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Men Cause 100% of Unwanted Pregnancies

Published November 17, 2018 by tindertender

The author, Gabrielle Blair.

Our conversation about abortion places the burden of responsibility on women. I argue men are the root cause.

As a mother of six and a Mormon, I have a good understanding of arguments surrounding abortion, religious and otherwise. When I hear men discussing women’s reproductive rights, I’m often left with the thought that they have zero interest in stopping abortion.

If you want to prevent abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Men seem unable (or unwilling) to admit that they cause 100% of them.

I realize that’s a bold statement. You’re likely thinking, “Wait. It takes two to tango!” While I fully agree with you in the case of intentional pregnancies, I argue that all unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men. All of them.

Don’t believe me?

Fertility stats and the calendar, it’s easy to see that men are the issue here.
Let’s start with this: A woman’s egg is only fertile for about two days each month. Yes, there are exceptions, because nature. But one egg which is fertile two days each month is the baseline. And those fertile eggs are produced for a limited number of years. This means, on average, women are fertile for about 24 days per year.
But men are fertile 365 days a year. In fact, if you’re a man who ejaculates multiple times a day, you could cause multiple pregnancies daily. In theory, a man could cause 1000+ unwanted pregnancies in just one year. While it’s true that sperm gets crappier as men age, it doesn’t have a fertility expiration date; men can cause unwanted pregnancies from puberty until death. So, starting with basic fertility stats and the calendar, it’s easy to see that men are the issue here.
As a society, we really don’t mind if women suffer, physically or mentally, as long as it makes things easier for men.
“But what about birth control?” you might ask. “ If a woman can manage to figure out how to get an abortion, surely she can use birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancy, right?”
Great question. Modern birth control for women is possibly the most important invention of the last century, and I’m very grateful for it. It’s also brutal. The side effects for many women include migraines, mood swings, decreased libido, depression, severe cramps, heavy bleeding, aneurysm — and that’s just a small fraction of them.
Discouragingly, a promising study on a new male contraceptive was canceled in large part due to… (wait for it)… side effects. To be clear, this list of side effects was about one-third as long as the known side effects for commonly used women’s contraception. There’s a lot to unpack in that story alone. I’ll simply point out that, as a society, we really don’t mind if women suffer, physically or mentally, as long as it makes things easier for men.
But, men, I’ve got good news. Even with the horrible side effects, women are (amazingly!) very willing to use birth control. Unfortunately, it’s harder to get than it should be, but that doesn’t keep women from trying. Birth control options for women require a doctor’s appointment — sometimes multiple doctor’s appointments — and a prescription. They’re not always free, and often not cheap. Some are actually trying to make female birth control options more expensive by allowing insurance companies to refuse to cover them. In addition, contraceptive options for women can’t be easily acquired at the last minute. In most cases, they don’t work instantly.
The pill requires consistent daily use and doesn’t leave much room for mistakes, forgetfulness, or unexpected disruptions to daily schedules. Again, the side effects can be brutal — and not just in rare cases. Despite the hassle and side effects, I’m still grateful for birth control. (Please don’t take it away.) But it’s critical to understand that women’s birth control isn’t simple or easy.
In contrast, let’s look at birth control for men — i.e., condoms. They’re readily available at all hours, inexpensive, convenient, and don’t require a prescription. They’re effective and work on demand, instantly. They don’t cause aneurysms, mood swings, or debilitating cramps. Men can keep them stocked up just in case, so they’re always prepared. They can be easily used at the last minute. I mean, condoms are magic! So much easier than birth control options for women.
As a bonus, most women are totally on board with condoms. They keep us from getting STDs. They don’t lessen our pleasure during sex or prevent us from climaxing. The best part? Cleanup is so much easier — no waddling to the toilet as jizz drips down our legs.
So why would there ever be unwanted pregnancies? Why don’t men just use condoms every time they have sex? Seems so simple, right?

Oh. I remember. Men don’t love condoms. In fact, it’s very, very common for men to pressure women to have sex without a condom. It’s also not unheard of for men to remove the condom during sex without the women’s permission or knowledge. (Pro tip: That’s assault.)

Why would men want to have sex without a condom? Because, for the precious minutes when they’re penetrating their partner, not wearing a condom gives them more pleasure. So… that would mean some men are willing to risk getting a woman pregnant — which means literally risking her life, her health, her social status, her relationships, and her career — so they can experience a few minutes of slightly increased pleasure. Is this for real?

Yes. Yes, it is.

Pregnancies happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.

Imagine a pleasure scale, with pain beginning at zero and going down into the negatives. A good back-scratch falls at 5, and an orgasm without a condom is a 10. Where would sex with a condom fall? A 7 or 8? So, it’s not that sex with a condom is not pleasurable, it’s just not as pleasurable. An 8 instead of a 10.

