicago—where winter doesn’t show mercy, and if you show too much, your business turns into a free hostel. I’ve learned the hard way that if I let one person nap on a folding table, by sunrise I’ve got a whole encampment of them.

Rules keep the doors open.

Or at least, that’s what I told myself.

Last Wednesday, the wind was doing that sideways snow thing, the kind that slaps your face even when you’re indoors. I was in the back, grumbling about mopping floors instead of being home with my wife’s turkey, when the door chimed.

A girl walked in. Seventeen, maybe. Thin as a coat hanger. Hoodie soaked. Sneakers squishing with each step.

And beside her?

A monster.

At least, that’s what I thought.

A massive gray Pitbull mix. Scarred. Shivering. Built like he could bench-press a sedan. The type of dog people avoid by crossing an entire street.

“No dogs,” I barked, tapping the No Pets sign like a judge swinging a gavel.

She winced. “Please… just ten minutes. The shelter’s full. I just need my toes to stop hurting.”

The dog—Tank—pressed his whole body against her leg, as if trying to fuse himself into her for warmth.

“Fifteen minutes,” I muttered. “He makes one sound, I’m calling the cops.”

They retreated to the coldest corner. I retreated to the security monitor, looking for any excuse to kick them out.

Then I watched her pull out a handful of coins—pennies, nickels, a dime that looked like it had survived the Great Chicago Fire. She counted them over and over until she could afford a pack of those terrible orange peanut-butter crackers.

She sat on the floor, opened the pack…

and didn’t take a single bite.

She broke a cracker and held it out to Tank.

“Eat, buddy.”

Tank sniffed it. His ribs showed. He needed food desperately. But he pushed it back toward her.

She insisted. He refused.

And in that moment, on a grainy black-and-white screen, I watched a starving dog protect the only person he loved by refusing to let her go hungry.

My throat tightened.

Then things got worse.

Mike—the drunk regular who occasionally slept behind a dryer—stumbled over, reeking of whiskey.

“Got a dollar, sweetheart?” he slurred.

Tank stood up—not snarling, not attacking. Just planting himself like a shield between the girl and the man.

A living, breathing wall.

Mike reached toward her shoulder.

Tank growled—a low, seismic warning that said, Touch her and you’ll wish you hadn’t.

The girl wrapped her arms around Tank’s neck and begged, “Don’t hurt him, please! He’s just scared!”

That was the moment my rules stopped mattering.

I grabbed the baseball bat, marched over, and pointed it—not at the dog, but at Mike.

“Out. Now.”

He left so fast he forgot his bottle.

I locked the door. Flipped the sign to CLOSED. The girl looked up at me with terrified eyes, bracing for the moment I’d kick her out into the blizzard.

But I just walked to the back, grabbed the Tupperware my wife had packed—thick turkey slices, mashed potatoes, gravy—and set it in front of them.

“The dryer in this corner overheats,” I lied. “I need someone to sit here tonight and make sure it doesn’t catch fire. Job comes with dinner.”

She stared at the food like it was a dream she was afraid to touch.

“Sir?” she whispered, voice cracking.

“Eat,” I said. “Both of you.”

Tank waited—actually waited—until she swallowed her first bite before he took one for himself.

The toughest thing in that room wasn’t my bat. It was a half-frozen Pitbull who’d rather starve than let his girl go hungry.

That night changed me.

We spend so much time judging people by what they wear, where they sleep, or what they have in their pockets. We judge dogs by the size of their jaws and the scars on their skin.

But loyalty doesn’t live in appearances.

Compassion doesn’t come with a price tag.

And sometimes the best guardian angel you’ll ever meet arrives covered in frost, with a teenager on one side and a trembling Pitbull on the other.

If I’d followed my own rules, I would’ve shut the door on both.

Instead, I learned this:

Family isn’t always blood.

Protection doesn’t always look gentle.

And the biggest hearts often beat inside the bodies we’ve been trained to fear.

So next time someone walks into your life looking rough, tired, or “dangerous”…

maybe look twice.

You might be staring at the purest form of love you’ll ever see.

