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Published June 2, 2023 by tindertenderResponsibility
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Strolling Through the Japanese Garden
Published May 26, 2023 by tindertenderSometimes life tests us. Those who bring chaos and misery to our door are constantly knocking. Tires get flattened and in need of replacement. Someone shoots the dog with a BB gun. Someone hit and runs the car. Someone lies … and lies and lies … we are tested.
Today, rather than let this shady world get me down, I visited the Sun, and the beautiful garden it maintains with the help of humanity.
The entry
Rawr!!
Some pretty, pretty flowers
Check out these bonsais. One of them is 300 years old!
I love the art here!
Running, hiding, pretending
Published May 24, 2023 by tindertenderBy Ellen Redd
A feminine who is not in her divinity, feeds on the attention of many. She is hoping that this will fulfill her, and uses her physical appearance to ensnare the affection of her suitors. Often misusing her feminine gifts. This many times leads her into temporal false sense of fulfillment until she becomes bored, annoyed and no longer can go along with the creations of her own game.
In the same time, the masculine who is not in his divinity clamors to unhealed feminines in their toxicity allowing themselves to be lured into the illusory dream of love, from the illusions of the mortal flesh. The masculines also will seek fulfillment from many partners , only to find themselves empty. These masculines that are unhealed , will use their monies and their titles to attract the unhealed feminines, not realizing that they also have set a trap for their own self to fall into.
Until both the masculine and feminine aspects both unplug their circuits from these false attempts for love, they will forever be empty – desperately seeking the outside world to fill them on the inside, where they desperately fear to reside.
Running, hiding, pretending.
This world can make people bitter
Published May 23, 2023 by tindertenderIt’s the goal of the programmers in this realm to degrade you. To make you fall. To steal away your connection to higher frequencies and vibrations through anger, shame, guilt. The writers of this realms script wish for humanity to fall very hard and very low into war and famine, any form of suffering … hell.
If you agree to take on that role of lower vibration and frequency, someone else, likely the writers of the script, the “handlers” of humanity, will receive blessing.
This world must remain in balance. If you can be programmed and led into tending the role of lower vibratory mind set and relations, the blessing goes elsewhere … straight into the lap of your rulers.
I understand some test us in a big way. I bitch and moan as much as the next person when someone does me wrong, but I don’t embed myself into it any more. I don’t “become” it.
Don’t fall into the trap.
Tend yourself.
Be conscious of the role you fill in this realm.
Wisdom
Published May 22, 2023 by tindertenderYou cannot be a wiseman or woman if you are constantly dismissing the significance of another’s journey.
Random Thoughts
Published May 22, 2023 by tindertenderI hope their awakening is more gentle than mine was. It is why I share what I share. Even tho they may think me crazy, and say just as much to another.
Simply existing in the most gentle way possible with self and others is a rebellion. This in no way means that there isn’t difficult work to do.
Depression isn’t a disease needing treated by Pharma. It’s an emotional imbalance, needing attention and the hard inner work of harmonizing the imbalance.
They knew the truth before they even began.
You can make plans if you want just remember, life is fluid.
That’s the thing about this realm, everything appears to be false.
Anything other than presence in this now moment, is either a fantasy of the future, or a memory of the past.
Balance Necessary ~ Deliberate Harvest of Another’s Blessing
Published May 21, 2023 by tindertenderWhy do you think the programmer wants humans in a perpetual state of war? Of killing and hurting each other?
Because in this world of duality there must be balance. If you are kept in a state of having to cause harm, or defend your life, someone else is getting your blessing.
Why do you think the immigrants who rape women and children are pouring over the borders? When police can’t even keep the rapists and murderers in jail? To force you to do harm, or be harmed, to protect yourself, so the programmer can keep your blessing.
It’s all meant to either keep the people in fear, or keep them hating and hurting each other.
In a balanced world of polarity, it’s how it works.
If you refuse to do dirty, the programmers are left with their program.
So they force you into it. By sending others to attack you.
Choose …. Consciously.
If you attack and harm others, you’re choosing misery, and someone else in the world (the hidden programmers) are gaining your blessing. Leave misery. Cut it off. Let it be with itself, and whoever wants it manifested in the world. Let the mutation keep its works.
We All Do It
Published May 21, 2023 by tindertenderIt’s funny how most folks don’t like others telling them who they are, why they feel like they do, what their issue is, how to fix issue … yet many folks do just that to others. I do it too … sometimes format needs improvement.
Many of my posts are self-talk, personal realizations. At times, it sounds like I’m talking to others, mostly, I’m talking to self as third person.
I feel many people are doing that, even though it sounds like they’re talking to folks outside self.
“When using third person or “non-first-person” pronouns during self-talk, you do not use pronouns such as I, me, or my. Instead, you speak to yourself (either in a hushed tone or silently inside your own head) using pronouns such as you, he, she, it, or your own first or last name.”
“Essentially, we think referring to yourself in the third person leads people to think about themselves more similar to how they think about others, and you can see evidence for this in the brain. That helps people gain a tiny bit of psychological distance from their experiences, which can often be useful for regulating emotions.”