Let me emphasize that again: Men regularly choose to put women at massive risk in order to experience a few minutes of slightly increased pleasure.

For the truly condom-averse, men also have a non-condom, always-ready birth control option built right in: the pull-out. It doesn’t protect against STDs, it’s an easy joke, and it’s far from perfect. However, it’s 96% effective if done correctly, and 78% effective in practice (because it’s often not done correctly).

Still, many men who resist wearing condoms never learn how to pull out correctly. Apparently, it’s slightly more pleasurable to climax inside a vagina than, say, on their partner’s stomach. Once again, men are willing to risk the life, health, and well-being of women in order to experience a tiny bit more pleasure for roughly five seconds during orgasm.

Think of the choice men are making here. Honestly, I’m not as mad as I should be about this, because we’ve trained men from birth to disassociate sex and pregnancy. We’ve taught them that their pleasure is of utmost importance.

As a general rule, men get women pregnant by having an orgasm. Yes, there are exceptions — it’s possible for sperm to show up in pre-ejaculate — but in most cases, getting a woman pregnant is a pleasurable act for men. But men can get a woman pregnant without her feeling any pleasure at all. It’s even possible for a man to impregnate a woman while causing her excruciating pain, trauma, or horror.
In contrast, a woman can have nonstop orgasms with or without a partner and never once get herself pregnant. A woman’s orgasm has literally nothing to do with pregnancy or fertility — her clitoris exists simply for pleasure, not for creating new humans. No matter how many orgasms she has, they won’t make her pregnant.
Pregnancies happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.
A woman can be the sluttiest slut in the entire world, she can love having orgasms all day and all night long, and she will never find herself with an unwanted pregnancy unless a man shows up and ejaculates irresponsibly. Though our society tends to villainize female pleasure, women’s enjoyment of sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men’s enjoyment of sex and irresponsible ejaculations do.
Let’s move to the topic of responsibility. Often, men don’t know, don’t ask, and don’t think to ask if they’ve caused a pregnancy. There are often zero consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.
If the woman decides to have an abortion, the man may never even know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation. If the woman decides to have the baby, or put the baby up for adoption, the man may never know he caused an unwanted pregnancy with his irresponsible ejaculation either. He may never know there’s now a child walking around with 50% of his DNA.

If the woman does tell him he caused an unwanted pregnancy and that she’s having the baby, the closest thing to a consequence for him is child support. Our current child support system is a well-known joke. Only about 61 percent of required payments by men are actually made, and there are little to no repercussions for skipping out. In some states, failing to pay child support doesn’t even affect your credit.

If a man does pay child support, it doesn’t come close to what is required by a woman in the case of an unwanted pregnancy.

Let’s talk about abortion. When the topic comes up, men might think: Abortion is horrible; women should not have abortions. Never once do they consider the man who caused the unwanted pregnancy.

If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply hold men accountable for their actions.

If we’re discussing abortion law — and not how to hold men accountable for irresponsible ejaculations, and the unwanted pregnancies caused by them — we’re wasting our time. Shift the conversation. Stop protesting at clinics. Stop shaming women. Stop debating whether or not to overturn abortion laws. If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply hold men accountable for their actions.

What would that look like? A real and immediate consequence for men who cause an unwanted pregnancy. What kind of consequence would make sense? Should it be as harsh, painful, nauseating, scarring, expensive, risky, and life-altering … as forcing a woman to go through a nine-month unwanted pregnancy?
If you consider abortion to be murder, consider this thought experiment: Would you be on board with having a handful of men castrated to prevent 600,000 murders each year? If this argument sounds too provocative, could it be that many of us have a hard time wrapping our heads around a physical punishment for men? We seem to be more than fine with physical punishments for women. Perhaps we care more about policing women’s bodies, morality, and sexuality than we do about reducing or eliminating abortions.

Here’s another prevention idea: All males in the U.S. could get a vasectomy when they are ready to be sexually active. Vasectomies are very safe, highly reversible, and about as invasive as a woman getting an IUD implanted. In most cases, there’s some soreness afterwards for about 24 hours, but that’s pretty much it for side effects. (Take a moment to remember that female contraception options, used by millions of women in our country and billions across the world, have well-known side effects which can be brutal and severe — and yes, also include soreness.) If and when a man becomes a responsible adult, finds a mate, and wants to have a baby, the vasectomy can be reversed and then redone once the childbearing stage is over. Each man can bank their sperm before the vasectomy, just in case.

