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My Lovin’

Published February 7, 2024 by tindertender

Not This Time ….

[Intro: En Vogue + (Maxine Jones)]
Ooooh, bop…
No, you’re never gonna get it (ow!)
Never ever gonna get it (no, not this time)
No, you’re never gonna get it (my love)
Never ever gonna get it
No, you’re never gonna get it (ow!)
Never ever gonna get it (not this time)
No, you’re never gonna get it (my love)
Never never gonna get it
Ooooh, bop…

Verse 1: Maxine]
I remember how it used to be
You never was this nice, you can’t fool me (Ooooh, bop…)
Now you talking like you made a change
The more you talk, the more things sound the same
(Ahh…)

[Pre-Chorus: Dawn Robinson]
What makes you think you can just walk back into her life (Ooh, oh oh oh)
Without a good fight? (Ahh…)
I just sit back and watch you make a fool of yourself (Ooh, oh)
‘Cause you’re just wasting your time, oh

[Chorus: En Vogue + (Maxine)]
No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it

No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it
Ooooh, bop…

[Verse 2: Maxine]
Now you promise me the moon and stars
Save your breath, you won’t get very far (Ooooh, bop…)
Gave you many chances to make change
The only thing you changed was love to hate
(Ahh…)

[Pre-Chorus: Dawn]
It doesn’t matter what you do or what you say (Ooh, oh, oh, oh)
She doesn’t love you; no way (Ahh…)
Maybe next time you’ll give your woman a little respect (Ooh, oh oh)
So you won’t be hearing her say, no way

[Chorus: En Vogue + (Maxine)]
No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it

No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it

No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it

No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (had your chance to make a change)
Never ever gonna get it
Ooooh, bop…

Interlude: Maxine]
Yes sir
I give to the needy, and not the greedy
Mmhmm, that’s right
‘Cause you see, baby (Ooooh, bop…)
When you’re locking, you’re losing
And I’m out the door
(Ahh…)

[Pre-Chorus: Dawn]
It doesn’t matter what you do or what you say (Ooh, oh oh oh)
She don’t love you; no way (Ahh…)
Maybe next time you’ll give your woman a little respect (Ooh, oh)
So you won’t be hearing her say, no way

(And now it’s time for a breakdown)

[Break]
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it (woo-woo-woo-woo)
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it, never gonna get it
Never gonna get it, never get it
(You bet) BOP!
(You bet) BOP!
(You bet) BOP!
(You bet) BOP!

[Outro: En Vogue + (Maxine)]
No, you’re never gonna get it (sweet lovin’)
Never ever gonna get it (sweet lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (my lovin’)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)

No, you’re never gonna get it (sweet lovin’)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (sweet lovin’)
Never ever gonna get it (my lovin’)

No, you’re never gonna get it (not this time)
Never ever gonna get it (sweet lovin’)
No, you’re never gonna get it (my sweet lovin’)
Never ever gonna get it (my sweet lovin’)

Looking for Love Through the Glasses of Fear

Published February 6, 2024 by tindertender

If you use other people’s praise to increase your self-worth

You are likely to use their blame to decrease your self-worth

Your self-worth is between you and yourself

Not what others say to you

You are afraid that others will not love the real you

So you changed yourself and hope they will love this new you

Oh dear

This is a fear-based behavior

You are trying to find love with fear

Homecoming

Published December 27, 2023 by tindertender

And the Great Mother said:

Come my child and give me all that you are.

I am not afraid of your strength and darkness,
of your fear and pain.

Give me your tears.

They will be my rushing rivers and roaring oceans.
Give me your rage.

It will erupt into my molten volcanoes and rolling thunder.

Give me your tired spirit. I will lay it to rest in my soft meadows. Give me your hopes and dreams.

I will plant a field of sunflowers and arch rainbows in the sky.

You are not too much for me.

My arms and heart welcome your true fullness.

There is room in my world for all of you, all that you are.

I will cradle you in the boughs of my ancient redwoods and the valleys of my gentle rolling hills.

My soft winds will sing you lullabies and soothe your burdened heart.

Release your deep pain.

You are not alone and you have never been alone.