Talks with Relations ~

Published October 27, 2025 by tindertender

A reading from the 13 Original Clan Mothers

The Night Mother Chose Her (Daughter) Over Fear

Published October 3, 2025 by tindertender

Martha had buried one husband already, a kind man who never came back from the trail. When she remarried Clay in Dodge City, 1874, folks said fortune had smiled on her — he was tall, handsome, and the kind to buy whiskey for a whole room just to hear the laughter rise. To the outside world, he was charm in a fine hat. To Martha, behind their cabin door, he was a storm.

At first it was small things — a hard stare, a cruel word, a drink too many. But then his gaze shifted toward Eliza, Martha’s little girl, and the air in the cabin changed. Supper fell quiet, the child flinching at every sound, her smile gone. Martha watched in silence until the night she found Clay drunk, leaning too near her daughter’s bed. That was the line she would not let him cross.

She dragged him out by the collar, pistol shaking in her hand, and by dawn she was standing in the county office, signing her name to divorce papers while the ink still trembled. Folks whispered about her for years — not with scorn, but with respect. In a town where women often kept quiet, Martha’s courage was louder than any gunshot. And Eliza, grown and safe, never forgot the night her mother chose her over fear.

The Merge Cat’s Kiss

Published September 9, 2025 by tindertender

When your own kind doesn’t want you …

God gives you something better.


Apparently, it’s called the “Merge Cat’s Kiss”.

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Nobody blocked (his) work on this earth. You can’t take the life of one and give it to another … God took her back … this masculine frauds work wasn’t great.

When she survived the sacrifice, Divine Mother sated, “It’s a bad day for (him)”. God gave her a new mate … She WILL be loved … ya little rat bastard. She gets a new family tree, and your fraudulent one will be destroyed.

You gifted the world the grandest betrayal, you betrayed your own, God gifted Wife, you harvested her while she suffered, and painted yourself “grand” wearing her harvested energy … and now the Most High God has given her “gifts” to someone more worthy.

You, and all your mask wearing frauds, can go to another portion of the multi-verse, your masks have failed you.

Your “chosen one”, the replacement, will need to be enough … No more syphoning the essence of the true and dressing up your fraud.

Trust me when I say, the Divine Feminine doesn’t envy your “bride”, fool.

She actually lov(ed) you … and the Father Divine stated you will NEVER GET HER ENERGY OR SUPPLY BACK. Never again will she be forced to serve you.

Friggen buyer and seller of the mother’s divine energy in all of its forms … may you starve, friggen addict.

She doesn’t care that you are “addicted to her”.

Take your position at her feet, brutalizing coward.

I certainly hope the True Divine Masculine creates something “special” for you, considering what you’ve allowed to occur in the lives of the children.

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He threw her away at the start.

As soon as God wasn’t looking, he wrapped her up, shut her down, bound her in every way he could think of.

He didn’t expect her to rise and shine. He placed her upon an impossible path! She was supposed to be his “hidden treasure” of suffering energy, forever.

I pray he loses the privilege of calling himself a man … or a woman … he’s far less valuable than ANY of the animal kingdom …

Ooohhhhh the many knives he sunk into the Heart of Her Holy Spirit ….

Ooohhhhh the profit he gained from prostituting her energy to unseen masculine, and feminine entities, not human …

Her entire family of HUmans betrayed, syphoned, consumed, enslaved … extinguished.

This rat actually believed he had exterminated the entirety of “her kind”.

… and now, we begin again.

Back to square one.

May every single one who participated in genocide of whole species be removed from our new chapter …

May they receive the intention, and the action, they forced upon others.

The sign read, “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN”

Published August 18, 2025 by tindertender

The little boy came to our table of leather-clad bikers and slammed down a paper that said “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

His tiny fingers were still stained with marker ink, and his Superman cape was on backwards. The diner went dead silent as fifteen members of the Iron Wolves MC stared at this kid who couldn’t have weighed forty pounds soaking wet.

“My mom said I can’t ask you,” he announced, his chin jutting out defiantly. “But she’s crying all the time and the mean boys at school said daddy won’t go to heaven without scary men to protect him.”

Big Tom, who’d done two tours in Afghanistan and had a skull tattooed on his neck, carefully picked up the paper. It was a child’s drawing of stick figures on motorcycles surrounding a coffin, with “PLEASE COME” written in backwards letters.