Don’t like my ideas? That’s fine. I’m sure there are better ideas, and I challenge you to suggest your own. My point is we need to stop focusing on women if we’re trying to get rid of abortions. Think of abortion as the “cure” for an unwanted pregnancy. To stop abortions, we need to prevent the “disease” — meaning, the unwanted pregnancy itself. And the only way to do that is by focusing on men, because irresponsible ejaculations by men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancy.

Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?

If you’re a man, what would it take for you to never again ejaculate irresponsibly? A loss of money, rights, or freedoms? Physical pain? Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?

Men mostly run our government, and men mostly make our laws. In theory, men could eliminate — or drastically reduce — abortions within months without ever touching an abortion law or even mentioning women. They’d simply need to hold men accountable for irresponsible ejaculations, and legislate accordingly.
To reduce or eliminate abortions, stop attempting to control women’s bodies and sexuality. Because unwanted pregnancies are caused by men.

In The Beginning …

Published July 30, 2018 by tindertender

There were two young men, one brunette and one sandy haired. The first was of average height and stocky and the second, slender and tall, lanky. The first dark haired man was smitten with the girl, he wanted her for himself, yet she was smitten with the tall, lanky one, she chose to be with him.

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Photo by Pablo Heimplatz

When they were discovered together the stout, dark haired man was furious! He created a contract of taxation … he wanted 15 to 35% of everything they had, and everything they ever would have. She told him he was only upset because she chose the one over him, and she threw the document back at him, refusing to sign. There is NO price tag on Love. They took her fair haired lover away and they hurt him … keeping him from her, to this very day.

Jealousy has no honor. It is not pretty, or handsome, it cares not for others at all. It’s focus is on destruction of everything good. What does one do when they’ve been rejected? How do they deal with the hurt they feel? Is it not better to decide that the one they pined for actually is not the one suited for them and simply move on?

Heartache, heart break, one after another. Life will give it to us over and over again, it has, and we have experienced the truth of it. The root of it all is the jealousy of one man … and the whole world suffers for it. They said the woman ate the apple, but no, she chose love over being possessed … Gentleness over a prideful owner. And so the would be prideful owner has, for all of time, caused much suffering in the world.

Some say she should have allowed him to possess her, for the good of the whole, but if one is possessed and not allowed the freedom to love, then the love of the whole would be poisoned anyway, living false happiness while she suffered. Would anyone of honor, integrity, living in morality say they could actually be happy, knowing it possible only for the suffering of one?

If one is not free to love, are any actually, truly free?

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Photo by Bruce Hong

How to mend hearts? How can the originator of this whole mess be convinced there always has been one more suited to his being? Does he not know his twin flame waits? She too, most likely, has been suffering under this spell he has cast into the world. Jealousy closes the mind to the bigger picture, and the goodness that could be isn’t, because of it.

How can she facilitate healing? How can she free her love and open the clouds above, allowing the sun to shine on all hearts who suffer? How can she let the one who caused so much pain know that he, too, has one waiting for him, and how she, along with all others, has suffered due to his inability to see the bigger picture?

Rage closes the heart, room cannot be found for that which would fill and smooth the hurt. To be possessed by one who does not truly love is hell itself, and cannot be allowed. Yet from the beginning this has been the way of the world, following in the footsteps of the original man who became so insane he could not see past his emotion, noticing that he was lacking knowledge of the workings of the heart, perhaps too prideful to acknowledge it, if he did.

Woman did not cause the fall of the world. Jealousy of a man did. And still, to this day, wars are fought because men are not ‘getting their way’.

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Photo by JD Mason

Is it not time to begin again? Knowing what we know now, can we not find a better way, one in which allows healing and true love to exist?

Lust is not love. Lust wants to posses, and it is followed by pride. When the one possessed leaves or is freed, wars are fought and people die … this is the current reality, caused by the original event of shattered pride and need for possession and power over and of another.

All this time blame has been put on the head of that young woman, and women all over the world have carried this burden. All she ever wanted was to love, and to be loved. All she still wants is to love, and to be loved. She has been searching for it, for him, and he for her.

It seems they have come together, even though she did not understand what was happening. Her mind had been clouded by generations of programming, by the embedded emotion of fear and pain. Is it possible to heal this wound from so long ago and bring peace to all lives, shedding the doctrine imposed on humanity, breaking the spell?

Radio Frequency Affect On Water

Published July 22, 2018 by tindertender

Cell towers emit radio frequency all … day … long. Most people use their phones all day long. These radio frequencies are entering the human body. What do you suppose is happening to the body and mind of humans?

Can you consider that perhaps this has something to do with headaches, anxiety, actual physical ailments?

Now consider the man made clouds and their reaction to HAARP’s blast of electro-magnetic waves, which also touch everything else in the area.