~ Linda Reuther

Art by Lucy Campbell
www.lupiart.com

SHE On The Tip Of Her Tongue

The Mystic Woman ~ She Will Love You ‘Wide Open’

Published December 13, 2023 by tindertender

A Mystic woman is a Wild Creature. She is made. She is deliberately forged by something Mysterious. She is created for a purpose. She spends all her life seeking, for there is nothing else worth doing. She peers and gazes until she falls from the edge of the world, and into the next. Over and over. Each time she returns, she is a little different. What she sees must change her. She dies every day. She is reborn in every moment. Can you even begin to fathom the terror and the faith commanded from such a Being? Can you even begin to understand what such a life can do?

Don’t date a mystic, if you want the safe life you might have. If you are comfortable and cozy, stay away. Whatever you have built around yourself to create comfort: it cannot stand in the blazing fire of a Mystical woman. She is no trophy. She is no bodily pleasure-maker. She is the seer of Souls. She is the womb that Births the Divine into the flesh and bone of matter.

She doesn’t mean to burn your village to the ground, but she has seen what you are meant to Become. You are not a peasant sheering sheep, as you have thought. You are a King dressed in rags who has amnesia. It is her assumption that you have come to be Reborn. If you haven’t, turn back now, while the world you know still exists.

If she touches you, and all the voices on the wind go silent, if you feel you are in a snow globe when you embrace her, she is your destroyer. She will destroy the false idol you see in the mirror. She will smash it open because it is your prison. If you wish to stay there, she will shatter you another way. She will leave. A mystic may not for long engage with that which is too small for her, unless she is nurturing a seedling into its destiny. But the seed must be capable of fulfilling it’s own potential.

The Mystery, in it’s very nature, must show you what has never been seen, never been written, never been known, because before you were forged, it was impossible. The arts of women have been called the dark arts for too long, and they are the keys to infinity. Infinite form. Infinite being. Infinite life.

If your dreams are not filled with the slidest longing of Mystery, you might better leave, because a mystic will see things that are invisible to you. She will feel things that you cannot feel beneath the layers of numbness you have wrapped yourself in. She will call upon your true self, your real Soul, and she will sing it down into you, into herself, and life will never be the same.

— Alison Nappi

Artist: Jamie Gordon Fine Art Page

An Analogy of the Heart, and Union

Published November 18, 2023 by tindertender

Many of us are like this couch. Top of the line quality leather and construction. Cold, elegant, unwelcoming even on its own, even tho It be impressive.

We cover ourselves in that which brings comfort and warmth. An inviting and friendly area offering a seat, a wrap in a cozy home-made blanky, with pretty pillows.

What else does the cover do? I protects from scratches, from anything “sticking” to it, and also it prevents debris from getting under the cushions.

This is what the feminine offers the masculine. A warm embrace. He is sturdy and strong under all that warmth, built to last.

We must ask ourselves, how do we feel about this union? Are we willing to pair, with respect, allowing the warmth and cozy to be supported by the firm and lasting?

Or will the blankets be stripped and thrown in a closet for whenever they are “needed”?

I’m sad because the warm and cozy had to become firm and strong. Being tossed aside until needed forced many to reach beyond the inner pull, becoming their own foundation.

Hopefully the past will offer brand new relationship qualities, better, stronger, more resilient, in the upcoming Kingdom Unions.

Rare and Beautiful Gift

Published November 3, 2023 by tindertender

My daughter handed me her school progress report. Although it displayed a steady stream of positive check marks, there was one check mark standing dejectedly alone from the rest.

“How am I doing, Mom?” my child asked with a level of maturity that did not match the small dishevelled person gazing up at me with smudged eyeglasses that teetered on the tip of her nose. With her small finger, she pointed to her teacher’s neatly printed words next to the lone check mark.

It read: “Distracted in large groups.” But I already knew this. I knew this long before it was written on an official report card. Since she was a toddler, this child has offered astute observations of the world around her.

After pointing out all the positives on the progress report, I told her what was written. Upon hearing the news, she gave a tiny, uncertain smile and shyly admitted, “I do look around a lot.”

But before my child could feel one ounce of shame, one iota of failure, I came down on bended knee and looked her straight in the eye. I didn’t want her to just hear these words, I wanted her to feel them. This is what I said:

“Yes. You do look around a lot. You noticed Sam sitting off by himself with a skinned knee on the field trip, and you comforted him.”