“Where’s your mom, little man?” Tom asked, his voice a low rumble that usually preceded a fight, but was now impossibly gentle.
The boy pointed through the window to a beat-up Toyota where a young woman sat with her head in her hands. “She’s scared of you. Everyone’s scared of you. That’s why I need you.”

I’d seen Tom break a man’s jaw for disrespecting his bike. But his hands shook as he read what else was on that paper – a date, tomorrow, and an address for Riverside Cemetery.

“What was your daddy’s name?” someone asked from the back.
“Officer Marcus Rivera,” the boy said proudly. “He was a police. A bad man shot him.”

The silence in the diner got heavier, thick enough to choke on. Cops and bikers weren’t exactly natural allies. Most of us had been hassled, profiled, some even beaten by police. And now this cop’s kid was asking us to honor his fallen father.

Tom stood up slowly, his towering frame casting a shadow over the small table. “What’s your name, superman?”

“Miguel. Miguel Rivera.”

“Well, Miguel Rivera,” Tom said, kneeling down so he was eye to eye with the boy, a giant meeting a sparrow. “You tell your mom that your daddy’s going to have the biggest, loudest, scariest escort to heaven any police officer ever had.”

The boy’s eyes went wide. “Really? You’ll come?”

“Brother,” Snake spoke up from the corner, and I could hear the conflict in his voice. “He was a cop.”

“He was a father,” Tom said firmly, his gaze never leaving Miguel’s. “And this little warrior just did the bravest thing I’ve seen all year. We ride.”

The next morning, I arrived at the cemetery two hours early. I thought I’d be the only one, a chance to get my head right before the awkwardness and the stares. But then my jaw dropped.

The narrow road leading to the cemetery entrance was already lined with bikes. Not just the fifteen of us from the diner, but our entire chapter. Forty men, standing quietly by their polished Harleys, the morning sun glinting off the chrome. But that wasn’t what stopped my heart. Further down the road, another group was pulling in. The Vipers. Our bitter rivals. And behind them, the Sons of Odin. Word had gotten out. A call had been made for scary men, and the entire goddamn scary underworld had answered.

When the funeral procession finally arrived, the hearse slowed to a stop. I saw Miguel in the car behind it, his small face pressed against the glass. His mother looked up, and her hand flew to her mouth, her expression of fear melting into stunned disbelief.

There were over a hundred of us. A silent army of leather and steel.

At some unseen signal from Tom, a hundred engines roared to life at the exact same instant. The sound was biblical. It wasn’t angry or aggressive; it was a deep, thundering proclamation. We are here. We formed a double line, a guard of honor for the hearse and the family, and escorted them through the gates.
At the graveside, a small group of uniformed officers stood stiffly, their honor guard looking tense as we dismounted. They watched us, we watched them. But there was no trouble. We formed a wide, silent circle around the service, our backs to the family, facing outward. We were a wall, protecting their grief from the world.

After the service, as the last of the mourners were leaving, the police chief walked over to Big Tom. He was a hard-looking man I’d seen on the news a dozen times. He stopped, looked at Tom, then at the sea of bikers standing in silent respect.

“I… I don’t have the words,” the chief said, his voice rough. “Officer Rivera was a good man.”

Tom just gave a short, sharp nod. “He had a good son.”

That’s when I saw Miguel, holding his mother’s hand, walking purposefully toward us. He stopped in front of Tom, who immediately knelt down again. Miguel wasn’t wearing his cape anymore. He was holding the folded American flag from his father’s coffin.

He held it out. “This is for you,” he said, his voice clear and steady.

Tom gently pushed it back. “No, little man. That’s yours. That’s your daddy’s.”

“My daddy was a hero,” Miguel said, pushing the flag firmly into Tom’s huge, tattooed hand. “He protected people. And today, you protected him.”

Tom stared at the flag in his hand, his jaw working, his whole body trembling. The man I’d seen walk through a bar fight without flinching was completely undone by a forty-pound superhero. He couldn’t speak. He just nodded, his eyes shining with tears he refused to let fall.

We didn’t ride away with a roar. We left one by one, a quiet rumble that spoke of a respect that went deeper than clubs or colors or the badges on a uniform.