Me talking advice to someone is often me speaking advice or awareness to self in third party. While it seems I’m addressing others outside self, often it is communication to the self I witness within, and the self I see in others.
Often, this self reflective third party way of recognizing and communicating seems like it is conversation with another, and it is … communication to the self we recognize in others.
Tricky …
“… the brain data from these two complimentary experiments suggest that third-person self-talk may constitute a relatively effortless form of emotion regulation.”
https://www.anxietycentre.com/research/third-person-self-talk-to-control-emotions/
Previous research has suggested that a psychological strategy called “self-distancing” can help us better control our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. From enhancing our self-control in the face of temptation to helping us reflect on difficult past experiences without getting stuck in a downward spiral of negative thinking, the ability to “step back” a little from ourselves seems to be a useful, if slightly odd, psychological skill.
All in all, the studies found that talking to ourselves using our own name, or pronouns like “you” or “he/she” as opposed to “I” or “me,” resulted in reduced anxiety, better performances, and less shame, negativity, and rumination afterwards.
While some are speaking out, making posts of advice as third person, others really are judging others as needing guidance other than their own … without even asking.
I think most people are looking into the world seeing self, brokenness, flaws, weaknesses… and are simply doing their best to put it together using words, spoken. Unfortunately, this change must happen inside before it can be seen outside …
Self distancing.
Perhaps this is why society is addicted to pointing at others and naming flaws … they cannot bear to look inside.
Projection. A form of survival. A form which is unsustainable in the long run.
7 THINGS THAT AFFECT YOUR VIBRATORY FREQUENCY FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF QUANTUM PHYSICS
Published May 17, 2023 by tindertenderVibration in quantum physics means that everything is energy. We are beings vibrate at certain frequencies. Each vibration is equivalent to a feeling and in the “vibrational” world, there are only two kinds of vibrations, positive and negative. Any feeling causes you to emit a vibration that can be positive or negative.
1st – Thoughts
Every thought emits a frequency towards the Universe and that frequency returns towards the origin, so in the case, if you have negative thoughts, of discouragement, sadness, anger, fear, all that returns to you. That is why it is so important that you take care of the quality of your thoughts and learn to cultivate more positive thoughts.
2nd – The Companies.
The people around you directly influence your vibration frequency. If you surround yourself with happy, positive, determined people, you will also enter that vibration, now if you surround yourself with complaining, cursing and pessimistic people, be careful! Well, they may be decreasing your frequency and, as a consequence, preventing you from making the Law of Attraction work in your favor.
3ª – The Music.
The music is very powerful. If you only listen to music that talks about death, betrayal, sadness, abandonment, all of that will interfere with what you vibrate to. Pay attention to the lyrics of the music you listen to, it may be lowering your vibration frequency. And remember: you attract into your life exactly what you vibrate to.
4th – The things you see.
When you watch programs that address misfortunes, death, betrayals, etc. your brain accepts that as a reality and releases a whole chemistry in your body, causing your vibration frequency to be affected. See things that do you good and help you vibrate at a higher frequency.
5th – The Environment.
Whether at home or at work, if you spend much of your time in a disorganized and dirty environment, this will also affect your vibrational frequency. Improve what is around you, organize and clean your environment. Show the Universe that you are fit to receive much more. Take care of what you already have!
6th – The Word.
If you use to complain or speak ill of things and people, this affects your vibration frequency. To keep your frequency high it is essential that you eliminate the habit of claiming, complaining and speaking ill of others. So avoid making dramas and victimizing yourself. Assume your Responsibility for the choices of your Life!
7th – * Gratitude *.
Gratitude positively affects your vibrational frequency. That is a habit that you should incorporate right now into your life. Begin to be thankful for everything, for the good things and those that you consider not good, be thankful for all the experiences you have lived. Gratitude opens the doors for good things to flow positively in your life
🖊mariomelito
I’m In Love Again … With Me
Published May 16, 2023 by tindertenderI am in love, with someone who is enough for me, who hugs me and raises my self-esteem, who recognizes my value, and who has told me that I don’t need anyone else to be happy because we have each other.
That someone taught me to forgive others and forgive myself.
I fell in love again but this time is different, because it has made me understand that I deserve the best of the best and no less. That a love with doubts and insecurities is not love.
I fell in love with someone who believes in me, no matter how many times I stumble, because he knows that after the falls I get up with more strength.
I fell in love with someone who gives me peace and security. Who is capable of giving everything for me, who loves me always and not at times.
I fell in love with someone who wraps his arms around me and understands me. That despite my dark days and the chaos that I carry inside, does not run away, but stays, and accompanies me in my moments of loneliness and peace.
I fell in love with someone whose eyes shine when they see me. His look reflects how happy he feels to have me, and he always welcomes me with a smile.
Since we discovered each other, not a second goes by when he leaves me alone, he accompanies me to my favorite places, and enjoys my company without conditioning.
Yes, I’m in love!
And although until a while ago this seemed impossible, today I love that person… He became my favorite person.
I fell in love again, but this time I fell in love with ME.
And today I know that I am the love of my life!
~ Author Unknown
Embodied within me is masculine and feminine. Yin/Yang. Light and Dark. We work it out. We are happy.