“You noticed Banjo had a running nose, and the vet said it was a good thing we brought him in when we did.”

“You noticed our waitress was working really hard and suggested we leave an extra good tip. You noticed Grandpa was walking slower than the rest of us so you waited for him.”

“You notice the beautiful view every time we cross the bridge to go to swim practice.”

“And you know what? I don’t ever want you to stop noticing because that is your gift. It is your gift that you give to the world.”

As I watched my daughter beam with the glow of acceptance, I realized her approach to life had the power to change the world.

You see, we are all just waiting for someone to notice—notice our pain, notice our scars, notice our fear, notice our joy, notice our triumphs, notice our courage.

And the one who notices is a rare and beautiful gift.

~Rachel Macy Stafford, author of “Hands Free Life.” Her author page is @TheHandsFreeRevolution on Facebook.

Love Is Hard

Published October 25, 2023 by tindertender

Striving to see tranquillity and peace expressed, also simplicity, and great strength and nobility of spirit. Seeking calm confidence to share with those that are confused or unhappy. Inner life of prayer and striving affects the thoughts and souls of many others … no longer living for self. I will accept and be thankful for my life, and know that at the right time the way will be shown to me.

Today I offer my thoughts, and those I read and observe.

When we judge others according to our beliefs of how good and honorable people should act, we condemn ourselves and prove to be that which we speak against. So painfully obvious and yet when we are so close to it, living this behavior personally (and we all do at times) it seems to escape our perception. So, that being said, I ask Spirit/God/Universal Wisdom, to make me aware of the times I slip into this attitude and bring me back to love. Amen.

Remaining open-hearted is the most courageous thing you can do. So many people will do their best to tear it out of your chest, to crush it, to convince you it isn’t worthy of their best intentions … stay open to love anyway, stay soft … but you will grow in a special kind of fierceness, a gift. For keeping love alive.

That includes negative thought forms.
Always upward ….
Recognize
Release
Expand
Cycle up
Grow
Reshape reality
Design life
Don’t accept someone else’s design
Create
It’s what you’re here for

Unchain your power
Fall into the river of love
That is the current of your own soul.
~ Clare Dubois, from The Courage to Shine

It’s a choice, and a daily practice.

Doing the inner work and healing isn’t a fleeting thing, it’s a habitual pattern, a practice, a characteristic of the Self. It’s not flashy or loud. Invisible even, it can seem. Some like to show off their “skills” but have no healing journey “history” to back it up.

Alchemy. How do we change the world? It begins with inner alchemy. Alter your language, alter your thoughts. Mixing this delicious future takes care, and a meticulous action.

If all your “leader” can demonstrate is constant destruction and suffering for the majority, you must evaluate and choose whether this is the reality in life you wish to support with your life-for e energy.

The question we should be asking ourselves is: Do we stand for continued life on this planet? Or do we stand for the destruction of it? It really is a very simple and straight forward question.

“Because they are seeing, they see not; and hearing, they hear not; neither do they understand the voice of heaven.” – Matthew 13.13

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful,
committed citizens can change the world;
indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.
~ Margaret Mead

I Loved You

Published October 24, 2023 by tindertender

I wanted the very best for you.
But you dominated it.
And then you blew it all up.
I couldn’t stop you from destroying yourselves.

Heart Open ~ The Real Challenge

Published October 6, 2023 by tindertender

Our challengers give to us quite acceptionally.

What do we do with this opportunity?

Do we thrash around, physically and mentally and spew vile words into the collective, blaming another for our pain? Hurting others? Rejecting others? Shutting down and not letting anyone too close?

Or do we use this experience as a catalyst to propel us beyond that agitation, that disappointment, that betrayal, using the experience to help others?

Do we choose to close off, or remain open hearted, despite knowing there’s a very real possibility someone, or someone(s), will crush us again?

That’s the challenge, isn’t it?

Forgiveness, they say is for self, not the other. It is about “releasing” the burden which weighs on our heart and mind.

Be grateful for those experiences which propel you forward.

The more traumatic the experience, the greater the opportunity for spiritual advancement.

Work through your pain.

Heal.

Claim your inheritance.