We had come because a little boy asked for scary men. But we left knowing we’d just met the bravest one of all.

Dear Married Men

Published August 8, 2025 by tindertender

What do Trad Wives, victims of frontal lobotomies and a woman who’s going to leave you soon all have in common?

I’m going to tell you the answer, what this terminal relationship symptom is – and not to be a bitch but because it could save your relationship.

But before I tell you what it is, let’s establish what your relationship is, a partnership that especially during child rearing years majorly revolves around problem solving. Your kinda are like business partners, only instead of a company you’re running a home. And you fck.

So you know how your wife nags? Or wants to “talk things through” or go on and on.. sometimes it’s like you can’t avoid an argument… yeah?

Well that’s not the sign.

You see I’ve noticed that before my friends leave their partners and I’ve done this myself too.. They stop all that.

A woman whose heart has left the relationship is probably easier -for the man who’s been ignoring her to live with. If she’s asked you to put oil in her car and you haven’t, she’ll just call her dad. If your a nightmare when your drunk but you get drunk anyway, she’ll just grab the kids and stay somewhere else. If you accidentally sent her a message meant for your affair, she’ll pretend she didn’t clock it.

In other words – what the Trad wives, victims of frontal lobotomies and the woman who’s going to break your heart have in common is..

None of them will argue with you.

Arguing is a sign of still being connected. You don’t debate or persuade or persist with an ex or someone you’ll never see again.

You do it with your partner, to show him what it’s like for you, with the hope he actually cares or sees how his actions are holding her back or puts oil in the car.

But unfortunately some men choose to not listen, not care. Say they’ll do it but don’t- over and over again, until they snap at her she’s nagging.

Unfortunately these are the same men who won’t even notice when the most deadly symptom for their relationship irises and she stops problem solving with him.
I mean why wouldn’t she? If the love and plans for the future are dying, then in the wise words of the Cranberries

-There’s no need to argue anymore-

Con

Children Are Sweet! Those With Unhealed Trauma, Not So Much.

Published May 15, 2025 by tindertender

I posted a short about this sweet child seeing me from behind as I looked in the freezer section at the grocer, thinking I was his grandma. “Grandma! Grandma! He said.” I turned around to this sweet boys love and was touched in my heart space.

A masculine posted on the short, “What are you doing?!?! Stop now!! It’s not going to end well.”

He took report of a sweet moment and accused me of wrongdoing, based on his own misperception and possible history. While I feel for those who have been hurt, it does no one any good to accuse all “grandmas” of thinking like that. Some of us actually Love the sweet innocent ones, purely.

Apparently people I’ve never met are out there “explaining” me to others. This verbal accosting by a masculine accusing me of foul thoughts and intentions regarding this child is offensive.

People who believe slander and accuse falsely, without even having the maturity to do research first, are responsible for much unwarranted suffering in the world.

Heal your trauma.

Not every grandmother wants to bring suffering to innocence. Most of us love purely.

Some “feed” on the “energetic fuel” of riling others deceitfully. Some enjoy playing with a mind and kicking back to observe their handywork. Those who have been violated and remain unhealed are great puppets for a lying narcissist.

Enduring, Selfless Love

Published March 3, 2025 by tindertender

In the middle of the city’s hustle and bustle, where people walk past each other without noticing, a man stands out not for what he says, but for what he represents. He has no home, no wealth, and no certainty about what tomorrow will bring, but he possesses something far more valuable than all that: the unconditional love of his dogs. He lives on the streets, facing the unforgiving cold in winter and the scorching heat in summer. Despite the hardships, he never complains. He asks for nothing for himself, only for them. These dogs are his family, his reason to keep going.

Every morning, before the city awakens, he rises and gently strokes the backs of his companions who sleep by his side, trying to share the little warmth he has. He carefully adjusts the makeshift blankets he’s created from scraps of fabric, making sure they are comfortable and protected. While he endures hunger and loneliness, his only concern is ensuring his friends don’t feel the same abandonment. He shares with them every crumb he receives, sacrificing his own food so they won’t go hungry.