Who gets rain? Who does not? Who gets set on fire? Who simply remains dry?

Beyond Appearances

Published July 8, 2018 by tindertender

(You’ll notice the wrinkled shirt. I’ve given you something to judge, are you able to get beyond the need to do so.)

It is not in the appearance of a person which determines their value … but what comes out of them.

Push aside the need for judgement and let be what is meant to be.

Freedom does not come from war … no matter how many generations this message will be pawned off on as truth.

Freedom ~ Peace ~ Joy ~ comes from the power each individual holds within them, through the word, through intention, through conscious and aware utilization of the depths of honor which resides in the deepest aspects of person-hood.

If sects attempt to convince you war is the only way to get to peace, you must come to your own conclusions about your belief in this, no one can do it for you. However I am certain that deep within you, you know already of its falsity.

The power of your word, of your vibration, is the creator tool which made this world possible … ALL humans have this within them.

Claim it, own it, utilize it to change the pain.
Be the alchemist you came here to be.

Tremendous Power

Published April 16, 2018 by tindertender

I have Come to the Frightening Conclusion that I am the Decisive Element. It is My Personal Approach that Creates the Climate. It is My Daily Mood that Makes the Weather. I Possess Tremendous Power to Make Life Miserable or Joyous. ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 – 1832) J.J.L

The Path of the Sun Keepers

Trust Your Instinct

Published March 8, 2018 by tindertender

I wait as I listen to the above music for inspiration, drinking water at 3:52 am.

“The attitude of gratitude is a magnet of true love in all forms … Every moment counts. Grand gestures are for other times, it’s the smallest acts that really count now … This is the time to be receptive and allow someone else to take the lead and show his or her true nature to you. At the same time be careful of being manipulated … You will know the truth about your situation clearly if you sit this dance out and observe.”

I lite my palo santo stick and waft it through the air. It is one of my favorites.

A member of the military mentioned a revelation I never thought of before. He was speaking of tour limits and I was told, “One and done, you were ok. Two tours, you’re going back for revenge. 3 or more, you like killing people … stay away from those.”

Wingmakers

https://www.wingmakers.com/content/neruda-interviews/

“The messages or prophecies that they made had several consistent strands or themes that were to occur in the early part of the twenty-first century, around the year 2011. Chief among these was the infiltration of the major governments of the world, including the United Nations, by an alien race. This alien race was a predator race with extremely sophisticated technologies that enabled them to integrate with the human species. That is to say, they could pose as humanoids, but they were truly a blend of human and android —in other words, they were synthetics.”

BST: Blank Slate Technology or BST. BST is a form of time travel that enables the rewrite of history at what are called intervention points … BST is the most advanced technology and clearly anyone who is in possession of BST, can defend themselves against any aggressor. It is, as Fifteen was fond of saying, the freedom key.

ACIO: The primary interface with extraterrestrial technologies and how to adapt them into mainstream society as well as military applications. There were agreements between our government—specifically the NSA—to cooperate with an ET species commonly called the Greys in exchange for their cooperation to stay hidden and conduct their biological experiments under the cloak of secrecy.

Greys: The Greys, and most extraterrestrials for that matter, communicate with humans exclusively through a form of telepathy, which we called suggestive telepathy because to us it seemed that the Greys communicated in a such a way that they were trying to lead a conversation to a particular end.

Fifteen (He): Was the Director of Research in 1958 when the Corteum first became known to the ACIO.

RV Technlogies: Think of it as psychic spying. The ACIO has a department that specializes in Remote Viewing technology, and within this department was a woman of unparalleled capability as an RV. She was assigned to the project as its RV, and she was a critical element in determining the identity and purpose of the WingMakers.”

Central Race: On the fringe of the central universe resides the Central Race, which contain the original human DNA template of creation. However, they are such an ancient race that they appear to us as Gods, when indeed they represent our future selves. Time and space are the only variables of distinction. The Central Race is known to some as the creator gods who developed the primal template of the human species and then, working in conjunction with the Life Carriers, seeded the galaxies as the universes expanded. Each of the seven superuniverses has a distinctive purpose and relationship with the central universe via the Central Race based on how the Central Race experimented with the DNA to achieve distinct, but compatible physical embodiments to be soul carriers.

This is a fascinating link and above are only a few excerpts from interview #1. If you have questions about anything pertaining to life, this may grant you pieces of a puzzle, which may sound outrageous, yet when it resonates with everything within you, don’t discredit your instinct.

Mainstream media are prepping their viewers for something big. The ‘programming’ has a common story line.

“Sit this dance out, observe, allow ‘them’ to show their true nature to you.”

Trust your instinct.

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