Some passersby look at him with curiosity, others with disdain. “If he can’t take care of himself, how can he take care of these dogs?” they wonder. But they don’t see what he does when no one is watching: how he checks their paws to make sure they’re not hurt, how he covers them with his body when it rains, how he speaks gently to them when they’re scared. To him, these dogs are not a burden, but his reason for being. Each wag of their tails is a silent thank you, each loving gaze a promise they’ll never abandon him.

So, night after night, he keeps going, no matter the cold or the obstacles. Because to him, these dogs are not just animals, they are proof that true love cannot be bought, but is given unconditionally, with the soul, expecting nothing in return.

Credits: Animales asombrosos

#UnconditionalLove #TrueLove #DogsAreFamily #SelflessCare

The Beautiful Bees will be Saved

Published February 26, 2025 by tindertender

This picture reminds me of a channeled song from August 2024

Leavin’ It Up To You

Published January 13, 2025 by tindertender

Their “god” is Zilla, a black hole of endless shadow. They’ve been feeding it “Light” of life for century’s, the “life” of the missing.

This light has fueled their illusion of power for century’s, confessed right out of their own minds.

Women are sacrificed to this shadow realm as breeders. Children are too, as flesh to eat, and as suffering light energy to power their magic.

This potent energy of torment and suffering is utilized to cast “nets” over the collective field of consciousness. They cover the collective in this energy, having applied a magical cast to it, to keep the subconscious trapped in a fight or flight mode, a survival mode.

Sexual interactions allow them to “offload” karmic debt through “tagging” you as recipient. It’s an energy dump. This trick keeps the recipient trapped in the root chakra, enforcing the need for survival, especially once they shatter the heart, the soul, with betrayal. So now they’ve tagged you with their karma, and pushed you into south node suffering with betrayal.

They cover the populace with “chemical fog”. No one knows what kind of chemicals, but respiratory infections arise from them.

They line all the canned goods with estrogen, toying with the testosterone in men, causing slow or still sperm, and strange urges toward the same sex. They spin stories of past lives as women, and it’s “natural”.

They sacrifice anyone rising in energy, in light, to their shadow god, using heart attack magic, stroke magic, car accident magic, domestic abuse magic, on and on and on magic.

They hate you for the light you embody. They hate you because your light is necessary to make things work. They hate that you have it, and they don’t. They keep the sleepers sleeping in a drug and chemical induced state. They siphon the life force vitality thru suffering, an invisible affair.

They use others energetic signature to perform blood rituals, framing the essence with foul deed, hoping the Most High God will see them as filthy. They get into the heads of the collective and “drive” them into trauma leading to dramatic ends, and they condemn them for falling into their trap, sending them into this shadow.

These ones are “chosen” by the god zilla. They have been masquerading to be for, while against, the Most High with illusionary magic.

You, dear collective, have walked the walk of suffering, survived, and collected first hand testimony of truth. It may have been unknown, this data collection, yet you are amazingly detailed in your learnings. The knowledge you embody … good, bad, and ugly … is authentic and true, reliable.

Your willingness to be of service in some of the most traumatic ways, to bear witness to these brutality’s, has been the blessing needed for catalyst, to flip this script. Your experiences and suffering have value beyond measure.

This time, you don’t “go into the dark” to be trapped, drained, abused. This time you have wings, and you are soaring.

What is about to occur will be unsettling for many who don’t know what you know. They will be soul shocked by the brutality, the return to senders, for they are unaware of the crimes which brought on this need.

It takes a bit of insanity to counter a deep, black abyss of a soul eating shadow.

I support you in your mighty roaring.

Many of us see, most feel, and it is my hope that as in we, discernment has been seeded into others. Even though their minds may not know the truth, may their soul recognize it and be at ease while a clearing takes place.

Everything happens in the Spiritual Realms first. What you will be “seeing” has already occurred. Criminals selling the life force vitality of our family, the soul of our fabric, our existence, must be stopped.

There is a need for discovering the value of transparency, of trustworthiness, and of friendship. The lesson must be learned.

The God and Goddess of Time are sending them back.

Trust in the Most High during the coming chaos and know that through it all, “He’s got this”.

And so do you.

Song lyrics rolled through mind upon completion of this post …

Leaving’ it all up to you, oooo, ooooo. You decide, what you gonna do. Now do you want my Lu-oooove, or are we through?